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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 6740a22 | The problem is that I see people on BET who look like me, but that's where the similarities end. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 2f0bc25 | When women respond negatively to misogynistic or rape humor, they are "sensitive" and branded as "feminist," a word that has, as of late, become a catchall term for "woman who" | Roxane Gay | ||
| 9ea4e7a | Qui tacet consentire videtur is Latin for "Silence gives consent." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3e428be | For every step forward, there is some asshole shoving progress back. Despite | Roxane Gay | ||
| b57ba56 | I am sorry our culture has treated women so poorly for so long that suffering abuse to receive celebrity attention seems like a fair and reasonable trade. We have failed you, utterly. We | Roxane Gay | ||
| 82f9c49 | We fail you every single time a (famous) man treats a woman badly, without legal, professional, or personal consequence. Over | Roxane Gay | ||
| 427088a | also understood that I wasn't being intentionally mean. I was being honest (admittedly, without tact), and I was being human. It is either a blessing or a curse that those are rarely likable qualities in a woman. Inevitably | Roxane Gay | ||
| f9b8a5d | We've had to fight to vote, to work outside the home, to work in environments free of sexual harassment, to attend the universities of our choice, and we've also had to prove ourselves over and over to receive any modicum of consideration. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 30ca89d | Sherman Alexie wrote, "There are millions of teens who read because they are sad and lonely and enraged. They read because they live in an often-terrible world. They read because they believe, despite the callow protestations of certain adults, that books--especially the dark and dangerous ones--will save them." I" | Roxane Gay | ||
| 157309e | I learned a long time ago that life introduces young people to situations they are in no way prepared for, even good girls, lucky girls who want for nothing. Sometimes, when you least expect it, you become the girl in the woods. You lose your name because another one is forced on you. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4161378 | Stories have given me a place in which to lose myself. They have allowed me to remember. They have allowed me to forget. They have allowed me to imagine different endings and better possible worlds. Perhaps | Roxane Gay | ||
| e1f0bbe | Movies, more often than not, tell the stories of men as if men's stories are the only stories that matter. When women are involved, they are sidekicks, the romantic interests, the afterthoughts. Rarely do women get to be the center of attention. Rarely do our stories get to matter. How | Roxane Gay | ||
| fe4b3b9 | life often presents unendurable circumstances people manage to survive. Only the details differ. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8689fd9 | Women do not have short memories. We cannot afford that luxury as our choices dwindle. Politicians | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8dc9e0c | I struggle to accept that my body is a legislative matter. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 08740e1 | Writing bridges many differences. Kindness bridges many differences too, | Roxane Gay | ||
| edbc7c2 | Privilege is a right or immunity granted as a peculiar benefit, advantage, or favor. There is racial privilege, gender (and identity) privilege, heterosexual privilege, economic privilege, able-bodied privilege, educational privilege, religious privilege, and the list goes on and on. At some point, you have to surrender to the kinds of privilege you hold. Nearly everyone, particularly in the developed world, has something someone else doesn.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7d109e4 | The problem is, cultural critics talk about privilege with such alarming frequency and in such empty ways, we have diluted the word's meaning. When people wield the word "privilege," it tends to fall on deaf ears because we hear that word so damn much it has become white noise. One" | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3ff6f58 | It's hard not to feel humorless, as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you're not imagining things. | Roxane Gay | ||
| bdf53bb | Can't a man pay you a compliment? In truth, this is all a symptom of a much more virulent cultural sickness--one where women exist to satisfy the whims of men, one where a woman's worth is consistently diminished or entirely ignored. Or | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3a01f4c | Immovable people will not be moved by testimony. Her story becomes an emotional spectacle, something for people to consider, briefly, before moving on to the next sad story. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ad6569f | The older I get, though, the more I realize how fairy tales demand a great deal from the woman. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 802dcd6 | Fifty Shades trilogy that has piqued the popular imagination. The books are erotic, amusing in their absurdity, and disturbing in their cultural implications about just how much trouble Prince Charming can be. In | Roxane Gay | ||
| e4b1f6c | Perhaps we can consider Lean In for what it is--just one more reminder that the rules are always different for girls, no matter who they are and no matter what they do. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6a71107 | I'm not even sure what the sisterhood is, but the idea of a sisterhood menaces me, quietly, reminding me of how bad a feminist I am. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 45906c1 | That's a common tactic of abusers--isolating their victims--but we're supposed to think the way Christian isolates Ana in luxury is romantic. A prison is still a prison even when the sheets are 1200 thread count, but the premise, in my weaker moments, is seductive enough to make that prison seem tolerable. In | Roxane Gay | ||
| 33c6c0d | Qui se ressemble s'assemble. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1cce135 | you are whom you surround yourself with. | Roxane Gay | ||
| c661a35 | There is a happily-ever-after, but the price exacted is terribly high. It is frightening to consider how many women might be willing to pay that price. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 29c4124 | Some experiences are universal. A girl is a girl whether she lives in West Omaha or Sweet Valley. Books are often far more than just books. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 63c9d92 | Women's fiction is often considered a more intimate brand of storytelling that doesn't tackle the big issues found in men's fiction. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 532a5c2 | Judith Butler asserts that gender is a performance, an unstable identity that forms through how it is performed over and over. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 486ee66 | The effect of gender is produced through the stylization of the body and, hence, must be understood as the mundane way in which bodily gestures, movements, and styles of various kinds constitute the illusion of an abiding gendered self. While | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6e2acaf | women, knowingly or unknowingly, perform femininity and the ways in which women are sometimes trapped by how they are expected to perform their gender. In | Roxane Gay | ||
| f3d68ce | I've been forced to look at my guiltiest secrets. I've cut myself wide open. I am exposed. That is not comfortable. That is not easy. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5f405a1 | To read narrowly and shallowly is to read from a place of ignorance, and women writers can't fix that ignorance no matter what kind of books we write or how those books are marketed. This | Roxane Gay | ||
| 74ec237 | You'd be amazed what people are willing to do when they are given permission, either implicitly or explicitly. Given | Roxane Gay | ||
| e505929 | Even from a young age I understood that when a girl is unlikable, a girl is a problem. | Roxane Gay | ||
| bb42e1e | but he had a full head of hair and she thought that meant something. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a52640c | feminism is flawed because it is a movement powered by people and people are inherently flawed. For whatever reason, we hold feminism to an unreasonable standard where the movement must be everything we want and must always make the best choices. When feminism falls short of our expectations, we decide the problem is with feminism rather than with the flawed people who act in the name of the movement. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 99ba60c | When you can't find someone to follow, find a way to lead by example. | feminism inspirational | Roxane Gay | |
| 594dd79 | It is far more important to discuss power than to exhaustively regurgitate the harmful cultural effects of power structures where women are consistently marginalized. We already know the effects. We live them and try to overcome | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5f2dee5 | I disavowed feminism because I had no rational understanding of the movement. I was called a feminist, and what I heard was, ,,You are an angry, sex-hating, man-hating victim lady person." This caricature is how feminists have been warped by people who fear feminism most, the same people who have the most to lose when feminism succeeds." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3c5a291 | Better is not good enough, and it's a shame that anyone would be willing to settle for so little. | Roxane Gay |