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58f3134 Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don't respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved. appreciate change happiness inspiration inspirational inspirational-attitude inspirational-life inspirational-quotes inspire inspiring laugh life life-and-living life-lessons life-quotes living love optimism optimistic positive positive-affirmation positive-life positive-thinking relationship respect smile value Roy T. Bennett
ba033ff It's okay," he said. "We're together." He didn't sa absence annabeth-chase heroes-of-olympus inspirational love percy-jackson percy-jackson-and-the-olympians relationship separation the-mark-of-athena Rick Riordan
6cc1ba2 When in a relationship, a real man doesn't make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman. boyfriend girlfriend inspirational jealous life love marriage men motivational relationship women Steve Maraboli
ebb0a38 "It's okay," he said. "We're together." He didn't say , or . After all they'd been through over the last year, he knew that the most important thing was that they were together. She loved him for saying that." -- annabeth-chase heroes-of-olympus inspirational love percy-jackson percy-jackson-and-the-olympians relationship separation the-mark-of-athena Rick Riordan
bcc269d I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I AM BETTER THAN THAT...Goodbye. breakup commit deserve goodbye happiness inspirational life love motivational relationship respect Steve Maraboli
a4c23b1 Oh, don't cry, I'm so sorry I cheated so much, but that's the way things are. life relationship Vladimir Nabokov
964e194 "Jane, my little darling (so I will call you, for so you are), you don't know what you are talking about; you misjudge me again: it is not because she is mad I hate her. If you were mad, do you think I should hate you?" "I do indeed, sir." "Then you are mistaken, and you know nothing about me, and nothing about the sort of love of which I am capable. Every atom of your flesh is as dear to me as my own: in pain and sickness it would still be dear. Your mind is my treasure, and if it were broken, it would be my treasure still: if you raved, my arms should confine you, and not a strait waistcoat--your grasp, even in fury, would have a charm for me: if you flew at me as wildly as that woman did this morning, I should receive you in an embrace, at least as fond as it would be restrictive. I should not shrink from you with disgust as I did from her: in your quiet moments you should have no watcher and no nurse but me; and I could hang over you with untiring tenderness, though you gave me no smile in return; and never weary of gazing into your eyes, though they had no longer a ray of recognition for me." pain relationship sickness Charlotte Brontë
c78a487 What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life--to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting? death fellowship love marriage memory relationship sadness sorrow George Eliot
0c1282c Anything under God's control is never out of control. god hope inspirational jesus relationship Charles Swindoll
0af8b04 When it comes to men, deal with them as they are, not how you'd like them to be. men relationship Greg Behrendt Liz Tuccillo
54b191b Be with someone who inspires you and makes you be the best version of yourself. inspiration inspirational inspirational-attitude inspirational-life inspirational-quote inspirational-quotes inspire inspiring life life-and-living life-lessons life-philosophy life-quotes living motivation motivational optimism optimistic positive positive-affirmation positive-life positive-thinking relationship Roy T. Bennett
84c3c65 Child, it's a very bad thing for a woman to face the worst that can happen to her, because after she's faced the worst she can't ever really fear anything again. ...Scarlett, always save something to fear-- even as you save something to love... love relationship Margaret Mitchell
2e1ec53 If you're not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you're not ready for that relationship. inspirational life love relationship self-knowledge truth Steve Maraboli
4f55baa All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm's way. commitment curelty endurance forgiveness harm health love relationship unkindness Bell Hooks
a6ba569 In a strong relationship, you should love your companion more than you need them. inspirational love need relationship Steve Maraboli
b4e44d0 The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. inspirational relationship self-love Steve Maraboli
2df2a94 But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape. community escape fear loneliness love relationship solitude Bell Hooks
2330b80 Giving generously in romantic relationships, and in all other bonds, means recognizing when the other person needs our attention. Attention is an important resource. bond giving recognition relationship resource romance Bell Hooks
db807e3 I had always had a little problem looking out for myself in love. I was afraid people would leave me. So I sort of clung and did everything possible to keep someone around. I didn't have a hard talk with myself about who I was keeping around. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out. I clung to people like human life preservers. I thought i'd die if someone left me. Its ironic because now I'm the one who's leaving. change inspirational life life-lessons love relationship Deb Caletti
7090f6e If soldiers are punished before they have grown attached to you, they will not prove submissive; and, unless submissive, then will be practically useless. If, when the soldiers have become attached to you, punishments are not enforced, they will still be unless. discipline leadership relationship Sun Tzu
ad63482 Because', she said, 'your problems are not real problems. You're dating two beautiful girls at once. Think about it. That's like...having rock-star problems.' 'Having rock-star problems may be the closest I ever get to being an actual rock star. dating girls relationship rock-star simon-lewis Cassandra Clare
e75d30e This boat that we just built is just fine - And don't try to tell us it's not The sides and the back are divine - It's the bottom I guess we forgot relationship Shel Silverstein
43c30fb In a dog's life, some plaster would fall, some cushions would open, some rugs would shred. Like any relationship, this one had its costs. They were costs we came to accept and balance against the joy and amusement and protection and companionship he gave us. dogs life relationship John Grogan
336ffed My father chose my name , and my last name was chosen by my ancestors . That's enough, I myself choose my way death faith friend funny god humor inspirational life love relationship religion truth Ali Shariati
