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Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
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solitude
loneliness
loner
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Jodi Picoult |
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care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.
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solitude
individuality
self-determination
independence
self-awareness
empowerment
self-assurance
self-sufficiency
self-trust
self-containment
defiance
self-reliance
self-respect
self-esteem
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Charlotte Brontë |
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being alone never felt right. sometimes it felt good, but it never felt right.
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solitude
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Charles Bukowski |
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I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.
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solitude
company
privacy
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Henry David Thoreau |
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"In order to understand the world, one has to turn away from it on occasion." [ ]"
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solitude
retreat
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Albert Camus |
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I need to be alone. I need to ponder my shame and my despair in seclusion; I need the sunshine and the paving stones of the streets without companions, without conversation, face to face with myself, with only the music of my heart for company.
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solitude
silence
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Henry Miller |
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From that time on, the world was hers for the reading. She would never be lonely again, never miss the lack of intimate friends. Books became her friends and there was one for every mood. There was poetry for quiet companionship. There was adventure when she tired of quiet hours. There would be love stories when she came into adolescence and when she wanted to feel a closeness to someone she could read a biography. On that day when she first knew she could read, she made a vow to read one book a day as long as she lived.
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solitude
literature
reading
lonliness
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Betty Smith |
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The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.
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solitude
individuality
self-determination
independence
self-awareness
inspirational
self-assurance
self-sufficiency
self-trust
ataraxy
self-containment
self-reliance
self-respect
self-esteem
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Michel de Montaigne |
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How much better is silence; the coffee cup, the table. How much better to sit by myself like the solitary sea-bird that opens its wings on the stake. Let me sit here for ever with bare things, this coffee cup, this knife, this fork, things in themselves, myself being myself.
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solitude
silence
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Virginia Woolf |
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For now she need not think of anybody. She could be herself, by herself. And that was what now she often felt the need of - to think; well not even to think. To be silent; to be alone. All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others... and this self having shed its attachments was free for the strangest adventures.
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solitude
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Virginia Woolf |
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We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship.
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solitude
friendship
privacy
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C.S. Lewis |
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Solitude has soft, silky hands, but with strong fingers it grasps the heart and makes it ache with sorrow.
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solitude
sorrow
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Kahlil Gibran |
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If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
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solitude
reality
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Jodi Picoult |
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Find meaning. Distinguish melancholy from sadness. Go out for a walk. It doesn't have to be a romantic walk in the park, spring at its most spectacular moment, flowers and smells and outstanding poetical imagery smoothly transferring you into another world. It doesn't have to be a walk during which you'll have multiple life epiphanies and discover meanings no other brain ever managed to encounter. Do not be afraid of spending quality time by yourself. Find meaning or don't find meaning but 'steal' some time and give it freely and exclusively to your own self. Opt for privacy and solitude. That doesn't make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe. And you need to be.
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solitude
meaning
sadness
privacy
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Albert Camus |
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To be left alone is the most precious thing one can ask of the modern world.
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solitude
privacy
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Anthony Burgess |
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Wherever they might be they always remember that the past was a lie, that memory has no return, that every spring gone by could never be recovered, and that the wildest and most tenacious love was an ephemeral truth in the end.
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solitude
marquez
garcia
hundred
of
one
years
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Gabriel García Márquez |
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"I'll read my books and I'll drink coffee and I'll listen to music, and I'll bolt the door." (
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solitude
introvert
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J.D. Salinger |
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I prefer to be left alone with my books.
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solitude
jane-grey
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Alison Weir |
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Betrayed and wronged in everything, I'll flee this bitter world where vice is king, And seek some spot unpeopled and apart Where I'll be free to have an honest heart.
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solitude
misanthropy
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Molière |
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I am the Cat who walks by himself, and all places are alike to me.
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solitude
self-containment
pride
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Rudyard Kipling |
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I hate solitude, but I'm afraid of intimacy. The substance of my life is a private conversation with myself which to turn into a dialogue would be equivalent to self-destruction. The company which I need is the company which a pub or a cafe will provide. I have never wanted a communion of souls. It's already hard enough to tell the truth to oneself.
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solitude
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Iris Murdoch |
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So, now I shall talk every night. To myself. To the moon. I shall walk, as I did tonight, jealous of my loneliness, in the blue-silver of the cold moon, shining brilliantly on the drifts of fresh-fallen snow, with the myriad sparkles. I talk to myself and look at the dark trees, blessedly neutral. So much easier than facing people, than having to look happy, invulnerable, clever. With masks down, I walk, talking to the moon, to the neutral impersonal force that does not hear, but merely accepts my being. And does not smite me down.
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solitude
people
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Sylvia Plath |
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Believe me, I know what it's like to feel all alone...the worst kind of loneliness in the world is the isolation that comes from being misunderstood, It can make people lose their grasp on reality.
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solitude
misunderstood
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Dan Brown |
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I want someone to sit beside after the day's pursuit and all its anguish, after its listening, and its waitings, and its suspicions. After quarrelling and reconciliation I need privacy - to be alone with you, to set this hubbub in order. For I am as neat as a cat in my habits.
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solitude
friendship
privacy
companionship
quietness
peace
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Virginia Woolf |
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But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.
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solitude
loneliness
escape
relationship
fear
love
community
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Bell Hooks |
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For those who know the value of and exquisite taste of solitary freedom (for one is only free when alone), the act of leaving is the bravest and most beautiful of all.
