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| 1654ffa | I thought resilience was the capacity to endure pain, so I asked Adam how I could figure out how much I had. He explained that our amount of resilience isn't fixed, so I should be asking instead how I could become resilient. Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity--and we can build it. It isn't about having a backbone. It's about strengthening the muscles around our backbone. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 9799000 | Done is better than perfect." I have tried to embrace this motto and let go of unattainable standards. Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 066ae73 | In fact, these "bad mother with a briefcase" images are so prevalent that writer Jessica Valenti collected them in a funny and poignant blog post called "Sad White Babies with Mean Feminist Mommies."25" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 932c532 | Most people, myself included, really want to be liked--and not just because it feels good. Being liked is also a key factor in both professional and personal success. A willingness to make an introduction or advocate for or promote someone depends upon having positive feelings about that person. We need to believe in her ability to do the job and get along with everyone while doing it. That's why, instinctively, many of us feel pressure to .. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| bae6353 | Professor Rosalind Chait Barnett of Brandeis University did a comprehensive review of studies on work-life balance and found that women who participate in multiple roles 36 actually have lower levels of anxiety and higher levels of mental well-being. Employed women reap rewards including greater financial security, more stable marriages, better health, and, in general, 37 increased life satisfaction. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 56dbf3d | I don't know anyone who has been handed only roses. We all encounter hardships. Some we see coming; others take us by surprise. It can be as tragic as the sudden death of a child, as heartbreaking as a relationship that unravels, or as disappointing as a dream that goes unfulfilled. The question is: When these things happen, what do we do next? I | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 4495ec5 | One thing that helps is to remember that feedback, like truth, is not absolute. Feedback is an opinion, grounded in observations and experiences, which allows us to know what impression we make on others. The information is revealing and potentially uncomfortable, which is why all of us would rather offer feedback to those who welcome it. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| d83b783 | Women face real obstacles in the professional world, including blatant and subtle sexism, | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| a9612b4 | When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. She's communal, right? She wants to help others. Professor Flynn calls this the "gender discount" problem, and it means that women are paying a professional penalty for their presumed desire to be communal.10 On the other hand, when a man helps a coworker, it's conside.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 8c92313 | It's a heady question, how women balance these concerns. Recently, the question has found its way back to the center of a contentious and very emotional debate. If you're Sheryl Sandberg, the chief operating officer of Facebook and author of Lean In, you believe that women should stop getting in their own way as they pursue their professional dreams--they should speak up, assert themselves, defend their right to dominate the boardroom and p.. | Jennifer Senior | ||
| dbccd8f | Now the stress dream was real. I was alone in my bed. Alone when my kids went on playdates. Just one hour in my house without them made me project into the future to when they would go off to college, leaving me behind. Would I be alone for the rest of my life? Marne | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| bf0b218 | women are not thinking about 'having it all,' they're worried about losing it all--their jobs, their children's health, their families' financial stability--because of the regular conflicts that arise between being a good employee and a responsible parent."34" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 21f070a | In order to protect ourselves from being disliked, we question our abilities and downplay our achievements, especially in the presence of others. We put ourselves down before others can. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| b0512f1 | The researchers speculated that men in traditional marriages are not overtly hostile toward women but instead are "benevolent sexists"--holding positive yet outdated views about women.10 (Another term I have heard is "nice guy misogynists.")" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7d8c0e3 | Acting in stereotypically feminine ways makes it difficult for women to reach for the same opportunities as men, but defying expectations and reaching for those opportunities leads to being judged as undeserving and selfish. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| cd7c91b | past my own feelings of guilt and insecurity, I feel grateful. These parents--mostly mothers--constitute a large amount of | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 2e44cf8 | when a husband and wife both are employed full-time, the mother does 40 percent more child care and about 30 percent more housework than the father.1 A 2009 survey found that only 9 percent of people in dual-earner marriages said that they shared housework, child care, and breadwinning evenly. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 2d4a7a6 | You take someone to the airport, it's clearly the beginning of the relationship. That's why I have never taken anyone to the airport at the beginning of a relationship. SALLY: Why? HARRY: Because eventually things move on and you don't take someone to the airport and I never wanted anyone to say to me, "How come you never take me to the airport anymore?" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 8b4e802 | Just as I believe everyone should have a long-term dream, I also believe everyone should have an eighteen-month plan. (I say eighteen months because two years seems too long and one year seems too short, but it does not have to be any exact amount of time.) Typically, my eighteen-month plan sets goals on two fronts. First and most important, I set targets for what my team can accomplish. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 860d70a | Second, I try to set more personal goals for learning new skills in the next eighteen months. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| d81a8a6 | Women need to shift from thinking "I'm not ready to do that" to thinking "I want to do that--and I'll learn by doing it." My" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7dfb173 | As a Facebook summer intern once told me, "In my school's computer science department, there are more Daves than girls." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| e24c86c | Research over the last forty years has consistently found that in comparison to children with less-involved fathers, children with involved and loving fathers have higher levels of psychological well-being and better cognitive abilities.14 When fathers provide even just routine child care, children have higher levels of educational and economic achievement and lower delinquency rates.15 Their children even tend to be more empathetic and soc.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| c1fd925 | But knowing that things could be worse should not stop us from trying to make them better. | graduates lean-in sheryl-sandberg world | Sheryl Sandberg | |