c61ee86 "But I talk to you as I talk to my own soul," he said, turning me to face him. He reached up and cupped my cheek, fingers light on my temple. "And, Sassenach," he whispered, "your face is my heart." relationship romance sweet Diana Gabaldon
ed416bf "Men feel cherished when they are needed. Women feel cherished when they are loved. Indonesian version (Bahasa): relationship john gray
67246d5 "Why do you pray?" he asked me, after a moment. Why did I pray? A strange question. Why did I live? Why did I breathe? "I don't know why," I said, even more disturbed and ill at ease. "I don't know why." After that day I saw him often. He explained to me with great insistence that every question possessed a power that did not lie in the answer. "Man raises himself toward God by the questions he asks Him," he was fond of repeating. "That is the true dialogue. Man questions God and God answers. But we don't understand His answers. We can't understand them. Because they come from the depths of the soul, and they stay there until death. You will find the true answers, Eliezer, only within yourself!" "And why do you pray, Moshe?" I asked him. "I pray to the God within me that He will give me the strength to ask Him the right questions." relationship revelation Elie Wiesel
6a6d0b1 It's hard to give up the being together with someone. friendship giving-up love moving moving-on relationship Lois Lowry
b8107f6 wisdom is like a bottomless pond. You throw stones in and they sink into darkness and dissolve. Her eyes looking back do not reflect anything. I think this to myself even though I love my daughter. She and I have shared the same body. There is a part of her mind that is a part of mine. But when she was born she sprang from me like a slippery fish, and has been swimming away ever since. All her life, I have watched her as though from another shore. mother relationship Amy Tan
4a4b467 For he was aware of the great secret of life: Women don't look for handsome men. Women look for men who have had beautiful women. Having an ugly mistress is therefore a fatal mistake. love mistress relationship ugly women Milan Kundera
70e7351 "But the truth is, I want to be some woman's work boots, not her high heels." "Work boots?" What was sexy about that? And did women have work boots? "Yeah. You know, the boots she pulls out when she wants to get down and dirty, hiking or gardening or boating or painting the kitchen. The ones she relies on and trusts and lives her life hard and good and on her terms in. Her favorites." relationship work-boots Erin McCarthy
3e535f0 Remember me? I'm back to my old self again. No responsibilities, no attachments, no encumbrances. I don't want to own anything, love anyone, or get too attached to people, places or things. It's a rule that seems to work well for me. relationship Danielle Steel
188c996 You concede nothing to me and I have to concede everything to you. confide relationship unfair Thomas Hardy
cc76733 "An attachment grew up. What is an attachment? It is the most difficult of all the human interrelationships to explain, because it is the vaguest, the most impalpable. It has all the good points of love, and none of its drawbacks. No jealousy, no quarrels, no greed to possess, no fear of losing possession, no hatred (which is very much a part of love), no surge of passion and no hangover afterward. It never reaches the heights, and it never reaches the depths. As a rule it comes on subtly. As theirs did. As a rule the two involved are not even aware of it at first. As they were not. As a rule it only becomes noticeable when it is interrupted in some way, or broken off by circumstances. As theirs was. In other words, its presence only becomes known in its absence. It is only missed after it stops. While it is still going on, little thought is given to it, because little thought needs to be. It is pleasant to meet, it is pleasant to be together. To put your shopping packages down on a little wire-backed chair at a little table at a sidewalk cafe, and sit down and have a vermouth with someone who has been waiting there for you. And will be waiting there again tomorrow afternoon. Same time, same table, same sidewalk cafe. Or to watch Italian youth going through the gyrations of the latest dance craze in some inexpensive indigenous night-place-while you, who come from the country where the dance originated, only get up to do a sedate fox trot. It is even pleasant to part, because this simply means preparing the way for the next meeting. One long continuous being-together, even in a love affair, might make the thing wilt. In an attachment it would surely kill the thing off altogether. But to meet, to part, then to meet again in a few days, keeps the thing going, encourages it to flower. And yet it requires a certain amount of vanity, as love does; a desire to please, to look one's best, to elicit compliments. It inspires a certain amount of flirtation, for the two are of opposite sex. A wink of understanding over the rim of a raised glass, a low-voiced confidential aside about something and the smile of intimacy that answers it, a small impromptu gift - a necktie on the one part because of an accidental spill on the one he was wearing, or of a small bunch of flowers on the other part because of the color of the dress she has on. So it goes. And suddenly they part, and suddenly there's a void, and suddenly they discover they have had an attachment. Rome passed into the past, and became New York. Now, if they had never come together again, or only after a long time and in different circumstances, then the attachment would have faded and died. But if they suddenly do come together again - while the sharp sting of missing one another is still smarting - then the attachment will revive full force, full strength. But never again as merely an attachment. It has to go on from there, it has to build, to pick up speed. And sometimes it is so glad to be brought back again that it makes the mistake of thinking it is love. ("For The Rest Of Her Life")" attachment attachments love relationship Cornell Woolrich
d8d0787 You figured that the only way I'd be happy is if I did the things you thought would be best for me. relationship Jodi Picoult
1a34a14 One should not believe too strongly in a life which can easily vanish. life love relationship James Salter
7db1e7d "It was as simple as that - they met. As simple as only beautiful things can be beautiful, as only life-changing things, turning-point things, can be simple. ("For The Rest Of Her Life")" fate life-changing love meeting relationship simple simplicity Cornell Woolrich
07a55ed The hardest thing is being with other people - it's like they're on a different wavelenght, but only you know it. They talk about their lives and what's wrong with them, and you kind of, like, just let them go. It's a whole different language, and you've got to remember that you can only respond in their mother tongue. It's really hard to relate. life life-and-living life-lessons relationship J.R. Ward
