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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 05ec7ac | In a gentle way, you can shake the world. --MAHATMA GANDHI | Susan Cain | ||
| 9556e2b | This style of teaching reflects the business community," one fifth-grade teacher in a Manhattan public school told me, "where people's respect for others is based on their verbal abilities, not their originality or insight. You have to be someone who speaks well and calls attention to yourself. It's an elitism based on something other than merit." "Today the world of business works in groups, so now the kids do it in school," a third-grade .. | Susan Cain | ||
| 74027f0 | Drowsy extroverts behind the wheel should be especially careful--at least until they increase their arousal levels by chugging coffee or cranking up the radio. Conversely, introverts driving in loud, overly arousing traffic noise should work to stay focused, since the noise may impair their thinking. | Susan Cain | ||
| b276ffd | A man has as many social selves as there are distinct groups of persons about whose opinion he cares. He generally shows a different side of himself to each of these different groups. --WILLIAM JAMES | Susan Cain | ||
| 8db1a15 | It's not enough," one senior manager at Eastman Kodak told the author Daniel Goleman, "to be able to sit at your computer excited about a fantastic regression analysis if you're squeamish about presenting those results to an executive group." (Apparently it's OK to be squeamish about doing a regression analysis if you're excited about giving speeches.)" | Susan Cain | ||
| 0b9524a | He also suggests "No-Talk Thursdays," one day a week in which employees aren't allowed to speak to each other." | Susan Cain | ||
| 6c9aa9e | human extroverts have more sex partners than introverts do--a boon to any species wanting to reproduce itself--but they commit more adultery and divorce more frequently, which is not a good thing for the children of all those couplings. Extroverts exercise more, but introverts suffer fewer accidents and traumatic injuries. Extroverts enjoy wider networks of social support, but commit more crimes. | Susan Cain | ||
| 6daca87 | In fact, some scientists are starting to explore the idea that reward-sensitivity is not only an interesting feature of extroversion; it is what makes an extrovert an extrovert. Extroverts, in other words, are characterized by their tendency to seek rewards, from top dog status to sexual highs to cold cash. | Susan Cain | ||
| 1594d22 | Tocqueville saw that the life of constant action and decision which was entailed by the democratic and businesslike character of American life put a premium upon rough and ready habits of mind, quick decision, and the prompt seizure of opportunities--and that all this activity was not propitious for deliberation, elaboration, or precision in thought. --RICHARD HOFSTADTER, IN Anti-Intellectualism in America | Susan Cain | ||
| 44b95d3 | I could literally go years without having any friends except for my wife and kids," he says. "Look at you and me. You're one of my best friends, and how many times do we actually talk--when you call me! I don't like socializing." | Susan Cain | ||
| ba2cef2 | Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory. They're associated with high staff turnover. They make people sick, hostile, unmotivated, and insecure. Open-plan workers are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure and elevated stress levels and to get the flu; they argue more with their colleagues; they worry about coworkers eavesdropping on their phone calls and spying on their computer screens. They have.. | Susan Cain | ||
| f6b3f2c | If you force extroverts to pause, says Newman, they'll do just as well as introverts at the numbers game. | Susan Cain | ||
| 65f7499 | Extroverts get better grades than introverts during elementary school, but introverts outperform extroverts in high school and college. | Susan Cain | ||
| 1267c1c | Introverts are not smarter than extroverts. According to IQ scores, the two types are equally intelligent. And on many kinds of tasks, particularly those performed under time or social pressure or involving multitasking, extroverts do better. Extroverts are better than introverts at handling information overload. | Susan Cain | ||
| 8e81fe9 | kids stop learning when they feel emotionally threatened. | Susan Cain | ||
| 32c8de4 | Greeters wearing UPW T-shirts and ecstatic smiles line the entrance, springing up and down, fists pumping. You can't get inside without slapping them five. I know, because I try. | Susan Cain | ||
| d301ae3 | by creating as many "restorative niches" as possible in your daily life. "Restorative niche" is Professor Little's term for the place you go when you want to return to your true self." | Susan Cain | ||
| 41d7e5c | Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory. They're associated with high staff turnover. They make people sick, hostile, unmotivated, and insecure. Open-plan workers are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure and elevated stress levels and to get the flu; they argue more with their colleagues; | Susan Cain | ||
| 6b3957b | My impression of you," Professor Ni told Raj gently, "is that I can give you a lot of work to do, but I don't have to pay much attention to you. Remember, in Silicon Valley, you can be the smartest, most capable person, but if you can't express yourself aside from showing your work, you'll be underappreciated. Many foreign-born professionals experience this; you're a glorified laborer instead of a leader." | Susan Cain | ||
| 5a7fede | In our culture, guilt is a tainted word, but it's probably one of the building blocks of conscience. The anxiety these highly sensitive toddlers feel upon apparently breaking the toy gives them the motivation to avoid harming someone's plaything the next time. | Susan Cain | ||
| 045bfd9 | When introverts hit the number nine button and find they've lost a point, they slow down before moving on to the next number, as if to reflect on what went wrong. But extroverts not only fail to slow down, they actually speed up. | Susan Cain | ||
| 329c243 | If you're an introvert, find your flow by using your gifts. You have the power of persistence, the tenacity to solve complex problems, and the clear-sightedness to avoid pitfalls that trip others up. You enjoy relative freedom from the temptations of superficial prizes like money and status. Indeed, your biggest challenge may be to fully harness your strengths. You may be so busy trying to appear like a zestful, reward-sensitive extrovert t.. | Susan Cain | ||
| cbcfdf0 | Train yourself to spend energy on what's truly meaningful to you instead of on activities that look like they'll deliver a quick buzz of money or status or excitement. Teach yourself to pause and reflect when warning signs appear that things aren't working out as you'd hoped. Learn from your mistakes. Seek out counterparts (from spouses to friends to business partners) who can help rein you in and compensate for your blind spots. | Susan Cain | ||
| 7c2d163 | Another study, of 38,000 knowledge workers across different sectors, found that the simple act of being interrupted is one of the biggest barriers to productivity. | Susan Cain | ||
| 8567f3a | Most leading in a corporation is done in small meetings and it's done at a distance, through written and video communications, | Susan Cain | ||
| cd1eea6 | Potential clients would walk out of Charlie's office scared | Susan Cain | ||
| 2da72db | Success in investing doesn't correlate with IQ," he has said. "Once you have ordinary intelligence, what you need is the temperament to control the urges that get other people into trouble in investing." | Susan Cain | ||
| 9a1f1df | the medium is not always the message; and that people followed Moses because his words were thoughtful, not because he spoke them well. | Susan Cain | ||
| 1b21e8f | men regarded ability in speaking as a peculiar gift, needed only by the lawyer, clergyman, or statesman. Today we have come to realize that it is the indispensable weapon of those who would forge ahead in the keen competition of business. | Susan Cain | ||
| e96e322 | Extroverts tend to tackle assignments quickly. They make fast (sometimes rash) decisions, and are comfortable multitasking and risk-taking. They enjoy "the thrill of the chase" for rewards like money and status." | Susan Cain | ||
| 649b827 | Our personalities also shape our social styles. Extroverts are the people who will add life to your dinner party and laugh generously at your jokes. They tend to be assertive, dominant, and in great need of company. Extroverts think out loud and on their feet; they prefer talking to listening, rarely find themselves at a loss for words, and occasionally blurt out things they never meant to say. They're comfortable with conflict, but not wit.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 309627c | You wouldn't be reading this book if I hadn't convinced my publisher that I was enough of a pseudo-extrovert to promote it.) | Susan Cain | ||
| 2cf4605 | In the Culture of Character, the ideal self was serious, disciplined, and honorable. What counted was not so much the impression one made in public as how one behaved in private. The word personality didn't exist in English until the eighteenth century, and the idea of "having a good personality" was not widespread until the twentieth. But when they embraced the Culture of Personality, Americans started to focus on how others perceived them.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 0f917f7 | So what was the dierence between Alison and Jillian? Both were pseudo-extroverts, and you might say that Alison was trying and failing where Jillian was succeeding. But Alison's problem was actually that she was acting out of character in the service of a project she didn't care about. She didn't love the law. She'd chosen to become a Wall Street litigator because it seemed to her that this was what powerful and successful lawyers did, so h.. | Susan Cain | ||
| e13a681 | Understanding your sweet spot can increase your satisfaction in every arena of your life, but it goes even further than that. Evidence suggests that sweet spots can have life-or-death consequences. | Susan Cain | ||
| 04f6c72 | The word introvert is not a synonym for hermit or misanthrope. | Susan Cain | ||
| 1d2da2e | His hypothesis was that extroverted leaders enhance group performance when employees are passive, but that introverted leaders are more effective with proactive employees. | Susan Cain | ||
| 0d896f6 | Solve problems, make art, think deeply. | life life-philosophy introversion make-art solve-problems think-deeply thinking | Susan Cain | |
| 21f52da | We tend to think of coolness as a pose that you strike with a pair of sunglasses, a nonchalant attitude, and drink in hand. But maybe we didn't choose these social accessories at random. Maybe we've adopted dark glasses, relaxed body language, and alcohol as signifiers precisely because they camouflage signs of a nervous system on overdrive. Sunglasses prevent others from seeing our eyes dilate with surprise or fear; we know from Kagan's wo.. | Susan Cain | ||
| d160256 | Conviction is conviction, at whatever decibel level it is expressed. | Susan Cain | ||
| e628a64 | According to Jay Belsky, a leading proponent of this view and a psychology professor and child care expert at the University of London, the reactivity of these kids' nervous systems makes them quickly overwhelmed by childhood adversity, but also able to benefit from a nurturing environment more than other children do. In other words, orchid children are more strongly affected by all experience, both positive and negative. Scientists have kn.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 2a24840 | You may be so busy trying to appear like a zestful, reward-sensitive extrovert that you undervalue your own talents, or feel underestimated by those around you. But when you're focused on a project that you care about, you probably find that your energy is boundless. | Susan Cain | ||
| 6922553 | Many introver- ted kids grow up to have excellent so- cial skills, although they tend to join groups in their own way--waiting a while before they plunge in, or particip- ating only for short periods. That's OK. Your child needs to acquire social skills and make friends, not turn into the most gregarious student in school. This doesn't mean that popularity isn't a lot of fun. You'll probably wish it for him, just as you might wish that he h.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 7000d04 | Everything in the service involved communication," he says with gentle exasperation. "Greeting people, the lengthy sermon, the singing. There was no emphasis on quiet, liturgy, ritual, things that give you space for contemplation." | Susan Cain |