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| 1fd8f88 | Emotional resilience comes down to how quickly we recover from upsets. People who are highly resilient--who bounce back right away--can have as much as thirty times more activation in the left prefrontal area than those who are less resilient. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 93d7779 | We do not compete in our careers with people who lack the requisite intelligence to enter and stay in our field--but rather against the much smaller group of those who have managed to jump the hurdles of schooling, entry exams, and other cognitive challenges to get into the field in the first place. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| a3fe9d2 | In short, out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 851e936 | In a complex world where almost everyone has access to the same information, new value arises from the original synthesis, from putting ideas together in novel ways, and from smart questions that open up untapped potential. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 832d5fc | The single most important factor in maximizing the excellence of a group's product was the degree to which the members were able to create a state of internal harmony, which lets them take advantage of the full talent of their members. The overall performance of harmonious groups was helped by having a member who was particularly talented; groups with more friction were far less able to capitalize on having members of great ability. In grou.. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| e5d968d | Though they are quick to put others down, unhealthy narcissists view themselves in absolutely positive terms. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 934d0fa | Other research has shown that in the first few milliseconds of our perceiving something we not only unconsciously comprehend what it is, but decide whether we like it or not; the "cognitive unconscious" presents our awareness with not just the identity of what we see, but an opinion about it.7 Our emotions have a mind of their own, one which can hold views quite independently of our rational mind." | Daniel Goleman | ||
| ef34103 | Rumination can also make the depression stronger by creating conditions that are, well, more depressing. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 68d6a6e | 26. Kieran C. R. Fox, "Is Meditation Associated with Altered Brain Structure? A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of Morphometric Neuroimaging in Meditation Practitioners," Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews 43 (2014): 48-73." | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 6c3eb68 | It's the most important relationships in your life, the people you see day in and day out, that seem to be crucial for your health. And the more significant the relationship is in your life, the more it matters for your health."43" | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 53ba60c | Dreams are private myths; myths are shared dreams")." | Daniel Goleman | ||
| bde7eac | And that is the problem: academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil--or opportunity--life's vicissitudes bring. Yet even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring emotional intelligence, a set of traits--some might call it character--that also matters immensely for our personal destiny. | Daniel Goleman | ||
| 51a3c1f | The sums acquired by the administrators of this domaine extraordinaire in the period of France's zenith were quite remarkable and in some ways foreshadow Nazi Germany's plunder of its satellites and conquered foes during the Second World War. | Paul Kennedy | ||
| 5c95a1a | Conquest has made me what I am and only conquest can enable me to hold my position. | Paul Kennedy | ||
| 1fcbe3e | the beginning of wisdom in human as well as international affairs was knowing when to stop. | Paul Kennedy | ||
| b83315a | Shattered by the cumulative effect of so much horror and death, Joan was again afflicted by a crisis of faith. How could a good and benevolent God let such a thing happen? How could He so terribly afflict even children and babies, who were not guilty of any sin? | thought-provoking | Donna Woolfolk Cross | |
| 51ab741 | But perhaps peace was not in a place but within one's self. | Ashley Gardner | ||
| 3dcc0d4 | A good book is like a good friend, do you know, Lacey? One you can turn to when the night is cold and you are lonely. And there is old Herodotus, standing ready to regale me with tales of his travels. | Ashley Gardner | ||
| f51e405 | Why do you think that?" she asked sharply. It was the kind of question Peter Viertel had warned me about. When they were making The Sun Also Rises, in which she played Hemingway's Lady Brett Ashley, he told me: "I'd show her the script, she'd ask something innocuous like, 'Would Lady Brett say that line?' or 'Does Lady Brett need to say anything here? Jake [Barnes, the narrator and hero of The Sun Also Rises, played by Tyrone Power] will un.. | Peter Evans | ||
| 46e3e6d | She thought she could see the lines on his forehead even in this darkness, she thought she could hear his heart beat with this colossal pain that had descended upon them all. She did not pity herself, or them, or wonder what they had done to deserve all of this, or even think that perhaps they were all paying their dues for some sin they had committed in a previous life. This was life, such as it was, and it had to be borne, it had to be li.. | Indu Sundaresan | ||
| 51cfa45 | You're not impatient any more. Then you were in a hurry, because you thought you could encompass everything in your life. You wanted to learn everything and experience everything and be everybody. In a way, that was charming and delightful in you: I used to write in my notebooks that you were zestful. But it also made you seem confused. You did things in fits and starts. You learned as a stammerer talks ... Today, you are not in such a hurr.. | John Hersey | ||
| c8697bc | she looked like Vivien, the Lady of the Lake, only she was fat and her lake was dust, sand and dust, bones and dust and sand. | John Hersey | ||