303df68 Choosing to be honest is the first step in the process of love. There is no practitioner of love who deceives. Once the choice has been made to be honest, then the next step on love's path is communication. communication honesty love relationship Bell Hooks
4fd89a0 How do you manage it, she said, at your age? I told her I'd been saving up for her all my life. krapp life love play relationship Samuel Beckett
44f3e0b I asked her to look at me and after a few moments - (pause) - after a few moments she did, but the eyes just slits, because of the glare I bent over her to get them in the shadow and they opened. (Pause. Low) Let me in. krapp moments play relationship Samuel Beckett
89c14b6 The Christian life is not about pleasing God the finger-shaker and judge. It is not about believing now or being good now for the sake of heaven later. It is about entering a relationship in the present that begins to change everything now. Spirituality is about this process: the opening of the heart to the God who is already here. god life relationship spirituality Marcus J. Borg
895631b Wanita senang hatinya bila mempunyai teman yang dapat berbagi kesulitannya. Lelaki senang hatinya bila dapat memecahkan kesulitannya sendirian di guanya. relationship John Gray
863c292 I had never before thought of how awful the relationship must be between the musician and his instrument. He has to fill it, this instrument, with the breath of life, his own. He has to make it do what he wants it to do. And a piano is just a piano. It's made out of so much wood and wires and little hammers and big ones, and ivory. While there's only so much you can do with it, the only way to find this out is to try; to try and make it do everything. everything instrument ivory-tower life music musician piano relationship wires wood James Baldwin
f46dfa7 He was demanding. He always would be. But sometimes, he was so vulnerable and she realized she had power in the relationship as well. She hadn't expected that. He was as vulnerable to her as she was to him. He just acted arrogant and bossy, but deep down, where it counted, he didn't want to lose her either. power relationship vulnerable Christine Feehan
c6f62bc He sometimes wondered if she had become involved with him just so that she could cry in someone's arms. Maybe she can't cry alone, and that's why she needs me. relationship sadness Haruki Murakami
bdcfe50 I don't want to have to give up me, in order to be his. relationship Danielle Steel
ad522d8 There are some situations which men understand by instinct, by which reason is powerless to explain; in such cases the greatest poet is he who gives utterance to the most natural and vehement outburst of sorrow. Those who hear the bitter cry are as much impressed as if they listened to an entire poem, and when th sufferer is sincere they are right in regarding his outburst as sublime. relationship sorrow sympathy the-count-of-monte-cristo Alexandre Dumas
a95f1af I don't care if the New York Times writes an obituary for me. I just want you to write one. ... You say you're not special because the world doesn't know about you, but that's an insult to me. I know about you. love obituary relationship John Green
cd0b9ea He had lived and acted on the assumption that he was alone, and now he saw that he had not been. What he had done made others suffer. No matter how much he would long for them to forget him, they would not be able to. His family was a part of him, not only in blood, but in spirit. relationship self Richard Wright
0f90478 I don't know what she is now. A stranger, mostly. It's as if she has become a part of a different world, one that doesn't include me anymore.... difficulties friendship letting-go moving-on relationship sister Lois Lowry
7ff8dfc Being apart was wrong. Simply lying side by side did more for a relationship than words. A warm bed, a nest of animal intimacy. Words could be misunderstood, whereas loving companionship bred trust. intimacy love relationship Michel Faber
1e323e4 A man's world is different from a woman's world and a man's emotions are different from a woman's emotions and only marriage can bring the two different sets of emotions together properly. marriage relationship Sylvia Plath
97f44f6 I think maybe, when I was very young, I witnessed a chaste cheek kiss between the two when it was impossible to avoid. Christmas, birthdays. Dry lips. On their best married days, their communications were entirely transactional: 'We're out of milk again.' (I'll get some today.) 'I need this ironed properly.' (I'll do that today.) 'How hard is it to buy milk?' (Silence.) 'You forgot to call the plumber.' (Sigh.) 'Goddammit, put on your coat, right now, and go out and get some goddamn milk. Now.' These messages and orders brought to you by my father, a mid-level phonecompany manager who treated my mother at best like an incompetent employee. abusive abusive-relationship abusive-relationships bad-parenting broken-home childhood childhood-memories communication depression divorce family father fight fighting fights heartbreak love love-lost mother parenthood parents parents-and-children relationship sexism silence Gillian Flynn
45252a1 A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart's. To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back to back--it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners moving to the same rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it. life love relationship Anne Morrow Lindbergh
e9344e2 When things are good in your life, take the time to build and fortify your relationship with the Lord. Never become complacent about your relationship with Him, because there's always room to grow DEEPER! lord love power prayer relationship Stormie Omartian
975bd79 God wills our liberation, our exodus from Egypt. God wills our reconciliation, our return from exile. God wills our enlightenment, our seeing. God wills our forgiveness, our release from sin and guilt. God wills that we see ourselves as God's beloved. God wills our resurrection, our passage from death to life. God wills for us food and drink that satisfy our hunger and thirst. God wills, comprehensively, our well-being--not just my well-being as an individual but the well-being of all of us and of the whole of creation. In short, God wills our salvation, our healing, here on earth. The Christian life is about participating in the salvation of God. god healing reconciliation relationship salvation Marcus J. Borg
