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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 88ea9c9 | It is strange, and perhaps sad, that medical doctors came up with this terminology when they are charged with first doing no harm. | feminismism obese obesity women | Roxane Gay | |
| bf504e8 | I step away as I notice a group of young, angry men walking toward us. I doubt that there is any particular reason for their anger. It is the anger that most men feel these days; they are angry about their impotence and their desires and their reality. It is an anger we all feel. But it is an anger only men can freely express. | men | Roxane Gay | |
| 9c34f9f | My heart received even less consideration than my body, so I tried to lock it away but never quite succeeded. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a580a1d | In my teens and early twenties, I often went clothes shopping with my mother and I could always see her dismay at where I am forced to shop. I could see that she wished her daughter had a different body. I could see her humiliation and frustration. ... I harbored no small amount of frustration, or anger, for her words, for her disappointment in me, for my inability to be a good daughter, for one more thing I couldn't have - the simple pleas.. | mothers-and-daughters | Roxane Gay | |
| fac752f | Like many writers, I lived inside of books as a child. | childhood reading writers | Roxane Gay | |
| 9d92b14 | The past is written on my body. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0d9994c | The ways in which I am my mother's daughter are infinite. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dcf423c | Every time I watch a yogurt commercial I think, my god, I want to be that happy. I really do. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 79e1a49 | If rape culture had a downtown, it would smell like Axe body spray and that perfume they put on tampons to make your vagina smell like laundry detergent. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8c99ba5 | Oprah goes on to talk about how weight problems are never just weight problems, that there is often more to the story. This is often indeed true, but self-actualization, the catharsis of confronting demons is not what Oprah is truly selling. Instead, she is telling us that our ultimate goal is this better (th)inner woman we're supposed to diet toward. We will have our better body, and her empire will continue to grow. | Roxane Gay | ||
| fabee85 | Or they say, "I know you don't like hugs, but I'm going to hug you anyway," and I have to dodge their incoming bodies as politely as I can. Why do we view the boundaries people create for themselves as challenges? Why do we see someone setting a limit and then try to push?" | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5031342 | I've been thinking about how so much testimony is demanded of women, and still, there are those who doubt our stories. There | Roxane Gay | ||
| 12e2bae | We were three hours from Chicago, so my blackness was less of a curiosity, more of a threat. And there were the black students on campus, the nerve of them, daring to pursue higher education. In the local newspaper, residents wrote angry letters about a new criminal element--the scourge of youthful black ambition, black joy. In my more generous moments, I tried to believe the locals were using anger to mask their fear of living in a dying t.. | eiu midwest-college-town | Roxane Gay | |
| b03a7b2 | Smoking felt good and always gave me a light buzz. Smoking also made me feel cool when I knew I was very, very uncool. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f1e7ae1 | All too often, when we see injustices, both great and small, we think, That's terrible, but we do nothing. We say nothing. We let other people fight their own battles. We remain silent because silence is easier. Qui | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3b707a4 | I lost my voice, but I had words. | words writer writing | Roxane Gay | |
| 659f7e2 | Anger is always reserved for someone else. And yet, I've been in a room who escaped a war, who lost her father in ethnic cleansing, whose mother burned her hair, whose cousin raped her. 'What right do I have to be angry, when I am alive?' she said. Anger is the privilege of the truly broken, and yet, I've never met a woman who was broken enough that she allowed herself to be angry. An angry woman must answer for herself. The reasons for her.. | feminism rape-culture | Roxane Gay | |
| eaa3fac | It makes perfect sense that many of us obsess over our bodies. There is nothing more inescapable. Our bodies moves us through our lives. They bring pleasure and pain. Sometimes our bodies serve us well, and other times our bodies become terribly inconvenient. There are times when our bodies betray us or our bodies are betrayed by others. I think about my body all the time--how it looks, how it feels, how I can make it smaller, what I should.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1fbaf65 | nostalgia is powerful and that power builds with time; it often reshapes our memories. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6187687 | Deal with your resentment. Deal with your biases. Vigorously resist the urge to dismiss the gender problem. Make the effort and make the effort and make the effort until you no longer need to, until we don't need to keep having this conversation. Change | Roxane Gay | ||
| 836de8d | It is far more important to discuss power than to exhaustively regurgitate the harmful cultural effects of power structures where women are consistently marginalized. We already know the effects. We live them and try to overcome them. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 251c0b5 | Celebrities understand the economy of thinness, and most of them are willing to participate in that economy, taking to social media, where they pose for selfies with their cheeks sucked in to make themselves appear even gaunter. The less space they take up, the more they matter. | Roxane Gay | ||
