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8ce0416 You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices. self-determination John Green
09887f1 I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will. integrity self-determination independence women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
86eee8f I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it be-yourself self-determination inspirational misquote Maya Angelou
fdaaf7e "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it. (Popular misquote of "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.")" self-determination inspirational misquote Maya Angelou
035758c You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. self-determination Maya Angelou
3459977 I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives. stereotypes men equality feminism women-s-rights self-determination independence women reason empowerment strength rationality social-norms flattery misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender Jane Austen
13dd10a There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me. stubbornness self-determination independence women fear empowerment strength elizabeth-bennet intimidation dignity Jane Austen
fec94b8 care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself. solitude individuality self-determination independence self-awareness empowerment self-assurance self-sufficiency self-trust self-containment defiance self-reliance self-respect self-esteem Charlotte Brontë
3e5dec6 Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself. be-yourself individuality self-determination identity life inspirational self-expression self-esteem Harvey Fierstein
78f9e34 I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on the use you have made of your time and experience. men equality women-s-rights self-determination independence women freedom reason empowerment superiority submission experience gender Charlotte Brontë
e23a7d0 Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands. right-of-passage self-determination inspirational self-responsibility personal-responsibility growing-up innocence parenting Anne Frank
ce05dfe Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman. self-determination change inspirational Maya Angelou
5c65487 I am not an angel,' I asserted; 'and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me - for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate. integrity men self-determination independence romance women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment love ideal-woman image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
d87db97 As long as she thinks of a man, nobody objects to a woman thinking. stereotypes men feminism self-determination women empowerment intelligence dignity social-norms misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender thought Virginia Woolf
ae26b5f The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. solitude individuality self-determination independence self-awareness inspirational self-assurance self-sufficiency self-trust ataraxy self-containment self-reliance self-respect self-esteem Michel de Montaigne
2a98819 There is something infantile in the presumption that somebody else has a responsibility to give your life meaning and point... The truly adult view, by contrast, is that our life is as meaningful, as full and as wonderful as we choose to make it. self-determination follow-your-bliss self-actualization existentialism Richard Dawkins
d39ad0c You cannot change what you are, only what you do. self-determination change life Philip Pullman
cf0b8e5 Oh the places you'll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all. self-determination life inspirational self-reliance anticipation Dr. Seuss
88dcc81 Bottom line is, even if you see 'em coming, you're not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So what are we, helpless? Puppets? No. The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are. self-determination strength life inspirational whistler self-discovery changes buffy-the-vampire-slayer Joss Whedon
7f29ea0 The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position. be-yourself self-determination inspirational Leo Buscaglia
33bdd99 I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me. marriage self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness love courtship husbands singles wooing William Shakespeare
d2d92df Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection. integrity marriage feelings self-determination romance joy love matrimony duty Jane Austen
c0cd1f7 "I am not an angel," I asserted; "and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself." integrity self-determination independence women freedom self-awareness identity empowerment ideal-woman image realism gender flaws Charlotte Brontë
281f1e5 You don't need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are! be-yourself self-determination self-awareness inspirational John Lennon
acee414 Maybe your country is only a place you make up in your own mind. Something you dream about and sing about. Maybe it's not a place on the map at all, but just a story full of people you meet and places you visit, full of books and films you've been to. I'm not afraid of being homesick and having no language to live in. I don't have to be like anyone else. I'm walking on the wall and nobody can stop me. anchoring individuality self-determination independence self-awareness empowerment inspirational country self-assurance self-sufficiency self-trust self-containment homelessness belonging self-reliance nationality attachment roots home self-respect self-esteem Hugo Hamilton
2c03670 "You are mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner." (Elizabeth Bennett)" men self-determination women empowerment love gentlemanlike gentlemen behaviour refusal scorn declaration marriage-proposal humiliation proposal mr-darcy propriety rejection pride Jane Austen
cdbce2c None of us will ever accomplish anything excellent or commanding except when he listens to this whisper which is heard by him alone. self-determination inspirational self-expression Ralph Waldo Emerson
76013fc I'll fight when needed, revel when there's an occasion, mourn when there is grief and die if my time comes...But I will not let anyone use me against my will. self-determination Christopher Paolini