b546d7f It wasn't like there was some obvious change. Actually, the problem was more a lack of change. Nothing about her had changed - the way she spoke, her clothes, the topics she chose to talk about, her opinions - they were all the same as before. Their relationship was like a pendulum gradually grinding to a halt, and he felt out of synch. love monotony relationship Haruki Murakami
37bcf19 Relationships should be built on trust and truth. relationship secret trust truth Sophie Kinsella
a0423b7 No, Miss Wright didn't want to meet her kid. To her, that relationship was just as important, just as ideal and impossible as it would be to the child. She'd expect that young man to be perfect, smart, and talented, everything to compensate for all the mistakes that she'd made. The whole wasted, unhappy mess of her life. children parent parenting parents relationship snuff Chuck Palahniuk
9e91ac1 "What should we do?", I asked, and I had a pained feeling I thought was the beginning of love. In those early months we clung to each other with a rather silly desperation, because, in spite of everything my mother or Mrs Jordan could say, there was nothing that really prevented us from seeing each other. With imagined tragedy hovering over us, we became inseparable, two halves creating the whole: yin and yang. I was victim to his hero. I was always in danger and he was always rescuing me. I would fall and he would lift me up. It was exhilarating and draining. The emotional effect of saving and being saved was addicting to both of us. And that, as much as anything we ever did in bed, was how we made love to each other: conjoined where my weaknesses needed protection." hero love relationship victim Amy Tan
f2a4460 "I'm very glad you asked me that, Mrs Rawlinson. The term `holistic' refers to my conviction that what we are concerned with here is the fundamental interconnectedness of all things. I do not concern myself with such petty things as fingerprint powder, telltale pieces of pocket fluff and inane footprints. I see the solution to each problem as being detectable in the pattern and web of the whole. The connections between causes and effects are often much more subtle and complex than we with our rough and ready understanding of the physical world might naturally suppose, Mrs Rawlinson. "Let me give you an example. If you go to an acupuncturist with toothache he sticks a needle instead into your thigh. Do you know why he does that, Mrs Rawlinson? No, neither do I, Mrs Rawlinson, but we intend to find out. A pleasure talking to you, Mrs Rawlinson. Goodbye." dirk-gently fundamental interconnectedness relationship Douglas Adams
9ea8009 The last thing she'd wanted was anything as complicated as a relationship, for it felt as though there we're though complication in her life already. love relationship relationships Nicholas Sparks
cd104de Concurrently, when it comes to matters of the heart we are encouraged to treat partners as though they were objects we can pick up, use, and the discard and dispose of at will, with the one criteria being whether or not individualistic desires are satisfied. desire heart love object partner relationship satisfaction Bell Hooks
00157f6 If everyone could feel as I felt at that moment, dressed in my preppy sweater and McGregor coat and about to set out on a little journey with my Bambi-eyed girlfriend on Christmas Eve, all conflicts in the world would vanish. Mellow smiles would rule the earth. happiness joy love peace relationship Ryū Murakami
3c0f245 First love is amazing and wonderful, but a kind of panic underlies it, a sense of not knowing what you're doing. relationship Scott Westerfeld
eaf41d9 The mass State has no intention of promoting mutual understanding and the relationship of man to man; it strives, rather, for atomization, for the psychic isolation of the individual. individuality mutuality politics relationship state statism understanding C.G. Jung
c4ceedd I was deluded, and I knew it. Worse: my love for Pippa was muddied-up below the waterline with my mother, with my mother's death, with losing my mother and not being able to get her back. All that blind, infantile hunger to save and be saved, to repeat the past and make it different, had somehow attached itself, ravenously, to her. There was an instability in it, a sickness. I was seeing things that weren't there. I was only one step away from some trailer park loner stalking a girl he'd spotted in the mall. For the truth of it was: Pippa and I saw each other maybe twice a year; we e-mailed and texted, though with no great regularity; when she was in town we loaned each other books and went to the movies; we were friends; nothing more. My hopes for a relationship with her were wholly unreal, whereas my ongoing misery, and frustration, were an all-too-horrible reality. Was groundless, hopeless, unrequited obsession any way to waste the rest of my life? delusion delusional delusional-love frustration grief hope hopeless hunger loner loss misery obsession past reality relationship save sickness stalking unreal unrequited-love waste Donna Tartt
5712f9e I happened to look up and there it was. All over and done with, at last. I sat on for a few moments with the ball in my hand and the dog yelping and pawing at me. (Pause.) Moments. Her moments, my moments (Pause.) The dog's moments. krapp love moments play relationship Samuel Beckett
8b8c68b How come love sounds so violent? You fall head over heels. You're struck by Cupid's arrow. You take the risk of having your heart broken. From an outside perspective, it sounds impossibly painful, not worth the trouble. And yet we do it every day. We keep coming back for more. Why? If it weren't so perilous, maybe we wouldn't crave it so much. Maybe it has to be brutal, in order to work. People come in so many shapes and sizes that it takes a bit of force in order to fit together perfectly. But you know what they say about a break that heals: it's always stronger than before. love love-quote relationship Jodi Picoult
df94f3f It feels like forever, like he's lived through the same things as me, like our lives ran parallel for years until last week, when they finally intersected and fused. love-at-first-sight love-story lovers relationship romance Barbara Delinsky
d327380 You know why I like to talk to you, Delia? You never interrupt with your experiences. Not jiggling your foot till you get a chance to jump in with your life history. listening relationship Anne Tyler
7f74547 Every woman feels. It just takes the right man to make things combust. lover lovers men men-and-women relationship relationships romance sex women women-s-fiction women-writers Barbara Delinsky
ecfc5b6 Real people are actively trying to live like fake people, so real people are no less fake. Every comparison becomes impractical. This is why the impractical has become totally acceptable; impracticality almost seems cool. life media relationship truth Chuck Klosterman
