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But until a person can say deeply and honestly, "I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday," that person cannot say, "I choose otherwise." --
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Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
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Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.
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proactivity
self-development
expectations
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Start with the end in mind.
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To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.
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perception
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We see the world, not as it is, but as we are--or, as we are conditioned to see it.
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perceptions
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Two people can see the same thing, disagree, and yet both be right. It's not logical; it's psychological.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.
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trust
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Stephen R. Covey |
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It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can i do?" "The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked. "That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?" "love her," I replied. "I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore." "Love her." "You don't understand. the feeling of love ..
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relationships
proactive
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Stephen R. Covey |
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We are free to choose our actions, . . . but we are not free to choose the consequences of these actions.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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to learn and not to do is really not to learn. To know and not to do is really not to know.
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learning
doing
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.
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happiness
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do).
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skill
knowledge
habit
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Stephen R. Covey |
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At some time in your life, you probably had someone believe in you when you didn't believe in yourself.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.
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self-mastery
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Courage isn't absenct of fear, it is the awareness that something else is important
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Ineffective people live day after day with unused potential.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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As you care less about what people think of you, you will care more about what others think of themselves.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Admission of ignorance is often the first step in our education.
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education
ignorance
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Stephen R. Covey |
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People simply feel better about themselves when they're good at something.
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self-esteem
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Stephen R. Covey |
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There's no better way to inform and expand you mind on a regular basis than to get into the habit of reading good literature.
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mind
reading
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Stephen R. Covey |
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How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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People can't live with change if there's not a changeless core inside them.
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principles
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Stephen R. Covey |
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How you treat the one reveals how you regard the many, because everyone is ultimately a one.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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It comes from within.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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If you want to have a more pleasant,cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, emphatic, consistent, loving parent.
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teenager
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Begin each day with the blueprint of my deepest values FIRMLY in mind then when challenges come, make decisions BASED on those values.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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When air is charged with emotions, an attempt to teach is often perceived as a form of judgment and rejection.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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To maintain the P/PC Balance, the balance between the golden egg (production) and the health and welfare of the goose (production capability) is often a difficult judgment call. But I suggest it is the very essence of effectiveness.
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effectiveness
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Stephen R. Covey |
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The only person I know, is the person I want to be
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Stephen R. Covey |
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We must look at the lens through we see the world, as well as the world we see, and that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.
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reality
perception
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Stephen R. Covey |
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My behavior is a product of my own conscious choices based on principles, rather than a product of my conditions, based on feelings.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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people have character strength but they lack communication skills, and that undoubtedly affects the quality of relationships as well.
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relationships
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Where we stand depends on where we sit." Each of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are--or, as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perceptions, our paradigms. When other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with them."
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psychology
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Stephen R. Covey |
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The core of any family is what is changeless, what is going to be there--shared vision and values.
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value
vision
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Stephen R. Covey |
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We are not our feelings. We are not our moods. We are not even our thoughts. The very fact that we can think about these things separates us from them and from the animal world. Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we "see" ourselves--our self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. It affects not only our attitudes and behaviors, but also how we see other people."
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Attending church does not necessarily mean living the principles taught in those meeting. You can be active in a church but inactive in its gospel.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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We hear a lot about identity theft when someone takes your wallet and pretends to be you and uses your credit cards. But the more serious identity theft is to get swallowed up in other people's definition of you.
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success
individualism
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Each of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.
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Stephen R. Covey |
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people are working harder than ever, but because they lack clarity and vision, they aren't getting very far. They, in essence, are pushing a rope...with all of their might.
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