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Sorrow comes with so many defense mechanisms. You have your shock, your denial, your getting wasted, your cracking jokes, and your religion. You also have the old standby catchall--the blind belief in fate, the whole "things happening for a reason" drill."
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Emily Giffin |
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you'd do anything to get a soul mate back, right?... I mean, that's the nature of soul mates.
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Emily Giffin |
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I think I hoped for something more. Maybe I even hoped that I could find in Richard what I had with Ben. But it is suddenly very clear: Richard is not fallin in love with me and I'm not falling in love with Richard. We are not creating anything permanent or special. We are only having fun together. It is a fling- a fling just like he said last night- a fling with an ending yet to be determined. I feel relieved to have it defined
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Emily Giffin |
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The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
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Emily Giffin |
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Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time more than anything else. It's amazing how much can be conjured with a few notes of a song or a solitary whiff of a room.
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memories
songs
love
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Emily Giffin |
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Love is sharing a life together
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Emily Giffin |
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Throughout the ordeal, I learned that getting mad was easier than being sad. Anger was something I could control. I could settle into an easy rhythm of blame and hate. Focus my energy on something than the ache in my heart.
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Emily Giffin |
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No matter what the circumstances. I am more like most men in this regard. No second chances. It's not so much about morality, but about my inability to forgive. I'm a champion grudge holder, and I don't think I could change this about myself even if I wanted to.
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Emily Giffin |
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I feel a sudden wave of homesickness, but not the kind that makes you sad. The kind that reminds you of who you are and where you come from.
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Emily Giffin |
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I'm glad you were both here," I finally manage, thinking how strange it is to be standing with the two people who made you, something most kids take for granted every day of their lives."
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adoption
parents
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Emily Giffin |
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She wonders what fool ever said that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all - she has never disagreed with something so much.
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Emily Giffin |
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But one thing I have to say about Darcy and dating is this: she never blew us off for a guy. She always put her friends first- which is an amazing thing for a high school girl to do.
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Emily Giffin |
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I feel freer with Dex than I ever did single, I feel more myself with him than without maybe true love does that.
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Emily Giffin |
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Which always raises the interesting question of whether redheads pursue other redheads in a narcissistic way, or simply, because they have no other choice, as nonredheads aren't interested.
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Emily Giffin |
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He was my escape, and sometimes that can feel an awful lot like love.
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Emily Giffin |
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What's the point of being sad?" he says. "We're here now." --
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Emily Giffin |
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It's amazing to me how few guys know their friends' birthdays.
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Emily Giffin |
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You'll be dancing once again and the pain will end, You'll have no time for grievin'.
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Emily Giffin |
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It was a mistake. You didn't try to hurt anyone.
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Emily Giffin |
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What's not to love' is hardly a reason TO love. And the CATCH of your life is not the same thing as the LOVE of your life. Be careful on that subtle but rather crucial distinction.
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Emily Giffin |
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Dinner will not be perfect, but I am learning that perfection isn't what matters. In fact, it's the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.
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Emily Giffin |
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Because sometimes you just can't see the things that are the closest to you.
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Emily Giffin |
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My name is Kirby Rose, and I'm adopted. I don't mean to make it sound like an AA confession, although sometimes that's how people take it, like it's something they should be supportive about. I just mean that they are two basic facts about me.
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adoption
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Emily Giffin |
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You can never be too sure when it comes to things that matter most
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Emily Giffin |
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No scratch the word "career". Careers are people who wish to advance. I only want to survive, draw a paycheck. This is merely a job. I can take or leave this place. I start to imagine quitting and following my yet-to-be-determined passion."
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Emily Giffin |
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Anger was something I could control. I could settle into an easy rhythm of blame and hate. Focus my energy on something other than the ache in my heart.
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Emily Giffin |
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But there is one constant, one thing you can always count on: that not only does love come first, but at the end, it is the only thing that remains.
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Emily Giffin |
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Then he continues his rant,saying, "And even if I didn't know them, I know their type." "And what type is that?" she asks,leaning foward in her chair,yearning for confirmation that he gets it,that they are like-minded in their observations of others and the circumspect way they view the world. "Oh,let's see," he says,rubbing his jaw. "Superficial.Artificial.Sheep. They're more worried about how they come across to others than who they rea..
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Emily Giffin |
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It's not that simple or clear-cut - and I wonder if it ever is when it comes to matters of the heart.
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Emily Giffin |
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I cheated with Rachel, but I'll never cheat on Rachel.
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Emily Giffin |
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But certainly not everyday you can find someone who wants to have a monogamous relationship
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lovers
relationships
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Emily Giffin |
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You can't quantify love, and if you try, you can wind up focusing on misleading factors.
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Emily Giffin |
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Surely he knows we are all watching. That I am watching. It is always that way when you are in a group and someone decides to go for a swim or walk to the water. The ocean is a giant stage. It is natural that the others watch, if only for a moment.
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Emily Giffin |
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I looked at my friend, overwhelmed with confusion. Unsure of what April should do. What I should do. What a strong woman would do. In fact, the only thing that I am certain of is that there are no easy answers, and that anyone who says there are has never been in our shoes.
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tough-decisions
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Emily Giffin |
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I subscribe to the notion that if you worry about something, it is somehow less likely to happen.
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Emily Giffin |
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Although too much time has gone by to miss her, I feel regret that I didn't maintain our friendship. Even if we no longer have much in common, we would have always had the past, which, in some ways, is just as important as the present or future.
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Emily Giffin |
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I realize thirty is just a number, that you're only as old as you feel and all that. I also realize that in the grand scheme of things, thirty is still young. But it's not that young.
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Emily Giffin |
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Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
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Emily Giffin |
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Love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together.
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Emily Giffin |
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Grab his penis like this, and I guarantee, it's a done deal.
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Emily Giffin |
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As I listen to Darcy breathing in the dark beside me, I wonder how we got to this. How we could be in love with the same person. How I coudl be sabotaging my best friend's engagement. In the final seconds before sleep, I wish I could go back and undo everything, give those little girls another chance.
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Emily Giffin |
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I had seen the light, come to believe that a wedding should be about a feeling between two people, not a show for the masses...It was a magical, romantic evening, and although I occasionally wish I had worn a slightly fancier dress, and that Nick and I had danced on our wedding night, I have no real regrets about the way we chose to do things.
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Emily Giffin |
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You know in your heart when you're doing the right thing and when you're not. And you just have to do everything you can to stay the course.
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Emily Giffin |
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Because Marian was the love of my life. For a long time. And that's the kind of information you share when you're young and stupid and hoping that you're in something that is going to be even bigger and better than what you once lost. It's the kind of shit you waste your time thinking about. Lemme tell you -- it does no good.
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