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Just in case this is the last time we hold hands, let's really hold hands. Because a motorcycle or a car can kill us now, or I might see the real man of my dreams down the street and leave you or you might see the real woman of your dreams and leave me.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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A precious performance, Blaine had called it, in that gently forbearing tone he used when they talked about novels, as though he was sure that she, with a little more time and a little more wisdom, would come to accept that the novels he liked were superior, novels written by young and youngish men and packed with , a fascinating, confounding accumulation of brands and music and comic books and icons, with emotions skimmed over, and each s..
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quotes-about-male-writers
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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In a healthy relationship, it is the role of whoever can provide to provide.
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feminist
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Anger, the tone said, is particularly not good for a woman. If you are a woman, you are not supposed to express anger, because it is threatening.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Life was a struggle with ourselves more than with a spear-wielding Satan; that belief was a choice for our conscience always to be sharpened.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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It was what Aunty Ifeoma did to my cousins, I realized then, setting higher and higher jumps for them in the way she talked to them, in what she expected of them. She did it all the time believing they would scale the rod. And they did. It was different for Jaja and me. We did not scale the rod because we believed we could, we scaled it because we were terrified that we couldn't.
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parenting
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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0b6e673
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Between her and what she should feel, there was a gap. She cared about nothing. She wanted to care, but she no longer knew how; it had slipped from her memory, the ability to care.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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3c94d3e
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The man standing closest to her was eating an ice cream cone; she had always found it a little irresponsible, the eating of ice cream cones by grown-up American men, especially the eating of ice cream cones by grown-up American men in public.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Nossa premissa feminista e: eu tenho valor. Eu tenho igualmente valor. Nao "se". Nao "enquanto". Eu tenho igualmente valor. E ponto final."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e491d6f
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They looked at the world with an impractical, luminous earnestness that moved her, but never convinced her.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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24cbcfa
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It seemed to me that in America blacks and whites work together but don't play together, and here blacks and whites play together but don't work together," Emenike said."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Moliere's words came to him, strangely comforting:Unbroken happiness is a bore; it should have ups and downs.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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3199f96
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But by far the worst thing we do to males--by making them feel they have to be hard--is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim ..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Michael's a good cat but he tries so hard to keep it real that he can seem full of negativity,
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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160e586
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She cries quietly, her shoulders heaving up and down, not the kind of loud sobbing that the women Chika knows do, the kind that screams Hold me and comfort me because I cannot deal with this alone. The woman's crying is private, as though she is carrying out a necessary ritual that involves no one else.
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sadness
crying
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2498c19
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Qui, dunque, parliamo di genere. Qualcuno dira: "Oh, ma sono le donne ad avere il vero potere: il bottom power (cioe il "potere del fondoschiena", un modo di dire nigeriano per indicare l'uso che certe donne fanno della propria sessualita per ottenere qualcosa da un uomo). Ma il bottom power non e potere, perche la donna con quel potere non e affatto potente: ha solo una via di accesso al potere di un altro."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e3f9703
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am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change. In addition to anger, I am also hopeful, because I believe deeply in the ability of human beings to remake themselves for the better. But
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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865c070
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They tell us race is an invention, that there is no genetic variation between two black people than there is between a black person and a white person. Then they tell us black people have a worse kind of breast cancer and get more fibroid. And white folk get cystic fibrosis and osteoporosis. So what's the deal, is race an invention or not?
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racism-in-america
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself. With him, she was at ease; her skin felt as though it was her right size.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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7f65b40
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He told you that the company he worked for had offered him a few thousand more than the average salary plus stock options because they were desperately trying to look diverse.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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Ifemelu stood by the window while Aunty Uju sat at the table drinking orange juice and airing her grievances like jewels. It had become a routine of Ifemelu's visits: Aunty Uju collected all her dissatisfactions in a silk purse, nursing them, polishing them, and then on the Saturday of Ifemelu's visit, while Bartholomew was out and Dike upstairs, she would spill them out on the table, and turn each one this way and that, to catch the light.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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70cf47b
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You look like a black American" was his ultimate compliment, which he told her when she wore a nice dress, or when her hair was done in large braids."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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85cfab9
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Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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df8ab53
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Os que estudaram vao embora, aqueles que tem potencial para consertar o que esta errado. Eles deixam os fracos para tras. Os tiranos continuam reinando porque os fracos nao conseguem resistir. Voce nao ve que e um circulo vicioso? Quem vai quebrar esse circulo?