02aeca1 The man who believes that the secrets of the world are forever hidden lives in mystery and fear. Superstition will drag him down. The rain will erode the deeds of his life. But that man who sets himself the task of singling out the thread of order from the tapestry will by the decision alone have taken charge of the world and it is only by such taking charge that he will effect a way to dictate the terms of his own fate. fate self-determination fear life order ignorance superstition secrets Cormac McCarthy
c4c56df The little things, I can obey. The big things--how we think, what we value--those you must choose yourself. You can't let anyone--or any society--determine those for you. self-determination Mitch Albom
17d61bf "There are certain phrases potent to make my blood boil -- improper influence! What old woman's cackle is that?" "Are you a young lady?" "I am a thousand times better: I am an honest woman, and as such I will be treated." integrity marriage influence self-determination independence women honesty love uprightness propriety matrimony respect gender self-respect expectations Charlotte Brontë
669a047 Always in life an idea starts small, it is only a sapling idea, but the vines will come and they will try to choke your idea so it cannot grow and it will die and you will never know you had a big idea, an idea so big it could have grown thirty meters through the dark canopy of leaves and touched the face of the sky.' He looked at me and continued. 'The vines are people who are afraid of originality, of new thinking. Most people you encounter will be vines; when you are a young plant they are very dangerous.' His piercing blue eyes looked into mine.' Always listen to yourself, Peekay. It is better to be wrong than simply to follow convention. If you are wrong, no matter, you have learned something and you grow stronger. If you are right, you have taken another step toward a fulfilling life. self-determination Bryce Courtenay
9a5c6a1 You are not controlling the storm, and you are not lost in it. You are the storm. self-determination freedom free-will Sam Harris
98242f1 I felt the taste of mortality in my mouth, and at that moment I understood that I was not going to live forever. It takes a long time to learn that, but when you finally do, everything changes inside you, you can never be the same again. I was seventeen years old, and all of a sudden, without the slightest flicker of a doubt, I understood that my life was my own, that it belonged to me and no one else. I'm talking about freedom, Fogg. A sense of despair that becomes so great, so crushing, so catastrophic, that you have no choice but to be liberated by it. That's the only choice, or else you crawl into a corner and die. self-determination freedom life philosophy Paul Auster
7dfac29 We become what we want to be by consistently being what we want to become each day. self-determination religious inspirational self-improvement Richard G. Scott
26baa96 Always listen to yourself... It is better to be wrong than simply to follow convention. self-determination Bryce Courtenay
d6b8f43 LEONATO Well, niece, I hope to see you one day fitted with a husband. BEATRICE Not till God make men of some other metal than earth. Would it not grieve a woman to be overmastered with a pierce of valiant dust? to make an account of her life to a clod of wayward marl? No, uncle, I'll none: Adam's sons are my brethren; and, truly, I hold it a sin to match in my kindred. marriage men equality self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
54f51dc Now look at me! Take a good look! I was born and I knew I was alive and I knew what I wanted. What do you think is alive in me? Why do you think I'm alive? Because I have a stomach and eat and digest the food? Because I breathe and work and produce more food to digest? Or because I know what I want, and that something which knows how to want--isn't that life itself? And who--in this damned universe--who can tell me why I should live for anything but for that which I want? self-determination Ayn Rand
c383efa LEONATO Well, then, go you into hell? BEATRICE No, but to the gate; and there will the devil meet me, like an old cuckold, with horns on his head, and say 'Get you to heaven, Beatrice, get you to heaven; here's no place for you maids:' so deliver I up my apes, and away to Saint Peter for the heavens; he shows me where the bachelors sit, and there live we as merry as the day is long. marriage heaven self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
3b5cdcb I am anchored on a resolve you cannot shake. My heart, my conscience shall dispose of my hand -- . Know this at last. integrity marriage feminism self-determination independence women empowerment love matrimony dignity social-norms conscience gender courtship wooing Charlotte Brontë
2428b8f "No: I shall not marry Samuel Fawthrop Wynne." "I ask why? I must have a reason. In all respects he is more than worthy of you." She stood on the hearth; she was pale as the white marble slab and cornice behind her; her eyes flashed large, dilated, unsmiling. "And ask in what sense that young man is worthy of ?" integrity marriage men equality feminism self-determination independence women self-awareness empowerment suitability worthiness marriage-proposal matrimony dignity social-norms inferiority gender courtship wooing Charlotte Brontë
dccf0d0 Yes, faith; it is my cousin's duty to make curtsy and say 'Father, as it please you.' But yet for all that, cousin, let him be a handsome fellow, or else make another curtsy and say 'Father, as it please me. marriage self-determination independence empowerment happiness love marriage-proposal matrimony dignity courtship husbands wooing pleasure William Shakespeare
9dcd321 Let every man be master of his time. time self-determination life William Shakespeare
af1d004 Chastity ... has, even now, a religious importance in a woman's life, and has so wrapped itself round with nerves and instincts that to cut it free and bring it to the light of day demands courage of the rarest. feminism self-determination women morality empowerment encroachment dignity social-norms liberty suppression misogyny hypocrisy double-standards gender sexuality Virginia Woolf
d0ecf42 I told you in the course of this paper that Shakespeare had a sister; but do not look for her in 's of the poet. She died young--alas, she never wrote a word. She lies buried where the omnibuses now stop, opposite the Elephant and Castle. Now my belief is that this poet who never wrote a word and was buried at the crossroads still lives. She lives in you and in me, and in many other women who are not here tonight, for they are washing up the dishes and putting the children to bed. But she lives; for great poets do not die; they are continuing presences; they need only the opportunity to walk among us in the flesh. opportunities equality feminism self-determination fiction poetry women dreams empowerment dignity social-norms women-writers gender Virginia Woolf