e53c5b8 Often we fail to consider the fact that our social, spiritual, and intellectual interests are miles apart. Our value systems and goals are contradictory, but we are in love. falling-in-love love marriage relationship short-term-feeling successful-marriage Gary Chapman
8de45eb To be part of a family, or any community, is to have duties and responsibility, to be bound by the rules of that group. community duties family friendship relationship responsibility rules socialism Robin Hobb
12234af "Salah satu hal ajaib mengenai kehidupan. Saat muridnya siap, sang guru muncul. Saat pertanyaan diajukan, jawabannya datang. relationship John Gray
32cfc58 "I think men mostly have to learn to be anarchists. Women don't have to learn." Vokep shook his head grimly. "It's the kids," he said. "Having babies. Makes 'em propertarians. They won't let go." He sighed. "Touch and go, brother, that's the rule. Don't ever let yourself be owned." ownership relationship Ursula K. Le Guin
1b72393 A relationship is a game of chess. game relationship Sophie Kinsella
8fcc33a It's like I'd been walking a tightrope with a big safety net underneath me, but I never really thought about the net until someone took it away. And then every single step scared me to death. concern death emotions family feelings life loss love relationship security separation Margaret Peterson Haddix
090a146 "When she found a place of her own and packed her bags he asked her to marry him. She kissed him, and quoted in his ear, "He married a woman to stop her getting away, Now she's there all day." -- love marriage proposal relationship Ian McEwan
94e1bce "Our central problem is not sin and guilt, as it is within the monarchical model. For the Spirit model, our central problem is "estrangement," whose specific meaning of "separated from that to which one belongs" is most appropriate. ... For the monarchical model, sin is primarily disloyalty to the king, seen especially as disobedience to his laws. The metaphors used to express the Spirit model suggest something else. For the metaphor of God as lover, sin is unfaithfulness--that is, sin is going after other lovers." love obedience relationship unfaithfulness Marcus J. Borg
a84ed3a When there is no connection at all between people, then anger is a way of bringing them closer together, of making contact. But when there is a great deal of connectedness that is problematic or threatening or unacknowledged, then anger is a way of keeping people separate, of putting distance between us. connectedness relationship Audre Lorde
da75bdb Both men and women remain in dysfunctional, loveless relationships when it is materially opportune. loveless men relationship safety security women Bell Hooks
cac94a0 "Failure to put the relationship on a slower timetable may result in an act that was never intended in the first place. Another important principle is to avoid the circumstances where compromise is likely. A girl who wants to preserve her virginity should not find herself in a house or dorm room alone with someone to whom she is attracted. Nor should she single-date with someone she has reason not to trust. A guy who wants to be moral should stay away from the girl he knows would go to bed with him. Remember the words of Solomon to his son, "Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house" (Proverbs 5:8). I know this advice sounds very narrow in a day when virginity is mocked and chastity is considered old-fashioned. But I don't apologize for it. The Scriptures are eternal, and God's standards of right and wrong do not change with the whims of culture. He will honor and help those who are trying to follow His commandments. In fact, the apostle Paul said, "He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear" (1Corinthians 10:13). Hold that promise and continue to use your head. You'll be glad you did." act advice alone and apostle are attracted avoid away be bear bed beyond can change chastity circumstances commandments compromise considered continue culture day did do door eternal failure first follow girl glad go god-s guy he head help her him hold honor house important intended is keep knows let likely may mocked moral narrow near never not old-fashioned path paul place preserve principle proberbs promise reason relationship remeber result right scriptures she should single-date slower solomon someone son sounds standards stay tempted those to trust trying use very virginity wants what-you whims who whom will with words would wrong you you-ll your James C. Dobson
f4efddf I laugh, because he knew what I was thinking, and very few people ever know what I'm thinking. friends love relationship thoughts understading Lois Lowry
903e0b8 What goes on between a man and his missus is nobody's business; especially where desert toppin's involved. relationship Tanya Huff
99e1c45 He had wished me well in finding my own fate to follow, and I never doubted his sincerity. But it had taken me years to accept that his absence in my life was a deliberate finality, an act he had chosen, a thing completed even as some part of my soul still dangled, waiting for his return. That, I think, is the shock of any relationship ending. It is realizing that what is still an ongoing relationship to someone is, for the other person, something finished and done with. choose connection depart done final finish friendship leave love over pain part-ways relationship return separate sever soul wait well wish Robin Hobb
ec4f1c7 Ada: And why life? (Pause.) Why life, Henry? (Pause.) Is there anyone about? Henry: Not a living soul. Ada: I thought as much. (Pause.) When we longed to have it to ourselves there was always someone. Now that it does not matter the place is deserted. embers love play relationship soul Samuel Beckett
0677bd8 Apparently he thought he deserved only to be loved--from a distance, though--and given what he wanted. And in return he would be . . . what? Pleasant? Generous? Maybe all he was really saying was: I am not responsible for your pain; share your happiness with me but not your unhappiness. happiness love pain relationship sincerity Toni Morrison
ea45e63 People who are ordinarily understood to dislike each other or at least to be indifferent toward each other discover that they have much in common. relationship Walker Percy
3f14f96 So how long have you been together? Two months?' 'Five.' 'Five? Jesus, Steve, you might as well get married. I should buy a hat.' 'Don't. They give away your Spock ears.' She laughed. 'This is the Romanian girl?' 'Croatian.' 'Right. She's a painter?' 'Photographer.' 'Right.' She studied him. 'What?' he laughed self-consciously as though he was a twelve-year-old boy who'd just been caught with his first girlfriend. 'Nothing.' 'Come on.' 'I don't know Steve,' she cut into her meat, 'you've changed. You no longer write about Victoria Beckham and you have a girlfriend. I think...' 'You think what?' 'I don't know, I might be jumping the gun here, but I think there's a possibility you might not be gay after all.' A chip was hurled at her head. kitty-logan relationship restaurant victoria-beckham Cecelia Ahern
