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Trying to make sense of other people's responses to us is a basic human activity. Accepting a mother's [or anyone's] anger by concluding that i is justified is a way of making sense of a difficult relationship. But this acceptance comes at a great cost, for it means that we see their cruelty as our shame.
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abusive-relationships
anger-management
emotional-abuse
physical-abuse
anger
shame
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Terri Apter |
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Added to the shock of the routine violation of their bodies was the trauma of having to relinquish their children to unknown slave-holders. [W.E.B.] Du Bois considered this physical, mental, and spiritual abuse of black women--with its inevitable result being the destruction of the traditional African family--the highest crime committed by slave-holders and the one thing for which he said he could not forgive them.
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slavery
african-american-women
african-families
crimes-against-humanity
day-to-end-racism
forced-labor
heinous-crimes
history-of-africans
history-of-slavery
human-bondage
international-women-s-day
postered-poetics-by-aberjhani
quotation-poster-art
sex-trafficking
slave-holders
web-dubois
women-and-human-trafficking
women-around-the-world
women-s-history-month
w-e-b-du-bois
human-trafficking
women-in-history
slavery-in-the-united-states
physical-abuse
wisdom-quotes
forgiveness
psychological-trauma
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"Robert reflects: I go weak at the knees when she turns against me. I forget what it's like to feel courage. I try to remind myself that the worst of it will pass, that she won't be like that forever. She's mad now, but there will come a time when she's not mad. When I was growing up, I tried all sorts of things to get me through these times. I used to think "It won't be so bad if she doesn't hit me." And then I got to noticing that whether or not she hit me didn't matter. What I was afraid of was that she was going to explode and disappear."
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anger-management
physical-abuse
anger
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