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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 22464c2 | Nuestra sociedad ensena a las mujeres solteras de cierta edad a considerar su solteria un profundo fracaso personal. En cambio, un hombre de cierta edad que no se ha casado es porque todavia no ha elegido. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 248c62e | Real potatoes are backward for him. Remember this is our newly middle-class world. We haven't completed the first cycle of prosperity, before going back to the beginning again, to drink milk from the cow's udder. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 83eb9a3 | Into my heart on air that kills From yon far country blows: What are those blue remembered hills, What spires, what farms are those? That is the land of lost content I see it shining plain, The happy highways where I went And cannot come again. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 7d576f2 | Nwunye m, sometimes life begins when marriage ends." "You and your university talk. Is this what you tell your students?" Mama was smiling. "Seriously, yes. But they marry earlier and earlier these days. What is the use of a degree, they ask me, when we cannot find a job after graduation?" "At least somebody will take care of them when they marry." "I don't know who will take care of whom. Six girls in my first-year seminar class are marrie.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| ed375bd | It's true. And they don't just spend a lot, they expect to spend a lot. I met this guy the other day, and he was telling me how he started his satellite-dish business about twenty years ago. This was when satellite dishes were still new in the country and so he was bringing in something most people didn't know about. He put his business plan together, and came up with a good price that would fetch him a good profit. Another friend of his, w.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 75c0cdf | You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me?" Aunty Ifeka said. "Your life belongs to you and you alone, soso gi." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| dbc54b0 | Aunty Ifeoma was silent as she ladled the thick cocoyam paste into the soup pot; then she looked up and said Papa-Nnukwu was not a heathen but a traditionalist, that sometimes what was different was just as good as what was familiar, that when Papa-Nnukwu did his itu-nzu, his declaration of innocence, in the morning, it was the same as our saying the rosary. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 74dc3e0 | Teach her that the idea of "gender roles" is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl. "Because you are a girl" is never a reason for anything. Ever. (page 14) -Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of men and women or you do not. (page 20) -Because I do not believe that marriage is something we should te.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| c05fe02 | Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal. Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, .. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| d9832a1 | Ferdinand had a steely, amoral face; if one examined his hands, the blood of his enemies might be found crusted under his fingernails. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| abd3ebe | When Buchi said, "Amen" with that delight, that gusto, Obinze feared she would grow up to be a woman who, with that word "amen," would squash the questions she wanted to ask of the world." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| cb904a6 | Teach her never to universalize her own standards or experiences. Teach her that her standards are for her alone, and not for other people. This is the only necessary form of humility: the realization that difference is normal. Please note that I am not suggesting that you raise her to be "non-judgemental," which is a commonly used expression these days, and which slightly worries me. The general sentiment behind the idea is a fine one, but.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 30021db | And I said, Ah correct, there is hope. She reads. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 20a1a04 | You don't even have to love your job; you can merely love what your job does for you--the confidence and self-fulfillment that come with doing and earning. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 3a9202d | it was absurd how women's magazines forced images of small-boned, small-breasted white women on the rest of the multi-boned, multi-ethnic world of women to emulate. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 12fba11 | parents unconsciously start very early to teach girls how to be, that baby girls are given less room and more rules and baby boys more room and fewer rules. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 677a580 | that her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and looking out. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 79b585c | It's a novel, right? What's it about?" Why did people ask "What is it about?" as if a novel had to be about only one thing." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 069cf8e | if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women. For X please insert words like anger, ambition, loudness, stubbornness, coldness, ruthlessness. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 51f6d7c | We condition girls to aspire to marriage and we do not condition boys to aspire to marriage, and so there is already a terrible imbalance at the start. The girls will grow up to be women preoccupied with marriage. The boys will grow up to be men who are not preoccupied with marriage. The women marry those men. The relationship is automatically uneven because the institution matters more to one than the other. Is it any wonder that, in so ma.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e807597 | racism is about the power of a group and in America it's white folks who have that power. How? Well, white folks don't get treated like shit in upper-class African-American communities and white folks don't get denied bank loans or mortgages precisely because they are white and black juries don't give white criminals worse sentences than black criminals for the same crime and black police officers don't stop white folk for driving while whi.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 77d1239 | Some people ask: "Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?" Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general--but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying.. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| b031bca | She was too afraid to hope, now that it seemed possible. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 20e5056 | Her feet had turned into snails. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 69d8bc1 | You see, in American pop culture, beautiful dark women are invisible. (The other group just as invisible is Asian men. But at least they get to be super smart.) In movies, dark black women get to be the fat nice mommy or the strong, sassy, sometimes scary sidekick standing by supportively. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 25e654a | He was left-leaning and well-meaning, crippled by his acknowledgment of his own many privileges. He never allowed himself to have an opinion. "Yes, I see what you mean," he said often." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| ace786a | We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| d164d1c | shouldn't keep you,' Olanna repeated, and placed the phone down. She picked it up again, and was about to give the operator her mother's number before she dropped it back. She wished there was somebody she could lean against; then she wished she was different, the sort of person who did not need to lean on others, like | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| ff1930e | She had, finally, spun herself fully into being. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| fda2b8d | A sated belly gave Americans the luxury of praising themselves for being good parents, as if caring for one's child was the exception rather than the rule. | african-women-writers | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | |
| 594a4a8 | Defiance is like marijuana--it is not a bad thing when it is used right." The" | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 53dc066 | Her first love, her first love, the only person with whom she had never felt the need to explain herself. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| e2fe942 | You make me shy," he said. "Are you serious? Because you make me shy." "I don't believe anything makes you shy," he said." | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 878aed9 | this is war, no longer a police action." He shook his head. "We were sabotaged." "Would you" | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 9e5e4f4 | She was standing at the periphery of her own life, sharing a fridge and a toilet, a shallow intimacy, with people she did not know at all. People who lived in exclamation points. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 49bc9a5 | Ifemelu liked the name of the town, Willow; it sounded to her like freshly squeezed beginnings. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| df63db5 | She was the sort of person whose love would suffocate. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 99b58d1 | he smiled at her self-mockery, a smile that seemed to her like a prize that she wanted to win over and over again. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 7c7a344 | Too much schooling ruins a woman; everyone knows that. It gives a woman a big head and she will start to insult her husband. What kind of wife will that be? | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 0577666 | Her entire body was invaded by millions of uncertainties. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 5c7406d | And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 6d25e08 | Both religion and science have spaces for the things we do not know, and it is enough to make peace with that. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| a21405d | an endless sheet of heads and placards held high. | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie | ||
| 89a327f | What does it mean to know? Really? Is it knowing-her refusal to think concretely about other women? Her refusal to ever consider the possibility? | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |