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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 16768f3 | D]o not mistake the appearance of efficiency for true effectiveness. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 8b9ba5d | I have heard many dying patients remark that the most awful thing about dying is that it must be done alone. Yet, even at the point of death, the willingness of another to be fully present may penetrate the isolation. As a patient said in "Do Not Go Gentle," "Even though you're alone in your boat, it's always comforting to see the lights of the other boats bobbing nearby." | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 609f675 | And the feeling in the dream, Irene?" Almost always my first question. The feeling in a dream often leads to the center of its meaning." | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 9853b06 | rswm qdymy b Srr bh ynkhh b rhyy ayynh bh styshgrn qdym byHtrmy khrdhym bh m khlkh myznnd. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 9526c63 | Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer. Beware of stripping a patient who can't bear the chill of reality. And don't exhaust yourself by jousting with religious magic: you're no match for it. The thirst for religion is too strong, its roots too deep, its cultural reinforcement too powerful. | reality religion | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| dcc4203 | recognizing that she lives in a universe absolutely indifferent to whether she is happy or unhappy. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| e221088 | when two opposing feelings put you in a dilemma, your best recourse is to express both feelings and the dilemma. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 46748d5 | nmytwn tSwr khrd khh z khkh tzwyr armsh jwnh bznd. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 77a19db | m fkhr mykhnym `qyd qdymyn r byd zndh nghdrym w mHtrm bshmrym, Hty gr bdnym khh mmlw z khT w khrfh st. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 0cdce4f | Dang Shi ,Wo Jue Xin Bao Chi Ju Li ,Bao Hu Zi Ji /Shi Yin Wei Wo Que Fa Zi Zhong ----Wo Quan Pan Jie Shou Liao Ya Po Zhe De Shi Jie Guan /Zhu Jian Piao Li Zi Ji Yuan Lai Re Ai De Yi Xue Ke Xue ,Kai Shi Zai Ren Wen Ke Xue Shang An Shen Li Ming . Zhe Shi Yi Duan Hen Qie Yi De Shi Qi ,Dan Ye Shi Yi Ge Zi Wo Huai Yi De Shi Qi :Chang Chang Jue De Zi Ji You Ru Yi Ge Ju Wai Ren ,Zai Jing Shen Yi Xue Shang He Xin De Fa Zhan Tuo Jie ,Tong Shi ,Zai Z.. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| e6f618a | Indeed, the capacity to tolerate uncertainty is a prerequisite for the profession. Though the public may believe that therapists guide patients systematically and sure-handedly through predictable stages of therapy to a foreknown goal, such is rarely the case: instead, as these stories bear witness, therapists frequently wobble, improvise, and grope for direction. The powerful temptation to achieve certainty through embracing an ideological.. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 57a3d64 | Though these tales of psychotherapy abound with the words patient and therapist, do not be misled by such terms: these are everyman, everywoman stories. Patienthood is ubiquitous; the assumption of the label is largely arbitrary and often dependent more on cultural, educational, and economic factors than on the severity of pathology. Since therapists, no less than patients, must confront these givens of existence, the professional posture o.. | psychotherapy therapist together | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| 4abf3a7 | Decisions are difficult for many reasons, some reaching down into the very socket of being. John Gardner, in his novel Grendel, tells of a wise man who sums up his meditation on life's mysteries in two simple but terrible postulates: "Things fade: alternatives exclude." Of the first postulate, death, I have already spoken. The second, "alternatives exclude," is an important key to understanding why decision is difficult. Decision invariably.. | death decisions | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| fae891d | the truth we discover for ourselves. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 5eb1b08 | I had, once again, fallen prey to the grandiose belief that I can treat anyone. Swept along by hubris and by my curiosity, I had disregarded twenty years of evidence at the outset that Thelma was a poor candidate for psychotherapy, and had subjected her to a painful confrontation which, in retrospect, had little likelihood of success. I had stripped away defenses without building anything to replace them. | treatment | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| 2b88564 | ankhh zndgy nmykhnd, bysh z hmh z mrg myhrsd. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 205e429 | The last gift a parent can give to children is to teach them, through example, how to face death with equanimity. | death equanimity gift | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| f6326e4 | But he gave no greater gift than the one he offered me shortly before he died, and it was a gift that answers for all time the question of whether it is rational or appropriate to strive for "ambitious" therapy in those who are terminally ill. When I visited him in the hospital he was so weak he could barely move, but he raised his head, squeezed my hand, and whispered, "Thank you. Thank you for saving my life." | life terminally-ill | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| 99cb5ba | To lose a parent or a lifelong friend is often to lose the past: the person who died may be the only other living witness to golden events of long ago. But to lose a child is to lose the future: what is lost is no less than one's life project--what one lives for, how one projects oneself into the future, how one may hope to transcend death (indeed, one's child becomes one's immortality project). | child-loss death immortality | Irvin D. Yalom | |
