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I'm here. I love you. I don't care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. If you need the medication again, go ahead and take it--I will love you through that, as well. If you don't need the medication, I will love you, too. There's nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than Depression and I am braver than Loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.
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loneliness
healing
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Elizabeth Gilbert |
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The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it...
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heartbreak
love
nicholas-sparks
sparks
nicholas
healing
emotions
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Nicholas Sparks |
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They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite
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time
magnus-bane
will-herondale
healing
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Cassandra Clare |
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Pain is a pesky part of being human, I've learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here. Pain is a sudden hurt that can't be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing. Pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces.
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wisdom-in-life
pain
freedom
learning
beauty
inspirational-life
inspirational-quotes
life-and-living
living
inspiring
life-lessons
life
wisdom
inspirational
living-life
heal
growing
flying
healing
painful
flight
wisdom-quotes
growth
hurt
wind
experience
wings
hurting
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C. JoyBell C. |
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Hearts are breakable," Isabelle said. "And I think even when you heal, you're never what you were before".
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heartbreak
love
inspirational
broken-hearted
healing
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Cassandra Clare |
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"Hearts are breakable," Isabelle said. "And I think even when you heal, you're never what you were before"."
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heartbreak
love
inspirational
healing
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Cassandra Clare |
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Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world.
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healing
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Marianne Williamson |
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And I felt like my heart had been so thoroughly and irreparably broken that there could be no real joy again, that at best there might eventually be a little contentment. Everyone wanted me to get help and rejoin life, pick up the pieces and move on, and I tried to, I wanted to, but I just had to lie in the mud with my arms wrapped around myself, eyes closed, grieving, until I didn't have to anymore.
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healing
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Anne Lamott |
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Change, like healing, takes time.
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tobias-eaton
healing
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Veronica Roth |
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As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation -- either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.
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sacrifice
inspirational
activism
healing
justice
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Martin Luther King Jr. |
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To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.
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romance
faith
heartbreak
life-lessons
hope
life
love
inspirational
hurt-feelings
hurting-heart
breakup
broken-hearted-quotes
heartbroken
broken-heart
broken
broken-hearted
healing
heartache
hurt
dating
hurting
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Jocelyn Soriano |
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do not look for healin
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abuse-survivors
poetry
inspirational
healing
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Rupi Kaur |
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The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.
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relationships
inspirational
healing
self-help
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Pandora Poikilos |
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This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, 'aw shit, he's up!
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loving-choices
learning
motivational
life
inspirational
wondering
hugging
forgiving
loving
dancing
laughing
healing
sharing
caring
smiling
helping
devil
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Steve Maraboli |
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Yes, I understand why things had to happen this way. I understand his reason for causing me pain. But mere understanding does not chase away the hurt. It does not call upon the sun when dark clouds have loomed over me. Let the rain come then if it must come! And let it wash away the dust that hurt my eyes!
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romance
faith
heartbreak
life-lessons
hope
life
love
inspirational
hurt-feelings
hurting-heart
breakup
broken-hearted-quotes
heartbroken
broken-heart
broken
broken-hearted
healing
heartache
hurt
dating
hurting
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Jocelyn Soriano |
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The wounds that never heal can only be mourned alone.
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friendship
healing
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James Frey |
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Scars are not injuries, Tanner Sack. A scar is a healing. After injury, a scar is what makes you whole.
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inspirational
injury
scar
healing
scars
recovery
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China Miéville |
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Frustration and Love can't exist in the same place at the same time, so get real and start doing what you would rather be doing in life. Love your life. All of it. Even the heavy shit that happened to you when you were 8. All of it was and IS perfect.
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past
spiritual
life
love
truth
inspirational
healing
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Jason Mraz |
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And so I wait. I wait for time to heal the pain and raise me to me feet once again - so that I can start a new path, my own path, the one that will make me whole again.
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pain
inspirational
healing
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Jack Canfield |
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The question is not how to get cured, but how to live.
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chronic-illness
cures
illness
inspirational
cure
healing
recovery
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Joseph Conrad |
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It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. The fulfillment of such miracles depends on whether we let our wounds pull us down or lift us up towards our dreams.
