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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 7fd5125 | To be fair, I hate the N-word and avoid using it because the N-word has always been a pejorative, a word designed to remind black people of their place, a word to reinforce a perception of inferiority. I have no interest in using the word to describe myself or any person of color, under any circumstance. There is no reclamation to be had. | race-and-racism-in-america | Roxane Gay | |
| dc9112c | It is often women who pay the price for what men want. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4d8a814 | They require a diagnosis for her unlikability in order to tolerate her. The simplest explanation, of Mavis as human, will not suffice. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0a757e8 | Social media is a curious thing. On the one hand, it offers an endless parade of ephemera from the daily lives of friends, family, and strangers--discussions of a fondness for yogurt, a picture of a barista's decoration in latte foam, descriptions of excellent meals, pictures of pets and small children or maybe an abandoned easy chair on a crowded street corner. There's all manner of self-promotion and relentless affirmation. There are knee.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dc4d1e7 | Rosin is not wrong that life has improved in measurable ways for women, but she is wrong in suggesting that better is good enough. | Roxane Gay | ||
| cff86ef | The thing is, I am not at all sure that feminism has ever suggested women can have it all. This notion of being able to have it all is always misattributed to feminism when really, it's human nature to want it all--to have cake and eat it too without necessarily focusing on how we can get there and how we can make "having it all" possible for a wider range of people and not just the lucky ones." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0404e5f | When you succeed early at an endeavor, you convince yourself you will easily replicate that success. Ask child actors. | Roxane Gay | ||
| cf2e2d7 | The Help, I have decided, is science fiction, creating an alternate universe. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 9e9e693 | We read to find life, in all its possibilities. The relevant question isn't "Is this a potential friend for me?" but "Is this character alive?" Perhaps," | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1cb1e19 | He should have been above reproach. As Syreeta McFadden noted, "Only in America can a dead black boy go on trial for his own murder." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 403675c | It is bittersweet that something is better than nothing, even if the something we have is hardly anything at all. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4b57f74 | Salvation is certainly among the reasons I read. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8f4369a | There is a comfort, I suppose, to consuming violence contained in ninety-minute segments, muted by commercials for household goods and communicated to us by former television stars with feathered bangs. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a44d388 | I'm only one feminist, but I'm confident we'd be just fine if all were right with the world. | Roxane Gay | ||
| e1b61d4 | Marissa Mayer, who was appointed president and CEO of Yahoo! in July 2012, said in an interview, I don't think that I would consider myself a feminist. I think that I certainly believe in equal rights, I believe that women are just as capable, if not more so in a lot of different dimensions, but I don't, I think, have sort of the militant drive and the sort of, the chip on the shoulder that sometimes comes with that. And I think it's too ba.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| eaa3af6 | Somehow, though, it is only books by women, or books about certain topics, that require this special "women's fiction" designation, particularly when those books have the audacity to explore, in some manner, the female experience, which, apparently, includes the topics of marriage, suburban existence, and parenthood, as if women act alone in these endeavors, wedding themselves, immaculately conceiving children, and the like. Women's fiction.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1769d2a | One of the hardest things I've ever had to do is accept and acknowledge my privilege. It's an ongoing project. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 17db2d9 | Privilege is a right or immunity granted as a peculiar benefit, advantage, or favor. There is racial privilege, gender (and identity) privilege, heterosexual privilege, economic privilege, able-bodied privilege, educational privilege, religious privilege, and the list goes on and on. At some point, you have to surrender to the kinds of privilege you hold. Nearly everyone, particularly in the developed world, has something someone else doesn.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| cbeb832 | The flaw here is the same as the flaw in The End of Men--an all-or-nothing outlook, and an unwillingness to consider nuance. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 89f6a51 | Everyone means well, but there's a lot of bureaucracy. I prefer common sense. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 560bf6c | Like Ana's inner goddess, I was so ready for these books, and that's an uncomfortable realization, that I can take pleasure in something so terrible. Like most people, I am a mass of contradictions. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0d20129 | Nostalgia is powerful. It is natural, human, to long for the past, particularly when we can remember our histories as better than they were. Life happens faster than I can comprehend. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8ef3b34 | subsequently passed a bill requiring a regular ultrasound, in a bit of bait-and-switch | Roxane Gay | ||
