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0d1b350 Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it...Don't allow his anger to become your anger. anger anger-management ataraxy bushido inner-peace inspirational life life-experience life-lessons martial-arts motivational self-control serenity warrior-ethos warriors warriorship wisdom Bohdi Sanders
fe1206c When you beat up someone physically, you get excercise and stress relief; when you assault him verbally on the Internet, you just harm yourself. anger-management civics envy internet playerhaters the-internet Nassim Nicholas Taleb
ba59e80 Trying to make sense of other people's responses to us is a basic human activity. Accepting a mother's [or anyone's] anger by concluding that i is justified is a way of making sense of a difficult relationship. But this acceptance comes at a great cost, for it means that we see their cruelty as our shame. abusive-relationships anger anger-management emotional-abuse physical-abuse shame Terri Apter
f01bca3 "As Freud noted: "A thing which has not been understood inevitably reappears; like an unlaid ghost, it cannot rest until the mystery has been resolved and the spell broken." . . . in ambivalent attachment, a mother vacillates inexplicably from being loving and tender to angry and threatening.. Faced with this unpredictable inconsistency, a child tries to appease the mother, anxious to control and monitor her shifting moods." abuse-recovery anger anger-management attachment mother Terri Apter
114ff5e "Robert reflects: I go weak at the knees when she turns against me. I forget what it's like to feel courage. I try to remind myself that the worst of it will pass, that she won't be like that forever. She's mad now, but there will come a time when she's not mad. When I was growing up, I tried all sorts of things to get me through these times. I used to think "It won't be so bad if she doesn't hit me." And then I got to noticing that whether or not she hit me didn't matter. What I was afraid of was that she was going to explode and disappear." anger anger-management physical-abuse Terri Apter