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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| af0b6ec | When I was a kid, I inhaled. Frequently. That was the point. | Barack Obama | ||
| 0ffee3b | Die Familie der Mutter ist international, bei Familientreffen wird Italienisch, Franzosisch, Deutsch oder Englisch gesprochen. Die judische Herkunft spielt dabei keine Rolle, niemand im familiaren Umfeld praktiziert die Religion. | Stefan Zweig | ||
| eb29f4b | Das Studium ist nicht einmal Nebensache, es ist Formalitat: | Stefan Zweig | ||
| 74bc28e | if we appreciated that not everyone aspires to be a leader in the conventional sense of the word--that some people wish to fit harmoniously into the group, and others to be independent of it. | Susan Cain | ||
| 76633cc | It's so easy to confuse schmoozing ability with talent. | Susan Cain | ||
| cfa008b | how frustrated he is by his colleagues' failure to distinguish between good presentation skills and true leadership ability. | Susan Cain | ||
| a9c0421 | He hated small talk, and his interests were out of step with those of his peers. | Susan Cain | ||
| f315bb2 | No one can hear her. No one tries. | Susan Cain | ||
| 745abee | also why exhortations to imagine the audience in the nude don't help nervous speakers; naked lions are just as dangerous as elegantly dressed ones. | Susan Cain | ||
| d423133 | child guidance experts of the 1920s set about helping children to develop winning personalities. Until then, these professionals had worried mainly about sexually precocious girls and delinquent boys, but now psychologists, social workers, and doctors focused on the everyday child with the "maladjusted personality"--particularly shy children." | Susan Cain | ||
| 8cc0e56 | Love is essential; gregariousness is optional. | Susan Cain | ||
| 20c6f44 | Shyness could lead to dire outcomes, they warned, from alcoholism to suicide, | Susan Cain | ||
| e02e1cd | what she meant by "creative," she answered without missing a beat. "You have to be outgoing, fun, and jazzed up to work here." | Susan Cain | ||
| 68d8360 | artists work best alone where they can control an invention's design without a lot of other people designing it for marketing or some other committee. I don't believe anything really revolutionary has been invented by committee. | Susan Cain | ||
| 8084df9 | bear in mind that appearance is not reality. Some people act like extroverts, but the effort costs them in energy, authenticity, and even physical health. Others seem aloof or self-contained, but their inner landscapes are rich and full of drama. | Susan Cain | ||
| bb30e88 | Talkative people, for example, are rated as smarter, better-looking, more interesting, and more desirable as friends. | Susan Cain | ||
| ffb1d2f | We perceive talkers as smarter than quiet types--even though grade-point averages and SAT and intelligence test scores reveal this perception to be inaccurate. | Susan Cain | ||
| a3e71c4 | were uproariously demanding relief from their intolerable miseries -- in this Potemkin sideshow there prevailed a preposterous and mendacious comfort. | Stefan Zweig | ||
| 0fa2d1c | In iWoz, he recalls HP as a meritocracy where it didn't matter what you looked like, where there was no premium on playing social games, and where no one pushed him from his beloved engineering work into management. That was what collaboration meant for Woz: the ability to share a donut and a brainwave with his laid-back, nonjudgmental, poorly dressed colleagues--who minded not a whit when he disappeared into his cubicle to get the real wor.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 7fc49bc | Introverts are drawn to the inner world of thought and feeling, said Jung, extroverts to the external life of people and activities | Susan Cain | ||
| 141fb46 | The things that interested him, music and writing, held no value for the people who mattered most back then: his peers. "People would always tell me, 'These are the best years of your life,'" he recalls. "And I would think to myself, I hope not! I hated school. I remember thinking, I've gotta get out of here." | Susan Cain | ||
| 43e11e2 | Psychopaths and heroes are twigs on the same genetic branch. | Susan Cain | ||
| f3e9051 | There's a word for "people who are in their heads too much": thinkers." | Susan Cain | ||
| 5c51398 | Most great ideas spring from solitude. | Susan Cain | ||
| 0bbcbce | We often marvel at how introverted, geeky kids "blossom" into secure and happy adults. We liken it to a metamorphosis. However, maybe it's not the children who change but their environments. As adults, they get to select the careers, spouses, and social circles that suit them." | Susan Cain | ||
| 60b0143 | When you practice deliberately, you identify the tasks or knowledge that are just out of your reach, strive to upgrade your performance, monitor your progress, and revise accordingly. | Susan Cain | ||
