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| b074158 | As a black woman interested in feminist movement, I am often asked whether being black is more important than being a woman; whether feminist struggle to end sexist oppression is more important than the struggle to racism or vice versa. All such questions are rooted in competitive either/or thinking, the belief that the self is formed in opposition to an other...Most people are socialized to think in terms of opposition rather than compatib.. | compatibility feminism movement opposition oppression racism sexism woman | Bell Hooks | |
| cbdff7f | We use the word love in such a sloppy way that it can mean almost nothing or absolutely everything. | bell hooks | ||
| d69f314 | The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... Love is as love does. Love is an act of will-namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. | bell hooks | ||
| 770d558 | Love and abuse cannot co-exist. | bell hooks | ||
| 6967997 | All over the world people live in intimate daily contact with one another. They wash together, eat and sleep together, face challenges together, share joy and sorrow. The rugged individual who relies on no one else is a figure who can only exist in a culture of domination where a privileged few use more of the world's resources than the many who must daily do without. Worship of individualism has in part led us to the unhealthy culture of n.. | bell hooks | ||
| 08e7462 | Love allows us to confront these negative realities in a manner that is life-affirming and life enhancing. | bell hooks | ||
| 72dc5e6 | I learned then that it is more fulfilling to live one's life within a circle of love, interacting with loved ones to whole we are committed. | bell hooks | ||
| e233109 | I learned then that it is more fulfilling to live one's life within a circle of love, interacting with loved ones to whom we are committed. | bell hooks | ||
| 01dccdf | In the Mars-and-Venus-gendered universe, men want power and women want emotional attachment and connection. On this planet nobody really has the opportunity to know love since it is power and not love that is the order of the day. The privilege of power is at the heart of patriarchal thinking. Girls and boys, men and women who have been taught this way almost always believe love is not important, or if it is, it is never as important as bei.. | affection bell-hooks control feminism feminist gender love love-quotes manipulation mars men-are-from-mars power romance venus women-are-from-venus | bell hooks | |
| 7bed4d8 | When men and women are loyal to ourselves and others, when we love justice, we understand fully the myriad ways in which lying diminishes and erodes the possibility of meaningful, caring connection, that it stands in the way of love. | Bell Hooks | ||
| 47220ec | Her love of words is a private passion - one she would rather not share. In the house of her childhood though everything had to be shared. If she tried to hold anything back, they would search and find the hidden places. Her written words, discovered, read were just the source of more pain and punishment. This was why she loved poetry. They did not always understand it so they left it alone. | memoir poetry writing | Bell Hooks | |
| 7704511 | Nowadays we live in a world where poor teenagers are willing to maim and murder for a pair of tennis shoes or a designer coat; this is not a consequence of poverty. In dire situations of poverty at earlier times in our nation's history, it would have been unthinkable to the poor to murder someone for a luxury item. While it was common for individuals to steal or attack in the interests of acquiring resources - money, food or something as si.. | bell hooks | ||
| 500bcdc | threads of power and domination a palimpsest of greed | bell hooks | ||
| a4c879f | making soil soup deep | bell hooks | ||
| 34f40f0 | Initially when feminist leaders in the United States proclaimed the need for gender equality here they did not seek to find out if corresponding movements were taking place among women around the world. Instead they declared themselves liberated and therefore in the position to liberate their less fortunate sisters, especially those in the "third world." This neocolonial paternalism had already been enacted to keep women of color in the bac.. | bell hooks | ||
| 250c272 | Unfortunately, our over-emphasis on the male as oppressor often obscures the fact that men too are victimized. To be an oppressor is dehumanizing and anti-human in nature, as it is to be a victim. Patriarchy forces fathers to act as monsters, encourages husbands and lovers to be rapists in disguise; it teaches our blood brothers to feel ashamed that they care for us, and denies all men the emotional life that would act as a humanizing, self.. | bell hooks | ||
| c0c0505 | Imagine living in a world where there is no domination, where females and males are not alike or even always equal, but where a vision of mutuality is the ethos shaping our interaction. Imagine living in a world where we can all be who we are, a world of peace and possibility. Feminist revolution alone will not create such a world; we need to end racism, class elitism, imperialism. But it will make it possible for us to be fully self-actual.. | bell hooks | ||
| bd1b0b4 | Most men and women born in the fifties or earlier were socialized to believe that marriages and/or committed romantic bonds of any kind should take precedence over all other relationships. Had I been evaluating my relationships from a standpoint that emphasized growth rather than duty and obligation, I would have understood that abuse irreparably undermines bonds. All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love.. | bell-hooks feminism feminist friendships-and-love love love-quotes respect | bell hooks | |
| cd736a5 | If we were constantly remembering that love is as love does, we would not use the word in a manner that devalues and degrades it's meaning. | bell hooks | ||
| e387735 | Refusal to stand up for what you believe in weakens individual morality and ethics as well as those of the culture. | bell hooks | ||
| 31bd603 | White people who want people of color to do the work for them, who want us to draw the map and then carry them on our back down the road that ends racism are still playing out the servant/served paradigm. | bell hooks | ||
| 83e1154 | Global women's issues like forced female circumcision, sex clubs in Thailand, the veiling of women in Africa, India, the Middle East, and Europe, the killing of female children in China, remain important concerns. However feminist women in the West are still struggling to decolonize feminist thinking and practice so that these issues can be addressed in a manner that does not reinscribe Western imperialism... A decolonized feminist perspect.. | bell hooks | ||
