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And then there is Darcy. She is a woman who believes that things should fall into her lap, and, consequently, they do. They always have. She wins because she expects to win. I do not expect what I want, so I dont. And I dont even try.
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Emily Giffin |
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It's simply human nature to have an occasional, fleeting interest in someone whom you once loved.
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Emily Giffin |
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Evident in every small act of kindness, it was love as a verb. Love that made me feel more complete than I had ever felt in my glamorous, Jimmy Choo filled past.
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Emily Giffin |
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I decided that giving a girl a ring when you're not in a serious relationship is sort of like giving a guy a blow job when you have no real feelings for him. It makes everything feel a little cheap.It cheapens the giver and the recipient.
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Emily Giffin |
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I don't know. She was a sweet girl. As sweet as they come. I don't know why I didn't love her. It's something you can't really control.
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Emily Giffin |
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In the final seconds before sleep, I wish I could go back and undo everything, give those little girls another chance.
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rachel
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Emily Giffin |
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You don't have to talk to someone to think about them and check up on them now and again.
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Emily Giffin |
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Then he asks if he can kiss me. It is a question I don't usually like. Just do it, I always think.
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Emily Giffin |
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Well, because sometimes you love someone but they might not be the right person for you. That takes some time to figure out
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Emily Giffin |
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This time, I whispered that I loved him too. Then, I silently listed all the reason: I loved him for his gentleness. I loved him for being an amazing catch yet still vulnerable enough to be insecure. But most of all, I loved him for loving me.
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Emily Giffin |
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Looking back, I question whether I really loved Nate, or just the security of our relationship. I wonder if my feelings for him didn't have a lot to do with hating my job. From the bar exam through that first hellish year as an associate, Nate was my escape. And sometimes that can feel an awful lot like love.
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Emily Giffin |
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how much have i changed. i was a parent-pleaser, a dutiful friend. i made safe, careful choices and hoped that things would fall into place for me. but i have learned that you make your own happiness, that part of going for what you want means losing something else. and when the stakes are high, the losses can be that much greater
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Emily Giffin |
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ONE MORE CHNCE. Words that my mother heard, more than once. Words that women debate. Whether you CAN forgive and whether you SHOULD trust. I think of all the judgment from society, friends, and family, the overwhelming consensus seeming to be that you should not grant someone who betrayed you a second chance. That you should do everything you can to keep the knife out of your back, and to protect your heart and pride. Cowards give second ch..
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Emily Giffin |
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there is always something comforting about knowing that you are not alone. That other people feel the way you do. That you are a bit screwed up, but still normal.
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Emily Giffin |
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I'm going to keep seeing him as much as I can. We'll see what happens," I say, realizing that just "seeing what happens" is my version of "going for it."
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Emily Giffin |
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I learned that getting mad was easier than being sad.
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Emily Giffin |
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It was the same night I gave myself to him completely, knowing that I would belong to him for as long as he wanted to keep me. And, as it turned out, even longer than that.
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Emily Giffin |
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Things are what they are and there's no point dwelling in the past or wondering what could have been.
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Emily Giffin |
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I find my voice and manage to say those three one-syllable words back to him. Words I haven't uttered in a very, very long time. Words that meant nothing before now.
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Emily Giffin |
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Don't you wish we could pick the people we love?" "Yeah," I say. "Or just make the people we love want the same things we want."
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Emily Giffin |
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Things certainly aren't the way you imagine them when you're a kid and dreaming big dreams about what your life as a grown-up will look like.
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life
marriage
relationships
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Emily Giffin |
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Love is seldom--almost never--an even proposition. Someone always loves more.
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Emily Giffin |
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Sweetened ice tea is one of the things I love about the South, right up there with homemade biscuits and cheese grits.
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Emily Giffin |
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Instead of relief or gratitude, more guilt washes over me. Andy's certainly not faultless - no one ever is in a marriage
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Emily Giffin |
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I wonder why I miss her and Dex does not. Perhaps it is because I've known her so much longer. Or maybe it's the very nature of a friendship versus an intimate relationship. When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn't a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for g..
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Emily Giffin |
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It was about grace, she decides, something that has been missing from her own life. ... She wants to be the kind of person who can bestow unearned kindness on another, replace bitterness with empathy, forgive only for the sake of forgiving.
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Emily Giffin |
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Whenever you make a big decision in life, at least any decision where you have a viable alternative, there is an inevitable uneasy aftermath. Anxiety is merely a sign that you're taking something seriously.
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Emily Giffin |
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Why is a Christmas tree better than a man? Because it stays up, has cute balls, and looks good with the lights on!
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christmas-jokes
jokes
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Yet here we are, two children and a broken promise later, standing before each other, just the way we stood that day at the alter, with equal parts love and hope. And once again, I close my eyes, ready to take a leap of faith, ready for the long, hard road ahead. I have no idea how it's going to turn out, but then again, I never really did.
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Emily Giffin |
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So there the two of us were. Frozen in time, living in the moment, focused only on our immediate desires. Which of course included sex. Lots and lots of it.
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sex
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but i am content to live in the moment, and allow myself the daily pleasure of obsessing. nothing lasts forever, i tell myself. especially the good stuff. although typically you aren't faced with a hard deadline
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Emily Giffin |
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I will find the good in this loss. I will make something happen that wouldn't have happened otherwise.
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Emily Giffin |
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There is no grief like heartbreak.
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Emily Giffin |
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He who fails to plan, plans to fail.
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Emily Giffin |
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So I guess what I am trying to say is life is fast. And it keeps speeding up. Sometimes I lose track of the season -- or even the year. And we just have to make the best of it all. Our choices. Our fleeting moments together.
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Emily Giffin |
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Anything worthwhile is tough.
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Emily Giffin |
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I review my three boyfriends, the three men I slept with in my twenties, searching for a common thread. Nothing. No consistent features, coloring, stature, personality. But one theme does emerge: they all picked me. And then dumped me. I played the passive role. Waiting for Hunter and then settling for Joey. Waiting to feel more for Nate. Then waiting to feel less. Waiting for Alec to go away and leave me in peace. And now Dex. My number fo..
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Emily Giffin |
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I wondered why I was so startled by the encounter when there was something that seemed utterly inevitable about the moment. Not in any grand, destined sense; just in the quiet, stubborn way that unfinished business has of imposing its will on the unwilling.
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Emily Giffin |
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In short, I have no real faith in my own happiness. And then there is Darcy. She is a woman who believes that things should fall into her lap, and consequently, they do. They always have. She wins because ehse expects to win. I do not expect to get what I want, so I don't. And I don't even try.
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Emily Giffin |
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We are one of those couples I used to watch, thinking to myself that I'd never be on the inside of something so special. I remember reassuring myself that it probably looked nicer that it actually was. I am happy to be wrong about that.
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Emily Giffin |
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Throw in the intensity of emotions that come with that bittersweet summer sandwiched between high school graduation and the rest of your life...
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Emily Giffin |
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It occurs to me that she is not unique--that all women compare lives. We are aware of whose husband works more, who helps more around the house, who makes more money, who is having more sex. We compare our children, taking note of who is sleeping through the night, eating their vegetables, minding their manners, getting into the right schools. We know who keeps the best house, throws the best parties, cooks the best meals, has the best tenn..
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women
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Emily Giffin |
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You can run but you can't hide
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Emily Giffin |
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The whole "misery loves company" thing never applies more than when you're breaking up. The thought that the other person is doing fine is simply too much to bear."
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Emily Giffin |