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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 3a700f8 | One day she woke up and understood we are all in this together. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 431720a | We all want the same thing: to feel comfortable with our choices and to feel validated by those around us. So let's start by validating one another. Mothers who work outside the home should regard mothers who work inside the home as real workers. And mothers who work inside the home should be equally respectful of those choosing another option. A | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| d674150 | Not only do we learn more from failure than success, we learn more from bigger failures because we scrutinize them more closely. Long | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 944a922 | Option A is not available. So let's just kick the shit out of Option B." Life is never perfect. We all live some form of Option B. This book is to help us all kick the shit out of it." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 755fb11 | What helped him build resilience the most, he told me, was overcoming pervasiveness: "Extreme compartmentalization may be my biggest superpower," he said, laughing. If a project doesn't turn out the way he wanted, Byron remembers that things could always be worse. "I say to myself and to others all the time, 'Is anyone gonna die?' That's the worst--I'm not afraid of failure." Byron" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 09472fa | I'm giving you these comments because I have very high expectations and I know that you can reach them." Now" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| d8aae82 | A day of | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7c23e0c | She was undergoing daily radiation treatments, which were physically draining and made her forgetful. "In any version of picturing this moment--that fantasy of what you want to be--I would have been strong, smart, and inspiring confidence," she told me. "I wanted to be a role model in that perfect 'put together' sense. Instead, I told them I had cancer and would need their support." Their" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 2cec050 | He discovered that his own reaction to his disability influenced how others reacted, which meant he could control how he was perceived. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| aba0e41 | I turned to her and said, "I can't believe you are going through this again. How are you okay? How can you possibly be okay?" She said, "I didn't die. Mel did and Dave did, but I am alive. And I am going to live." She put her arm around me and said, "And you are going to live too." Then she completely stunned me by adding, "And you are not only going to live, but you are going to get remarried one day--and I am going to be there to celebrat.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 5e09150 | While they suffered an irreparable loss, my children are still fortunate. Nothing will bring their father back, but our circumstances have softened the blow. This is not the case for many children facing heartbreaking difficulties. Two out of ten U.S. children of all backgrounds live in poverty, and one-third of black and close to one-third of Latino children are poor. Forty-three percent of children of single mothers live in poverty. More .. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| f9be4d9 | We can start by helping children develop four core beliefs: (1) they have some control over their lives; (2) they can learn from failure; (3) they matter as human beings; and (4) they have real strengths to rely on and share. These | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 3d946c0 | I almost hate to say this, but I am the happiest I have ever been in my life," she told me. "Sometimes it takes going through something so awful to realize the beauty that is out there in this world." Brain" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| b5182d9 | Hundreds of studies have shown that children and adults recover more quickly when they realize that hardships aren't entirely their fault, don't affect every aspect of their lives, and won't follow them everywhere forever. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 53b7f2b | After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P's can stunt recovery: (1) personalization--the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness--the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence--the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| b5c9f1d | If a woman is competent, she does not seem nice enough. If a woman seems really nice, she is considered more nice than competent. Since people want to hire and promote those who are both competent and nice, this creates a huge stumbling block for women. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 4f0d81e | Most of the trip was a blur, but on the last day, I sat down for breakfast with several of the roommates, including Jeff King, who had been diagnosed years earlier with multiple sclerosis. Dave and I had discussed Jeff's illness many times with each other, but that morning I realized that I had never actually spoken with Jeff about it. Hello, Elephant. "Jeff," I said, "how are you? I mean, really, how are you? How are you feeling? Are you s.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| c945d9a | when something terrible happens, it can be important to consider how things could be worse. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 229edd5 | Although pundits and politicians, usually male, often claim that motherhood is the most important and difficult work of all, women who take time out of the workforce pay a big career penalty. Only 74 percent of professional women will rejoin the workforce in any capacity, and only 40 percent will return to full-time jobs.14 Those who do rejoin will often see their earnings decrease dramatically. Controlling for education and hours worked, w.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7b123d0 | Our culture needs to find a robust image of female success that is first, not male, and second, not a white woman on the phone, holding a crying baby. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 89d99fa | As psychologist David Caruso observes, "American culture demands that the answer to the question 'How are you?' is not just 'Good.'