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romance
faith
heartbreak
life-lessons
hope
life
love
inspirational
hurt-feelings
hurting-heart
breakup
broken-hearted-quotes
heartbroken
broken-heart
broken
broken-hearted
healing
heartache
hurt
dating
hurting
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Jocelyn Soriano |
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Dear Human
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happiness
love
inspirational
healing
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Courtney A. Walsh |
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"I get so god damn lonely and sad and filled with regrets some days. It overwhelms me as I'm sitting on the bus; watching the golden leaves from a window; a sudden burst of realisation in the middle of the night. I can't help it and I can't stop it. I'm alone as I've always been and sometimes it hurts.... but I'm learning to breathe deep through it and keep walking. I'm learning to make things nice for myself. To comfort my own heart when I wake up sad. To find small bits of friendship in a crowd full of strangers. To find a small moment of joy in a blue sky, in a trip somewhere not so far away, a long walk an early morning in December, or a handwritten letter to an old friend simply saying "I thought of you. I hope you're well." No one will come and save you. No one will come riding on a white horse and take all your worries away. You have to save yourself, little by little, day by day. Build yourself a home. Take care of your body. Find something to work on. Something that makes you excited, something you want to learn. Get yourself some books and learn them by heart. Get to know the author, where he grew up, what books he read himself. Take yourself out for dinner. Dress up for no one but you and simply feel nice. it's a lovely feeling, to feel pretty. You don't need anyone to confirm it.
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lovely
gratitude
happy
trying
feelings
depression
joy
books
learning
life-quotes
sadness
friendship
heart
heal
anxiety-disorder
being-happy
bus
december
mental-wellness
panic-attacks
minimalism
breath
deep
self-care
mindfulness
healing
prose
plan
breathing
growing-up
well
sky
worrying
worries
emotions
panic
moment
regret
learn
recovery
lonely
sad
night
mental-health
letters
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Charlotte Eriksson |
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A daily dose of daydreaming heals the heart, soothes the soul, and strengthens the imagination.
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soothing
imagination
dreams
strength
heart
inspirational
imaginary-friend
richelle
richelle-goodrich
healing
pretending
soul
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Richelle E. Goodrich |
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In the east," she says after a time, her gaze still downcast, "there is a tradition known a
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inspirational
recovery-from-abuse
healing
recovery
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Mackenzi Lee |
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The sun shall always rise upon a new day and there shall always be a rose garden within me. Yes, there is a part of me that is broken, but my broken soil gives way to my wild roses.
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invincibility
wild-roses
inspirational-life
inspirational-quotes
hope
inspirational
inner-strength
healing
believe
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C. JoyBell C. |
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Anyone who is having troubles should pray. Anyone who is happy should sing praises. Anyone who is sick should call the church's elders. They should pray for and pour oil on the person in the name of the Lord. And the prayer that is said with faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will heal that person. And if the person has sinned, the sins will be forgiven. Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so God can heal you. When a believing person prays, great things happen. (James 5:13-16)
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happy
prayer
faith
inspiration
spirituality
heal
healing
troubles
miracles
pray
sing
sin
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Anonymous |
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I had lines inside me, a string of guiding lights. I had language. Fiction and poetry are doses, medicines. What they heal is the rupture reality makes on the imagination. I had been damaged, and a very important part of me had been destroyed - that was my reality, the facts of my life. But on the other side of the facts was who I could be, how I could feel. And as long as I had words for that, images for that, stories for that, then I wasn't lost.
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words
literature
reading
healing
hurt
language
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Jeanette Winterson |
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"I mostly want to remind her of the recipes of healing, and give her my own made-on-the spot remedy for the easing of her pain. I tell her, "Get a pen. Stop crying so you can write this down and start working on it tonight." My remedy is long. But the last item on the list says: "When you wake up and find yourself living someplace where there is nobody you love and trust, no community, it is time to leave town - to pack up and go (you can even go tonight). And where you need to go is any place where there are arms that can hold you, that will not let you go."
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travel
writing
trust
remedy
self-recovery
pen
healing
self-esteem
writers
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bell hooks |
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I believe in fiction and the power of stories because that way we speak in tongues. We are not silenced. All of us, when in deep trauma, find we hesitate, we stammer; there are long pauses in our speech. The thing is stuck. We get our language back through the language of others. We can turn to the poem. We can open the book. Somebody has been there for us and deep-dived the words.
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words
literature
reading
poetry
healing
language
trauma
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Jeanette Winterson |
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I stand in Minas Anor, the Tower of the Sun; and behold! the Shadow has departed! I will be a Shieldmaiden no longer, nor vie with the great Riders, nor take joy only in the songs of slaying. I will be a healer, and love all things that grow and are not barren.
