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The actual tragedy of Emmett Till, he had told her once, was not the murder of a black child for whistling at a white woman but that some black people thought: But why did you whistle?
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My advice is that you wait. You can love without making love. It is a beautiful way of showing your feelings but it brings responsibility, great responsibility, and there is no rush.
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Look, all of them are white women. This one is supposed to be Hispanic, we know this because they wrote two Spanish words here, but she looks exactly like this white woman, no difference in her skin tone and hair and features. Now, I'm going to flip through, page by page, and you tell me how many black women you see.
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she was a person who denied that things were as they were. A person who had to spread the cloak of religion over her own petty desires.
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The writer had accused me of being 'angry', as though 'being angry' were something to be ashamed of. Of course I am angry. I am angry about racism. I am angry about sexism.
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Darkness descended upon him, and when it lifted he knew that he would never see Kainene again and that his life would always be a candlelit room; he would see things only in shadow, only in half glimpses.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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SCHOOL IN AMERICA was easy, assignments sent in by e-mail, classrooms air-conditioned, professors willing to give makeup tests. But she was uncomfortable with what the professors called "participation," and did not see why it should be part of the final grade; it merely made students talk and talk, class time wasted on obvious words, hollow words, sometimes meaningless words. It had to be that Americans were taught, from elementary school, ..
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She told him how she very much wanted God to exist but feared He did not...
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He took her hand in his, both clasped on the table, and between them silence grew, an ancient silence that they both knew. She was inside this silence and she was safe.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Olanna gently placed a pillow beneath her head and sat thinking about how a single act could reverberate over time and space and leave stains that could never be washed off. She thought about how ephemeral life was, about not choosing misery.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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So you say. A woman with children and no husband, what is that?" "Me."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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If we see the same thing over and over, it becomes normal.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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and begin a life in which she alone determined the margins.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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The rude stranger in the supermarket--who knew what problems he was wrestling with, haggard and thin-lipped as he was--had intended to offend her but had instead prodded her awake.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ogbenyealu is a common name for girls and you know what it means? 'Not to Be Married to a Poor Man.' To stamp that on a child at birth is capitalism at its best.
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Richard wanted to ask why God had allowed the war to happen in the first place. Yet their faith moved him. If God could make them care so genuinely, God was a worthy concept.
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Yes. He's back at his desk." Blaine paused. "I think he expects this sort of thing to happen." "That's the actual tragedy," Ifemelu said, and realized she was using Blaine's own words; sometimes she heard in her voice the echo of his. The actual tragedy of Emmett Till, he had told her once, was not the murder of a black child for whistling at a white woman but that some black people thought: But why did you whistle?"
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There must be more than male benevolence as the basis for a woman's well-being. Feminism Lite uses the language of "allowing."
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IFEMELU HAD GROWN UP in the shadow of her mother's hair. It was black-black, so thick it drank two containers of relaxer at the salon, so full it took hours under the hooded dryer, and, when finally released from pink plastic rollers, sprang free and full, flowing down her back like a celebration.
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man's ugly body thrusting into his sister's. It
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Teach her to question men who can have empathy for women only if they see them as relational rather than as individual equal humans. Men who, when discussing rape, will always say something like "if it were my daughter or wife or sister." Yet such men do not need to imagine a male victim of crime as a brother or son in order to feel empathy. Teach her, too, to question the idea of women as a special species. I once heard an American politic..
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Um homem pobre ainda tem os privilegios de ser homem, mesmo que nao tenha o privilegio da riqueza.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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So instead of teaching Chizalum to be likeable, teach her to be honest. And kind.
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I know this remarkable Nigerian woman, Angela, a single mother who was raising her child in the United States; her child did not take to reading so she decided to pay her five cents per page. An expensive endeavor, she later joked, but a worthy investment.
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CHAPTER 1 Princeton, in the summer, smelled of nothing, and although Ifemelu liked the tranquil greenness of the many trees, the clean streets and stately homes, the delicately overpriced shops, and the quiet, abiding air of earned grace, it was this, the lack of a smell, that most appealed to her, perhaps because the other American cities she knew well had all smelled distinctly. Philadelphia had the musty scent of history. New Haven smell..
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Nuestra sociedad ensena a las mujeres solteras de cierta edad a considerar su solteria un profundo fracaso personal. En cambio, un hombre de cierta edad que no se ha casado es porque todavia no ha elegido.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Real potatoes are backward for him. Remember this is our newly middle-class world. We haven't completed the first cycle of prosperity, before going back to the beginning again, to drink milk from the cow's udder.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Into my heart on air that kills From yon far country blows: What are those blue remembered hills, What spires, what farms are those? That is the land of lost content I see it shining plain, The happy highways where I went And cannot come again.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Nwunye m, sometimes life begins when marriage ends." "You and your university talk. Is this what you tell your students?" Mama was smiling. "Seriously, yes. But they marry earlier and earlier these days. What is the use of a degree, they ask me, when we cannot find a job after graduation?" "At least somebody will take care of them when they marry." "I don't know who will take care of whom. Six girls in my first-year seminar class are marrie..
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It's true. And they don't just spend a lot, they expect to spend a lot. I met this guy the other day, and he was telling me how he started his satellite-dish business about twenty years ago. This was when satellite dishes were still new in the country and so he was bringing in something most people didn't know about. He put his business plan together, and came up with a good price that would fetch him a good profit. Another friend of his, w..
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You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me?" Aunty Ifeka said. "Your life belongs to you and you alone, soso gi."
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Aunty Ifeoma was silent as she ladled the thick cocoyam paste into the soup pot; then she looked up and said Papa-Nnukwu was not a heathen but a traditionalist, that sometimes what was different was just as good as what was familiar, that when Papa-Nnukwu did his itu-nzu, his declaration of innocence, in the morning, it was the same as our saying the rosary.
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Teach her that the idea of "gender roles" is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl. "Because you are a girl" is never a reason for anything. Ever. (page 14) -Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of men and women or you do not. (page 20) -Because I do not believe that marriage is something we should te..
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Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal. Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, ..
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Ferdinand had a steely, amoral face; if one examined his hands, the blood of his enemies might be found crusted under his fingernails.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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When Buchi said, "Amen" with that delight, that gusto, Obinze feared she would grow up to be a woman who, with that word "amen," would squash the questions she wanted to ask of the world."
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Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal. Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, but..
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And I said, Ah correct, there is hope. She reads.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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You don't even have to love your job; you can merely love what your job does for you--the confidence and self-fulfillment that come with doing and earning.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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it was absurd how women's magazines forced images of small-boned, small-breasted white women on the rest of the multi-boned, multi-ethnic world of women to emulate.
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parents unconsciously start very early to teach girls how to be, that baby girls are given less room and more rules and baby boys more room and fewer rules.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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that her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and looking out.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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It's a novel, right? What's it about?" Why did people ask "What is it about?" as if a novel had to be about only one thing."
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if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women. For X please insert words like anger, ambition, loudness, stubbornness, coldness, ruthlessness.
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