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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| a1ee995 | I took it for granted that this is what all families did--come together and become an island unto themselves, the kitchen table the sun around which we revolved. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 21630a1 | But the pain of a tattoo is something to which you have to surrender because once you've started, you cannot really go back or you'll be left with something not only permanent but unfinished. I enjoy the irrevocability of that circumstance. You have to allow yourself this pain. You have chosen this suffering, and at the end of it, your body will be different. Maybe your body will feel more like yours. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 2dba59b | When I look at the arcs of ink, more than twenty years later, I still see a woman with wings, a woman who can escape anything she wants, even her body. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d1cbf0e | She was trying to disappear and she couldn't. It is unbearable to want something so little and need it so much. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 43d53b3 | Even the happiest moments of my life are overshadowed by my body and how it doesn't fit anywhere. This is no way to live but this is how I live. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d141ab4 | The past is written on my body. I carry it every single day. The past sometimes feels like it might kill me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 460eddb | I am good at following rules when I choose to. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a74a67a | My body is a cage. My body is a cage of my own making. I am still trying to figure my way out of it. I have been trying to figure a way out of it for more than twenty years. | Roxane Gay | ||
| af24013 | And still, when I am with my family, when we become that island unto ourselves, I allow myself to be a part of them. I am trying to forgive and make up for lost time, to close the distances I put between us even though it was necessary, for a time, for me to be apart from them. These are the people who know not all of me but know enough, know what matters most. They continue to love me so hard and I love them hard in return. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6ec7ad2 | I don't save lives, but I try not to ruin them. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3ba7264 | What I remind myself, regularly, is this: the acknowledgement of my privilege is not a denial of the ways I have been and am marginalized, the ways I have suffered. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 03dd834 | Life, apparently, requires a trigger warning. This is the uncomfortable truth: everything is a trigger for someone. There are things you cannot tell just by looking at someone. We all have history. You can think you're over your history. You can think the past is the past. And then something happens, often innocuous, that shows you how far you are from over it. The past is always with you. Some people want to be protected from this truth. | trigger-warnings | Roxane Gay | |
| 45f4616 | Certainly, it has shown me the importance of inclusivity and acceptance (not merely tolerance) for diverse body types. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d36a114 | Every woman I know is on a perpetual diet. I know I don't feel comfortable in my body, but I want to and that's what I am working toward. I am working toward abandoning the damaging cultural messages that tell me my worth is strictly tied up in my body. I am trying to undo all the hateful things I tell myself. I am trying to find ways to hold my head high when I walk into a room, and to stare right back when people stare at me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4659359 | Somewhere along the line we started misinterpreting the First Amendment and this idea of the freedom of speech the amendment grants us. We are free to speak as we choose without fear of prosecution or persecution, but we are not free to speak as we choose without consequence. The | Roxane Gay | ||
| c68b5e2 | In all seriousness, Scrabble was invented by a man named Alfred Mosher Butts. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d0b0912 | Most black movies, for better or worse, carry a burden of expectation, having to be everything to everyone because we have so little to choose from. Suffice | Roxane Gay | ||
| 9a560d7 | representations of a woman's strength overlook the cost of that strength, where it rises from, and how it is called upon when needed most. The | Roxane Gay | ||
| 92d0de1 | The problem with movements is that, all too often, they are associated only with the most visible figures, the people with the biggest platforms and the loudest, most provocative voices. But feminism is not whatever philosophy is being spouted by the popular media feminist of the week, at least not entirely. | movements women-s-rights | Roxane Gay | |
| c8a0120 | Because in Atlas Shrugged, alpha male Francisco d'Anconia tells railroad company VP Dagny Taggart that she sounds happy in her new relationship: "'But, you see, the measure of the hell you're able to endure is the measure of your love." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 294797d | Just because you survive something does not mean you are strong. The | Roxane Gay | ||
| 87f58e0 | Some women being empowered does not prove the patriarchy is dead. It proves that some of us are lucky. It | Roxane Gay | ||
| 492faea | At times, I thought, This is too much, but I know something of the world now, and there are rarely limits to suffering. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3bf9209 | The weight fluctuations of famous women are tracked like stocks because their bodies are, in their line of work, their personal stock, the physical embodiment of market value. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 9999961 | She tries to walk not too fast and not too slow. She doesn't want to attract any attention. She pretends she doesn't hear the whistles and catcalls and lewd comments. Sometimes she forgets and leaves her house in a skirt or a tank top because it's a warm day and she wants to feel warm air on her bare skin. Before long, she remembers. She keeps her keys in her hand, three of them held between her fingers, like a dull claw. She makes eye cont.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 811148b | Salvation is certainly among the reasons I read. Reading and writing have always pulled me out of the darkest experiences in my life. Stories have given me a place in which to lose myself. They have allowed me to remember. They have allowed me to forget. They have allowed me to imagine different endings and better possible worlds. Perhaps | Roxane Gay | ||
| f738eb1 | Let me be clear: Team Peeta. I cannot fathom how one could be on any other team. Gale? I can barely acknowledge him. Peeta, on the other hand, is everything. He frosts things and bakes bread and is unconditional and unwavering in his love, and also he is very, very strong. He can throw a sack of flour, is what I am saying. Peeta is a place of solace and hope, and he is a good kisser. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b4afaee | Qui tacet consentire videtur [silence gives consent] | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1e56dd1 | Here's the thing about history - it repeats itself over and over and over. The witch hunts, and the demonization of contraception and abortion and the women who provided these services from the fourteenth and fifteenth centuries, are happening all over again. This time, though, the witch hunt is a cynical ploy to distract the populace from some of the truly pressing issues our society is facing: the devastated economy and a Wall Street cult.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b013267 | There are all kinds of television shows and movies about women but how many of them make women recognizable? There | Roxane Gay | ||
| 673b0c6 | I disavowed feminism because I had no rational understanding of the movement. I was called a feminist, and what I heard was, "You are an angry, sex-hating, man-hating victim lady person." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 54f799a | The rifle was just a hunk of metal, a heavy thing, a killing thing. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3c991dc | Su, an Australian woman who, when interviewed for Kathy Bail's 1996 anthology DIY Feminism, said feminists are "just women who don't want to be treated like shit." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4f7bc5f | There's no denying women are doing better than they ever have, but is that really saying much? When you consider what life was like for women before suffrage, before Title IX, before the Equal Pay Act, before Roe v. Wade, before any number of changes that made life merely tolerable, most any success women encountered would seem like a rise in circumstance. Rosin | Roxane Gay | ||
| f514c11 | Anger without action leads to riots. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 9d6c457 | it's dangerous to suggest that the targets of oppression are wholly responsible for ending that oppression. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3e67824 | Qui se ressemble s'assemble [you are whom you surround yourself with] | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7099e99 | We must look to how we can best support the least among us, not spend all our time blindly revering and trying to mimic the greatest without demanding systemic change. In | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5948441 | I hear many young women say they can't find well-known feminists with whom they identify. That can be disheartening, but I say, let us (try to) become the feminists we would like to see moving through the world. | feminism role-models | Roxane Gay | |
| fb1f0f9 | We cannot separate violence in fiction from violence in the world no matter how hard we try. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4d205c9 | black cinema will not end the demonization of young black men, but a movie like Fruitvale Station offers us a necessary insight into the consequences. When | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3be839a | W]omen, more often than not, are the recipient of God's intentions and must also bear the burdens of these intentions. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d5a410f | There are injustices great and small, and even if we can only fight the small ones, at least we are fighting. Too | Roxane Gay | ||
| e939081 | We expect role models to model the behaviors we are perfectly capable of modeling ourselves. | Roxane Gay |