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| a68d85c | The only certainty, whether spoken or not, is that the doctors, nurses, and technicians are fighting not only death but their own uncertainties as well. In most resuscitations, those can be narrowed down to two main questions: Are we doing the right things? and, Should we be doing anything at all? | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 2b7cafd | There is no way to deter old age from its grim duty, but a life of accomplishment makes up in quality for what it cannot add in quantity. | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 50f5e1b | We are not well served by being lulled into unjustified expectations. | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 4b5ef16 | Nature is being kind without knowing it, as nature can be cruel without knowing it. | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 7fef3c8 | Though their doctors dutifully record such distinct entities as stroke, or cardiac failure, or pneumonia, these aged folk have in fact died because something in them has worn out. Long before the days of scientific medicine, everyone understood this. On July 5, 1814, when he was seventy-one years old, Thomas Jefferson wrote to the seventy-eight-year-old John Adams, "But our machines have now been running seventy or eighty years, and we must.. | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 73419dd | Shakespeare has Julius Caesar reflect that: Of all the wonders that I yet have heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear; Seeing that death, a necessary end, Will come when it will come. | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 23139f6 | We live today in the era not of the art of dying, but of the art of saving life, | Sherwin B. Nuland | ||
| 6aa4630 | below and select the title. In this part . . . Classic -- a word that can be used to describe not only the books represented in this chapter, but the For Dummies series as a whole. When the For Dummies series began, personal computers were becoming widespread, but how exactly to use them was a bit of a mystery to many people. That's why DOS For Dummies and Windows For Dummies (which we've updated with every edition of Windows, including W.. | John Wiley and Sons | ||
| 66c8e76 | When you confront the monster you | David D. Burns | ||
| 2d54246 | Remember that as the drug begins to work, you will feel less suicidal. | David D. Burns | ||
| 3c5b289 | Because of your twisted thinking, you see yourself in a trap from which there seems to be no escape. You jump to the conclusion that your problems are insoluble. Because your suffering feels unbearable and appears unending, you may erroneously conclude that suicide is your only way of escape. | David D. Burns | ||
| 71f6daf | golden opportunity to learn to cope with criticism and anger effectively. This came as a complete surprise to me; I hadn't realized what good fortune I had. In addition to urging me to use cognitive techniques to reduce and eliminate my own sense of irritation. Dr. Beck proposed I try out an unusual strategy for interacting with Hank when he was in an angry mood. The essence of this method was: (1) Don't turn Hank off by defending yourself... | David D. Burns | ||
| c0d2da3 | Evaluate your life in its totality! We all waste so much time doing meaningless bullshit. We burn hours on social media and watching television, which by the end of the year would add up to entire days and weeks if you tabulated time like you do your taxes. You should, because if you knew the truth you'd deactivate your Facebook account STAT, and cut your cable. When | David Goggins | ||
| fe09a56 | It can work the other way as well. I have worked with many depressed patients who were still stuck after I had tried numerous psychotherapeutic interventions. When I prescribed an antidepressant medication, many of these patients started to turn the corner, and the psychotherapy began to work better. It seemed as if the medication really did help them change their negative thinking patterns as they recovered from the depression. | David D. Burns | ||
| 8f34391 | After all, we're all imperfect, and others have the right to tell us about it from time to time. But are you obliged to make yourself miserable and hate yourself every time someone flies off the handle or puts you down? | David D. Burns | ||
| c3b55a5 | self-image | David D. Burns | ||
| bee4f1f | In addition, we still do not really know how the brain creates emotions. We do not know why some people are more prone to negative thinking and gloomy moods throughout their lives, whereas others seem to be eternal optimists who always have a positive outlook and a cheerful disposition. | David D. Burns | ||
| 31d22c6 | When you are depressed, you may have a tendency to confuse feeling with facts. Your feelings of hopelessness and total despair are just symptoms of depressive illness, not facts. If you think you are hopeless, you will naturally feel this way. Your feelings only trace the illogical pattern of your thinking. Only an expert, who has treated hundreds of depressed individuals, would be in a position to give a meaningful prognosis for recovery. .. | David D. Burns | ||
| 97c8a4a | Wherever I go in the West, I am struck by the great mental suffering that arises from the fear of dying, whether or not this fear is acknowledged. How reassuring it would be for people if they knew that when they lay dying they would be cared for with loving insight! As it is, our culture is so heartless in its expediency and its denial of any real spiritual value that people, when faced with terminal illness, feel terrified that they are s.. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| b3d0ec5 | When your fear touches someone's pain it becomes pity; when your love touches someone's pain, it becomes compassion."4" | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| f517cd4 | Wrong views and wrong convictions can be the most devastating of all our delusions. Surely both Adolf Hitler and Pol Pot must have been convinced that they were right? And yet each and every one of us has that same dangerous tendency as they had: to form convictions, believe them without question and act on them, so bringing down suffering not only on ourselves, but also on all those around us. On | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 4a3ba27 | Because the dying also are unable to help themselves, we should relieve them of discomfort and anxiety, and assist them, as far as we can, to die with composure. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 79bd802 | Tibetan thangka paintings and derive strength from their beauty. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| dc3bcba | Don't get too excited. In the end, it's neither good nor bad. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 2366f01 | Now when the bardo of this life is dawning upon me, I will abandon laziness for which life has no time, Enter, undistracted, the path of listening and hearing, reflection and contemplation, and meditation, Making perceptions and mind the path, and realize the "three kayas": the enlightened mind;4 Now that I have once attained a human body, There is no time on the path for the mind to wander." | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 98e244b | A real miracle, he said, was if someone could liberate just one negative emotion. More | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 973efe4 | When your amnesia over your identity begins to be cured, you will realize finally that dak dzin, grasping at self, is the root cause of all your suffering. You will understand at last how much harm it has done both to yourself and to others, and you will realize that both the noblest and the wisest thing to do is to cherish others instead of cherishing yourself. This will bring healing to your heart, healing to your mind, and healing to you.. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 39b6a64 | The Dalai Lama has warned: 'Too many people have the Dharma only on their lips. Instead of using the Dharma to destroy their own negative thoughts, they regard the Dharma as a possession and themselves as the owner. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 3a0b39b | I often think of the words of the great Buddhist master Padmasambhava: "Those who believe they have plenty of time get ready only at the time of death. Then they are ravaged by regret. But isn't it far too late?" What more chilling commentary on the modern world could there be than most people die unprepared for death, as they have lived, unprepared for life?" | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| b11e03a | People will die as they have lived, as themselves. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| b298c74 | Taking impermanence truly to heart is to be slowly freed from the idea of grasping, from our flawed and destructive view of permanence, from the false passion for security on which we have built everything. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 06bd87f | We are acting as if we were the last generation on the planet. Without | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 3b29f38 | William Blake: He who binds to himself a Joy, Does the winged life destroy; He who kisses the Joy as it flies, Lives in Eternity's sunrise.7 | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 66ba596 | When we are at last freed from the body that has defined and dominated our understanding of ourselves for so long, the karmic vision of one life is completely exhausted, but any karma that might be created in the future has not yet begun to crystallize. So what happens in death is that there is a "gap" or space that is fertile with vast possibility; it is a moment of tremendous, pregnant power where the only thing that matters, or could mat.. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 5b12e71 | Planning for the future is like going fishing in a dry gulch; Nothing ever works out as you wanted, so give up all your schemes and ambitions. If you have got to think about something-- Make it the uncertainty of the hour of your death | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| e65d577 | We need to make a very clear distinction between what is in our ego's self-interest and what is in our ultimate interest; it is from mistaking one for the other that all our suffering comes. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 85a81b6 | Our society promotes cleverness instead of wisdom, and celebrates the most superficial, harsh, and least useful aspects of our intelligence. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 6c9d04c | responsabilite. Parfois, lorsque la porte de la cellule s'ouvre, le prisonnier choisit de ne pas s'evader. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 599ddbe | learning to live is learning to let go | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 947093a | Let's try an experiment. Pick up a coin. Imagine that it represents the object at which you are grasping. Hold it tightly clutched in your fist and extend your arm, with the palm of your hand facing the ground. Now if you let go or relax your grip, you will lose what you are clinging onto. That's why you hold on. But there's another possibility: You can let go and yet keep REFLECTION AND CHANGE 35 hold of it. With your arm still outstretch.. | Sogyal Rinpoche | ||
| 628feb9 | You see, love for the victim demanded struggle, while love for the opponent ruled out doing harm. But in fact, love for the opponent likewise demanded struggle. Why? Because by hurting others, the oppressor also hurts himself. Of course, the oppressor isn't likely to be aware of that. He may be thoroughly enjoying his power and wealth. But beneath all that, his injustice is cutting him off from his fellow humans and from his own deeper self.. | Mark Shepard | ||
| 31fb6d7 | I must warn you against the impression that mine is the final word on nonviolence. All I claim is that every experiment of mine has deepened my faith in nonviolence as the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. | Mark Shepard | ||
| 33ee509 | Earth provides enough to satisfy every man's need, but not every man's greed. Gandhi | Mark Shepard | ||
| 72e74bc | Gandhi's most decisive influence on his opponents was more indirect than direct. | Mark Shepard |