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solitude
loneliness
bravery
freedom
inspirational
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Isabelle Eberhardt |
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Lonely was much better than alone.
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solitude
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Toni Morrison |
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My Solitude is my Treasure, the best thing I have. I hesitate to go out. If you opened the little gate, I would not hop away--but oh how I sing in my gold cage.
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solitude
peace
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A.S. Byatt |
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"I wondered why it was that places are so much lovelier when one is alone. How commonplace and stupid it would be if I had a friend now, sitting beside me, someone I had known at school, who would say: "By-the-way, I saw old Hilda the other day. You remember her, the one who was so good at tennis. She's married, with two children." And the bluebells beside us unnoticed, and the pigeons overhead unheard. I did not want anyone with me. Not even Maxim. If Maxim had been there I should not be lying as I was now, chewing a piece of grass, my eyes shut. I should have been watching him, watching his eyes, his expression. Wondering if he liked it, if he was bored. Wondering what he was thinking. Now I could relax, none of these things mattered. Maxim was in London. How lovely it was to be alone again."
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solitude
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Daphne du Maurier |
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Yes, in my life, since we must call it so, there were three things, the inability to speak, the inability to be silent, and solitude, that's what I've had to make the best of.
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solitude
speech
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Samuel Beckett |
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The secret of a good old age is simply an honorable pact with solitude.
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solitude
old-age
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Gabriel García Márquez |
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All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others.
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solitude
silence
seclusion
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Virginia Woolf |
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Given enough time, you could convince yourself that loneliness was something better, that it was solitude, the ideal condition for reflection, even a kind of freedom. Once you were thus convinced, you were foolish to open the door and let anyone in, not all the way in. You risked the hard-won equilibrium, that tranquility that you called peace
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solitude
loneliness
tranquility
reflection
peace
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Dean Koontz |
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I like being on my own better than I like anything else, but I can't give up love. Maybe it's the tension between longing and aloneness that I need. My own funicular railway, holding in balance the two things most likely to destroy me.
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solitude
love
longing
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Jeanette Winterson |
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People left him alone. And that was all he wanted.
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want
solitude
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Patrick Süskind |
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With one long breath, caught and held in his chest, he fought his sadness over his solitary life. Don't cry, you idiot! Live or die, but don't poison everything...
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solitude
life
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Saul Bellow |
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In all her intercourse with society, however, there was nothing that made her feel as if she belonged to it... She stood apart from mortal interests, yet close beside them, like a ghost that revisits the familiar fireside, and can no longer make itself seen or felt.
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solitude
society
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Nathaniel Hawthorne |
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From that time on, the world was hers for the reading. She would never be lonely again, never miss the lack of intimate friends. Books became her friends and there was one for every mood.
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solitude
words
literature
reading
lonliness
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Betty Smith |
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This was not my moment to be seeking romance and (as day follows night) to further complicate my already knotty life. This was my moment to look for the kind of healing and peace that can only come from solitude.
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solitude
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Elizabeth Gilbert |
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Jamie enjoyed solitude, but loneliness was a constant ache.
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solitude
loneliness
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Sidney Sheldon |
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I don't want anyone to look to me, not for protection, not for happiness, not for love, not for anything.
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solitude
responsibility
love
self-sufficiency
protection
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P.D. James |
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But for pain words are lacking. There should be cries, cracks, fissures, whiteness passing over chintz covers, interference with the sense of time, of space; the sense also of extreme fixity in passing objects; and sounds very remote and then very close; flesh being gashed and blood spurting, a joint suddenly twisted - beneath all of which appears something very important, yet remote, to be just held in solitude.
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solitude
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Virginia Woolf |
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What's agitating about solitude is the inner voice telling you that you should be mated to somebody, that solitude is a mistake. The inner voice doesn't care about who you find. It just keeps pestering you, tormenting you--if you happen to be me--with homecoming queens first, then girls next door, and finally anybody who might be pleased to see you now and then at the dinner table and in bed on occasion. You look up from reading the newspaper and realize that no one loves you, and no one burns for you.
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solitude
relationships
settling
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Charles Baxter |
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Not that she objected to solitude. Quite the contrary. She had books, thank Heaven, quantities of books. All sorts of books.
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solitude
heaven
reading
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Jean Rhys |
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. . . clumsiness is often mated with a love of solitude.
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solitude
loneliness
personality
isolation
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Virginia Woolf |
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Can I be blamed for wanting a real body, to put my arms around? Without it I too am disembodied. I can listen to my own heartbeat against the bedsprings...but there's something dead about it, something deserted.
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solitude
sex
fantasy
love
arms
lack
body
need
desire
dead
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Margaret Atwood |
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I'd never chosen to be alone, but that was the way things had turned out, and I'd grown used to it.
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solitude
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Sebastian Faulks |
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The lover`s discourse was of an extreme solitude. The solitude was extreme because it wasn`t physical. It was extreme because you felt it while in the company of the person you loved. It was extreme because it was in your head, the most solitary of places.
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solitude
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Jeffrey Eugenides |
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Sovereignty, loyalty, and solitude.
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solitude
sovereignty
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Georges Bataille |
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Have you ever been lonely? No, neither have I. Solitary, yes. Alone, certainly. But lonely means minding about being on your own. I've never minded about it.