| ee7420c | How do we reconcile the imperfections of feminism with all the good it can do? In truth, feminism is flawed because it is a movement powered by people and people are inherently flawed. For wathever reason, we hold feminism to an unreasonable standard where the movement must be everything we want and must always make the best choices. When feminism falls short of our expectations, we decide the problem is with feminism rather than with the f.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0827485 | 11. If four people are dining, split the check evenly four ways. We are adults now. We don't need to add up what each person had anymore. If you're high rolling, just treat everyone and rotate who treats. If you're still in the broke stage, do what you have to do. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f6fdd44 | Perhaps, then, unlikable characters, the ones who are the most human, are also the ones who are most alive. Perhaps this intimacy makes us uncomfortable because we don't dare be so alive. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d9c2d50 | People who are placed on pedestals are expected to pose, perfectly. Then they get knocked off when they fuck it up. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f21ffc8 | We live in a culture where athletes are revered, and overlooking terrible, criminal behavior is the price we are seemingly willing to pay for our reverence. Amen. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 92781cf | 5B. If you and your friend(s) are in the same field and you can collaborate or help each other, do this without shame. It's not your fault your friends are awesome. Men invented nepotism and practically live by it. It's okay for women to do it too. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 57b2aba | When you look past the image, a celebrity is merely a person you know nothing about. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0a9a636 | Feminism has helped me believe my voice matters, even in this world where there are so many voices demanding to be heard. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ac35f6e | I hate when people say something is not their job or that something isn't possible. We all say these things, sure, but some people actually believe they don't have to work beyond what is written in their job description or that they don't have to try to reach those who seemingly cannot be reached. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b6e9cc9 | To read narrowly and shallowly is to read from a place of ignorance, | Roxane Gay | ||
| 940a8eb | What I remind myself, regularly, is this: the acknowledgment of my privilege is not a denial of the ways I have been and am marginalized, the ways I have suffered. You | Roxane Gay | ||
| f707758 | I know this world. I live in it too. There's no shelter or safety or escape from the cruel stares and comments, the too-small seats, the too-small everything for your too-big body. | fat-phobia fat-shaming | Roxane Gay | |
| d408a7c | My body is treated like a public space. 62 Air travel is another kind of hell. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 24ba98f | it's pretty easy to frame an argument convincingly by being selective in the data presented. | Roxane Gay | ||
| cf6f0c0 | A man has never told me he likes me. Like is more interesting than love. | relationships | Roxane Gay | |
| e0ecd2c | Look at white men when they are accused of having privilege. They tend to be immediately defensive (and, at times, understandably so). They say, "It's not my fault I am a white man," or "I'm [insert other condition that discounts their privilege]," instead of simply accepting that, in this regard, yes, they benefit from certain privileges others do not. To have privilege in one or more areas does not mean you are wholly privileged. Surrende.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5436bcf | I am weary of all our sad stories--not hearing them, but that we have these stories to tell, that there are so many. 72 In | Roxane Gay | ||
| ace31fd | I am not promiscuous with my warmth, but when I share it, my warmth can be as hot as the sun. 74 Part of the reason relationships and friendships can be so difficult for me | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6004718 | When you're overweight, your body becomes a matter of public record in many respects. Your body is constantly and prominently on display. People project assumed narratives onto your body and are not at all interested in the truth of your body, whatever that truth might be. Fat, | Roxane Gay | ||
| 37da821 | When it's hot, I sweat profusely, mostly from my head, and then I feel self-conscious and find myself constantly wiping the sweat from my face. Rivulets of sweat spring forth between my breasts and pool at the base of my spine. My shirt gets damp and sweat stains begin seeping through the fabric. I feel like people are staring at me sweating and judging me for having an unruly body that perspires so wantonly, that dares to reveal the costs .. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d92331c | These are the ugliest, weakest, barest parts of me. This is my truth. | Roxane Gay |