| da38c3a | The two things we want to know when we're in pain are that we're not crazy to feel the way we do and that we have support. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 7f7d546 | We hold ourselves back not just out of fear of seeming too aggressive but also by underestimating our abilities. Ask a woman to explain why she's successful and she'll credit luck, hard work, and help from others. Ask a man the same question and he's likely to explain, or at least think, "C'mon, I'm awesome!"4" -- | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 91c27f2 | Many have argued with me that ambition is not the problem. Women are not less ambitious than men, they insist, but more enlightened with different and more meaningful goals. I do not dismiss or dispute this argument. There is far more to life than climbing a career ladder, including raising children, seeking personal fulfillment, contributing to society, and improving the lives of others. And there are many people who are deeply committed t.. | women | Sheryl Sandberg | |
| 4ee29f3 | Assuming Sandberg's advice is completely useless for working-class women is just as shortsighted as claiming her advice needs to be completely applicable to all women. And let's be frank: if Sandberg chose to offer career advice for working-class women, a group she clearly knows little about, she would have been just as harshly criticized for overstepping her bounds. | diversity sheryl-sandberg | Roxane Gay | |
| c1546d8 | Self-compassion isn't talked about as much as it should be, maybe because it's often confused with its troublesome cousins, self-pity and self-indulgence. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| eb9b6d7 | You are the promise for a more equal world. So my hope for everyone here is that after you walk across this stage, after you get your diploma, after you go out tonight and celebrate hard - you then will lean way in to your career. You will find something you love doing and you will do it with gusto. Find the right career for you and go all the way to the top. As you walk off this stage today, you start your adult life. Start out by aiming h.. | empowerment women | Sheryl Sandberg | |
| 5f6c472 | It is hard to visualize someone as a leader if she is always waiting to be told what to do. Padmasree | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| c8524cc | One of the conflicts inherent in having choice is that we all make different ones. There is always an opportunity cost, and I don't know any woman who feels comfortable with all her decisions. As a result, we inadvertently hold that discomfort against those who remind us of the path not taken. Guilt and insecurity make us second-guess ourselves and, in turn, resent one another. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| f724d87 | My generation was raised in an era of increasing equality, a trend we thought would continue. In retrospect, we were naive and idealistic. Integrating professional and personal aspirations proved far more challenging than we had imagined. During the same years that our careers demanded maximum time investment, our biology demanded that we have children. Our partners did not share the housework and child rearing, so we found ourselves with t.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 5ecf9aa | Of the twenty-eight women who have served as CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, twenty-six were married, one was divorced, and only one had never married.10 Many of these CEOs said they "could not have succeeded without the support of their husbands, helping with the children, the household chores, and showing a willingness to move."11" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| f7a9961 | One of the things he told me was that my desire to be liked by everyone would hold me back. He said that when you want to change things, you can't please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 9caf5b4 | Men have an easier time finding the mentors and sponsors who are invaluable for career progression. Plus, women have to prove themselves to a far greater extent than men do. And this is not just in our heads. A 2011 McKinsey report noted that men are promoted based on potential, while women are promoted based on past accomplishments. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 62756ba | Imagine that a career is like a marathon--a long, grueling, and ultimately rewarding endeavor. Now imagine a marathon where both men and women arrive at the starting line equally fit and trained. The gun goes off. The men and women run side by side. The male marathoners are routinely cheered on: "Lookin' strong! On your way!" But the female runners hear a different message. "You know you don't have to do this!" the crowd shouts. Or "Good st.. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 501a262 | La cualidad mas importante que puede tener un lider es la capacidad de aprender>>. | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 3e9b406 | painful knowledge is better than blissful ignorance | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| dc2d77b | When a kid struggles at math, instead of saying, "Maybe math isn't one of your strengths," Dweck recommends, "The feeling of math being hard is the feeling of your brain growing." | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| ff5f9b8 | Careers are a jungle gym, not a ladder," wrote Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg in her book Lean In, and she's not wrong." | Steven Kotler | ||
| a715344 | Millennial women are less likely than Millennial men to agree that the statement "I aspire to a leadership role in whatever field I ultimately work" descried them very well. Millennial women were also less likely than their male peers to characterize themselves as "leaders," "visionaries," "self-confident," and "willing to take risks." (p.16)" | Sheryl Sandberg | ||
| 0944eb8 | LIKE IT OR NOT, SOCIAL media has fundamentally changed the ways in which nearly everybody conducts their friendships,276 but more so for women than for men.277 Social media is more important to women in part because it can accommodate the expressions of affection and self-revelation that often characterize female friendships. These empathetic expressions contrast with the norm for man-to-man friendships, which by and large can exist without.. | Marilyn Yalom | ||
| 390f41c | Fortune favors the bold. | Sheryl Sandberg |