| cca3d23 | The problem with movements is that, all too often, they are associated only with the most visible figures, the people with the biggest platforms and the loudest, most provocative voices. But feminism is not whatever philosophy is being spouted by the popular media feminist flavor of the week, at least not entirely. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5f3a3a1 | Living in my body has expanded my empathy for other people and the truths of their bodies. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7da9a85 | I am a real survivor because I survived, even if some days it feels like I didn't survive at all. | survivor zoe-medeiros | Roxane Gay | |
| 552e138 | These are gifted adolescent women who don't get to be judged on their impressive talent: their bodies are already paramount to the work they want to do and it's only going to get worse. At sixteen these students are being judged on their sexual attractiveness. Their talent is a gift, but it is not enough. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 05d7a61 | Cooking reminds me that I am capable of taking care of myself and worthy of taking care of and nourishing myself. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a37d2f0 | I love being with someone who is endlessly interesting because we are so different. Wanting to belong to people or a person is not about finding a mirror image of myself. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 30494e3 | I knew how to make sense of complicated things, as long as they had nothing to do with me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a12067e | Everything was out of my control and I love control, so all my trigger points were being pressed at the exact same time. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 480bf1a | Buying into the notion of not that bad made me incredibly hard on myself for not "getting over it" fast enough as the years passed and I was still carrying so much hurt, so many memories. Buying into this notion made me numb to bad experiences that weren't as bad as the worst stories I heard. For years, I fostered wildly unrealistic expectations of the kinds of experiences worthy of suffering until very little was worthy of suffering. The s.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7ba11a4 | On bad days, though, I forget how to separate my personality, the heart of who I am, from my body. I forget how to shield myself from the cruelties of the world. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ccabae9 | What may be most terrifying is just how real reality television is, after all. We say we watch these shows to feel better about ourselves, to have that reassurance that we are not that desperate. We are not that green. But perhaps we watch these shows because in the green girls interrupted, we see more than anything, the plainest selections of ourselves, garishly exposed but unfettered. | green-girl reality self-reflection | Roxane Gay | |
| 11e8c44 | These kids didn't know how to read so I got them dictionaries, and because they were too shy to discuss literacy in meetings, they would catch me walking across campus or in my office and whisper, "I need help reading." It had never crossed my mind before that it was possible for a child to be educated in this country and make it to college unable to read at a college level. Shame on me, certainly, for being so ignorant about the galling di.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| e51bc87 | I wanted a relationship where I could be independent but loved and looked after at the same time. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0da48ed | Then, alone once more, he split himself into the three persons that all generals of the Church must simultaneously be. First, the anointed Peter, first Bishop of Christ, with all that that spiritually implied. Second, the militant guardian of the Church temporal with all that that implied. And last, just a simple man who believed the teachings of a simple man who was the Son of God. | jesuit religion | James Clavell | |
| f8af335 | For the last time: 'The law may upset reason but reason may never upset the law, or our whole society will shred like an old tatami. | James Clavell | ||
| a37297e | The earth's round, like an orange, but this map is like its skin, cut off in ovals, north to south, laid flat and stretched a bit at the top and bottom. A Dutchman called Mercator invented the way to do this accurately twenty years ago. It's the first accurate world map. | James Clavell | ||
| d09de39 | to think bad thoughts is really the easiest thing in the world." If you leave your mind to itself it will spiral you down into the ever-increasing unhappiness. To think good thoughts, however,requires effort. This is one of the things that discipline - training - is about. So, train your mind to dwell on sweet perfumes..." | positive-thoughts | James Clavell | |
| 92654c4 | Mariko,san, it was your karma to die gloriously and live forever. Anjin-san, my friend, it is your karma never to leave this land. It is mine to be Shogun. | James Clavell | ||
| 45c6ee4 | that to think bad thoughts is really the easiest thing in the world. If you leave your mind to itself it will spiral you down into ever-increasing unhappiness. To think good thoughts, however, requires effort. | James Clavell | ||
| 911777b | All comes to him who waits--and works. | James Clavell | ||
| 249ccf4 | and damned nomads in Mesopotamia have again cut the telegraph--another expeditionary force is being organized to deal with them once and for all! | James Clavell | ||
| 992ab42 | three big islands, Kyushu, Shikoku, and Honshu? And thousands of little ones. There's another island far to the north--some say it's the mainland--called Hokkaido, but only hairy natives | James Clavell |