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fantasy
Éowyn
return-of-the-king
healing
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J.R.R. Tolkien |
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Pain serves a purpose. Without it you are in danger. What you cannot feel you cannot take care of.
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pain
healing
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Rebecca Solnit |
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Where humanity sowed faith, hope, and unity, joy's garden blossomed.
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history
joy
humanity
faith
spirituality
philosophy
multiculturalità
rebith
rejuvenation
remembering-september-11
teaching-diversity
world-suicide-prevention-day
multiculturalismo
famous-quotes-from-classic-books
haikus
national-history-day
personal-growth
healing
multiculturalism
americans
haiku
patriotism
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Aberjhani |
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What hell condemned, let heaven now heal.
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heaven
faith
inspiration
inspirational-quotes
spirituality
hope
positive-motivation
healing
recovery
hell
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Aberjhani |
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Feet sandaled with dreams tread paths of vision leading to wisdom's sharp peaks.
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faith
inspirational-quotes
dreams
hope
wisdom
poem-in-your-pocket-day
positive-motivation
vision-dream
metaphysical
famous-quotes-from-classic-books
haikus
healing
visions
haiku
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Aberjhani |
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Nature in her green, tranquil woods heals and soothes all affliction,' wrote John Muir. 'Earth hath no sorrows that earth cannot heal.' Now I knew this for what it was: a beguiling but dangerous lie. I was furious with myself and my own conscious certainty that t his was the cure I needed. Hands are for other humans to hold. They should not be reserved exclusively as perches for hawks. And the wild is not a panacea for the human soul; too much in the air can corrode it to nothing.
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nature
healing
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Helen Macdonald |
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Searching for a mind long lost I found it shaping colors and history near the cliffs of your heart.
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passion
romance
love
love-heals
mystical-passion
twin-flames
passionate-love
healing
rebirth
survival
recovery
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Aberjhani |
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What she did not know, and would never have believed, was that though her soul seemed to have been grown over with an impenetrable layer of mould, some delicate blades of grass, young and tender, were already pushing their way upwards, destined to take root and send out living shoots so effectively that her all-consuming grief would soon be lost and forgotten. The wound was healing from inside.
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healing
wound
soul
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Leo Tolstoy |
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God wills our liberation, our exodus from Egypt. God wills our reconciliation, our return from exile. God wills our enlightenment, our seeing. God wills our forgiveness, our release from sin and guilt. God wills that we see ourselves as God's beloved. God wills our resurrection, our passage from death to life. God wills for us food and drink that satisfy our hunger and thirst. God wills, comprehensively, our well-being--not just my well-being as an individual but the well-being of all of us and of the whole of creation. In short, God wills our salvation, our healing, here on earth. The Christian life is about participating in the salvation of God.
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relationship
god
reconciliation
healing
salvation
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Marcus J. Borg |
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Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years--when we most needed self-love to be mirrored--it was difficult to hold onto...We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected.
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love-yourself
child-abuse-survivors
child-neglect
emotional-neglect
self-love-quotes
recovery-from-abuse
healing-from-abuse
child-abuse
healing-insights
self-acceptance
healing
self-love
emotional-abuse
neglect
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Maureen Brady |
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But sometimes things happen that no one hopes for. Events that cause everything you've worked towards, the life you've carefully constructed piece by piece, to come tumbling down all around you. No one is to blame, but you're left with a wound you can't heal on your own and can't believe you'll ever learn to accept, so you struggle to escape the pain. Only time can heal wounds as deep as that - a lot of time - and all you can really do is place yourself in its hands and try to consider the passing of each day a victory. You tough it out moment by moment, hour by hour, and after some weeks or months you begin to see signs of recovery. Slowly the wound heals into a scar.
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wounds
healing
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Ryū Murakami |
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"As the books of Job, Jeremiah, and Habakkuk clearly show, God has a high threshold of tolerance for what appropriate to say in a prayer. God can "handle" my unsuppressed rage. I may well find that my vindictive feelings need God's correction - but only by taking those feelings to God will I have the opportunity for correction and healing."
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rage
prayer
psalm
healing
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Philip Yancey |
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So when people say that poetry is a luxury, or an option, or for the educated middle classes, or that it shouldn't be read in school because it is irrelevant, or any of the strange and stupid things that are said about poetry and its place in our lives, I suspect that the people doing the saying have had things pretty easy. A tough life needs a tough language - and that is what poetry is. That is what literature offers - a language powerful enough to to say how it is. It isn't a hiding place. It is a finding place.
