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I feel more myself with him than without. Maybe true love does that.
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I'm not saying it's healthy to be past-obsessed, ferreting out details of every ex. But it's simply human nature to have an occasional, fleeting interest in someone whom you once loved.
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What's not to love' is hardly a reason to love, And the catch of your life is not the same thing as the love of your life. Be careful of that subtle but rather crucial distinction.
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But I cherished our filterless relationship and considered it the truest measure of a best friend, greater than pure affection. Who was the person you trusted enough to be your most transparent self with, in both good times and bad?
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I don't know what a carbuncle is, but it doesn't sound pleasant. I wish one upon Rachel's nose.
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Vatican Palace...because in Venturi's words, 'Less is
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After all, there is nothing like a mother telling you that you're making a bad decision to convince you that what you are doing is the absolute best course of action.
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I don't love him, period. I didn't love him before this. I cared about him. And I wanted to love him. Maybe I could have grown to love him. But those feelings just weren't there. I liked the idea of him. It was exciting. He was exciting. Too exciting.
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But there is one constant, one thing you can always count on: that not only does love come first, but in the end, it is the only thing that remains.
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That is one of the problems with getting older. There is a distinct lag time between how you see others and how you view yourself. I still thought of myself as looking twenty-four.
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an ideal relationship, the balance of power is equal. But if someone has to have more power, that someone needs to be the woman. Her reasoning is that when most men wield the power, they abuse it and succumb to their innately self-serving, self-indulgent instincts. Women who have power, on the other hand, tend to rule in the interest of the family unit rather than their own self-interest. Which is why matriarchal societies are peaceful, har..
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It occurs to me that as different as we are in our behavior and decisions, our most basic, knee-jerk emotional reactions to really big things are often remarkably similar. And it is in these moments that I am most grateful for my sister.
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Because sometimes I have the feeling that everyone thinks that everyone else is living a fairy tale. Especially in the South. People fake things so much. Put on a happy face and show off your perfect life.
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I flash a fake smile of my own, refraining from telling her what I'm really thinking: that it's an unwise karmic move to go around feeling superior to other mothers. Because before she knows it, her little angel could become a tattooed teenager hiding joints in her designer handbag and doling out blow jobs in the backseat of her BMW.
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I have a fleeting fantasy of telling her that procreation isn't a contest, any more than SAT scores and making the cheerleading squad and getting into a good college and all the other things, both big and small, that she turned into a contest when Janie and I were young, going all the way back to whose baby teeth came in first, according to my mother.
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Minigolf," she said with stone seriousness, "is a metaphor for life." I smiled and said, "Oh, really?" "Yes. I mean, think about it....Do you take it seriously? Too seriously? Do you enjoy it? Do you keep careful score? Do you get upset when you lose? Do you cheat? And if you do cheat, how do you react when you're busted? Are you sheepish? Sorry? Do you do it again?"
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Minigolf," she said with stone seriousness, "is a metaphor for life."
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Time heals all wounds, particularly if you pack a bunch of stuff into that time.
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o oposto do amor nao e o odio, e a indiferenca. (p. 306)" (GIFFIN, 2004.)"
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Whenever I hear of someone else's tragedy, I do not dwell on the accident or diagnosis, or even the initial shock waves or aftermath of grief. Instead, I find myself reconstructing those final ordinary moments. Moments that make up our lives. Moments that were blissfully taken for granted--and that likely would have been forgotten altogether but for what followed. The snapshots.
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There is emotion, and then there is what you do about it.
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I think I have always had the misguided sense that worry and fear serve as an insurance policy of sorts. On a subconscious level, I subscribe to the notion that if you worry about something, it is somehow less likely to happen. Well, I am here to say that it doesn't work like that. The very thing you fear the most can still happen anyway. And when it does, you feel that much more cheated for having feared it in the first place.
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I love him wholly and unconditionally and without reservation.
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And I love the beret. Just glad that it wasn't raspberry." "Or from a secondhand store," he deadpanned. "Although I would love to see you in it. And if it was warm..."
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It is not what I had planned - this day, this moment, these unlikely relationships, both old and new. Yet I feel overcome with peace and certainty that, for once, I am exactly where I should be.
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Being married cuts on your freedom. Having a husband or a relationship at all puts constraints on you. by Michael.
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relationships
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his unwavering confidence - but now, it feels like a brand of indifference
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It's like when someone dies, the initial stages of grief seem to be the worst. But in some ways, it's sadder as time goes by and you consider how much they're missed in your life. In the world.
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but I am learning that perfection isn't what matters. In fact, it's the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.
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In the end, you can slap a pretty label on it--like serendipity or fate. Or you can believe that it's just the random way life unfolds.
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It's always a good feeling when you can produce just the right one-liner to prove your point so tidily.
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People who like surprises want you to like surprises, too.
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Justice isn't only about what a person deserves, but also about what a person needs.
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She knows in her heart that it doesn't work like this. That misfortune doesn't give you the right to disregard others, ignore the rules, tell lies and half-truths.
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You were only in love with the idea of love. And now you are in love with the idea of a broken heart...
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although the truth is, I'm not quite sure how I feel.
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A drunk mind speaks a sober heart,
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I nod, thinking the whole concept of the path not taken is partly what has always troubled me.
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Love that Ritz!" he said. "A lot of folks swear by the Crescent Court, but it has nothing on the Ritz. Such a classic. And do you know that they have their own nightly guacamologist? How divine is that?"
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I tally all the reasons why not, all the ways it could hurt. Yet I watch myself shrug coolly and hear myself murmur, "Why not?"
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Don't go giving this encounter any crazy meaning like you did with him the first time around. It doesn't mean a thing. Not a thing. Sometimes, in life, there is no meaning at all.
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But it's not that simple or clear-cut--and I wonder if it ever is when it comes to matters of the heart.
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So much so that it seemed too good to be true. And so it shouldn't have surprised me to discover that it was too good to be true.
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And although one broken heart doesn't make me an expert in the subject, I believe you need both things--time and an emotional replacement--to fully mend one.
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