| 3631c92 | there is any principle of the Constitution that more imperatively calls for attachment than any other it is the principle of free thought--not free thought for those who agree with us but freedom for the thought that we hate. | Anthony Lewis | ||
| b9891bc | For no obvious reason, I began to look closely at the women on the stradone. Suddenly it seemed to me that I had lived with a sort of limited gaze: as if my focus had been only on us girls, Ada, Gigliola, Carmela, Marisa, Pinuccia, Lila, me, my schoolmates, and I had never really paid attention to Melina's body, Giuseppina Pelusi's, Nunzia Cerullo's, Maria Carracci's. The only woman's body I had studied, with ever-increasing apprehension, w.. | Elena Ferrante | ||
| 67ea8c1 | Badness can be got easily and in shoals; the road to her is smooth, and she lives very near us. But between us and Goodness the gods have placed the sweat of our brows; | Hesiod | ||
| 453a37d | It is best to work, at whatever you have a talent for doing, without turning your greedy thought toward what some other man possesses, but take care of your own livelihood, as I advise you. | Hesiod | ||
| 6a08d78 | Better marry a maiden, so you can teach her good manners, and in particular marry one who lives close by you. Look her well over first. Don't marry what will make your neighbors laugh at you, for while there's nothing better a man can win him than a good wife, there's nothing more dismal than a bad one. | Hesiod | ||
| e5ac3ed | The solution to entrapment in the narcissistic hothouse of self is to not relinquish autobiographical writing, but to expand the self by bringing one's curiosity to interface with more and more history and the present world. | writing-advice writing-craft | Phillip Lopate | |
| 5f8cecb | Most striking about the traditional societies of the Congo was their remarkable artwork: baskets, mats, pottery, copper and ironwork, and above all, woodcarving. It would be two decades before Europeans really noticed this art. Its discovery then had a strong influence on Braque, Matisse, and Picasso. | Adam Hochschild | ||
| 1785e05 | To get at parts of the vine high off the ground, men frantic to get every possible drop of rubber would sometimes tear down the whole vine, slice it into sections, and squeeze the rubber out. Although the Congo state issued strict orders against killing the vines this way, it also applied the chicotte to men who didn't bring in enough rubber. The chicotte prevailed. One witness saw Africans who had to dig up roots in order to find enough ru.. | Adam Hochschild | ||
| 169bc00 | Except for Lefranc, few Europeans working for the regime left records of their shock at the sight of officially sanctioned terror. The white men who passed through the territory as military officers, steamboat captains, or state or concession company officials generally accepted the use of the chicotte as unthinkingly as hundreds of thousands of other men in uniform would accept their assignments, a half-century later, to staff the Nazi and.. | Adam Hochschild | ||
| 441f3ca | from publicly available documents. But now it is also evident that when the mists of leaks, rumors, and denials are pierced, if not the public, then the world's leaders have been aware for some time first, that there is one more planet in our Solar System and second, that we are not alone. | Zecharia Sitchin | ||
| c700173 | As long as men completely dominate business and political life, as long as women are economically dependent on men, as long as the burden of child care falls wholly on women's shoulders (toppling even the most egalitarian couples), you cannot speak of a liberated female sexuality. | Esther Perel | ||
| 3d0258d | Introducing uncertainty sometimes requires nothing more than letting go of the illusion of certitude. In this shift of perception, we recognize the inherent mystery of our partner. I point out to Adele that if we are to maintain desire with one person over time we must be able to bring a sense of unknown into a familiar space. In the words of Proust, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.. | Esther Perel | ||
| c58bdb8 | Despite living in a time of unprecedented sexual freedom in America, the practice of policing sexuality has continued unabated since the days of the Puritans. | Esther Perel | ||
| e687b7c | The best ideas rarely arise in one isolated mind, but rather develop in networks of curious and creative thinkers. | creative curious ideas isolated mind network thinkers | Esther Perel | |
| c7fde4c | I]nfidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. | infidelity marriage tenacity | Esther Perel | |
| dc7002f | Once we strayed because marriage was not supposed to deliver love and passion. Today we stray because marriage fails to deliver the love, passion, and undivided attention it promised. | Esther Perel | ||
| 57c136f | Eroticism challenges us to seek a different kind of resolution, to surrender to the unknown and ungraspable, and to breach the confines of the rational world. | Esther Perel | ||
| 0c6bf9a | if you're too busy for sex, you're too busy. | Esther Perel | ||
| 0129118 | What I can tell you," she says, "is that his kindness makes me feel safe, but when I think about who I want to sleep with, safe is not what I look for." | Esther Perel | ||
| d19dbe5 | eroticism. Though I doubt that they ever used this word, they embodied its mystical meaning as a quality of aliveness, a pathway to freedom | Esther Perel | ||
| 2755e7a | When we are children, play comes to us naturally, but our capacity for play collapses as we age. Sex often remains the last arena of play we can permit ourselves, a bridge to our childhood. Long after the mind has been filled with injunctions to be serious, the body remains a free zone, unencumbered by reason and judgment. In lovemaking, we can recapture the utterly uninhibited movement of the child, who has not yet developed self-conscious.. | sexuality | Esther Perel | |
| 81822f1 | excitement is interwoven with uncertainty, and with our willingness to embrace the unknown rather than to shield ourselves from it. But this very tension leaves us feeling vulnerable. I caution my patients that there is no such thing as "safe sex." | Esther Perel |