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4eee6e3 We are changed by the things we experience. The big things, the small things have their impact and can't be undone. To judge those experiences, to hate the things that have happened to us is to hate who we've become because of them. Lisa Unger
c54623e We don't choose where we come from, Marshall. And we often have little to say about what happens to us. But the adult understands that he and he alone is responsible for his life. You have choices now, choices that will affect your future. Lisa Unger
7821d80 Daily, she forgave his flaws, just as she knew he forgave hers. Maybe that alone was the foundation of a good marriage, an endless willingness to forgive and to love in spite of ourselves, an ability to ride the highs and endure the lows, the decision to always go home. She Lisa Unger
6da9a20 She'd spun a web around Maggie's son without his knowing it, without even perhaps her intention. Spider silk was stronger than chain if you happened to be a fly. There Lisa Unger
e925260 But there was something more true, more solid about loving someone through change. Lisa Unger
30466bb The years grew over that embrace like a vine. Lisa Unger
2dc6fe1 But words are all we have, their essence the only passage into our centers, the only way we can make people feel what we feel Lisa Unger
799f040 Sarah's death and how it haunted you, how you were swallowed by your guilt. But your mother was at least partially responsible for how you handled that situation as well. Let's not forget that you were just a kid. With the right guidance, you might have come through that incident better." Jones" Lisa Unger
d81fe8a As far as Eloise was concerned, there were only two ways of being in the world. You either walked through life acting out of love, or you acted out of fear. Lisa Unger
6f3bab7 There was and always had been a drive within me to know the truth of things. Lisa Unger
d31e50a Finley felt a fresh wash of tears, a desire to run toward Eloise, to cling and to hold on. But she didn't. She had already learned the most important lesson Eloise had to teach, though it still hurt like hell: Fear holds on. Love lets go. "Yes," Lisa Unger
4009c0b They just want to be heard. They just want us to listen to their stories. Are Lisa Unger
a3e365d Something about her called away a piece of him, and it floated through the air and she breathed it in, and it was forever lost to her. Lisa Unger
67fb6ab I've had my fill of cool, Willow. These days it's kindness, honesty, and stability that impress me. Lisa Unger
5a49750 Character gives us qualities, but it is in actions--what we do--that we are happy or the reverse.... All human happiness and misery take the form of action. --ARISTOTLE Writing Lisa Unger
86d01a5 Millions of spiritual creatures walk the earth Unseen, both when we wake and when we sleep. --John Milton, Paradise Lost Lisa Unger
64be734 What had amazed him, what amazed him still, even after all these years, was how quickly he'd stepped out of himself. He'd slipped off every convention and moral that had defined him, a great cowl that fell to the floor with the unfastening of a single closure. The person beneath it was someone he barely recognized. Lisa Unger
0d0f778 Fear holds on. Love lets go. "Yes," Lisa Unger
c07324e But then again, we're all on death row, aren't we? Most of us just don't know it. Lisa Unger
30fd3c8 Who you marry, what you choose as your profession, how you were raised--yes, that is the big picture. But, as they say, the devil's in the details. Lisa Unger
7d4b91b I love the way Beck loves. If everyone loved like she did, the world would be a better place. Lisa Unger
603d736 People who kill themselves generally suffer from severe clinical depression," I said. "Their reasons for choosing suicide are not always rational. It's often a chemical imbalance that leads them to the choice." Lisa Unger
d1952be You can't squeeze blood from a stone. You can try, but you do all the bleeding. Lisa Unger
223e546 Emily thought maybe it was simpler than that: Some people gave money instead of love because it was all they had to give. A full bank account and a life of good deeds achieved with money didn't mean a full heart or a giving soul--often just the opposite. Lisa Unger
dd4513a No one ever talks about issues like dissociative identity disorder, fugue, or psychotic breaks in anything but the most negative light. No one ever talks about how the personality does this type of thing to protect itself, to save itself, or how powerful and effective it is." I" Lisa Unger
f69c798 When I look back on my life, I marvel at how it hasn't been the major decisions that have most impacted its course. It's been the tiny, seemingly inconsequential ones. Think about it. Think about the sudden events that have affected your life. With most of them, wasn't it just a matter of seconds one way or the other? Wasn't it the little decisions that caused you to cross this street or that, to move yourself into or out of harm's way? The.. Lisa Unger
8019329 I agree. I have a therapist now, one with whom I'm actually honest, and we've been over the events of my life again and again--rehashing without judgment the things I've done, the things that have been done to me, and how I ultimately saved myself. Lisa Unger