f786224 All living relationships are in process of change, of expansion, and must perpetually be building themselves new forms. But there is no single fixed form to express such a changing relationship. relationship Anne Morrow Lindbergh
73d987f A woman's income appeal is a bell-shaped curve: men do not want to date low-earning women, but once a woman starts earning too much, they seem to be scared off. freakonomics men money relationship women Steven D. Levitt & Stephen J. Dubner
cc2cce5 I love you too, but my time with you has passed. goodbye love relationship time Garth Nix
100eeb9 Certaines relations harmonieuses se creent et durent grace a un systeme complexe de menues contre-verites, de renoncements, une espece de ballet complice d'attitudes et de postures qui peut se resumer dans un proverbe jamais assez cite, ou plutot une sentence, cette designation lui convenant beaucoup mieux, Toi et moi nous savons, mais tais-toi et je me tairai. (ch. 5) relationship José Saramago
ebdbd99 Just because your life isn't as awful as someone else's that doesn't mean it doesn't suck. You can't compare how you feel to the way other people feel. It just doesn't work. What might look like the perfect life - or even an okay life - to you might not be so okay for the person living it. comparison depression feel feeling happiness human life people perfect-life reflection relationship sadness suck Michael Thomas Ford
3af427d [Patricia Highsmith] was an extremely unbalanced person, extremely hostile and misanthropic and totally incapable of any kind of relationship, not just intimate ones. I felt sorry for her, because it wasn't her fault. There was something in her early days or whatever that made her incapable. She drove everybody away and people who really wanted to be friends ended up putting the phone down on her. It seemed to me as if she had to ape feelings and behaviour, like Ripley. Of course sometimes having no sense of social behaviour can be charming, but in her case it was alarming. I remember once, when she was trying to have a dinner party with people she barely knew, she deliberately leaned towards the candle on the table and set fire to her hair. People didn't know what to do as it was a very hostile act and the smell of singeing and burning filled the room. autism behaviour hostile incapable misanthropy relationship social-behaviour unbalanced Andrew Wilson
a929c67 Love may start out as a good feeling, but to love someone long-term is an act of the will. faith family feeling god hope lady love marriage men relationship will women Elizabeth George
c1f872a "your relationship with air--that's key. You can't break up with air. relationship Ned Vizzini
3ce82d1 It was hard to know how to play the game when the rules kept changing. relationship sad Laurie Halse Anderson
ad256da Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one 'object' of love. If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. humanism love relationship Erich Fromm
4fd8ad4 And I kind of love it that you want to know everything. love relationship Scott Westerfeld
3c863e3 Naw, I say. Mr ____, can tell you, I don't like it at all. What is it to like? He git up on you, heist your nightgown round your waist, plunge in. Most times I pretend I ain't there. He never know the difference. Never ast me how I feel, nothing. Just do his business, get off, go to sleep. She start to laugh. Do his business, she say. Do his business. Why, Miss Celie. You make it sound like he going to the toilet on you. That's what it feel like, I say. She stop laughing. direspect humour love rape relationship sex sexual-abuse Alice Walker
94b5612 There has ling been a happy symbiotic relationship between kitchen and bar. Simply put, the kitchen wants booze, and the bartender wants food. bartender booze cooking food food-industry food-writing kitchen relationship restaurant Anthony Bourdain
7e394b3 I was very invested in love but it was just this long sex thing that could end at any moment because after all, it's about getting off. illusion investment love moment relationship sex Chuck Palahniuk
4fcd2fe "The bride waits here," she said, running her hands along her hair, taking in her image but seeming to drift away. "This is the moment you think about what you're doing. Who you're choosing. Who you will love. If it's right, Eddie, this can be such a wonderful moment." -- love magic marriage reflection relationship thoughts wedding Mitch Albom
1eeddcd "Father to teenage son: "My relationship with you is more important than anything I've got to say to you." fatherhood lecturing parenting relationship Randy Alcorn
0882153 "In a century or two this planet will have been destroyed by external cosmic forces or by the senseless activity of the human race. Human life is a freak phenomenon, soon to be blotted out. That is a consoling thought. Meanwhile we are surrounded by strange invisible entities, possibly your angels." "I hope so." "Ah, you think they are good, they be good, there is no good, the tendency to evil is overwhelming. One has only to think of the horrors of sex, its violence, its cruelty, its filthy vulgarity, its descent into bestial degradation. You had better go and dream in your monastery." "Would you come and visit me there?" "Of course not. I do not visit. Only, unfortunately, am sometimes visited." "You don't want to discuss -- you know -- what happened? My priest said -- " "No." "I care about how you are, I love you." "You still fail to realise how this sort of talk sickens me. Now please go. This will do for a welcome home scene. Tell them not to come. I desire to be left alone." end-of-the-world humor iris-murdoch misanthrope pessimistic recluse relationship the-green-knight Iris Murdoch
6136eee I am cuckolding myself relationship Donald E. Westlake
816a89e I learned that protecting someone by keeping him away from me doesn't shelter either of us. I learned that feeling other people's feelings for them doesn't bring us closer, it only separates me from myself and my needs. I always thought being codependent meant being too emotionally glued to someone; I didn't realize the way I was doing it was setting me adrift. introspection love relationship Lisa Scottoline
5b0a136 And suddenly I was afraid. My father, the man whose shoes I had been trying to fill for two years, was awake. Would he still live up to my expectations? Would I live up to his? family relationship Eoin Colfer
309fd0f But what was good tween us must have been nothing but bodies, she say. Cause I don't know the Albert that don't dance, can't hardly laugh, never talk bout nothing, beat you and hid your sister Nettie's letters. Who he? deceit love memory relationship alice walker
