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When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse...We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it,' but we could not have stopped it. We let go of the 'if only' now and sit still with our stark powerlessness...In our surrender to powerlessness, we touch ourselves with the gift of truth.
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abuse-survivors
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child-sexual-abuse
child-sexual-abuse-survivor
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if-only
incest
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powerlessness
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survivors-of-abuse
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Maureen Brady |
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Abuse? Ah. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed. Andre Chevalier
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abuse-recovery
counseling
healing
healing-abuse
sexual-abuse
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Nikki Sex |
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... you may seek out a partner who psychologically resembles your mother and found that you have walked right back into a difficult relationship. Perhapse you chose to be close to someone who turns out to be as volatile as your mother and who inflicts discomfort all too familiar to you. Or perhaps gradually, over time, your partner or close friend becomes like your mother; that may be because you unconsciously behave in ways that encourage others to treat you as your mother did.
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abuse-recovery
abusive-relationships
mother
parents
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Terri Apter |
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"As Freud noted: "A thing which has not been understood inevitably reappears; like an unlaid ghost, it cannot rest until the mystery has been resolved and the spell broken." . . . in ambivalent attachment, a mother vacillates inexplicably from being loving and tender to angry and threatening.. Faced with this unpredictable inconsistency, a child tries to appease the mother, anxious to control and monitor her shifting moods."
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abuse-recovery
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anger-management
attachment
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