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| b469a13 | As it was, they had never even managed a successful first date before their romance had gone the way of Romeo and Juliet's -- except that Romeo and Juliet didn't wake up the next day, leave the crypt and say, "Now what?" | Amelia Atwater-Rhodes | ||
| 29f41c1 | Now she was a killer, a mercenary. And that was all. | Amelia Atwater-Rhodes | ||
| 01e8a64 | You don't have to speak. Words fade," she whispered. "I know that better than anyone. Words are forgotten; they are regretted.Unnecessary. I know." | kiesha-ra wolfcry | Amelia Atwater-Rhodes | |
| 82651bd | Certainly, reading Post-Structuralist prose is a form of work, like jogging with a nail in your shoe. | Hugh Kenner | ||
| 8a3fc11 | One senses that Hegel was possible only in German, and finds it natural that Locke in a language where and precede should have arrived at the thing after sorting out its sensory qualities, whereas Descartes in a language where | Hugh Kenner | ||
| 5bfc086 | Lauren whirled her head around so quickly that the motion hurt her neck. Jared's hand came up and clamped the hat more firmly over his face. He adjusted his long body to another position, contracting and relaxing muscles that Lauren didn't know existed. But then, she had never seen a masculine physique like this before. His languid movements were repelling and thrilling at the same time. It was like watching some pagan god who was beautiful.. | Sandra Brown | ||
| 8a2461b | Lauren could smell the starch that kept Jared's shirtfront crisp, which blended intoxicatingly with tobacco and champagne. When he spoke in confidential tones to the silly woman, Lauren could feel the vibration of his voice in his chest. The bank director's wife moved away, and still Jared retained his possessive hold on her. His hand trembled slightly as his thumb moved upward and lightly stroked the side of her breast. Or did she only ima.. | Sandra Brown | ||
| 2615298 | Women readers aren`t turned on by nice heroes any more than male readers lust after heroines who are too virtuous.There should be at least a hint,maybe even a promise, of corruptibility. | Sandra Brown | ||
| 8b11922 | The intensity of his expression caused her to tentatively ask, "What?" "I've never been a big fan of the missionary position." Not quite sure how to respond to that, she said simply, "Oh." "I preferred making it any other way." "Why?" "Because it didn't have anything to do with getting off." "What didn't?" "Looking into the woman's face." He murmured the statement as though puzzled by it. Her throat grew tight. She reached up and stroked hi.. | Sandra Brown | ||
| 66ddaf8 | If he turned his hand into her and began stroking her there, she would wake up smiling and drowsy and ready for him again. They would kiss. Erotically. Her mouth would be so damn enticing, he'd dip into it again and again to gather the taste that was now familiar to him. He would touch his tongue to her nipples, and she'd rub her thumb around the tip of his cock and feel that he was about to burst, and then he'd be inside her, moving. Or ma.. | Sandra Brown | ||
| 27f54c7 | An affair? Jeff?" "You think it's beyond him?" "No, I just can't imagine him working up enough emotion or blood flow to get hard." | Sandra Brown | ||
| 0247887 | While we try to find out what happened to her, there's something you should keep in mind." Jess arched a brow. "Oh?" "If Hayes Bannock has your wife, you probably top his shit list. Be afraid." | Sandra Brown | ||
| bbdcfe1 | This notion that the leader needs to be "in charge" and to "know all the answers" is both dated and destructive. Its impact on others is the sense that they know less, and that they are less than. A recipe for risk aversion if ever I have heard it. Shame becomes fear. Fear leads to risk aversion. Risk aversion kills innovation." | Brené Brown | ||
| b241f3b | Until both men and women are allowed to be who we are rather than who we are supposed to be, it will be impossible to achieve freedom and equality. | Brené Brown | ||
| 3ec25ef | Don't squander joy. | Brené Brown | ||
| e5f0194 | The problem is that when we don't care at all what people think and we're immune to hurt, we're also ineffective at connecting. Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism. Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection. | Brené Brown | ||
| fdb56b2 | Without exception, spirituality--the belief in connection, a power greater than self, and interconnections grounded in love and compassion--emerged as a component of resilience. Most people spoke of God, but not everyone. Some were occasional churchgoers; others were not. Some worshipped at fishing holes; others in temples, mosques, or at home. Some struggled with the idea of religion; others were devout members of organized religions. The .. | Brené Brown | ||
| f96684c | As Kelly Rae so beautifully demonstrated, boundaries are simply our lists of what's okay and what's not okay. In fact, this is the working definition I use for boundaries today. It's so straightforward and it makes sense for all ages in all situations. When we combine the courage to make clear what works for us and what doesn't with the compassion to assume people are doing their best, our lives change. Yes, there will be people who violate.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 9b8e490 | Nothing serves as a better reminder of that than the immortal words of my friend Scott Stratten, author of UnMarketing: "Don't try to win over the haters; you're not the jackass whisperer." | Brené Brown | ||
| 0f41ee7 | Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering. I wanted to develop research that explained the anatomy of connection. | Brené Brown | ||
| 9d5f6e2 | Our unexpressed ideas, opinions, and contributions don't just go away. They are likely to fester and eat away at our worthiness. I think we should be born with a warning label similar to the ones that come on cigarette packages: Caution: If you trade in your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief. | Brené Brown | ||