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solitude
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Sebastian Faulks |
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Now I no longer wish to be loved, beautiful, happy or successful. I want one thing and one thing only - to be left alone.
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solitude
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Jean Rhys |
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Personally, I'd rather grow old alone than in the company of anyone I've met so far. I don't experience myself as lonely, incomplete, or unfulfilled, but I don't talk about that much. It seems to piss people off--especially men. (Kinsey Millhone)
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solitude
single-women
the-solitary-life
independent-women
other-people
men-and-women
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Sue Grafton |
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She had dreamed some brilliant dreams during the past winter and now they lay in the dust around her. In her present mood of self-disgust, she could not immediately begin dreaming again. And she discovered that, while solitude with dreams is glorious, solitude without them has few charms.
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solitude
l-m-montgomery
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L.M. Montgomery |
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Loneliness becomes a lover, solitude a darling sin.
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solitude
loneliness
the-spy-who-loved-me
james-bond
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Ian Fleming |
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And suddenly solitude fell across his heart like a dusty reflection. He closed his eyes. The dark doors within him opened and he entered. The next performance in the theater of Grenouille's soul was beginning.
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solitude
performance
reflection
soul
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Patrick Süskind |
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After all this kind of fanfare, and even more, I came to a point where I needed solitude and to just stop the machine of 'thinking' and 'enjoying' what they call 'living,' I just wanted to lie in the grass and look at the clouds...
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solitude
living
living-life
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Jack Kerouac |
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We're all mad, the whole damned race. We're wrapped in illusions, delusions, confusions about the penetrability of partitions, we're all mad and in solitary confinement.
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madness
solitude
humanity
illusions
delusions
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William Golding |
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Society is commonly too cheap. We meet at very short intervals, not having had time to acquire any new value for each other.We meet at meals three times a day, and give each other a new taste of that musty old cheese that we are. We have had to agree on a certain set of rules, called etiquette and politeness, to make this frequent meeting tolerable and that we need not come to open war. We meet at the post office, and at the sociable, and at the fireside every night; we live thick and are in each other's way, and stumble over one another, and I think that we thus lose some respect for one another.
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solitude
philosophy
walden
social
thoreau
introversion
introvert
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Henry David Thoreau |
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He walked on in silence, the solitary sound of his footsteps echoing in his head, as in a deserted street, at dawn. His solitude was so complete, beneath a lovely sky as mellow and serene as a good conscience, amid that busy throng, that he was amazed at his own existence; he must be somebody else's nightmare, and whoever it was would certainly awaken soon.
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solitude
philosophy
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Jean-Paul Sartre |
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We affect one another quite enough merely by existing. Whenever the stars cross, or is it comets? fragments pass briefly from one orbit to another. On rare occasions there is total collision, but most often the two simply continue without incident, neither losing more than a particle to the other, in passing.
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solitude
relationships
lonliness
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Gore Vidal |
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Solitude is used to teach us how to live with other people. Rage is used to show us the infinite value of peace. Boredom is used to underline the importance of adventure & spontaneity. Silence is used to teach us to use words responsibly. Tiredness is used so that we can understand the value of waking up. Illness is used to underline the blessing of good health. Fire is used to teach us about water. Earth is used so that we can understand the value of air. Death is used to show us the importance of life.
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solitude
inspiration
life
peace
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Paulo Coelho |
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He liked to read with the silence and the golden color of the whiskey as his companions. He liked food, people, talk, but reading was an inexhaustible pleasure. What the joys of music were to others, words on a page were to him.
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solitude
reading
spiritual-needs
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James Salter |
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The devil has made it his business to monopolize on three elements: noise, hurry, crowds. He will not allow quietness.
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solitude
quiet
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Elisabeth Elliot |
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When you cease to fear your solitude, a new creativity awakens in you. Your forgotten or neglected wealth begins to reveal itself. You come home to yourself and learn to rest within. Thoughts are our inner senses. Infused with silence and solitude, they bring out the mystery of inner landscape.
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solitude
thoughts
self-awareness
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John O'Donohue |
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What other knowledge will my solitude and muteness bring? What other worlds?
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solitude
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Kathy Acker |
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Friendship, according to Proust, is the negation of that irremediable solitude to which every human being is condemned.
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solitude
friendship
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Samuel Beckett |
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It is the wilderness in the mind, the desert wastes in the heart through which one wanders lost and a stranger. When one is a stranger to oneself then one is estranged from others too. If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.
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solitude
quote
inner-peace
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Anne Morrow Lindbergh |
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He had escaped the abhorrent taint! He was truly completely alone! He was the only human being in the world!
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solitude
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Patrick Süskind |
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Tu as tout a apprendre, tout ce qui ne s'apprend pas: la solitude, l'indifference, la patience, le silence. Tu dois te deshabituer de tout: d'aller a la rencontre de ceux que si longtemps tu as cotoyes, de prendre tes repas, tes cafes a la place que chaque jour d'autres ont retenue pour toi, ont parfois defendue pour toi, de trainer dans la complicite fade des amities qui n'en finissent pas de se survivre, dans la rancoeur opportuniste et lache des liaisons qui s'effilochent.
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solitude
learning
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Georges Perec |
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Ursula craved solitude but she hated loneliness
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solitude
loneliness
hate
life
lonely
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Kate Atkinson |
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No one can be happy in eternal solitude.