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literature
reading
poetry
inspiration
philosophy
finding-meaning
tough-life
solace
healing
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Jeanette Winterson |
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"Those who deny guilt and sin are like the Pharisees of old who thought our Saviour had a "guilt complex" because He accused them of being whited sepulchers--outside clean, inside full of dead men's bones. Those who admit that they are guilty are like the public sinners and the publicans of whom Our Lord said, "Amen, I say to you, that the publicans and the harlots shall go into the Kingdom of God before you" (Matt. 21:31). Those who think they are healthy but have a hidden moral cancer are incurable; the sick who want to be healed have a chance. All denial of guilt keeps people out of the area of love and, by inducing self-righteousness, prevents a cure. The two facts of healing in the physical order are these: A physician cannot heal us unless we put ourselves into his hands, and we will not put ourselves into his hands unless we know that we are sick. In like manner, a sinner's awareness of sin is one requisite for his recovery; the other is his longing for God. When we long for God, we do so not as sinners, but as lovers." --
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healing
guilt
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Fulton J. Sheen |
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She had not had the relief of amnesia. She had suffered longer, and she had suffered more. Each second was agony in the first weeks. She was like an amputee in the days before anesthesia, half crazed with pain, astounded that the human body could feel so much and not die of it. But slowly, cell by painful cell, she began to mend. There came a time when it was no longer her whole body that burned with pain but only her heart. And then there came a time when even her heart was able, for a time at least, to feel other emotions besides grief.
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pain
grief
suffering
physical-pain
healing
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Diane Setterfield |
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We're not gods, Julia. We're helpers. That's all. People have called us terrible things in the past. But that was only because they didn't understand us. That understanding is for the future, a time not long from now. You may live to see it. Then perhaps you can work openly, but for now, keep your gifts to yourself. Never flaunt your abilities. Never think you hold the power of life and death. Only God has that power. When it's a person's time, nothing can save them.
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spirituality
esoterica
healing
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Christopher Pike |
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I have found what I need most to heal a broken bond is time together--the very thing I avoid is the thing most desired.
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healing
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Terry Tempest Williams |
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Power is confusing for us, perhaps even terrifying, because our relationship with it had an unfortunate beginning. Someone in a position of power over us used and abused us...It seems as if power were something to be wielded, always at someone's expense, usually our own.
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abuse-survivors
abuse-of-authority
abuse-of-power
abuse-of-trust
abusive-parenting
misuse-of-power
parental-authority
survivor-of-abuse
child-sexual-abuse-survivor
child-abuse
survivor
healing
powerlessness
powerless
power
child-sexual-abuse
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Maureen Brady |
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We heal up through being loved, and through loving others. We don't heal by forming a secret society of one - by assessing about the only other 'one' we might admit, and being doomed to disappointment.
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pain
love
oneness
healing
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Jeanette Winterson |
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"Always know there are friends somewhere rooting for you. There are people you don't know, always praying for you and lifting you before God. - Jenee, from "To the Survivors"."
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rape
spirituality
empowerment
god
hope
sexual-assault
suxual-abuse
sexual-violence
healing
shame
recovery
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Robert Uttaro |
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She knew the soothing power of a human touch on aching flesh. Knew the strange bond that formed when two creatures united in mutual need, one hurting, the other healing.
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compassion
healing
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Susan Wiggs |
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When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse...We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it,' but we could not have stopped it. We let go of the 'if only' now and sit still with our stark powerlessness...In our surrender to powerlessness, we touch ourselves with the gift of truth.
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abuse-survivors
letting-go
truth
survivor-of-abuse
survivors-of-abuse
child-sexual-abuse-survivor
if-only
child-abuse
survivor
healing
abuse-recovery
powerlessness
powerless
child-sexual-abuse
incest
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Maureen Brady |
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It was a long time since he'd done any actual clinical work, and obviously his sojourn among the academics at Saro University had attenuated the professional detachment that allows members of the healing arts to confront the ill without being overwhelmed by compassion and sorrow. He was surprised at that, how tenderhearted he seemed to have become, how thin-skinned.
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healing
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Isaac Asimov |
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I was being cured of soldiering on endlessly: my job was now to be still, which had become almost easy at last.