cfb55b4 How do you know that you're a person, distinct from other people? By keeping certain things to yourself. You guard them inside you, because, if you don't, there's no distinction between inside and outside. Secrets are the way you know you even have an inside. A radical exhibitionist is a person who has forfeited his identity. But identity in a vacuum is also meaningless. Sooner or later, the inside of you needs a witness. Otherwise you're just a cow, a cat, a stone, a thing in the world, trapped in your thingness. To have an identity, you have to believe that other identities equally exist. You need closeness with other people. And how is closeness built? By sharing secrets. relationship secret trust Jonathan Franzen
f166bd3 Sometimes, kids want you to hurt the way they hurt. family relationship Mitch Albom
19f8a1c "The beauty of being human is the capacity and desire for intimacy. Yet we know that even those who are most intimate remain strange to us. Like children, we often "make strange" with each other." belonging communion divine-love friendship intimacy longing love relationship solitude John O'Donohue
dc54eb0 I danced alone for a couple of years, and came to believe that I might not ever have a passionate romantic relationship--might end up alone! I'd always been terrified of this. But I'd rather not ever be in a couple, or ever get laid again, than be in a toxic relationship. I spent a few years celibate. It was lovely, and it was sometimes lonely. I had surrendered; I'd run out of bullets. I learned to be the person I wished I'd meet, at which point I found a kind, artistic, handsome man. When we get out of bed, we hold our lower backs, like Walter Brennan, and we laugh, and bring each other the Advil. couple man person relationship Anne Lamott
154b2bd Something had shifted between us, faintly, but the change was almost palpable. Our friendship had sat lightly between us, an ephemeral thing, without weight or gravity. Once, in the Boboli Gardens, under the shadow of a cypress tree on an achingly beautiful October afternoon, he had kissed me, a solemnly sweet and respectful kiss. But weeks had passed and we had not spoken of it. I had attributed it to the sunlight, shimmering gold like Danae's shower, and had pressed it into the scrapbook of memory, to be taken out and admired now and then, but not to be dwelled upon too seriously. Perhaps I had been mistaken. deanna-raybourn description friends-to-lovers friendship kiss lady-julia-grey relationship romantic silent-in-the-sanctuary Deanna Raybourn
3ab9b8c Find the Bad Guy means how, when you're arguing with your spouse, both people are trying to win the argument. Who didn't close the garage door? Who left the Bigfoot hair clump in the shower drain? What you have to realize, as a couple, is that there is no bad guy. You can't win an argument when you're married. Because if you win, your spouse loses, and resents losing, and then you lose, too, pretty much. relationship Jeffrey Eugenides
9761c8f Helping a woman make biscuits should not make a fellow this happy. But when the woman was the fellow's wife, and she smiled at him as if he were the noblest hero of her acquaintance--well, it couldn't be helped. husband inspirational love marriage relationship romance smiles wife Karen Witemeyer
849e2d4 Fannie Mae had aroused his anger, then reduced his anger to verbal breast-beating, and finally to silent hurt. Still, the love remained. Why? love relationship Frank Herbert
c2b8a49 Maybe that was the price of loving someone: you lost your grasp of where they ended and you began. relationship scott westerfeld
05705d4 ...this is life. Right here in this room, with you, is life. relationship Scott Westerfeld
98ae524 Having and authentic voice means that: - We can openly share competence as well as problems and vulnerability. - We can warm things up and calm them down. - We can listen and ask questions that allow us to truly know the other person and to gather information about anything that may affect us. - We can say what we think and feel, state differences, and allow the other person to do the same. - We can define our values, convictions, principles, and priorities, and do our best to act in accordance with them. - We can define what we feel entitled to in a relationship, and we can clarify the limits of what we will tolerate or accept in another's behavior. - We can leave (meaning that we can financially and emotionally support ourselves), if necessary. clarity communication convictions differences relationship values vulnerable Harriet Lerner Ph.D.
9c87225 And that was part of the tragedy: I had just started to know her. I was mourning the relationship that could have blossomed but didn't have a chance to grow. relationship Sy Montgomery
d72950c People love different people in different ways. people relationship James Baldwin
c96dac2 Being married cuts on your freedom. Having a husband or a relationship at all puts constraints on you. by Michael. relationship relationships Emily Giffin
904c0e3 Man is a coward in space, for he is by himself. crisis loneliness relationship Richard Llewellyn
0cb617c "Get your sticky fingers away from my cookies," Ben ordered, without turning his head, to see Jaxton trying to steal one from the cooking tray. "You weren't saying that last night," Jaxton retaliated, coming up to Ben's side, to give him a nudge. They were both smiling, while looking down at the counter, where Ben was making his delicious rosemary cookies. "In fact, I seem to remember you grabbing my sticky fingers and putting them in your mouth," he teased, speaking quietly, so that Lyon wouldn't hear them at the other side of the room. Ben turned to Jaxton and abandoned his baking, to catch his face in flour covered hands and plant a deep kiss on his lips. Jaxton opened his mouth, in acceptance of his kiss. ~ From the Heart" cello friendship gay lgbt love mm music notes novel relationship romance short-stories Elaine White
a42abda I loved her as much as ever and I still did not know how much that was. confused giovanni-s-room james-baldwin love relationship romantic-relationship uncertain James Baldwin
44ce3d2 "I do not know what I would do if you left me." For the first time I felt the suggestion of a threat in his voice--or I put it there. "I have been alone so long--I do not think I would be able to live if I had to be alone again." giovanni-s-room james-baldwin relationship romantic-relationship suicidal threat James Baldwin
1f0baa3 For other women that kind of intimacy--the physical, mental and emotional closeness to a man, a lover--was something they took for granted. But she would never travel through life with a man she loved and who loved her in return. Out of nowhere, a yearning ache of loss welled up inside her. A sense of barren hopelessness that panicked and angered her. man-woman-relationship relationship Penny Jordan