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solitude
no-one
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Anne Brontë |
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The more she thought about it, the more Madeleine understood that extreme solitude didn't just describe the way she was feeling about Leonard. It explained how she'd always felt when she was in love. It explained what love was like and, just maybe, what was wrong with it.
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solitude
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Jeffrey Eugenides |
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He had been for many years, a quiet silent man, associating but little with other men, and used to companionship with his own thoughts. He had never known before the strength of the want in his heart for the frequent recognition of a nod, a look, a word; or the immense amount of relief that had been poured into it by drops through such small means.
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solitude
loneliness
sadness
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Charles Dickens |
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He was alone with his thoughts. They were extremely unpleasant thoughts and he would rather have had a chaperon.
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solitude
thoughts
thinking
depressed
scared
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Douglas Adams |
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Tu n'as rien appris, sinon que la solitude n'apprend rien, que l'indifference n'apprend rien: c'etait un leurre, une illusion fascinante et piegee. Tu etais seul et voila tout et tu voulais te proteger: qu'entre le monde et toi les ponts soient a jamais coupes. Mais tu es si peu de chose et le monde est un si grand mot: tu n'as jamais fait qu'errer dans une grande ville, que longer sur quelques kilometres des facades, des devantures, des parcs et des quais. L'indifference est inutile. Tu peux vouloir ou ne pas vouloir, qu'importe! Faire ou ne pas faire une partie de billard electrique, quelqu'un, de toute facon, glissera une piece de vingt centimes dans la fente de l'appareil. Tu peux croire qu'a manger chaque jour le meme repas tu accomplis un geste decisif. Mais ton refus est inutile. Ta neutralite ne veut rien dire. Ton inertie est aussi vaine que ta colere.
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solitude
indifference
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Georges Perec |
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I understand I've made an unusual lifestyle choice. But the label 'crazy' bothers me. Annoys me. Because it prevents response. When someone asks if you're crazy, Knight lamented, you can either say yes, which makes you crazy, or you can say no, which makes you sound defensive, as if you fear that you really are crazy. There's no good answer.
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solitude
hermit
isolation
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Michael Finkel |
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If one sets aside time for a business appointment, a trip to the hairdresser, a social engagement or a shopping expedition, that time is accepted as inviolable. But if one says: I cannot come because that is my hour to be alone, one is considered rude, egotistical or strange. What a commentary on our civilization, when being alone is considered suspect; when one has to apologize for it, make excuses, hide the fact that one practices it--like a secret vice!
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solitude
time
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Anne Morrow Lindbergh |
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I went up on the hill and walked about until twilight had deepened into an autumn night with a benediction of starry quietude over it. I was alone but not lonely. I was a queen in halls of fancy.
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solitude
pretty-prose
romanticism
quietness
introversion
quiet
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L.M. Montgomery |
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So through endless twilights I dreamed and waited, though I knew not what I waited for. Then in the shadowy solitude my longing for light grew so frantic that I could rest no more, and I lifted entreating hands to the single black ruined tower that reached above the forest into the unknown outer sky. And at last I resolved to scale that tower, fall through I might; since it were better to glimpse the sky and perish, than to live without even beholding day.
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solitude
light
tower
forest
sky
waiting
longing
unknown
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H.P. Lovecraft |
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...children never forget. For this reason, it was so important what one said, and what one did, and it was a relief when they went to bed. For now she need not think about anybody. She could be herself, by herself. And that was what now she often felt the need of-- to think; well, not even to think. To be silent; to be alone. All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others.
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solitude
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Virginia Woolf |
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Grieving, like being blind, is a strange business; you have to learn how to do it. We seek company in mourning, but after the early bursts of tears, after the praises have been spoken, and the good days remembered, and the lament cried, and the grave closed, there is no company in grief. It is a burden borne alone.
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mourning
solitude
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Ursula K. Le Guin |
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In good company your thoughts run, in solitude your thought is still; it goes deeper and makes for itself a deeper groove, delves. Delve meansa 'dig with a spade'; it means hard work. In talk your mind can be stretched, widened, exhilarated to heights but it cannot be deepened; you have to deepen it yourself. It needs sturdiness. You will be lonely, you will be depressed; you must expect it; if you were training your body it would ache and be tired. It is worth it. There is a Hindu proverb which says: 'You only grow when you are alone'.
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solitude
lonliness
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Rumer Godden |
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Selden and Lily stood still, accepting the unreality of the scene as a part of their own dream-like sensations. It would not have surprised them to feel a summer breeze on their faces, or to see the lights among the boughs reduplicated in the arch of a starry sky. The strange solitude about them was no stranger than the sweetness of being alone in it together.
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solitude
unreality
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Edith Wharton |
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Little as she was addicted to solitude, there had come to be moments when it seemed a welcome escape from the empty noises of her life.
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solitude
the-house-of-mirth
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Edith Wharton |
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He looked at the houses he had been passing these weeks and though he had never studied them carefully they had become familiar through the process of seeing them so often, and he was now impressed with the change in their appearance as he looked at them through the gray of the air and whiteness of the snow, each house, shrub, tree, bush and mailbox trimmed with snow and blending into the air as if they were just a picture projected upon the still, pearly grayness, just an impression created by the silent snow, a picture on the edge and verge of disappearing and leaving only the air and snow through which he now lightly walked. It did not seem possible, but the air was even softer and quieter. He continued walking alongside his prints feeling he could walk forever, that as long as the silent snow continued falling he could continue walking, and as he did he would leave behind all worries and cares, all horrors of the past and future. There would be nothing to bother him or torture his mind and fill his body with tremors of fear, the dark night of the soul over. There would only be himself and the soft, silent snow; and each flake, in its own life, its own separate and distinct entity, would bring with it its own joy, and he would easily partake of that joy as he continued walking, the gentle, silent snow falling ever so quietly, ever so joyously ... yes, and ever so love-ing-ly ... loveing-ly....
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solitude
silence
song
snow
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Hubert Selby Jr. |
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He looked down at the street, and the unbroken whiteness, and watched his foot touch the snow and listened to the slight crunching sound as he stepped forward. He looked back at his footprints. They were fascinating. He had been the only one to walk along this street today. There wasn't even the mark of a dog or squirrel, or the scratch of a bird. He continued through the soft, silent snow, a feeling of peace starting to flow through him, helping make his step lighter and easier.
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solitude
snow
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Hubert Selby Jr. |
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Intimacy between people requires closeness as well as distance. It is like dancing. Sometimes we are very close, touching each other or holding each other; sometimes we move away from each other and let the space between us become an area where we can freely move. To keep the right balance between closeness and distance requires hard work, especially since the needs of the partners may be quite different at a given moment. One might desire closeness while the other wants distance. One might want to be held while the other looks for independence. A perfect balance seldom occurs, but the honest and open search for that balance can give birth to a beautiful dance, worthy to behold.
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solitude
relationships
vulnerability
intimacy
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Henri J.M. Nouwen |
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The ingenious person will above all strive for freedom from pain and annoyance, for tranquility and leisure, and consequently seek a quiet, modest life, as undisturbed as possible, and accordingly, after some acquaintance with so-called human beings, choose seclusion and, if in possession of a great mind, even solitude. For the more somebody has in himself, the less he needs from the outside and the less others can be to him. Therefore, intellectual distinction leads to unsociability.
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solitude
unsociability
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Arthur Schopenhauer |
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Solitude is the furnace of transformation. Without solitude we remain victims of our society and continue to be entangled in the illusions of the false self. Jesus himself entered into this furnace. There he was tempted with the three compulsions of the world: to be relevant ('turn stones into loaves'), to be spectacular ('throw yourself down'), and to be powerful ('I will give you all these kingdoms'). There he affirmed God as the only source of his identity ('You must worship the Lord your God and serve him alone'). Solitude is the place of the great struggle and the great encounter - the struggle against the compulsions of the false self, and the encounter with the loving God who offers himself as the substance of the new self.
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solitude
jesus
transformation
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Henri J.M. Nouwen |
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The problem with making a virtual world of oneself is akin to the problem with projecting ourselves onto a cyberworld: there's no end of virtual spaces in which to seek stimulation, but their very endlessness, the perpetual stimulation without satisfaction, becomes imprisoning.
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suicide
solitude
loneliness
satisfaction
depression
cyberworld
endlessness
facebook-addiction
filler
first-world-problems
virtual
solitary
stimulation
distractions
dissatisfaction
facebook-quotes
david-foster-wallace
jonathan-franzen
boredom
facebook
cyber
emptiness
problems
robinson-crusoe
empty
void
lonely
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Jonathan Franzen |
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In spring of youth it was my lot To haunt of the wide world a spot The which I could not love the less- So lovely was the loneliness Of a wild lake, with black rock bound, And the tall pines that towered around. But when the Night had thrown her pall Upon that spot, as upon all, And the mystic wind went by Murmuring in melody- Then-ah then I would awake To the terror of the lone lake. Yet that terror was not fright, But a tremulous delight- A feeling not the jewelled mine Could teach or bribe me to define- Nor Love-although the Love were thine. Death was in that poisonous wave, And in its gulf a fitting grave For him who thence could solace bring To his lone imagining- Whose solitary soul could make An Eden of that dim lake.
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solitude
poetry
lonliness
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Edgar Allan Poe |
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He liked the loneliness of inner space, the sense of being forgotten by the world.
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solitude
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Richard Preston |
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I know that the night is not the same as the day: that all things are different, that the things of the night cannot be explained in the day, because they do not then exist, and the night can be a dreadful time for lonely people once their loneliness has started.
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solitude
loneliness
night
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Ernest Hemingway |
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He was welcome everywhere he went, and was well-aware of his inability to tolerate solitude. He felt no inclination to be alone and avoided it as far as possible; he didn't really want to become any better acquainted with himself. He knew that if he wanted to show his talents to best advantage, he needed to strike sparks off other people to fan the flames of warmth and exuberance in his heart. On his own he was frosty, no use to himself at all, like a match left lying in its box.
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solitude
personality
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Stefan Zweig |
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Long have I dwelt forgotten here In pining woe and dull despair; This place of solitude and gloom Must be my dungeon and my tomb.
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solitude
poetry
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Anne Brontë |
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"Noli me tangere, noli me legere,
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solitude
loneliness
pain
loss
self-reliance
isolation
latin
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Mark Z. Danielewski |
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Sometimes isolation can be shared.