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convalescence
slowness
healing
stillness
recovery
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Rebecca Solnit |
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"Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the notion that we are somehow defective. To cover for this we constructed a false self, a masked self. And it is this self that is the overachiever or the dunce, the tramp or the puritan, the powermonger or the pathetic loser."
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ashamed
coverup
defective
defective-humans
false-self
feeling-bad
hidden-feelings
hidden-pain
hidden-self
overachiever
power-trip
toxic-shame
child-sexual-abuse-survivor
recovery-from-abuse
dunce
loser
healing-insights
survivor
puritan
healing
true-self
shame
child-sexual-abuse
incest
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Maureen Brady |
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Some people think it's an insult to the glory of their sickness to get well.
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john-steinbeck
healing
sickness
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John Steinbeck |
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"A turquoise given by a loving hand carries with it happiness and good fortune." Arabic proverb" --
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turquoise
proverbs
healing
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Judy Hall |
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"One of our greatest failures in our busy, driven culture is that we don't celebrate the temporary untying of a complex narrative...What is your style of celebrating an ending? Do you only throw large parties after someone graduates, gets married, or dies? If so, then all the other endings in your story are lost in the wake of another day's busyness. Perhaps one of the reasons you and I don't party well, is that we don't know what to do with the tragedies that linger in our life...Can you imagine receiving an invitation "JOIN ME IN A CELEBRATION OF NO LONGER BELIEVING I'M STUPID"? We don't allow endings to be noted, let alone celebrated. Therefore we never allow denouement to be invigorate the upward movement of a new story."
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false-self
healing
true-self
community
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Dan B. Allender |
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The unconscious is not a demoniacal monster, but a natural entity which, as far as moral sense, aesthetic taste, and intellectual judgement go, is completely neutral. It only becomes dangerous when our conscious attitude to it is hopelessly wrong. To the degree that we repress it, its danger increases. But the moment the patient begins to assimilate contents that were previously unconscious, its danger diminishes. The dissociation of personality, the anxious division of the day-time and the night-time sides of the psyche, cease with progressive assimilation.
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polarity
duality
unconscious
healing
conscious
psychology
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C.G. Jung |
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He said that knowledge was of little use without wisdom, and that there was no wisdom without spirituality, and that true spirituality always included service to others. As he explained many times, the essence of a good physician consisted of a capacity for compassion and a sense of the ethical, without which qualities the sacred art of healing degenerated into simple charlatanism.
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spirituality
wisdom
healing
knowledge
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Isabel Allende |
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Nu exista pe lume leac care sa tamaduiasca ceea ce nu tamaduieste fericirea/ There is no cure in this world which heals what happiness does not heal.
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healing
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Gabriel García Márquez |
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In those moments of unnaming when we have lost ourselves, we must remember to return to our past redemptions to find God's mark of glory on our abandonment, betrayal, and shame. We wrongly believe that we will be happy if we can escape the past. But without our past we are hollow and plastic beings who have only common names and conventional stories. When we enter into our story at the point we lost our name, we are most likely to hear the whisper of our new name.
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grief
lament
healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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"Reading well is one of the great pleasures
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solitude
great
healing
experience
pleasures
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Harold Bloom |
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"The Holy Spirit knows precisely the right timing in our lives. I always say, "Only the Holy Spirit knows when you are ready for what." In other words, the Spirit of the Lord is the only One Who knows what it will take to help you, and when you are ready to receive help."
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holy-spirit
healing-the-past
timing
healing
help
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Joyce Meyer |
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The more we focus on who we are in Christ, the less it matters who we were in the past, or even what happened to us.
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faith
hope
emotional-healing
identity-in-christ
healing-abuse
healing-the-past
healing
growth
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Joyce Meyer |
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I am not where I need to be, but, thank God, I am not where I used to be.
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faith
growing
healing-abuse
healing-the-past
healing
the-past
growth
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Joyce Meyer |
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In the latter months of his own long sickness the Master Herbal had taught him much of the healer's lore, and the first lesson and the last of all that lore was this: Heal the wound and cure the illness, but let the dying spirit go.
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death-and-dying
palliative-care
healing
medicine
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Ursula K. Le Guin |
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When shame is met with compassion and not received as confirmation of our guilt, we can begin to see how slant a lens it has had us looking through. That awareness lets us step back far enough to see that if we can let it go, we will see ourselves as clean where we once thought we were dirty. We will remember our innocence. We will see how our shame supported a system in which the perpetrators were protected and we bore the brunt of their offense -- first in its actuality, then again in carrying their shame for it. If the method we chose to try to beat out shame was perfectionism, we can relax now, shake the burden off our shoulders, and give ourselves a chance to loosen up and make some errors. Hallelujah! Our freedom will not come from tireless effort and getting it all exactly right.