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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180f8ca
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her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and looking out.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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221ca7a
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So if you're going to write about race, you have to make sure it's so lyrical and subtle that the reader who doesn't read between the lines won't even know it's about race.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9d74e3a
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One day, I will look up and all the people I know will be dead or abroad.
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memories
life
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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And remember that it's not about you. American Blacks are not telling you that you are to blame. They are just telling you what is. If you don't understand, ask questions. If you're uncomfortable about asking questions, say you are uncomfortable about asking questions and then ask anyway. It's easy to tell when a question is coming from a good place. Then listen some more. Sometimes people just want to feel heard. Here's to possibilities of..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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1523bba
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Boys and girls are undeniably different biologically, but socialization exaggerates the differences.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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e101439
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Of course much of this was tongue-in-cheek, but what it shows is how that word feminist is so heavy with baggage, negative baggage: you hate men, you hate bras, you hate African culture, you think women should always be in charge, you don't wear make-up, you don't shave, you're always angry, you don't have a sense of humour, you don't use deodorant.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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1f1365a
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He realized that what he wanted most of all, with her, was time.
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time
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9c2b4cf
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Ifemelu would come to realize later that Kimberly used "beautiful" in a peculiar way. "I'm meeting my beautiful friend from graduate school," Kimberly would say, or "We're working with this beautiful woman on the inner-city project," and always, the women she referred to would turn out to be quite ordinary-looking, but always black."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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744b673
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Lagos is a metropolis of almost twenty million people, with more energy than London, more entrepreneurial spirit than New York, and so people come up with all sorts of ways to make a living.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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fbefafe
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I realized that if I ever have children, I don't want them to have American childhoods. I don't want them to say 'Hi' to adults, I want them to say 'Good morning' and 'Good afternoon.' I don't want them to mumble 'Good' when somebody says 'How are you?' to them. Or to raise five fingers when asked how old they are. I want them to say 'I'm fine, thank you' and 'I'm five years old.' I don't want a child who feeds on praise and expects a star ..
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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830aa9a
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That's a pretty strong opinion. -I don't know how to have any other kind.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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32a687f
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had not even occurred to me to be worried, because a man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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1450387
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People often told him how humble he was, but they did not mean real humility, it was merely that he did not flaunt his membership in the wealthy club, did not exercise the rights it brought--to be rude, to be inconsiderate, to be greeted rather than to greet--and because so many others like him exercised those rights, his choices were interpreted as humility.
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wealth
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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8db1d6e
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Ifemelu wanted, suddenly and desperately, to be from the country of people who gave and not those who received, to be one of those who had and could therefore bask in the grace of having given, to be among those who could afford copious pity and empathy.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9cf7baf
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Why was "nigger" bleeped out? I mean, "nigger" is a word that exists. People use it. It is part of America. It has caused a lot of pain to people and I think it is insulting to bleep it out. ...it's like being in denial. If it was used like that, then it should be represented like that. Hiding it doesn't make it go away."
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9ec54a7
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Obinze imagined him, dutiful and determined, visiting the places he was supposed to visit, thinking, as he did so, not of the things he was seeing but of the photos he would take of them and of the people who would see those photos. The people who would know that he had participated in these triumphs.
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tourism
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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2ede49f
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Obinze imagined him, dutiful and determined, visiting the places he was supposed to visit, thinking, as he did so, not of the things he was seeing but of the photos he would take of them and of the people who would see those photos.
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
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9e4915b
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She felt a sense that things were in order, the way they were meant to be, and that even if they tumbled down once in a while, in the end they would come back together again.
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positivity
inspirational
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |