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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| f641deb | Susan Jeffers' book, entitled Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway (New York: Random House, 1987) is a quick, powerful read that can help you dramatically change the way you see fear. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| d0a920c | Les Brown is an incredibly inspiring speaker who strongly encourages people to pursue their dreams with passion and persistence. His book It's Not Over Until You Win (New York: Fireside, 1997) contains many of his core teachings. In addition, a YouTube search will provide you with access to dozens of full-length video recordings of his lectures. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 47e99b6 | For a list of recommended Les Brown materials, see the Recommended Resources section at the end of the book. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 28ecacc | The final, and deepest form of exposure is to actually learn how to reveal your authentic self to the world around you. This involves revealing yourself as you actually are, not as you think you are supposed to be in order to be loved. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| ea07472 | The mask is an essential part of life that helps us function in our world. Is there a problem with the mask? Yes. When we believe we have to wear the mask at all times because of our fear of judgment, then we are unable to reveal our true selves. This leads to the circular fear of social anxiety: I am afraid people will judge me, but if they knew I was afraid of being judged, they would judge me even more. This fear blocks us from revealing.. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 4e229ae | The old propaganda campaign will slowly influence you over time to believe that things cannot change and you are stuck the way you are. This door is open only for a short while, and you must make the decision to leap through it to the unknown that waits on the other side. I encourage you with all of my heart to make the jump. While the potential fall might be scary, the world around you will hold you up. There are thousands of people out th.. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 3a0df05 | Self-Esteem (Oakland: New Harbinger, 2000) Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| be28bc6 | Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway (New York: Random House, 1987) Susan Jeffers | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 9884293 | Radical Acceptance (New York: Bantam Dell, 2004) Tara Brach | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| d922340 | Something powerful happens inside of us when we make the shift from avoidance to approach when it comes to fear. Your fear hierarchy is precisely designed to help you make this shift. Instead of viewing each item as a threat that demands your focus, time, and energy to avoid, what if you saw each item as an opportunity to face your fears? | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| b7775e2 | Personalizing is a term used to describe taking too much personal responsibility for a situation that involves multiple people and multiple elements. It occurs when we conclude that the rejection was totally our fault and it reflects our personal inadequacy. Somewhere in all of our minds we have learned this formula: | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| cc959aa | The main takeaway here is that rejection not only could mean something else, it most always does. The key is to first become aware of the fact that your idea of its meaning--that you are at fault, that you are a loser, that she simply doesn't like you--is not the truth. From there, you must seek alternative meanings that do not involve personalization and heavy self-criticism. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 81cc3d3 | The more you can simply feel the emotion without going into a story about why you were not good enough, the more quickly it will pass through you. This disappointment can serve to remind you | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 3c5142f | When we face rejection, it can be a poignant time to tap into our desire, motivation, drive, and passion to pursue what we most want. * Why do I want this? * Why does it matter to me? * Am I willing to do whatever it takes to get there? | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 29fa265 | The same holds true for social anxiety--which we can also call social phobia, or social fear. In this case, you're afraid that others will judge, ridicule, dislike, or reject you. As you work your way up your fear hierarchy, you will expose yourself to greater levels of judgment and rejection. It's important to realize that the purpose of completing these activities is not to succeed without any negative responses or rejections, but to actu.. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 48df7e4 | The ultimate point is to see that aside from what happens in our own minds, the actual harm or danger of rejection is often very minor. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 5d20705 | A friend and teacher of mine, Dr. Matthew May, once told me that the way to get over rejection is to take many "rejection inoculations." Much like an inoculation, if you take regular, small doses of rejection over time, it does not make you sick when you experience it." | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 9140682 | The problem with assuming disapproval is that we tend to perceive, and even actively create, what we expect to happen in our lives. If you are certain that someone is not going to like you, then when you speak with him, you will be paying closer attention to his subtle gestures and mannerisms. What did that sigh mean? Why did he look away | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| 2e14be1 | Instead of assuming disapproval, dislike and rejection, you can assume approval, friendliness, and engagement. This technique requires asking yourself a question before you engage in a social interaction: "How would I act if I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the people here loved me and found me delightful?" | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| d836d93 | Being nice does not come out of goodness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing others and receiving their disapproval. It's driven by fear, not virtue. | Aziz Gazipura | ||
| abc92fd | Inogda luchshe vse ostavit' kak est'. Vremia - ne prialka. Vremia - priazha. | time time-travel | Ben Elton | |
| f5947b9 | ironies. Hubris, pride, comes before a fall. When | Ben Elton | ||
| e2fb108 | She wondered if perhaps it was something to do with marking their territory. Like dripping on the floor. | Ben Elton | ||
| 06833f3 | Scarcely a year after Hitler had been handed power, something of what he had always claimed about the Jews had actually come to pass. He said they were different. And they had become different. He had accused them of being furtive and sneaky. And they had become furtive and sneaky. Covering up. Lying low. Watching the door. Hiding away. Survival rats. Constantly nervous, trying to blend in, avoiding people's | Ben Elton | ||
| 260fdb6 | Dinner? You want to eat with me?' 'That's right, a Jew and queer, eh? The SS would love that, wouldn't they? Perhaps we can plot an assassination attempt. | Ben Elton | ||
| 0f415c1 | Professor Sengupta had the self-satisfied habit common to many academics of pretending an intellectual equality with his audience in order to happily demonstrate his own superiority. | Ben Elton | ||
| d0e9ace | I don't want to wait. I want to learn. I only have the rest of my life left and I need to make a start. | Ben Elton | ||
| ff81eb1 | Kaiser's memorial church, along the Kantstrasse, where mobs of youths were starting | Ben Elton | ||
| 2ebf435 | Tears began to fall on the notes Frieda | Ben Elton | ||
| dfa667e | gothic nightmares. | Ben Elton | ||
| 3002900 | The massive machine bore down on them. Nearly fourteen feet long and six wide, it seemed to completely fill the bridge. Almost a ton and a half of wood, glass, rubber, brass and steel, a monster, roaring and trumpeting as it approached its kill, the great shining black fender arches framing its huge goggling eyes. The thrusting tusks of its sprung-leaf suspension threatened to skewer any soft flesh and young bone that lay in its path. Black.. | Ben Elton | ||
| b84653c | Why do you still care about those people, Frieda?' he asked. 'Do they care about you?' 'Wolf, I'm a doctor. I do not require my commitment to be reciprocal. | Ben Elton | ||
| 38cf9c5 | In my experience, if you look people in the eye they usually mind their own business | Ben Elton | ||
| 465c8aa | By the pricking of my thumbs, Something wicked this way comes. --William Shakespeare | M.C. Beaton | ||
| 3132fe7 | Look for me by moonlight; Watch for me by moonlight; I'll come to thee by moonlight, though hell should bar the way! --Alfred Noyes | M.C. Beaton | ||
| c99c60f | The fault, dear Brutus, lies not in our stars, But in ourselves, that we are underlings. | M.C. Beaton | ||
| cbc6263 | The cruellest lies are often told in silence. --Robert Louis Stevenson | M.C. Beaton | ||
| 5061eae | The arrest of Fergus Braid struck the village like a bombshell. Lesley, opening the newspaper the next day, found a photograph of him on the front page and a different story on the inside. highland bobby attacked by armed poachers screamed the headline. There was a photograph of Priscilla | M.C. Beaton | ||
| 74d78ee | Though the day of my destiny's over, And the star of my fate has declined. --Lord Byron | M.C. Beaton | ||
| d927389 | Above thy deep and dreamless sleep The silent stars go by. --Philips Brooks | M.C. Beaton | ||
| c7c453d | O fat white woman whom nobody loves --Frances Crofts Cornford | M.C. Beaton | ||
| ab9a528 | To see oneself as one really is--if one is ever unlucky enough to have that experience--is quite shattering. The veil of illusions and little vanities is rudely ripped aside. | M.C. Beaton | ||
| 531275f | Tis now the very witching time of night, When churchyards yawn and hell itself breathes out Contagion to this world --Shakespeare | M.C. Beaton | ||
| 1208aeb | A man cannot be too careful in the choice of his enemies. --Oscar Wilde | M.C. Beaton |