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solitude
loneliness
aloneness
isolation
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Ken Grimwood |
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They sell courage of a sort in the taverns. And another sort, though not for sale, a man can find in the confessional. Try the alehouses and the churches, Hugh. In either a man can be quiet and think.
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solitude
drinking
courage
taverns
withdrawal
beer
confession
reflection
quietness
thought
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Ellis Peters |
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I also had a dim idea that if I walked the streets of New York by myself all night something of the city's mystery and magnificence might rub off on me at last. But I gave it up.
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solitude
magnificence
mystery
new-york
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Sylvia Plath |
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Quartering the topmost branches of one of the tall trees, an invisible bird was striving to make the day seem shorter, exploring with a long-drawn note the solitude that pressed it on every side, but it received at once so unanimous an answer, so powerful a repercussion of silence and of immobility, that one felt it had arrested for all eternity the moment which it had been trying to make pass more quickly.
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solitude
silence
birdsong
passage-of-time
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Marcel Proust |
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Experience has tutored me well that most will lie or cheat to get the better hand. It's why I prefer solitude to social interaction. - Bethany
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solitude
life
experience
lie
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Sherrilyn Kenyon |
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In the world of the dreamer there was solitude: all the exaltations and joys came in the moment of preparation for living. They took place in solitude. But with action came anxiety, and the sense of insuperable effort made to match the dream, and with it came weariness, discouragement, and the flight into solitude again. And then in solitude, in the opium den of remembrance, the possibility of pleasure again. What was she seeking to salvage from the daily current of living, what sudden revulsions drove her back into the solitary cell of the dream?
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solitude
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Anaïs Nin |
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There are moments, such as the one that oppresses me now, when I feel my own self far more than I feel external things, and everything transforms into a night of rain and mud where, lost in the solitude of an out-of-the-way station, I wait interminably for the next third-class train.
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solitude
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Fernando Pessoa |
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Quite alone. No voice, no touch, no hand....How long must I lie here? For ever? No, only for a couple of hundred years this time, miss....
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solitude
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Jean Rhys |
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Many voices ask for our attention. There is a voice that says, 'Prove that you are a good person.' Another voice says, 'You'd better be ashamed of yourself.' There also is a voice that says, 'Nobody really cares about you,' and one that says, 'Be sure to become successful, popular, and powerful.' But underneath all these often very noisy voices is a still, small voice that says, 'You are my Beloved, my favor rests on you.' That's the voice we need most of all to hear. To hear that voice, however, requires special effort; it requires solitude, silence, and a strong determination to listen. That's what prayer is. It is listening to the voice that calls us 'my Beloved'.
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solitude
silence
prayer
god
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Henri J.M. Nouwen |
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Their drift away from others produced a selfish privacy and they had lost the refuge and the consolation of a clan. Baptists, Presbyterians, tribe, army, family, some encircling outside thing was needed. Pride, she thought. Pride alone made them think that they needed only themselves, could shape life that way, like Adam and Eve, like gods from nowhere beholden to nothing except their own creations. She should have warned them, but her devotion cautioned against impertinence. As long as Sir was alive it was easy to veil the truth: that they were not a family-not even a like-minded group. They were orphans, each and all.
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solitude
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Toni Morrison |
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Is there nowhere in an American house where one may be by one's self?
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solitude
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Edith Wharton |
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Any human companionship, even the dearest and most perfect, would have been alien to her then. She was sufficient unto herself, needing not love nor comradeship nor any human emotion to round out her felicity. Such moments come rarely in any life, but when they do come they are inexpressibly wonderful - as if the finite were for a second infinity - as if humanity were for a space uplifted into divinity - as if all ugliness had vanished, leaving only flawless beauty.
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solitude
introversion
quiet
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L.M. Montgomery |
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How would you know if you were the last man on Earth? He said. I don't guess you would know it. You'd just be it.
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solitude
death
life
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Cormac McCarthy |
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ln yshj`k rfqk latwn, wln ywswk. ln ydlwk `l~ m fyk mn `nSr lkhyr wlSdq. bl`ks.. syHSwn `lyk kl GlT@, wln yrw Gyr `ywbk, wln ybynw lk l m 'nt fyh mkhTy', syf`lwn dhlk wfy nfwshm frH khbyth. wdh tZhrw lk b'nhm l yHflwn b'mrk bl yzdrwn sh'nk, knw fy lHqyq@ yfrHwn lkl m tq` fyh mn 'khT (k'n lnsn m`Swm mn lkhT'!).
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solitude
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Fyodor Dostoyevsky |
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As Sicknes is the greatest misery, so the greatest misery of sicknes, is solitude...Solitude is a torment which is not threatened in hell itselfe. -DONNE
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solitude
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Oliver Sacks |
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Alone: for the first time I understood the terrible significance of that word. Alone without a witness, without anyone to speak to, without refuge. The breath in my body, the blood in my veins, all this hurly-burly in my head existed for nobody.
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solitude
loneliness
faith
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Simone de Beauvoir |
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All human beings are alone. No other person will completely feel like we do, think like we do, act like we do. Each of us is unique, and our aloneness is the other side of our uniqueness. The question is whether we let our aloneness become loneliness or whether we allow it to lead us into solitude. Loneliness is painful; solitude is peaceful. Loneliness makes us cling to others in desperation; solitude allows us to respect others in their uniqueness and create community. Letting our aloneness grow into solitude and not into loneliness is a lifelong struggle. It requires conscious choices about whom to be with, what to study, how to pray, and when we ask for counsel. But wise choices will help us to find the solitude where our hearts can grow in love.