| 2e3e9e0 | We don't need love and belonging and story-catching from everyone in our lives, but we need it from at least one person. If we have that one person or that small group of confidants, the best way to acknowledge these connections is to acknowledge our worthiness. If we're working toward relationships based in love, belonging, and story, we have to start in the same place: I am worthy. | Brené Brown | ||
| 9699ba1 | Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do, in order to have what you want. -- Margaret Young | Brené Brown | ||
| aff2e2c | eventually our anxiety is compounded and made unbearable by our belief that if we were just smarter, stronger, or better, we'd be able to handle everything. | Brené Brown | ||
| 940d5df | Theodore Roosevelt's powerful quote from his 1910 "Man in the Arena" speech: It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly;...who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst,.. | Brené Brown | ||
| d465ea4 | What's the difference between shame and guilt? The majority of shame researchers and clinicians agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" and "I did something bad." Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad. Shame is about who we are, and guilt is about our behaviors." | Brené Brown | ||
| 26155ba | Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. In terms of teaching our children to dare greatly in the "never enough" culture, the question isn't so much "Are you parenting the right way?" as it is: "Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?" -- | example parenting | Brené Brown | |
| 792a754 | We want to be part of something, but we need it to be real - not conditional or fake or constantly up for negotiation. | Brené Brown | ||
| 0a145a4 | Belonging is being somewhere where you want to be, and they want you. Fitting in is being somewhere where you want to be, but they don't care one way or the other. * Belonging is being accepted for you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else. * If I get to be me, I belong. If I have to be like you, I fit in. | Brené Brown | ||
| 4bcda48 | But as poet Mizuta Masahide wrote, "Barn's burnt down / now / I can see the moon." | Brené Brown | ||
| eb95db6 | I know that these examples are symptomatic of the cruelty culture that we live in today and that everyone is fair game, but think about how and what they chose to attack. They went after my appearance and my mothering--two kill shots taken straight from the list of feminine norms. They didn't go after my intellect or my arguments. That wouldn't hurt enough. | Brené Brown | ||
| 02730c9 | The opposite of "never enough" isn't abundance or "more than you could ever imagine." The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness." | Brené Brown | ||
| ae7bb94 | Conspiracy thinking is all about fear-based self-protection and our intolerance for uncertainty. | Brené Brown | ||
| d659df8 | Here's the bottom line: If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way--especially shame, fear, and vulnerability. | Brené Brown | ||
| 550766d | And, if that's not news enough, here's something else: Hope is learned! Snyder suggests that we learn hopeful, goal-directed thinking in the context of other people. Children most often learn hope from their parents. Snyder says that to learn hopefulness, children need relationships that are characterized by boundaries, consistency, and support. I think it's so empowering to know that I have the ability to teach my children how to hope. It'.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 4f00d66 | For many of us, our first response to vulnerability and pain of these sharp points is not to lean into the discomfort and feel our way through but rather to make it go away. | Brené Brown | ||
| 2409c9a | You may not have signed up for a hero's journey, but the second you fell down, got your butt kicked, suffered a disappointment, screwed up, or felt your heart break, it started. It doesn't matter whether we are ready for an emotional adventure--hurt happens. And it happens to every single one of us. Without exception. The only decision we get to make is what role we'll play in our own lives: Do we want to write the story or do we want to ha.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 1b86a47 | Empathy is a strange and powerful thing. There is no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It's simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of "You're not alone." | Brené Brown | ||
| 87b4a0a | Perfection is crucial in building an aircraft, a bridge, or a high-speed train. The code and mathematics residing just below the surface of the Internet is also this way. Things are either perfectly right or they will not work. So much of the world we work and live in is based upon being correct, being perfect. | Brené Brown | ||
| f1ec2cf | Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment's notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow - that's vulnerability. Love is uncertain. | Brené Brown | ||
| 5f1fe5d | There is a quiet transformation happening that is moving us from 'turning on each other' to 'turning toward each other.' Without question, that transformation will require shame resilience. If we're willing to dare greatly and risk vulnerability with each other, worthiness has the power to set us free. | vulnerability | Brené Brown | |
| ec1d800 | There is no intimacy without vulnerability. | Brené Brown | ||
| b94e217 | Comparative suffering is a function of fear and scarcity. Falling down, screwing up, and facing hurt often lead to bouts of second-guessing our judgment, our self-trust, and even our worthiness. I am enough can slowly turn into Am I really enough? If there's one thing I've learned over the past decade, it's that fear and scarcity immediately trigger comparison, and even pain and hurt are not immune to being assessed and ranked. My husband d.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 98eb087 | Because we are compelled to make stories, we are often compelled to take incomplete stories and run with them. | Brené Brown |