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freedom
abusers
perpetrators
abuser
burdens-of-the-past
imperfect
peptrator
perfectly-imperfect
false-guilt
recovery-from-abuse
healing-from-abuse
innocence-lost
offense
child-rape
healing-insights
perfectionism
healing
innocence
shame
recovery
guilt
child-sexual-abuse
incest
sexual-abuse
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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Be patient, as you must always be patient with new pale seeds buried in the dark ground. When you are stronger, you can begin to think again. But now is the time to feel.
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feelings
patient
healing
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Patricia A. McKillip |
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Think about the stigma that is attached to the idea that alcoholism is a disease, an incurable illness, and you have it. That's a terrible thing to inflict on someone. Labeling alcoholism as a disease, a cause unto itself, simply no longer fits with what we know today about its causes.
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confidence
addictions-treatment-centers
alcohol-disease
cure-addiction
overcome-addiction
rehab-centers
addiction
passages-rehab
passages-ventura
pax-prentiss
passages-malibu
addiction-treatment
chris-prentiss
healing-abuse
healing-trauma
healing
alcoholism
disease
change-the-world
self-image
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Chris Prentiss |
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True, the body's easily maimed, and the spirit can be crippled - yet there's that in a man that is never destroyed.
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spirit
nature-of-man
healing
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Diana Gabaldon |
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The bridge out of shame is outrage. Suddenly the obvious becomes stunningly clear--we have been carrying shame for the crime of the offender...In a clear flash we may see ourselves standing in a fierce stance, grounded by our knowledge, ready to throw off any wrongdoer. Our outrage can be a fueling energy, capable of making us as steely as we need to be.
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rape
rage
recovery-from-abuse
healing-from-abuse
outrage
child-rape
healing-insights
healing
shame
crime
recovery
child-sexual-abuse
incest
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Maureen Brady |
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When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These feeling let us know we are taking action; they do not need to stop us.
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assertiveness
child-sexual-abuse-survivor
false-guilt
empowering
healing-insights
healing
anxiety
power
guilt
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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In the water's reflection she saw only loving scenes from her childhood, countless memories, her mother kissing her good night, unwrapping a new toy, plopping whipped cream onto pancakes, putting Annie on her first bicycle, stitching a ripped dress, sharing a tube of lipstick, pushing a button to Annie's favorite radio station. It was as if someone unlocked a vault and all these fond recollections could be examined at once. Why didn't I feel this before? she whispered. Because we embrace are scars more than our healing, Lorraine said. We can recall the exact day we got hurt, but who remembers the day the wound was gone?
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scar
healing
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Mitch Albom |
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One that society can't forgive, but I can.
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kindness
compassion
friendship
life
love
truth
forgivable
unforgiven
confess
healing
grace
heartache
surrender
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Dennis Lehane |
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It turns out that sharing the past with someone is different from reliving it when you're alone. It feels less like a wound and more like a poultice.
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healing
the-past
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Jodi Picoult |
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A denouement is not a complete or fully resolved ending but a satisfying closure to a story. [in French translates 'an untying, a relaxing of a knot of complexity'] Denouement is the rest that comes when all the disparate plot lines of a story, gnarled and taut, have been untied and an order has come about that brings a new moment of shalom.
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shalom
healing
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Dan B. Allender |
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I am building a healthy support system and learning to use it readily.
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healthy-relationships
support-system
sexual-abuse-healing
soul-journey
psyche
boundaries
support-group
healing
sharing
support
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Maureen Brady |
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I choose what sort of relationship I want to have with my family of origin today.
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choice
empowerment
soul-journey
love-heals
psyche
integration
life-journey
healing
wholeness
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Maureen Brady |
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"I am here, come closer," the old donkey said with her eyes. "I will mother you."
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apifera-farm
misfits-of-love
katherine-dunn
donkey
healing
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Katherine Dunn |
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God is not bound by time, nor is our story. We desperately want our situation to be solved. We want resolution. But, God unfolds the plot in His own time. It is in our months or years of waiting that our story comes to maturity. It is over a lifetime of stories that he turns our desire toward Him.
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healing
waiting
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Dan B. Allender |
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To give up power to change for the better is inherently distasteful to everyone, and to force people to affirm that they are addicts or alcoholics so they can speak in a meeting is shameful and demoralizing.