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solitude
loneliness
relationships
isolation
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Henri J.M. Nouwen |
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D'une complexion farouche et bavarde, ayant le desir de ne voir personne et le besoin de parler a quelqu'un, il se tirait d'affaire en se parlant a lui-meme. Quiconque a vecu solitaire sait a quel point le monologue est dans la nature. La parole interieure demange. Haranguer l'espace est un exutoire. Parler tout haut et tout seul, cela fait l'effet d'un dialogue avec le dieu qu'on a en soit.
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solitude
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Victor Hugo |
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I am always quiet so that I know what to say when I must speak.
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solitude
silence
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Ishmael Beah |
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It is only in solitude that I ever find my own core.
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solitude
space
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Anne Morrow Lindbergh |
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For I'm afraid of loneliness; shiveringly, terribly afraid. I don't mean the ordinary physical loneliness, for here I am, deliberately travelled away from London to get to it, to its spaciousness and healing. I mean that awful loneliness of spirit that is the ultimate tragedy of life. When you've got to that, really reached it, without hope, without escape, you die. You just can't bear it, and you die.
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solitude
loneliness
escape
spirit
fear
hope
london
soul
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Elizabeth von Arnim |
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"The evening I went for a walk. To walk for the sake of walking is something I seldom do.Inside my apartment I'd felt inexplicably anxious. I needed to talk to someone, to be reassured. Or perhaps I needed to confess my sin: I was once again having impure thoughts about saving the world. Or it was neither of these--I was afraid I was dreaming. Indeed, considering the events of the day, it was likely that I was dreaming. I sometimes fly in my dreams, and each time I say to myself, "At last--it's happening in reality and not in a dream!" In any case, I needed to talk to someone, and I was alone. This is my habitual condition, by choice--or so I tell myself. Mere acquaintanceship leaves me unsatisfied, and few people are willing to accept the burdens and risks of friendship as I conceive of it."
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solitude
friendships
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daniel quinn |
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In solitude, struggles occur that no one else knows about. Inner battles are fought here that seldom become fodder for sermons or illustrations for books. God, who probes our deepest thoughts during protracted segments of solitude, opens our eyes to things that need attention. It is here He makes us aware of those things we try to hide from others.
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solitude
spiritual-intimacy
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Charles R. Swindoll |
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A number of years ago I had some experience with being alone. For two succeeding years I was alone each winter for eight months at a stretch in the Sierra Nevada mountains on Lake Tahoe. I was the caretaker on a summer estate during the winter months when it was snowed in. And I made some observations then. As time went on I found that my reactions thickened. Ordinarily I am a whistler. I stopped whistling. I stopped conversing with my dogs, and I believe that the subtleties of feeling began to disappear until finally I was on a pleasure-pain basis. Then it occurred to me that the delicate shades of feeling, of reaction, are the result of communication, and without such communication they tend to disappear. A man with nothing to say has no words. Can its reverse be true- a man who has no one to say anything to has no words as he has no need for words? ... Only through imitation do we develop toward originality.
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winter
solitude
loneliness
travels-with-charley
companionship
isolation
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John Steinbeck |
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The more I'm let alone and not worried the better I can function.
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solitude
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Ernest Hemingway |
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I knew that on that island one was driven back into the past. There was so much space, so much silence, so few meetings that one too easily saw out of the present, and then the past seemed ten times closer than it was.
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solitude
nature
past
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John Fowles |
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Drifting across the vast space, silent except for wind and footsteps, I felt uncluttered and unhurried for the first time in a while, already on desert time.
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solitude
time
silence
travel
explore
wanderlust
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Rebecca Solnit |
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Pasmo sempre quando acabo qualquer coisa. Pasmo e desolo-me. O meu instinto de perfeicao deveria inibir-me de acabar; deveria inibir-me ate de dar comeco. Mas distraio-me e faco. O que consigo e um produto, em mim, nao de uma aplicacao de vontade, mas de uma cedencia dela. Comeco porque nao tenho forca para pensar; acabo porque nao tenho alma para suspender. Este livro e a minha cobardia.
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solitude
life
inner-self
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Fernando Pessoa |
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It was a lot more fun to get famous than to be famous.
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solitude
fame
humility
popularity
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Bill Bryson |
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The threat of rain appears to have nothing to do with Joao Elvas's desire to be alone, and one must not forget that, strange as it may seem, some men can spend their entire life alone and enjoy solitude, especially if it is raining and their crust is hard.
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solitude
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José Saramago |
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Sitting in the brightly lit library, surrounded by books, in total silence, that was ma personal zenith.
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solitude
library
literature
reading
books
bookish
irvine-welsh
skagboys
zenith
heroine
reading-books
read
introversion
introvert
reader
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Irvine Welsh |
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Uzunca bir sure kendine siginaklar kurup yiktin: duzen ya da eylemsizlik, basibos suruklenme ya da uyku, geceleyin devriye gezmeler, yansiz anlar,golgelerin ve isiklarin kacisi.Daha uzun bir sure kendine yalan soylemeyi,kendini sersemlestirmeyi,kendi oyununa gelmeyi surdurebilirsin belki.Ama oyun bitti,buyuk senlik,ertelenmis yasamin yalanci sarhoslugu bitti.Dunya yerinden kipirdamadi ve sen degismedin. Kayitsizlik seni farkli kilmadi.