4dbd6dc If [God] send me no husband, for the which blessing I am at him upon my knees every morning and evening ... marriage self-determination independence freedom empowerment happiness blessings matrimony husbands singles William Shakespeare
9bfa0cf In the end there is nothing to be done but to state clearly what has been done, without shame or regret, and say: Here I am, and this is what I am. Now deal with me as you see fit. That is your right. Mine is to stand by the act, and pay the price. You do what you must do, and pay for it. So in the end all things are simple. responsibility self-determination penance judgment Ellis Peters
f2e0593 [In 16th century European society] Marriage was the triumphal arch through which women, almost without exception, had to pass in order to reach the public eye. And after marriage followed, in theory, the total self-abnegation of the woman. marriage men feminism women-s-rights history self-determination independence women empowerment wedlock subjugation self-abnegation married-life matrimony social-norms misogyny perception inequality gender Antonia Fraser
9df7f29 "There is no sin unless through a man's own will, and hence the reward when we do right things also of our own will." ( )" self-determination salvation sin St. Augustine of Hippo
64c706d Every man has within him only one life and one nature ... It behooves a man to look within himself and turn to the best dedication possible those endowments he has from his Maker. You do no wrong in questioning what once you held to be right for you, if now it has come to seem wrong. Put away all thought of being bound. We do not want you bound. No one who is not free can give freely. self-determination freedom free-will life conduct-of-life giving Ellis Peters
6ef0852 Fate is unalterable only in the sense that given a cause, a certain result must follow, but no cause is inevitable in itself, and man can shape his world if he does not resign himself to ignorance. understanding fate self-determination destiny education ignorance Pearl S. Buck
69fcb91 It was a fact generally acknowledged by all but the most contumacious spirits at the beginning of the seventeenth century that woman was the weaker vessel; weaker than man, that is. ... That was the way God had arranged Creation, sanctified in the words of the Apostle. ... Under the common law of England at the accession of King James I, no female had any rights at all (if some were allowed by custom). As an unmarried woman her rights were swallowed up in her father's, and she was his to dispose of in marriage at will. Once she was married her property became absolutely that of her husband. What of those who did not marry? Common law met that problem blandly by not recognizing it. In the words of [the leading 17th century compendium on women's legal status]: 'All of them are understood either married or to be married.' In 1603 England, in short, still lived in a world governed by feudal law, where a wife passed from the guardianship of her father to her husband; her husband also stood in relation to her as a feudal lord. fathers marriage men feminism women-s-rights history self-determination independence women empowerment wedlock common-law guardianship feudalism subjugation married-life property matrimony social-norms misogyny inequality gender husbands Antonia Fraser
d802bdc "Milton's Eve! Milton's Eve! ... Milton tried to see the first woman; but Cary, he saw her not ... I would beg to remind him that the first men of the earth were Titans, and that Eve was their mother: from her sprang Saturn, Hyperion, Oceanus; she bore Prometheus" -- "Pagan that you are! what does that signify?" "I say, there were giants on the earth in those days: giants that strove to scale heaven. The first woman's breast that heaved with life on this world yielded the daring which could contend with Omnipotence: the stregth which could bear a thousand years of bondage, -- the vitality which could feed that vulture death through uncounted ages, -- the unexhausted life and uncorrupted excellence, sisters to immortality, which after millenniums of crimes, struggles, and woes, could conceive and bring forth a Messiah. The first woman was heaven-born: vast was the heart whence gushed the well-spring of the blood of nations; and grand the undegenerate head where rested the consort-crown of creation. ... I saw -- I now see -- a woman-Titan: her robe of blue air spreads to the outskirts of the heath, where yonder flock is grazing; a veil white as an avalanche sweeps from hear head to her feet, and arabesques of lighting flame on its borders. Under her breast I see her zone, purple like that horizon: through its blush shines the star of evening. Her steady eyes I cannot picture; they are clear -- they are deep as lakes -- they are lifted and full of worship -- they tremble with the softness of love and the lustre of prayer. Her forehead has the expanse of a cloud, and is paler than the early moon, risen long before dark gathers: she reclines her bosom on the ridge of Stilbro' Moor; her mighty hands are joined beneath it. So kneeling, face to face she speaks with God. That Eve is Jehova's daughter, as Adam was His son." self-determination nature independence women empowerment strength god godliness titans eve superiority greatness gender Charlotte Brontë
576a5f8 "I'm not going to be like my mother. You're maniacs. You're mad." "Yes," said Kate. "I know it. And so you won't be. The best of luck to you. And what are you going to be instead?" self-determination Doris Lessing
907aa5f ...it is the most militant, most radical intervention anyone can make to not only speak of love, but to engage in the practice of love. For love as the foundation of all social movements for self-determination is the only way we create a world that domination and dominator thinking cannot destroy. Anytime we do the work of love we are doing the work of ending domination. social-justice self-determination love bell hooks
143ca0f I am not your king, impudent larva? Who then has created you? You. But you should not have created me free. mankind self-determination freedom humanity liberty Jean-Paul Sartre