| 659a54f | Significantly, romantic friendships can coexist with the fact of partners' marrying because their reason for being is not to replace marriage but to open the possibility of sustained, committed true love existing among friends, and not just same-sex friends. No matter that our chosen relationship commitments change. Those of us who have long-term romantic friendships, some that have lasted longer than any of our marriages or partnerships, d.. | communion feminism friendship relationships | bell hooks | |
| a63f38d | To be loving is to be open to grief, to be touched by sorrow, even sorrow that is unending. | bell hooks | ||
| b81c405 | You've asked me what the lobster is weaving there with his golden feet? I reply, the ocean knows this. You say, what is the ascidia waiting for in its transparent bell? What is it waiting for? I tell you it is waiting for time, like you. You ask me whom the Macrocystis alga hugs in its arms? Study, study it, at a certain hour, in a certain sea I know. You question me about the wicked tusk of the narwhal, and I reply by describing how the.. | Pablo Neruda | ||
| 36a01a4 | At times women find it difficult to hear what men have to say when what they tell us does not conform to our fantasies of who they are or who we want them to be. | bell hooks | ||
| 933c928 | Self-acceptance is hard for many of us. There is a voice inside that is constantly judging, first ourselves and then others. | bell hooks | ||
| be58f3d | A male who has divested of male privilege, who has embraced feminist politics, is a worthy comrade in struggle, in no way a threat to feminism, whereas a female who remains wedded to sexist thinking and behavior infiltrating feminist movement is a dangerous threat. | bell hooks | ||
| 6113acd | Spirituality and spiritual life gives us the strength to love. | bell hooks | ||
| 6bb8b39 | Through the practice of compassion and forgiveness, I was able to sustain my appreciation for her work and cope with the grief and disappointment I felt about the loss of this relationship. Practicing compassion enabled me to understand why she might have acted as she did and to forgive her. Forgiving means that I am able to see her as a member of my community still, one who has a place in my heart should she wish to claim it. | compassion feminism forgiveness | bell hooks | |
| 770c4e1 | I knew that I wanted to follow their example and become a teacher who would help students become self-directed learners. | bell hooks | ||
| 702146e | Who we are as African-Americans, as black folks in the diaspora, our cultural destiny, has been shaped by both the enslaved and the free. | bell hooks | ||
| b1e1b73 | The feeling that I've done something wrong, that I really don't know what it is, that there's something terribly wrong with my very being, leads to a sense of utter hopelessness. This hopelessness is the deepest cut of the mystified state. It means there is no possibility for me as I am; there is no way I can matter or be worthy of anyone's love as long as I remain myself. I must find a way to be someone else--someone who is lovable. Someon.. | patriarchy | bell hooks | |
| ee30c10 | There seems to be a fear that if men are raised to be people of integrity, people who can love, they will be unable to be forceful and act violently if needed.... We see that females that are raised with the traits any person of integrity embodies can act with tenderness, with assertiveness, and with aggression if and when aggression is needed. | feminism feminist feminist-quotes good-men integrity integrity-quotes male maleness manhood masculinity men patriarchy | bell hooks | |
| 8e7d121 | The choice to love is a choice to connect--- to find ourselves in the other. | bell hooks | ||
| 1af270a | We see in movies, people are represented as being in love who never talk with one another, who fall into bed without ever discussing their bodies, their sexual needs, their likes and dislikes. [...] the message is [...] that ignorance gives love its erotic and transgressive edge. These messages are often brought to us by profiteering producers who have no clue about the art of loving. [...] They do not know how to genuinely portray loving i.. | bell hooks | ||
| ff8d1b2 | They sat in the little diningroom and ate. She'd put on music, a violin concerto. The phone didnt ring. Did you take it off the hook? No, she said. Wires must be down. She smiled. I think it's just the snow. I think it makes people stop and think. Bell nodded. I hope it comes a blizzard then. Do you remember the last time it snowed here? No, I cant say as I do. Do you? Yes I do. When was it. It'll come to you. Oh. She smiled. They ate. | love serenity | Cormac McCarthy | |
| dcd9731 | I learned that we may meet a true love and that our lives may be transformed by such an encounter even when it does not lead to sexual pleasure, committed bonding, or even sustained contact. The myth of true love-that fairy-tale vision of two souls who meet, join, and live happily ever thereafter-is the stuff of childhood fantasy. Yet many of us, female and male, carry these fantasies into adulthood and are unable to cope with the reality o.. | fairy-tales love love-at-first-sight love-is-hard love-quotes true-love | bell hooks | |
| 6d568b8 | In truth, true love is all about work. | bell hooks | ||
| 3c53222 | What do you think?" Harding says. McMurphy starts. "She's got one hell of a set of chabobs," is all he can think of. "Big as Old Lady Ratched's." "I didn't mean physically, my friend, I mean what do you--" "Hell's bells, Harding!" McMurphy yells suddenly. "I don't know what to think! What do you want out of me? A marriage counsellor? All I know is this: nobody's very big in the first place, and it looks to me like everybody spends their who.. | Ken Kesey | ||
| 7d1267c | Females of all ages acted as though concern for or rage at male domination or gender equality was all that was needed to make one a "feminist." Without confronting internalized sexism women who picked up the feminist banner often betrayed the cause in their interactions with other women." | bell hooks | ||
| 65a682c | When feminists acknowledge in one breath that black women are victimized and in the same breath emphasize their strength, they imply that though black women are oppressed they manage to circumvent the damaging impact of oppression by being strong--and that is simply not the case. Usually, when people talk about the "strength" of black women they are referring to the way in which they perceive black women coping with oppression. They ignore .. | bell hooks | ||
| 6fb0648 | Wisely, Baldwin insisted that we are always more than our pain. Not only did he believe in our capacity to love, he felt black people were uniquely situated to risk loving because we had suffered. | james-baldwin love | bell hooks | |
| 5e0eb2e | If we give our children sound self-love, they will be able to deal with whatever life puts before them. | bell hooks |