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solitude
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Georges Perec |
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These young people amaze me; drinking their coffee, they tell clear, plausible stories. If you ask them what they did yesterday, they don't get flustered; they tell you all about it in a few words. If I were in their place, I'd start stammering. It's true that for a long time now nobody has bothered how I spend my time. When you live alone, you even forget what it is to tell a story : plausibility disappears at the same time as friends.
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solitude
existentialism
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Jean-Paul Sartre |
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"Ged saw all these things from outside and apart, alone, and his heart was very heavy in him, though he would not admit to himself that he was sad. As night fell he still lingered in the streets, reluctant to go back to the inn. He heard a man and a girl talking together merrily as they came down the street past him towards the town square, and all at once he turned, for he knew the man's voice. He followed and caught up with the pair, coming up beside them in the late twilight lit only by distant lantern-gleams. The girl stepped back, but the man stared at him and then flung up the staff he carried, holding it between them as a barrier to ward off the threat or act of evil. And that was somewhat more than Ged could bear. His voice shook a little as he said, "I thought you would know me, Vetch." Even then Vetch hesitated for a moment. "I do know you," he said, and lowered the staff and took Ged's hand and hugged him round the shoulders-" I do know you! Welcome, my friend, welcome! What a sorry greeting I gave you, as if you were a ghost coming up from behind- and I have waited for you to come, and looked for you-"
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solitude
loneliness
welcome
recognition
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Ursula K. Le Guin |
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The measure of your solitude is the measure of your capacity for communion.
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solitude
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Henri J.M. Nouwen |
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After all, she is lucky. I have been much too calm these past three years. I can receive nothing more from these tragic solitudes than a little empty purity. I leave.
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solitude
purity
sartre
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Jean-Paul Sartre |
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She formed her life day by day, taking as its materials the emptiness and panic as well as the rushes, like fever, of contentment. I am beyond fear of solitude, she thought, I am past it. The idea thrilled her. I am beyond it and I will not sink. This submission, this triumph made her stronger. It was as if finally, after having passed through inferior stages, her life had found a form worthy of it.
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solitude
self-reliance
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James Salter |
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"Reading well is one of the great pleasures
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solitude
great
healing
experience
pleasures
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Harold Bloom |
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Even brave men, and D'Arnot was a brave man, are sometimes frightened by solitude.
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solitude
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Edgar Rice Burroughs |
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Of course, these were only dreams. How could a sensible woman leave a happy marriage? All the same, a seductive voice from afar kept breaking into her conjugal peace: it was the voice of solitude.
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solitude
marriage
spinster
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Milan Kundera |
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He had grown fat on solitude, he thought, and had learned to expect nothing from the day but at best a dull contentment. Sometimes the dullness came to the fore with a strange and insistent ache which he would entertain briefly, but learn to keep at bay. Mostly, however, it was the contentment he entertained; the slow ease and the silence could, once night had fallen, fill him with a happiness that nothing, no society nor the company of any individual, no glamour or glitter, could equal.
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solitude
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Colm Tóibín |
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And then the days came when I was alone.
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solitude
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Jean Rhys |
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The fear of rape puts many women in their place - indoors, intimidated, dependent yet again on material barriers and protectors... I was advised to stay indoors at night, to wear baggy clothes, to cover or cut my hair, to try to look like a man, to move someplace more expensive, to take taxis, to buy a car, to move in groups, to get a man to escort me--all modern versions of Greek walls and Assyrian veils, all asserting it was my responsibility to control my own and men's behavior rather than society's to ensure my freedom. I realized that many women had been so successfully socialized to know their place that they had chosen more conservative, gregarious lives without realizing why. The very desire to walk alone had been extinguished in them--but it had not in me.
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solitude
feminism
travel
nature
rape-culture
wanderlust
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Rebecca Solnit |
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The sound of darkness was certainly intricately linked to the sense of being alone but unrelated to this was the sound of the palpitations of men and women experiencing the sense of utter solitude. There was no doubt about it. This was a sound audible only on evenings such as this.
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solitude
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Shūsaku Endō |
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The rhythm of solitude, once so intimidating, began to feel comfortable. Aloneness, I was learning, does not have to equal loneliness.
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solitude
loneliness
learning
comfortable
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John Grogan |
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It's the solitude that slays you. Maybe because you'd expected ruin to arrive in a grander and more romantic form.
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solitude
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Michael Cunningham |
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But he was absolutely alone. No one ever wrote to him. Visited him. Totally alone. And I believe the happiest man I have ever met.
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solitude
loneliness
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John Fowles |
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Having arrived at this point, he had found no direction in which to go save that of further withdrawal into a subjectivity which refused existence to any reality or law but its own. During these postwar years he had lived in solitude and carefully planned ignorance of what was happening in the world. Nothing had importance save the exquisitely isolated cosmos of his own consciousness. Then little by little he had had the impression that the light of meaning, the meaning of everything was dying. Like a flame under a glass it had dwindled, flickered and gone out, and all existence, including his own hermetic structure from which he had observed existence, had become absurd and unreal.
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solitude
existence
meaning
ennui
postwar
meaninglessness
modernism
subjectivity
isolation
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Paul Bowles |