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The Things which hurt," Benjamin Franklin wrote, "instruct."
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You don't convince people by challenging their longest and most firmly held opinions. You find common ground and work from there.
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Richard Branson likes to say, is that "business opportunities are like buses; there's always another coming around."
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sometimes being superficial--taking things only at first glance--is the most profound approach.
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From good people you'll learn good, but if you mingle with the bad you'll destroy such soul as you had." --MUSONIUS RUFUS, QUOTING THEOGNIS OF MEGARA, LECTURES, 11.53.21-22"
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In its own way, the most harmful dragon we chase is the one that makes us think we can change things that are simply not ours to change.
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To be or to do? Which way will you go?
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There's a quote from Bismarck that says, in effect, any fool can learn from experience. The trick is to learn from other people's experience. This
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We can learn to perceive things differently, to cut through the illusions that others believe or fear. We can stop seeing the "problems" in front of us as problems. We can learn to focus on what things really are. Too often we react emotionally, get despondent, and lose our perspective. All that does is turn bad things into really bad things. Unhelpful perceptions can invade our minds--that sacred place of reason, action and will--and throw..
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To be physically and mentally loose takes no talent. That's just recklessness. (We want right action, not action period.) To be physically and mentally tight? That's called anxiety. It doesn't work, either. Eventually we snap. But physical looseness combined with mental restraint? That is powerful.
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Getting upset is like continuing the dream while you're awake. The thing that provoked you wasn't real--but your reaction was. And so from the fake comes real consequences. Which is why you need to wake up right now instead of creating a nightmare.
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Doing new things invariably means obstacles.
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Face the symptoms. Cure the disease. Ego makes it so hard--it's easier to delay, to double down, to deliberately avoid seeing the changes we need to make in our lives. But change begins by hearing the criticism and the words of the people around you. Even if those words are mean spirited, angry, or hurtful. It means weighing them, discarding the ones that don't matter, and reflecting on the ones that do.
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Oh, how blessed young men are who have to struggle for a foundation and beginning in life," he once said. "I shall never cease to be grateful for the three and half years of apprenticeship and the difficulties to be overcome, all along the way."
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It's much easier to control our perceptions and emotions than it is to give up our desire to control other people and events.
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any fool can learn from experience. The trick is to learn from other people's experience.
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If you want momentum, you'll have to create it yourself, right now, by getting up and getting started.
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A true student is like a sponge. Absorbing what goes on around him, filtering it, latching on to what he can hold. A student is self-critical and self-motivated, always trying to improve his understanding so that he can move on to the next topic, the next challenge. A real student is also his own teacher and his own critic. There is no room for ego there.
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Let's be honest. Most of the time we don't find ourselves in horrible situations we must simply endure. Rather, we face some minor disadvantage or get stuck with some less-than-favorable conditions. Or we're trying to do something really hard and find ourselves outmatched, overstretched, or out
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When you are not practicing, remember, someone somewhere is practicing, and when you meet him he will win.
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exert only calculated force where it will be effective, rather than straining and struggling with pointless attrition tactics.
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We have only minimal control over the rewards for our work and effort - other people's validation, recognition, rewards. It's far better when doing the work itself is sufficient. When fulfilling our own internal standards is what fills us with pride and self-respect. The less attached we are to the outcomes, the better. Our ego wants recognition & compensation. We have expectations. Let the effort, not the results be enough. Maybe your pare..
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You never want a serious crisis to go to waste. Things that we had postponed for too long, that were long-term, are now immediate and must be dealt with. [A] crisis provides the opportunity for us to do things that you could not do before.
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The first product of self-knowledge is humility,
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See much, study much, suffer much, that is the path to wisdom.
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So what is scarce and rare? Silence. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation. Silence is the respite of the confident and the strong. Sherman
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Say little, do much
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As James Basford remarked, "It requires a strong constitution to withstand repeated attacks of prosperity." Well, that's where we are now."
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According to Seneca, the Greek word euthymia is one we should think of often: it is the sense of our own path and how to stay on it without getting distracted by all the others that intersect it. In other words, it's not about beating the other guy. It's not about having more than the others. It's about being what you are, and being as good as possible at it, without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. It's about going ..
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With success, particularly power, come some of the greatest and most dangerous delusions: entitlement, control, and paranoia. Hopefully you won't find yourself so crazed that you start anthropomorphizing, and inflicting retribution on inanimate objects.
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A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.
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The ego we see most commonly goes by a more casual definition: an unhealthy belief in our own importance. Arrogance. Self-centered ambition. That's
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Without an accurate accounting of our own abilities compared to others, what we have is not confidence but delusion. How are we supposed to reach, motivate, or lead other people if we can't relate to their needs--because we've lost touch with our own?
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This is why we can't let externals determine whether something was worth it or not. It's on us.
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Precisely what makes us so promising as thinkers, doers, creatives, and entrepreneurs, what drives us to the top of those fields, makes us vulnerable to this darker side of the psyche. Now
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We will learn that though we think big, we must act and live small in order to accomplish what we seek." Ryan Holliday, Ego is the Enemy, pg 22"
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A man is worked upon by what he works on," Frederick Douglass once said."
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We can't keep learning if we think we already know everything." Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy, pg 99"
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If you're not still learning, you're already dying." Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy, pg 104"
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Doing great work is a struggle. It's draining, it's demoralizing, it's frightening - not always, but it can feel that way when we're deep in the middle of it.
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The power of being a student is not just that it is an extended period of instruction, it also places the ego and ambition in someone else's hands.
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Those who know do not speak. Those who speak do not know. --LAO TZU
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Without virtue and training, Aristotle observed, "it is hard to bear the results of good fortune suitably." --
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A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts, so he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusions. --ALAN WATTS
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