7193e0d Giselle had woken up once already, to find that she was pinned to the bed by the weight of Saul's leg lying across her lower body and his arm holding her against his side. It was a welcome imprisonment, though, and it enabled her to lie silently within its captivity and marvel at the magical events of the night and the happiness they had brought her. Now she was awake again--this time to find that she had the bed--his bed--to herself, and that she could stretch out languorously in it, entranced by the sweetly heavy ennui that possessed her body as intimately and intensely as Saul had possessed it during the night. love relationship Penny Jordan
caa3c5d If you understand what makes him tick-what is magic for him- then you can understand anyone imagination magic relationship understanding Rene Denfeld
f04f3e8 Perhaps he felt a touch of gratitude too for the fact that they had each other, for better or worse. They might be facing the worse right now, but the fact that they could lean on each other in the midst of it moved it into the better category. faithfulness inspirational love marriage relationship togetherness Karen Witemeyer
7cde3ed Do you ever think? What? They were lying together on the sofa that had always been there, the crappy beat-up biscuit-colored sofa that was managing, as best it could, its promotion from threadbare junk to holy artifact. You know. What if I don't know? You fucking do. Okay, yeah. Yes. I, too, wonder if Dad worried so much about every single little goddamned thing . . . That he summoned it. Thanks. I couldn't say it. That some god or goddess heard him, one time too many, getting panicky about whether she'd been carjacked at the mall, or had, like, hair cancer . . . That they delivered the think even he couldn't imagine worrying about. It's not true. I know. But we're both thinking about it. That may have been their betrothal. That may have been when they took their vows: We are no longer siblings, we are mates, starship survivors, a two-man crew wandering the crags and crevices of a planet that may not be inhabited by anyone but us. We no longer need, or want, a father. Still, they really have to call him. It's been way too long. brothers connection family life mates partner relationship siblings Michael Cunningham
9d63da3 Ludzie nie zaklepuja sobie innych ludzi. Podejmuja swiadoma decyzje, ze beda z nimi. To wymaga wiary. Rysujesz kolo na piasku i zgadzasz sie w nim stac, i wierzyc w nie. miłość polish relationship związek Zadie Smith
51127bf Before I was born my father disowned me. You know those ones who get the females pregnant, and then say the baby is not theirs? He rejected me, told my mother that I am not his child, so I never had a relationship with my father. Shelton 'Apples' Burrows reform gang leader broken-families broken-lives dead-beat-dads disown father-hunger fatherhood fatherless-homes hurting-children hurting-people not-wanted rejection relationship single-mothers Drexel Deal
51141a8 You are saying, I would like to but I could never forgive you or myself. I am saying, if you let me kneel before you once, I can live without forgiveness for a very long time. love relationship Joe Meno
e026bd7 If your husband's self-image needs a makeover, be patient. The answers don't come overnight when a long-held pattern of thinking has to be broken. But you can appropriate the power of God to fight the enemy that feeds him familiar lies, so your husband can be free to hear His truth. Remember that God will reveal glimpses of the key to breaking any of your husband's bad habits. As you pray for your husband's self-image, He will show you how to pray. inspirational patience prayer quotes relationship wife Stormie Omartian
99c034b "My eyes hurt," she said plaintively, as he surveyed the stacks of books they hadn't read yet. "Then by all means, we will save your eyes for a bit," Peri said, with a chuckle that rumbled inside his chest. He put his head down along his folded forelegs and looked up at her with an amused expression. "What are you thinking about?" he asked. "That I've never known anyone it was easier to be- friends with," she said, hesitating a moment over the "friend" part. Because it felt as if their relationship was unfolding into something a great deal warmer than mere friendship. "It's odd, isn't it?" he responded. "Except for my brother, I've never been as comfortable around any dragon as I am around you. I don't quite know how to fathom it." "Then let's not," she said instantly, not wanting to spoil anything. "All right?" He laughed. "One can certainly analyze things until they are no longer enjoyable. I bow to your wisdom. I am just happy to enjoy your company." She felt warm and tingly in a pleasant sort of way as he looked down at her with those glowing dark-emerald eyes. Feeling greatly daring, she reached out and scratched the soft skin under his chin. He sighed. "Oh, glory. That feels lovely. Don't stop doing that for the next thirty years or so. Take more time if you need it." She laughed, but kept scratching. "I wish there was something I could do for you that felt as good," he said, in a voice rich with content. "You already are," she said. "You're very comfortable to sit on." He laughed again, this time with a note of self-mockery. "I shall be sure to add that to my list of virtues. 'Makes a comfortable chair.' I am sure the Great Dragon at the gates of Paradise will find that ample reason to let me in straightaway. And the rest of my clan will surely inscribe it on my memorial wall." She blinked. "Dragons believe in Paradise?" she said, surprised. "Of course they do, silly goose," Peri replied, with another affectionate brush on his nose on her shoulder." andromeda-and-periapt attraction companionship relationship Mercedes Lackey
9869e48 "There's a thing they've figured out about love. Scientifically. They've done studies to find out what keeps couples together. Do you know what it is? It isn't getting along. Isn't having money, or children, or a similar outlook on life. It's just checking in with each other. Doing little kindnesses for each other. At breakfast, you pass the jam. Or, on a trip to New York City, you hold hands for a second in a smelly subway elevator. You ask "How was your day?" and pretend to care. Stuff like that really works." love relationship Jeffrey Eugenides
01e67d1 "I thought we were gonna take this relationship slow." "A back rub is harmless." My eyes roam over her kick-ass bikini-covered bod. "I'll have you know I've been intimate with girls wearin' a lot more." brittany-ellis relationship slow Simone Elkeles
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