| 2101569 | Hard to think of others when you're feeling trapped, feeling you're spinning in a vicious circle. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 8c27ab7 | only by being a man does a man release the woman in woman. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| f6e83dc | Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you will always find despair. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| dd967ca | b hr chshm br hm zdny, ykh j dr yn jhn, ykh Hmq zdh myshwd. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 5673e89 | I am very often asked why, at the age of eighty-five, I continue to practice. Tip number eighty-five (sheer coincidence that I am now eighty-five years old) begins with a simple declaration: my work with patients enriches my life in that it provides meaning in life. Rarely do I hear therapists complain of a lack of meaning. We live lives of service in which we fix our gaze on the needs of others. We take pleasure not only in helping our pat.. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| eaf685b | another; one must find the strength to help oneself. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| 09e4de0 | ask you to heal me of despair. | Irvin D. Yalom | ||
| dec5e09 | The need for mystery is greater than the need for an answer. | Answer | ||
| 2bbffcb | Have you ever considered that too many answers are the same as no answer at all? | Answer | ||
| e2db6c1 | Which eyes should I look forunreasoned answer? | Answer | ||
| 12d1b40 | When Peter renounced the world he grew up in and the people he grew up with, I believe it was an act exactly as heroic as that of a person who, finding himself prone to violent seasickness, renounces yachting. | David James Duncan | ||
| 54e56c6 | an eye for an eye is smart, see, but love is dumb, lovers are fools. | David James Duncan | ||
| 71227dc | And like many a Christian before them, they completely forgot that the only sword-shaped weapon Jesus ever actually used was the one He died on. | David James Duncan | ||
| 5ce5e24 | The man on the rock had pitched five outs in the losing game, and had given up two runs on a single. But he'd inherited loaded bases. The story of his life. The story of all our lives. | life loaded-bases pitcher | David James Duncan | |
| 5788489 | When Peter renounced the world he grew up in and the people he grew up with, I believe it was exactly as heroic as that of a person who, finding himself prone to violent seasickness, renounces yachting. Hell, Pete was hardly 'in the world' in the first place. That was just the problem. He knew more about 13th century Sufi Orders and the Ptolemaic Universe than the rivers and hills and sewers and mills in southwestern Washington. | sacrifice | David James Duncan | |
| 4f7f845 | Say what you want about Hitler, but he trained killers. You train kids in their early years and you can do anything you want with that child. --Sparky Anderson, manager of the Detroit Tigers, trying to explain why he prefers younger ballplayers | David James Duncan | ||
| f159880 | He's just like me,' I think, amazed despite the pain. 'He's just a grownup boy, stuck in a body, stuck in a life. And his life isn't working. It's not working at all. And he's got no father, his mother can't understand, he's go no one to help him fix it.' Feeling this, knowing it, I turn and try to hold my father, as he's so often held me. He makes a small rasping sound when my arms slide round him, then wraps me up, very gently, and holds .. | David James Duncan | ||
| 2191a82 | Did you hear about the baby just born that was both sexes? It had a penis and a brain. --overheard at the University of Oregon Medical School | David James Duncan | ||
| f31dc04 | Baseball is not life. It is a fiction, a metaphor. And a ballplayer is a man who agrees to uphold that metaphor as though lives were at stake. | David James Duncan | ||
| 0d3cb47 | him, trying to do the same. | David James Duncan | ||
| a43dc19 | The crowd-pleasing, pilfered genre had mated with democracy and produced a seemingly invincible bastard: government by force of farce. | David James Duncan | ||
| 1a342fe | Sister Durrel is so beautiful compared to everything else at Sabbath school it's like my eyeballs turn into compass needles, and she's North. | David James Duncan | ||
| 9f156cc | Because sometimes happy songs will make sad people miserable, because they feel guilty that they aren't happy, on top of the sadness. But a sad song talks to the part that hurts, says, Yeah I know, yeah it's bad, yeah it hurts: but I'm with you. I feel it too. | David James Duncan | ||
| 8d5b7fc | but Mama was so mad at the insurance company that even though he used words like "flaming assholes" she didn't realize till later that he was cussing: she said she thought he was quoting the Psalms." | David James Duncan | ||
| 6645a4e | Cause I'm a Christian. Or was. And Christ's love doesn't work, is what we feel in the Army. That kind of shit gets you killed here, it's an eye for an eye here, if Christ's love was real this whole war couldn't be happening. | David James Duncan |