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change
philosophy
recovering-addict
passages-treatment
rehab
holistic-treatment
passages-rehab
non-12-step
life-improvement
passages-ventura
pax-prentiss
passages-malibu
addiction-treatment
alcohol-abuse
chris-prentiss
healing-abuse
healing
alcoholism
therapy
alcoholic
recovery
self-help
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Chris Prentiss |
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Tragedy always moves our story forward in a way shalom could never accomplish.
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shalom
healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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If we enter our story in heartache, we will hear the whisper of the name that will one day be ours.
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grief
lament
healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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We wouldn't have much need of a war if people stopped using drugs. It's like taking up a fight against the use of headache remedies; it will never work until the condition causing people's headache pain is healed.
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pain
drug-war
headaches
rehab
root-of-addiction
war-on-drugs
holistic-treatment
pax-prentiss
passages-malibu
chris-prentiss
healing
remedies
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Chris Prentiss |
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Believe that is cure is possible for you. Discover and heal the underlying causes with a holistic recovery program. Adopt a philosophy based on what is true in the Universe.
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universe
sobriety
freedom
inspiration
inspire
change
happiness
life
philosophy
wisdom
good-books
alcohol-addiction-treatment
curing-addiction
drug-addiction-treatment
recommended-reading
renew
sober-living
treatment-program
holistic-treatment
addiction-free
non12step
holistic-health
non-12-step
passages-ventura
passages-malibu
addiction-cure
addiction-treatment-center
chris-prentiss
sober
healing
change-the-world
health
self-improvement
self-help
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Chris Prentiss |
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Men who believe that the way to the mind is not by way of ice picks through the brain or large dosages of dangerous medicine but through an honest reckoning of the self.
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happy
honesty
hope
life
love
confess
recover
rigourous-honesty
heal
broken-hearted
pathetic
treatment
healing
delusion
tragic
self-hate
denial
wound
scars
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Dennis Lehane |
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...you can be assured that the inciting events call for you to sacrifice your comfort and ease in order for your story to move forward. It's easy to ignore such inciting events...It's easy to flee your story.
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healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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It is a childish notion that once established, our boundaries will never be transgressed again...We shall have to stand for ourselves repeatedly for the rest of our lives. As we practice doing this, we come to greater ease...Eventually it may float over entirely into the positive realm--becoming only another chance to demonstrated our worthiness.
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boundaries-quotes
boundary-violations
recovery-from-abuse
boundaries
healing-insights
healing-abuse
healing
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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Desire lies at the heart of who God made us to be, who we are at our core. Desire is both our greatest frailty and the mark of our highest beauty. Our desire completes us as we become One with our Lover, and it separates us from Him and brings death as it wars against His will.
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shalom
healing
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Dan B. Allender |
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Though our childhood abuse left us feeling someone ought to make reparation to us, if we wait a lifetime for that, we may never receive what we need. We choose instead to face the idea that from now on, we are going to take responsibility for caring for ourselves.
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ask-for-forgiveness
no-apologies
reparation
recovery-from-abuse
healing-insights
healing
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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We can ill afford to wait until we have worked through all our memories & feelings about incest before learning to rest & play. While it may seem to be a natural impulse to get to the bottom of things & purge ourselves fully, we need to regularly examine the full picture of our lives for balance along the way...Learning to rest & play is an essential part of our healing.
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child-sexual-abuse-survivors
recovery-from-abuse
healing-insights
healing-abuse
healing-the-emotional-self
healing
incest
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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A new story begins the moment an old one ends. But a denouement is a respite that calls us to stop the journey for a brief interlude - to eat, drink, sing, dance and tell our story to others.
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healing
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Dan B. Allender |
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Our story will gain momentum and depth only to the degree that we honestly embrace both loss and fear.
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healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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The shattering [of shalom] moves us from a place of shalom to a place that is harsh and unrelenting. The shattering brings us a keen awareness that we are alone and in danger. We are on our own.
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shalom
healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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But if we honestly name the passionate desires of our heart, and if we risk seeing those desires come to be, the plot of our life story will begin to move with greater intentionality. Yet the only way we can keep walking on that path is to allow our self moments to rest and celebrate the temporary climax of a story in denouement.
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healing
true-self
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Dan B. Allender |
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I am filled with truth at my center where I once held shame.