| c7b6f5d | Participants in brainstorming sessions usually believe that their group performed much better than it actually did, which points to a valuable reason for their continued popularity--group brainstorming makes people feel attached. A worthy goal, so long as we understand that social glue, as opposed to creativity, is the principal benefit. | Susan Cain | ||
| 9f280b0 | sensitive types think in an unusually complex fashion. It may also help explain why they're so bored by small talk. "If you're thinking in more complicated ways," she told me, "then talking about the weather or where you went for the holidays is not quite as interesting as talking about values or morality." | Susan Cain | ||
| 1f9e088 | parents need to step back from their own preferences and see what the world looks like to their quiet children. | Susan Cain | ||
| 6a9d72a | If your children are quiet, help them make peace with new situations and new people, but otherwise let them be themselves. Delight in the originality of their minds. Take pride in the strength of their consciences and the loyalty of their friendships. Don't expect them to follow the gang. Encourage them to follow their passions instead. Throw confetti when they claim the fruits of those passions, whether it's on the drummer's throne, on the.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 52a7c66 | Why are some people talkative while others measure their words? Why | Susan Cain | ||
| 949bf9f | Can introverts be leaders? Is | Susan Cain | ||
| 54036b4 | These exceptional CEOs were known not for their flash or charisma but for extreme humility coupled with intense professional will. | Susan Cain | ||
| 8ae8511 | High-reactive kids who enjoy good parenting, child care, and a stable home environment tend to have fewer emotional problems and more social skills than their lower-reactive peers, studies show. | Susan Cain | ||
| ce725fd | three explanations for the failure of group brainstorming. The first is social loafing: in a group, some individuals tend to sit back and let others do the work. The second is production blocking: only one person can talk or produce an idea at once, while the other group members are forced to sit passively. And the third is evaluation apprehension, meaning the fear of looking stupid in front of one's peers. | Susan Cain | ||
| 113661f | They found a striking difference among the groups. All three groups spent the same amount of time--over fifty hours a week--participating in music-related activities. All three had similar classroom requirements making demands on their time. But the two best groups spent most of their musicrelated time practicing in solitude: 24.3 hours a week, or 3.5 hours a day, for the best group, compared with only 9.3 hours a week, or 1.3 hours a day, .. | Susan Cain | ||
| 33c2cfa | talk is for communicating need-to-know information; quiet and introspection are signs of deep thought and higher truth. Words are potentially dangerous weapons that reveal things better left unsaid. They hurt other people; they can get their speaker into trouble. Consider, for example, these proverbs from the East: The wind howls, but the mountain remains still. --JAPANESE PROVERB | Susan Cain | ||
| 8de8eb8 | I discovered early on that people don't buy from me because they understand what I'm selling," explains Jon. "They buy because they feel understood." Jon" | Susan Cain | ||
| 17c23f1 | Come tutte le nature caparbie non aveva il senso del ridicolo. | Stefan Zweig | ||
| b1c1e6c | Vivre et laisser vivre >>, disait la celebre maxime viennoise, | Stefan Zweig | ||
| 04fe3de | We all write our life stories as if we were novelists, McAdams believes, with beginnings, conflicts, turning points, and endings. And the way we characterize our past setbacks profoundly influences how satisfied we are with our current lives. Unhappy people tend to see setbacks as contaminants that ruined an otherwise good thing ("I was never the same again after my wife left me"), while generative adults see them as blessings in disguise (.. | Susan Cain | ||
| b410c92 | She also knows full well that "shy" is a negative word in our society. Above all, do not shame her for her shyness." | Susan Cain | ||
| e4d8f37 | I realize it's not true that I'm no longer shy; I've just learned to talk myself down from the ledge (thank you, prefrontal cortex!). By now I do it so automatically that I'm hardly aware it's happening. When I talk with a stranger or a group of people, my smile is bright and my manner direct, but there's a split second that feels like I'm stepping onto a high wire. By now I've had so many thousands of social experiences that I've learned t.. | Susan Cain | ||
| 039410e | It's so easy to confuse schmoozing ability with talent. Someone seems like a good presenter, easy to get along with, and those traits are rewarded. Well, why is that? They're valuable traits, but we put too much of a premium on presenting and not enough on substance and critical thinking. | Susan Cain |