f1be722 Anger is not the absence of love. Anger broke you apart. Love and anger wrap around each other and becomes one living thing inside your heart. Lisa Unger
300c08b Eloise knew that it was so much more complicated than that. There are no trades in this life, and depression is a dark, dark doorway some people have no choice but to walk through. Lisa Unger
96b9c65 Somehow I escaped punishment in that life, and so now, lifetimes later, a very special kind of hell is being rained down on me, the full rage of karmic justice. Lisa Unger
bc13698 He's dead, Annie. But as long as you haven't dealt with the memories of the things he has done to you, he'll live on. We'll always have to face these times when you think he's returned for you. You'll never be free." It" Lisa Unger
9caa40f It was a funny, impossible little trap of nature, motherhood. It muddled your brain with floods of hormones and sleep deprivation, kept you constantly busy tending to a million needs, had you forever thinking about the care of others. You could disappear into motherhood, forget completely that once upon a time you were an athlete, a graduate student, that you had ambitions to go into politics, change the world. That once upon a time you wan.. Lisa Unger
484d022 Wasn't there some belief about how if you drop a frog into boiling water, it will jump right out? But if you put it in cold water and turn up the heat gradually, it will allow itself to slowly cook to death? Lisa Unger
c5cc7c1 There were 9,780 living souls populating The Hollows. There were good people and bad ones, people with secrets and dark appetites, happy people, and people buckling under the weight of grief and sorrow. There were people who were looking for things and loved ones they had lost, and people hiding. There were lost people, trying to find their way home. Each of them was connected to the others in ways that were obvious or as hidden as the aban.. Lisa Unger
aa68656 But that was the hypocrisy of adulthood: You never wanted the children you cared about to do things you'd done when you were heedless of the fragility of life. Lisa Unger
0ad223f I was about to leave when my flashlight caught something. A bright white envelope tacked on the board among the yellowed and faded detritus. It had my name on it in the child's printed hand, which was now familiar to me. I walked over quickly and grabbed it down. Instead of ripping it open, I stuck it inside my jacket. I suddenly had a strong urge to get the hell out of there. But as I moved toward the door, I saw a large dark form pass in .. Lisa Unger
91c3593 DEPRESSION IS NOT dramatic, but it is total. It's sneaky--you almost don't notice it at first. Like a cat burglar, it comes in through an open window while you're sleeping. It takes little things at first: your appetite, your desire to return phone calls. Then it comes back for the big stuff, like your will to live. The next thing you know, your legs are filled with sand. The thought of brushing your teeth fills you with dread, it seems lik.. Lisa Unger
c8fd989 Or she could listen to that other voice, the voice that wasn't a voice but something so deep, so indivisible from her own consciousness that it didn't have sound. Lisa Unger
6144641 Her mother always said that when you were sad or worried or angry, that you had to do something. Anything. Go for a walk. Make cookies. Draw a picture. Clean your room. Never just lie there and feel sad or mad, because those feelings become like weights, holding you down, and they only get heavier, and you only get less likely to move them. Lisa Unger
fb74a85 Let's love our girls well and protect their spirits, Introduce them to their own strength and power, and Keep them as bright and beautiful as the day they were born. Lisa Unger
aba4ccf Most of us don't live in the present tense. We dwell in a mental place where our regrets and grudges from our past compete with our fears about the future. Sometimes we barely notice what's going on around us, we're so busy time traveling. Before Victory was born, I could spend whole days trying to sort out the things that have happened to me, the terrible mistakes I've made. I marinated in my anger and self-loathing, cataloged all the diff.. Lisa Unger
cf74b16 The rich and vivid imagining that served her so well on the page was torture in her real life sometimes, if she let her thoughts sweep her away. Lisa Unger
20918d3 It's never one thing that leads to a tragic accident, she was sure she'd read once--though she couldn't say where. It's usually seven things--seven mistakes, or errors in judgment, or acts of negligence. If you reverse engineer any major disaster--oil spill or train derailment or airplane crash--there are usually seven things that had to go wrong in order for them to occur. Lisa Unger
d3ecd38 Hateful feelings could crop up in a marriage, like weeds pushing their way through concrete. If you weren't vigilant, they took over quickly, like kudzu, depriving love of light and air until it withered and died. It was a slow, silent death, impossible to imagine in the heat of new love. Lisa Unger