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truth
core-truth
sexual-abuse-healing
healing-shame
soul-searching
healing-the-past
healing
soul
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Maureen Brady |
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Abuse? Ah. Such problems, even with time, do not go away on their own. They must be addressed. Andre Chevalier
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counseling
healing-abuse
healing
abuse-recovery
sexual-abuse
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Nikki Sex |
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Lo unico que va a sanarte es el amor, siempre que le des cabida.
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love
el-juego-de-ripper
sanar
ripper
healing
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Isabel Allende |
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Holding his icy hands, she slid for a moment into the outer fringes of the healing trance and whispered to him by his inner name. But it was as if she called at the head of a descending trail along which he had long since passed--there was no answer.
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healing
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Barbara Hambly |
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"Curiosity. It was Oliver Sacks who first made me reflect on curiosity as a form of compassion. An ingenious and creative neurologist now well-known for his "clinical tales," he begins his work as diagnostician and healer with the implicit question 'What is it like to be you?"
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empathy
marilyn-chandler-mcentyre
healing
conversation
curiosity
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Marilyn Chandler McEntyre |
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When I picked him up originally, the boy's spirit was soft and cold, like ice-cream. He started melting in my arms. Then warming up completely. Healing.
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spirit
healing
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Markus Zusak |
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As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are having.
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moving-on
friends
empowerment
affirming
recovery-from-abuse
healing-from-abuse
thriver
victim-role
victim
survivor
healing
friendships
recovery
survivors
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Maureen Brady |
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I just gritted my teeth, took out a needle, and worked him out of my heart like a splinter.
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moving-on-and-letting-go
healing
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Mohsin Hamid |
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"True grief never goes away. We learn to live with it. After a while our friends stop asking and we stop discussing our sorrows. It doesn't help us that much and we realize that almost everyone who we have confided in carries grief deep in their hearts too. We often decide that once again, our job is to cheer others up. Grief isn't just something to endure; it is also a reflection of our capacity to love. It allows us to understand the most profound human experience at the most intimate level. Facing our grief requires openness and courage. We must explore it with curiosity and patience and we must allow it to stay in our hearts until it is ready to leave. Over time, by simply abiding with our sorrows, they will lessen. Yet as poet Linda Pastan wrote, "Grief is a circular staircase," We feelin better and then we feel worse. Holidays...trigger grief reactions. we may have a rather good Year Two and then be felled by Year Three. With intention and skills, we move forward on our journey, but not without spiraling in the waters."
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loss
healing
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Mary Pipher |
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The confirmation of history is that we are not called despite our wounding and betrayal; we are wounded and betrayed because we are called. And God yearns to make your pain redemptive in your life.
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christian-living
healing-quotes
church-hurt
healing
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Stephen Mansfield |
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When church becomes for us an anointed have, when the grace is flowing and all is well we become sentimental...we remake people into what we need them to be. We are not wise in our love, prudent in our commitments, knowing in our fellowship. And so the evil comes and we are first amazed and then destroyed and then knocked off our axis as if never to return.
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church-hurt
church-relations
spiritual-maturity
local-church
healing
sin
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Stephen Mansfield |
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There was no point in telling somebody not to cry, she had always thought; indeed there were times when you should do exactly the opposite, when you should urge people to cry, to start the healing that sometimes only tears can bring. But if there was a place for tears of relief, there might even be a place for tears of pride[.]
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healing
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Alexander McCall Smith |
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They don't want to see me lose my home. They want me to come to my senses before it's too late. I need a better way to cope with my feelings of loss and guilt. I need bereavement therapy. Here are some names. I should think about medication. Here's what worked for them. There are books. There are websites. There are support groups. Healing won't come from withdrawing into a fantasy world, isolating myself, spending all my time with a dog. There is such a thing as pathological grief. There is the magical thinking of pathological grief, which is a kind of dementia. Which in their collective opinion is what I have.
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mourning
grief
loss
bereavement
healing
intervention
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Sigrid Nunez |
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But making the ugly hurt part human again is not an exercise for the well-meaning social worker in us. This is the most dangerous work you can do. It is like bomb disposal but you are the bomb. That's the problem--the awful thing is you.
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life
healing
redemption
recovery
self-help
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Jeanette Winterson |
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"It's funny, isn't it," Miss Woolf whispered in Ursula's ear, "how much German music we listen to. Great beauty transcends all. Perhaps after the war it will heal all too." --
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war
music
healing
peace
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Kate Atkinson |