...We need to be 'Awesome.' " Caruso adds, "There's this relentless drive to mask the expression of our true underlying feelings." Admitting that you're having a rough time is "almost inappropriate." Anna" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| b976486 | To quote the Roman philosopher Seneca (and the song "Closing Time"): "Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| e5a1c2d | Employed mothers and fathers both struggle with multiple responsibilities, but mothers also have to endure the rude questions and accusatory looks that remind us that we're shortchanging both our jobs and our children. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 63444dd | He says "I love you" first, even when we respond with an indifferent shrug or the equivalent of a passing, "Oh, thanks." And in this we discover why it might be hard for us to move toward others: the one taking the initiative in the relationship--the one who loves most--is the one who risks humiliation." | Edward T. Welch | ||
| 60b6a5d | Baseball is too much a business to be a sport and too much a sport to be a business. | Baseball | ||
| c58ad6f | Cancer is another forbidden or "whisper" topic. I read about a writer named Emily McDowell who said the worst part of being diagnosed with lymphoma wasn't feeling sick from chemo or losing her hair. "It was the loneliness and isolation I felt when many of my close friends and family members disappeared because they didn't know what to say, or said the absolute wrong thing without realizing it." In response, Emily created "empathy cards." I .. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 6c5201a | That's the thing about faith...it helps you know that sooner or later this too shall pass. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7f8e2ee | True equality will only be achieved when we all fight the stereotypes that hold us back. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| a8ed300 | The famous Howard and Heidi experiment (referred to by Sheryl Sandberg in her 2013 book Lean In) shows that the higher men are rated on skills, the higher they are rated on likeability. The higher women are rated on skills, the lower they are rated on likeability. Neat, isn't it? | Jane Caro | ||
| 0581451 | It is a painful truth that one of the obstacles to more women gaining power has sometimes been women already in power. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 5563429 | Often without realising it, women internalise disparaging cultural attitudes and then echo them back. As a result, women are not just victims of sexist, they can also be perpetrators. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| da68239 | Of Yale alumni who had reached their forties by 2000, only 56 percent of the women remained in the workforce, compared with 90 percent of the men.13 This exodus of highly educated women is a major contributor to the leadership gap. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| f3a98e2 | When a couple announces that they are having a baby, everyone says, "Congratulations!" to the man and "Congratulations! What are you planning on doing about work?" to the woman. The broadly held assumption is that raising their child is her responsibility. In more than thirty years, this perception has changed very little. A survey of the Princeton class of 1975 found that 54 percent of the women foresaw work-family conflict compared to 26 .. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 75f5501 | talk that TED later named "Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders"). Very" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 52b15a8 | Even when you are in the darkest hours you can stay hopeful. That's the thing about faith...it helps you know that sooner or later this too shall pass." Last" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 721363e | Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| a8c5e28 | Option A is not available. So let's just kick the shit out of Option B. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 89e884f | I recommend adopting two concurrent goals: a long-term dream and an eighteen-month plan | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 259e455 | Moral elevation" describes the feeling of being uplifted by an act of uncommon goodness. Elevation brings out what Abraham Lincoln called "the better angels of our nature." Even in the face of atrocity, elevation leads us to look at our similarities instead of our differences. We see the potential for good in others and gain hope that we can survive and rebuild. We become inspired to express compassion and battle injustice. As Martin Luther.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 4793aa7 | Malala then shared her own gratitude story. She told us that after she was shot by the Taliban, her mother started giving her birthday cards dated from the beginning of her recovery. When Malala turned nineteen, the card said, "Happy 4th birthday." Her mother was reminding her daughter--and herself--that Malala was lucky to be alive. We" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| b389914 | We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change. --SHERYL SANDBERG, American technology company executive, activist, and author | Danielle Harlan | ||
| 345d367 | HAVING IT ALL." Perhaps the greatest trap ever set for women was the coining of this phrase. Bandied about in speeches, headlines, and articles, these three little words are intended to be aspirational but instead make all of us feel like we have fallen short." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| ef0c8e2 | In 1975, stay-at-home mothers spent an average of about eleven hours per week on primary child care (defined as routine caregiving and activities that foster a child's well-being, such as reading and fully focused play). Mothers employed outside the home in 1975 spent six hours doing these activities. Today, stay-at-home mothers spend about seventeen hours per week on primary child care, on average, while mothers who work outside the home s.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 5dda4a5 | One thing that helps is to remember that feedback, like truth, is not absolute. Feedback is an opinion, grounded in observations and experiences, which allows us to know what impression we make on others. The | Sheryl Sandberg |