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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| d7e7674 | Hugging relieves stress, boosts feelings of closeness, and even squelches pain. In one study, people assigned to give five hugs each day for a month, aiming to hug as many different people as they could, became happier. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 8bb6ea4 | I wasn't sure how to answer. Could I tell him that one Secret of Adulthood is "Never start a sentence with the words 'No offense'"?" | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 001c427 | Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1f2b365 | If I feel anxious about the fact that I haven't started, I become even more reluctant to start, which just makes me more anxious. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 42475b8 | After someone's death, how strange to see the value drain away from his or her possessions; useful objects such as clothes, or dish towels, or personal papers become little more than trash. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| aa0d310 | When life was taking its ordinary course, it was hard to remember what really mattered. | inspirational | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 7affbef | Eventually, I decided to count my daily walk or cross-country ski as a treat--my time for myself in a day otherwise filled with responsibilities. Somehow, that made it much easier to make it a priority. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 66a959b | To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| a6df2b1 | exercise-induced brain chemicals help people think clearly. | Gretchen Craft Rubin | ||
| 0efb766 | My happiness project was both. I wanted to perfect my character, but given my nature, that would probably involve charts, deliverables, to-do lists, new vocabulary terms, and compulsive note taking. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| e113f09 | One day, I'd stop twisting my hair, and wearing running shoes all the time, and eating exactly the same food every day. I'd remember my friends' birthdays, I'd learn Photoshop, I wouldn't let my daughter watch TV during breakfast. I'd read Shakespeare. I'd spend more time laughing and having fun, I'd be more polite, I'd visit museums more often, I wouldn't be scared to drive. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fc0f1ac | I didn't want to be like the novelist who spent so much time rewriting his first sentence that he never wrote his second. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6da5066 | One of my most helpful Secrets of Adulthood is "What I do every day matters more than what I do once in a while." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6ae51e5 | For most people, whenever possible, important habits should be scheduled for the morning. Mornings tend to unfold in a predictable way, and as the day goes on, more complications arise-- | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 135dc80 | For instance, in The Artist's Way, her influential book about cultivating creativity, Julia Cameron suggests scheduling an "artist's date," | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9a53fc4 | Enthusiasm is more important to mastery than innate ability, it turns out, because the single most important element in developing an expertise is your willingness to practice. | Gretchen Craft Rubin | ||
| aeca1ac | I had everything I could possibly want--yet I was failing to appreciate it. Bogged down in petty complaints and passing crises, weary of struggling with my own nature, I too often failed to comprehend the splendor of what I had. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 5b3963f | severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6cc0fc7 | The happiest, healthiest, most productive people aren't those from a particular Tendency, but rather they're the people who have figured out how to harness the strengths of their Tendency, counteract the weaknesses, and build the lives that work for them. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| b485b27 | Many strategies help us change our habits, and four strategies tower above the others: Monitoring, Foundation, Scheduling, and Accountability. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 55c9597 | On Three Ways of Writing for Children": When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 2d92626 | I was surprised to learn from my research, however, that the well-known notion of anger catharsis is poppycock. There's no evidence for the belief that "letting off steam" is healthy or constructive. In fact, studies show that aggressively expressing anger doesn't relieve anger but amplifies it. On the other hand, not expressing anger often allows it to disappear without leaving ugly traces." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c2009cd | Just because we're doesn't mean we're being productive. Working is one of the most dangerous forms of procrastination. | procrastination working | Gretchen Rubin | |
| e76c00b | Having less often leads us to use our things more often and with more enjoyment, because we're not fighting our way through a welter of unwanted stuff. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f37316b | In the Strategy of Pairing, I couple two activities, one that I need or want to do, and one that I don't particularly want to do, to get myself to accomplish them both. It's not a reward, it's not a treat, it's just a pairing. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1bccc28 | For most of us, the real aim isn't to enjoy a few pleasures right now, but to build habits that will make us happy over the long term. Sometimes, that means giving up something in the present, or demanding more from ourselves. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 31dddcd | I started to apply the "one-minute rule"; I didn't postpone any task that could be done in less than one minute." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 7ac0df4 | For Rebels, the ability to choose is so important that sometimes they make a choice--even when it's against their own self-interest or it's not what they prefer--just to reassure themselves that they can make that choice. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 71e91e7 | Flawed can be more perfect than perfection. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 61ca833 | Because we're quite susceptible to "goal contagion," we may rapidly pick up someone else's habits, so it's helpful to be around people who are good role models." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 931a966 | One study estimated that for every hour of interrupted sleep during the previous night, people wasted 8.4 minutes in online puttering | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| ceeaa6a | The words of the writer Colette had haunted me for years: "What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 67f270f | One of the great joys of falling in love is the feeling that the MOST extraordinary person in the entire world has chosen YOU | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6e94794 | What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner. | inspirational | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 8df5ae6 | Getting in control of our possessions makes us feel more in control of our fates. If this is an illusion, it's a helpful illusion--and it's a more pleasant way to live. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| cf70ea2 | When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fa4f47c | Rebels aren't persuaded by arguments such as 'People are counting on you,' 'You've already paid for it'...'Things should be done this way,' 'You have an appointment,' 'You said you'd do it'...'It's against the rules,' 'It's a tradition,' 'This is the deadline,' or 'It's rude.' They're much more apt to respond to being told 'This will be fun,' 'This is what *you* want'...Rebels can do anything they *want* to do. | persuasion rebel rebellion resistant | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 0d8c864 | One of the biggest wastes of time is doing something well that didn't need to be done at all. | limited-time waste-of-time | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 5585db7 | It's easier to keep up than to catch up... | goals keep-going maintain stay-in-the-game | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 68e5ef2 | Being asleep is a great way to avoid being critical. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 55d5c5e | Gretchen Rubin The sense of thankfulness, appreciating the grandeur of everyday life, just the ordinary day, and really taking the time to take it in is absolutely crucial. And then when you have that thankfulness, so many other negative emotions get washed away--resentment, anger, grievances, and grudges--because you're just so thankful for what you have. Also, it's better with a sense of humor. It helps me keep my sense of humor, because .. | Oprah Winfrey | ||
| 7c837d2 | Outer order isn't a matter of having less or having more; it's a matter of wanting what we have. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 420fb95 | Rather than striving for a particular level of possessions--minimal or otherwise--it's helpful to think about getting rid of what's superfluous. Even people who prefer to own many possessions enjoy their surroundings more when they've purged everything that's not needed, used, or loved. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 25494fa | Actually spending ten minutes clearing off one shelf is better than fantasizing about spending a weekend cleaning out the basement. | Gretchen Rubin |