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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| cc843d1 | The four elements of shame resilience: Name it. Talk about it. Own your story. Tell the story. | Brené Brown | ||
| 81c82f7 | The gap starts here: We can't give people what we don't have. Who we are matters immeasurably more than what we know or who we want to be. | Brené Brown | ||
| 088851e | Until we can tolerate vulnerability and transform it into gratitude, intense feelings of love will often bring up the fear of loss. | Brené Brown | ||
| af09be4 | Joy seems to me a step beyond happiness. Happiness is a sort of atmosphere you can live in sometimes when you're lucky. Joy is a light that fills you with hope and faith and love. | Brené Brown | ||
| ad33930 | We move what we're learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands. | Brené Brown | ||
| 7936345 | We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we're afraid to let them see it in us. | Brené Brown | ||
| 113892a | Judging has become such a part of our thinking patterns that we are rarely even aware of why and how we do it. It takes a great deal of conscious thinking or mindfulness to even bring the habit of judging into our awareness. | Brené Brown | ||
| 064be8b | I've learned enough about privilege to know that we're at our most dangerous when we think we've learned everything we need to know about it. That's when you stop paying attention to injustice. And make no mistake, not paying attention because you're not the one getting harassed or fired or pulled over or underpaid is the definition of privilege. | Brené Brown | ||
| 09faee0 | Yes, there can be no innovation, learning, or creativity without failure. But failing is painful. It fuels the "shouldas and couldas," which means judgment and shame are often lying in wait" | Brené Brown | ||
| 6406956 | build a culture of trust. | Brené Brown | ||
| feff850 | I'm learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude, and grace. I'm also learning that the uncomfortable and scary leaning requires both spirit and resilience. | Brené Brown | ||
| 55ce004 | Another great example of the power of vulnerability -- this time in a corporation -- is the leadership approach taken by Lululemon's CEO, Christine Day. In a video interview with CNN Money, Day explained that she was once a very bright, smart executive who "majored in being right." Her transformation came when she realized that getting people to engage and take ownership wasn't about "the teling" but about letting them come into the idea in.. | leadership vulnerability | Brené Brown | |
| 0a6b650 | If we can learn how to feel our way through these experiences and own our stories of struggle, we can write our own brave endings. When we own our stories, we avoid being trapped as characters in stories someone else is telling. | Brené Brown | ||
| 87c75c6 | The most difficult part of our stories is often what we bring to them--what we make up about who we are and how we are perceived by others. Yes, maybe we lost our job or screwed up a project, but what makes that story so painful is what we tell ourselves about our own self-worth and value. | Brené Brown | ||
| fb376d1 | Rumbling with Trust Trust--in ourselves and in others--is often the first casualty in a fall, and stories of shattered trust can render us speechless with hurt or send us into a defensive silence. Maybe someone betrayed us or let us down, or our own judgment led us astray. How could I have been so stupid and naive? Did I miss the warning signs? If I've learned anything in my research, it's that trust can't be hot-wired, whether it's between.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 6205384 | We invite compassion into our lives when we act compassionately toward ourselves and others, and we feel connected in our lives when we reach out and connect. | Brené Brown | ||
| 9061b8e | Conspiracy thinking is all about fear-based self-protection and our intolerance for uncertainty. When we depend on self-protecting narratives often enough, they become our default stories | Brené Brown | ||
| f46639c | Children who use more shame self-talk (I am bad) versus guilt self-talk (I did something bad) struggle mightily with issues of self-worth and self-loathing. Using shame to parent teaches children that they are not inherently worthy of love. | Brené Brown | ||
| 6e11c9c | People Are Hard to Hate Close Up. Move In. 2. Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be Civil. 3. Hold Hands. With Strangers. 4. Strong Back. Soft Front. Wild Heart. | Brené Brown | ||
| 576ee12 | Worthy now. Not if. Not when. We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is. | Brené Brown | ||
| ebe1c54 | Guilt and shame are both emotions of self-evaluation; however, that is where the similarities end. The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between "I am bad" (shame) and "I did something bad" (guilt). Shame is about who we are and guilt is about our behaviors. If I feel guilty for cheating on a test, my self-talk might sound something like "I should not have d.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 57a93d2 | Cultivating intuition and trusting faith: letting go of the need for certainty 6. Cultivating creativity: letting go of comparison 7. Cultivating play and rest: letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth 8. Cultivating calm and stillness: letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle 9. Cultivating meaningful work: letting go of self-doubt and "supposed to" 10. Cultivating laughter, song, and dance: letting go of bein.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 0f836f4 | I'm not here so my business self can talk to their business selves. I'm here to talk from my hearts to their hearts. | Brené Brown | ||
| db4bc12 | For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is "I didn't get enough sleep." The next one is "I don't have enough time." Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours and the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don't have enough of....Before we even sit up in bed, before our fee.. | Brené Brown | ||
| fb5f637 | Well, no. They are both serious epidemics, but shame is a silent epidemic. People understand violence and can talk about it. We're still afraid of shame. Even the word is uncomfortable. | Brené Brown | ||
| 994cec7 | Unfortunately, being low maintenance also meant not asking for what you needed and never inconveniencing anyone. | Brené Brown | ||
| a71e76a | Shame keeps worthiness away by convincing us that owning our stories will lead to people thinking less of us. Shame is all about fear. We're afraid that people won't like us if they know the truth about who we are, where we come from, what we believe, how much we're struggling, or, believe it or not, how wonderful we are when soaring (sometimes it's just as hard to own our strengths as our struggles). | Brené Brown | ||
| eb27dd4 | Comparison is the thief of happiness. | Brené Brown | ||
| 7768e56 | What almost no one understands is how every level of severity in this diagnosis is underpinned by shame. Which means we don't "fix it" by cutting people down to size and reminding folks of their inadequacies and smallness. Shame is more likely to be the cause of these behaviors, not the cure." | Brené Brown | ||
| 597b2c6 | If we want to reignite innovation and passion, we have to rehumanize work. When shame becomes a management style, engagement dies. When failure is not an option we can forget about learning, creativity, and innovation. | Brené Brown | ||
| 3d3683a | Pema Chodron. In her book The Places That Scare You, Chodron writes: When we practice generating compassion, we can expect to experience our fear of pain. Compassion practice is daring. It involves learning to relax and allow ourselves to move gently toward what scares us....In cultivating compassion we draw from the wholeness of our experience--our suffering, our empathy, as well as our cruelty and terror. It has to be this way. Compassion.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 96d8844 | May you always do for others and let others do for you. --Bob Dylan | Brené Brown | ||
| fd543f2 | Gratitude, therefore, emerged from the data as the antidote to foreboding joy. | Brené Brown | ||
| 966d4dc | Staying real" is one of the most courageous battles that we'll ever fight." | Brené Brown | ||
| 6200d60 | connection as "the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." | Brené Brown | ||
| a73836b | A map does not just chart, it unlocks and formulates meaning; it forms bridges between here and there, between disparate ideas that we did not know were previously connected. --Reif Larsen I love maps not because they dictate the route or tell me when or how to travel, but simply because they mark the waypoints I will eventually visit. Knowing that these places exist and that they are well traveled, even if they are unexplored by me, is pow.. | Brené Brown | ||
| ca4627e | hope is a combination of setting goals, having the tenacity and perseverance to pursue them, and believing in our own abilities. | Brené Brown | ||
| e8bf5e8 | Bishop's book tells the story of how we've geographically, politically, and even spiritually sorted ourselves into like-minded groups in which we silence dissent, grow more extreme in our thinking, and consume only facts that support our beliefs--making it even easier to ignore evidence that our positions are wrong. He writes, "As a result, we now live in a giant feedback loop, hearing our own thoughts about what's right and wrong bounced b.. | Brené Brown | ||
| 3965ed5 | Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to one another by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and belonging. | Brené Brown | ||
| 732e9a8 | What starts as a small disagreement about an unimportant issue becomes a fight over wrongly assigned intentions and hurt feelings. | Brené Brown | ||
| 8c976c5 | The big challenge for leaders is getting our heads and hearts around the fact that we need to cultivate the courage to be uncomfortable and to teach the people around us how to accept discomfort as a part of growth. For | Brené Brown | ||
| a3f153d | For leaders, vulnerability often looks and feels like discomfort. In his book Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us, Seth Godin writes, "Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable....It's uncomfortable to stand up in front of strangers. It's uncomfortable to propose an idea that might fail. It's uncomfortable to challenge the status quo. It's uncomforta.. | Brené Brown | ||
| ed6a874 | Acknowledging vulnerability is possible only if we feel we can reach out for support. To do so, we must feel some competence in our relationships." The likelihood of our finding the insight and courage to acknowledge our personal vulnerabilities is dependent on our ability to share and talk about those vulnerabilities with someone we trust and with whom we feel safe." | Brené Brown | ||
| 3f50e51 | Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. | Brené Brown |