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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 06ee3ac | She felt as if she had somehow failed him and herself by allowing his mother's behavior to upset her. She should be above it; she should shrug it off as the ranting of a village woman; she should not keep thinking of all the retorts she could have made instead of just standing mutely in that kitchen. But she was upset, and made even more so by Odenigbo's expression, as if he could not believe she was not quite as high-minded as he had thoug.. | relationships emotions failure | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| 1242606 | But Kimberly's unhappiness was inward, unacknowledged, shielded by her desire for things to be as they should, and also by hope: she believed in other people's happiness because it meant that she, too, might one day have it. Laura's unhappiness was different, spiky, she wished that everyone around her were unhappy because she had convinced herself that she would always be. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 7b58505 | there was an impatience in her tone, almost an accusation, as she added that academics were not intellectuals; they were not curious, they built their stolid tents of specialized knowledge and stayed securely in them. | intellectuals | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| 368f208 | They said "soon" to each other often, and "soon" gave their plan the weight of something real." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| fe39252 | Today we live in a vastly different world. The person more qualified to lead is not the physically stronger person. It is the more intelligent, the more knowledgeable, the more creative, more innovative. And there are no hormones for those attributes. A man is likely as a woman to be intelligent, innovative, creative. We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| b1605b8 | In secondary school, a boy and a girl go out, both of them teenagers with meager pocket money. Yet the boy is expected to pay the bills, always, to prove his masculinity. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| c0ad757 | But by far the worst thing we do to males--by making them feel they have to be hard--is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 182a268 | When your uncle first married me, I worried because I thought those women outside would come and displace me from my home. I now know that nothing he does will make my life change. My life will only change if I want it to change. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 529fd08 | Some people can take up too much space by simply being, that by existing, some people can stifle others. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e8e8f69 | Why should a woman's success be a threat to a man? What if we decide to simply dispose of that word--and I don't know if there is an English word I dislike more than this--emasculation. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e2b9e83 | For me, feminism is always contextual. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 67c396d | Make dressing a question of taste and attractiveness instead of a question of morality. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| cdcd6c1 | Her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and looking out | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 6760bf1 | If we ran Nigeria like this cell," he said, "we would have no problems in this country. Things are so organized. Our cell has a Chief called General Abacha and he has a second in command. Once you come in, you have to give them some money. If you don't, you're in trouble." | irony cell-one nnamabia | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| fe18234 | Like how the government of General Abacha was using its foreign policy to legitimize itself in the eyes of other African countries. | legitimacy | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| 7495990 | The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. ... If we stopped conditioning women to see marriage as a prize, then we would have fewer debates about a wife needing to cook in order to earn that prize. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 601685c | And, in the pride in her eyes, he saw a shinier, better version of himself. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| edb9db4 | They also found a burial chamber, didn't they?' Richard asked. 'Yes.' 'Do you think it was used by the king?' Pa Anozie gave Richard a long, pained look and mumbled something for a while, looking grieved. Emeka laughed before he translated. 'Papa said he thought you were among the white people who know something. He said the people of Igboland do not know what a king is. We have priests and elders. The burial place was maybe for a priest. B.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 819425c | My life had become a helluva plot that could give Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie another New York Times bestseller. | S. A. David | ||
| 3192396 | she thought that the romance novelists were wrong and it was men, not women, who were the true romantics. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 23a6c13 | he lived in London indeed but invisibly, his existence like an erased pencil sketch | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 9a7d991 | To clarify, when white people say dark they mean Greek or Italian but when black people say dark they mean Grace Jones.) | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 8b82121 | You must nod back when a black person nods at you in a heavily white area. It is called the black nod. It is a way for black people to say "You are not alone, I am here too." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e792025 | Gender as it functions today is a grave injustice. I am angry. We should all be angry. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 781a166 | But by far the worst thing we do to males - by making them feel they have to be hard - is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 903937c | We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don't teach boys to care about being likable. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 1c6c06c | they have been raised to expect so little of men that the idea of men as savage beings with no self-control is somehow acceptable. We | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| a61c5a3 | You can't even read American fiction to get a sense of how actual life is lived these days. You read American fiction to learn about dysfunctional white folk doing things that are weird to normal white folk. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| fd7fc62 | Ogbenyealu is a common name for girls and you know what it means? 'Not to Be Married to a Poor Man.' To stamp that on a child at birth is capitalism at its best." Richard" | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 9003d4a | Ugwu had saved them, the same way he saved old sugar cartons, bottle corks, even yam peels. It came with never having had much, she knew, the inability to let go of things, even things that were useless. So when she was in the kitchen with him, she talked about the need to keep only things that were useful, and she hoped he would not ask her how the fresh flowers, then, were useful. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 2259eb0 | Even at ten you knew that some people can take up too much space by simply being, that by existing, some people can stifle others. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e5c3071 | said. "I'm fine. I have a granola bar," Ifemelu said. She had some baby carrots in a Ziploc, too, although all she had snacked on so far was her melted chocolate. "What bar?" Aisha asked. Ifemelu showed her the bar, organic, one hundred percent whole grain with real fruit. "That not food!" Halima scoffed, looking away from the television. "She here fifteen years, Halima," Aisha said, as if the length of years in America explained Ifemelu's .. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| d090193 | Aokpe will always be special because it was the reason Kambili and Jaja first came to Nsukka. | page-275 purple-hibiscus | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| 3115966 | I will advise you to wait until you are at least in the university, wait until you own yourself a little more. Do you understand?" "Yes," Ifemelu said. She did not know what "own yourself a little more" meant." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| a85fe95 | They do not doubt their presence here, these students. They believe they should be here, they have earned it and thay are paying for it. Au fond, they have bought us all. It is the key to America's greatness, this hubris, | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 1f3951f | He expected her to feel what she did not know how to feel. There were things that existed for him that she could not penetrate. With his close friends, she often felt vaguely lost. They were youngish and well-dressed and righteous, their sentences filled with "sort of," and "the ways in which"; they gathered at a bar every Thursday, and sometimes one of them had a dinner party, where Ifemelu mostly listened, saying little, looking at them i.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 471b27e | Race is totally overhyped these days, black people need to get over themselves, it's all about class now, the haves and the have-nots, | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 74acb36 | He said, 'Ifemelu is a fine babe but she is too much trouble. She can argue. She can talk. She never agrees. But Ginika is just a sweet girl.' " He paused, then added, "He didn't know that was exactly what I hoped to hear. I'm not interested in girls that are too nice." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 4b52117 | O problema da questao de generos e que ela prescreve como devemos ser em vez de reconhecer como somos. Seriamos bem mais felizes, mais livres para sermos quem realmente somos, se nao tivessemos o peso das expectativas do genero. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 5e15cbe | He told me that people were saying my novel was feminist, and his advice to me--he was shaking his head sadly as he spoke--was that I should never call myself a feminist since feminists are women who are unhappy because they cannot find husbands. So I decided to call myself a Happy Feminist. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| c295dbe | Of course much of this was tongue-in-cheek, but what it shows is how that word feminist is so heavy with baggage, negative baggage: You hate men, you hate bras, you hate African culture, you think women should always be in charge, you don't wear makeup, you don't shave, you're always angry, you don't have a sense of humor, you don't use deodorant. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 548b9d3 | And when, all those years ago, I looked the word up in the dictionary, it said: Feminist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 9bb5d45 | I often wear clothes that men don't like or don't "understand." I wear them because I like them and because I feel good in them. The "male gaze," as a shaper of my life's choices, is largely incidental." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 290a526 | They expected certain things of her, and forgave certain things from her, because she was foreign. Once, sitting with them in a bar, she heard Curt talking to Brad, and Curt said "blowhard." She was struck by the word, by the irredeemable Americanness of it. Blowhard. It was a word that would never occur to her. To understand this was to realize that Curt and his friends would, on some level, never be fully knowable to her." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |