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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 138712b | Never trust the advice of a man in difficulties. | Aesop | ||
| d449ee4 | But I also like myself, my personality, my weirdness, my sense of humor, my wild and deep romantic streak, how I love, how I write, my kindness and my mean streak. It is only now, in my forties, that I am able to admit that I like myself, even though I am nagged by this suspicion that I shouldn't. For so long, I gave in to my self.loathing. I refused to allow myself the simple pleasure of accepting who I am and how I live and love and think.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 47e1e71 | I knew where danger really lurked--in the woods behind well-manicured exclusive suburban neighborhoods, at the hands of good boys from good families. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 50f08fa | I am angry that the fashion industry is completely unwilling to design for a more diverse range of human bodies. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0036ff0 | These terms themselves are somewhat horrifying. "Obese" is an unpleasant word from the Latin obesus, meaning "having eaten until fat," which is, in a literal sense, fair enough. But when people use the word "obese," they aren't merely being literal. They are offering forth an accusation. It is strange, and perhaps sad, that medical doctors came up with this terminology when they are charged with first doing no harm. The modifier "morbidly" .. | Roxane Gay | ||
| e9c1481 | The article was entitled "Vicious Assault Shakes Texas Town," as if the victim in question were the town itself. James McKinley Jr., the article's author, focused on how the men's lives would be changed forever, how the town was being ripped apart, how those poor boys might never be able to return to school. There was discussion of how the eleven-year-old girl, the child, dressed like a twenty-year-old, implying that there is a realm of pos.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 21db6fc | I also have to live with being the type of woman who might--or probably always will--feel guilty that she never told this man she's trans. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7c0001d | I didn't say anything on social media, though relatives tried to tag me in supportive status updates, which I did my best to untag myself from. I didn't want to be a part of their mourning. I didn't want to be involved in someone else's grief when I knew so little about how to deal with my own. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 0788eb0 | My sad stories will always be there. I am going to keep telling them even though I hate having the stories to tell. These sad stories will always weigh on me, though that burden lessens the more I realize who I am and what I am worth. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 437d925 | The repetition of gender acts in reality television becomes grossly stylized through artificially tanned skin, elaborate hair extensions, dramatic makeup, surgically enhanced bodies, and chemically injected faces. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dfa4877 | The body is not a fortress, no matter what we may do to make it such. This may be one of life's greatest frustrations, or is it humiliations? I spend a lot of time thinking about bodies and boundaries and how people seem hell-bent on ignoring those boundaries at all costs. I am not a hugger. I never have been and I never will be. I hug my friends, and do so happily, but I am sparing with such affections. A hug means something to me; it is a.. | hugging intimacy personal-space respect | Roxane Gay | |
| a3cb285 | I resisted feminism in my late teens and my twenties because i worried that feminism wouldn't allow me to be the mess of a woman i knew myself to be. But then i began to learn more about feminism. i learnt to separate feminism from Feminism or Feminists or the idea of an Essential Feminism - one true feminism to dominate all of womankind. | feminism feminist feminist-authors feminist-books feminist-literature feminist-quotes roxane-gay | Roxane Gay | |
| ad1118d | It's a problem, though, that there's a right kind of gay, that there are LGBT people who are warmly encouraged to step out of the closet while others who don't fit certain parameters go largely ignored. | Roxane Gay | ||
| de333ce | There are injustices great and small, and even if we can only fight the small ones, at least we are fighting. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d1bb704 | Maybe I'm a bad feminist, but I am committed to the issues important to the feminist movement. | feminist | Roxane Gay | |
| bfd5982 | The most profound of those realizations was that part of healing is taking care of your body and learning how to have a humane relationship with your body. I was broken and then I broke some more, and I am not yet healed but I have started believing I will be. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f99c005 | Bad feminism seems the only way I can both embrace myself as a feminist and be myself, so I write. | feminist | Roxane Gay | |
| 70c3261 | CYRANO: Thy name is in my heart as in a sheep-bell, And as I ever tremble, thinking of thee, Ever the bell shakes, ever thy name ringeth! All things of thine I mind, for I love all things; I know that last year on the twelfth of May-month, To walk abroad, one day you changed your hair-plaits! I am so used to take your hair for daylight That,--like as when the eye stares on the sun's disk, One sees long after a red blot on all things-- So, w.. | Edmond Rostand | ||
| d9cd017 | In my more generous moments, I tried to believe the locals were using anger to mask their fear of living in a dying town in a changing world. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ed42e74 | If you are reading this essay, you have some kind of privilege. | privilege | Roxane Gay | |
| c356297 | It is not possible for girlhood to be represented wholly--girlhood is too vast and too individual an experience. | feminism girlhood representation | Roxane Gay | |
| 6f7bbc3 | This is a book about my body, about my hunger, and ultimately, this is a book about disappearing and being lost and wanting so very much, wanting to be seen and understood. This is a book about learning, however slowly, to allow myself to be seen and understood. | Roxane Gay | ||
| e1ec905 | Shame is a difficult thing. People certainly try to shame me for being fat. When I am walking down the street, men lean out of their car windows and shout vulgar things at me about my body, how they see it, and how it upsets them that I am not catering to their gaze and their preferences and desires. I try not to take these men seriously because what they are really saying is, 'I am not attracted to you. I do not want to fuck you, and this .. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b5c3b0f | Already that semester, the university had been steeped in controversy after students at a freshman week welcome event had been reported chanting: "We like 'em young! Y is for your sister, O is for oh so tight, U is for underage, N is for no consent, G is for go to jail." -- | Roxane Gay | ||
| a423cdb | The longer The Biggest Loser has been on the air, however, the more the show has disturbed me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| d7aafd3 | This is a show about unruly bodies that must be disciplined by any means necessary, so that through that discipline, the obese might become more acceptable members of society. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6863ba9 | Revenge Body, where participants get revenge on someone who has wronged them by losing weight and getting into shape. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 01d4164 | Until visiting Haiti, I had no idea what poverty really was or the difference between relative and absolute poverty. To see poverty so plainly and pervasively left a profound mark on me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 553baa1 | Specific body parts, "problem areas," also get labels--fupa, gunt, cankles, thunder thighs, Hi Susans, wings, cottage cheese thighs, hail damage, muffin tops, side boob, back fat, love handles, saddlebags, spare tires, double chins, gocks, man boobs, beer bellies." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8c7a806 | Privilege is a right or immunity granted as a peculiar benefit, advantage, or favor. There is racial privilege, gender (and identity) privilege, heterosexual privilege, economic privilege, able-bodied privilege, educational privilege, religious privilege, and the list goes on and on. At some point, you have to surrender to the kinds of privilege you hold. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5a5638c | I'm not sure what's more of a pain in my ass--being black or being a woman. I'm happy to be both of these things, but the world keeps intervening. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b6f402e | When people wield accusations of privilege, more often than not, they want to be heard and seen. Their need is acute, if not desperate, and that need rises out of the many historical and ongoing attempts to silence and render invisible marginalized groups. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 63b2a45 | likability is a very elaborate lie, a performance, a code of conduct dictating the proper way to be. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4333286 | I knew too much about hurt, but I didn't know how much more a girl could suffer until I did. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 54b255c | Pathologizing the unlikable in fictional characters is an almost Pavlovian response. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1c5d0bd | It took me a long time, but I prefer "victim" to "survivor" now. I don't want to diminish the gravity of what happened. I don't want to pretend I'm on some triumphant, uplifting journey. I don't want to pretend that everything is okay. I'm living with what happened, moving forward without forgetting, moving forward without pretending I am unscarred." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5ff3a1f | My true loves were and still are books and writing stories and daydreaming. Sports were merely a distraction keeping me from what I really wanted to do. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8aa6458 | I believe feminism is grounded in supporting the choices of women even if we wouldn't make certain choices for ourselves. I believe women not just in the United States but throughout the world deserve equality and freedom but know I am in no position to tell women of other cultures what that equality and freedom should look like. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f9b1a81 | It seems that, if something makes you feel better, it is a healthy option. Want to sleep all day? That's okay. Drink too much? That can be a valid coping choice. Isolating yourself via a fear of the outside world? Self-preservation is important. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ab42f15 | Two years ago, Hanna said she was going on vacation with Laura downstate and instead drove to Marquette and had her tubes tied. She wasn't going to end up like her mother, with too many children in a too-small house with too little to eat. Despite her best efforts, however, she has found herself living in a too-small house with too many people and too little to eat. It is a bitter pill to swallow. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 2b3d359 | This is the memoir of my body. My body was broken. I was broken. I did not know how to put myself back together. I was splintered. A part of me was dead. A part of me was mute and would stay that way for many years. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4a92c19 | Estou sempre me atendo a esperanca do amanha. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 95018c4 | A maioria de nos tem versoes de nos mesmos que nos deixa apavorados. Temos esse corpo imperfeito e nao sabemos exatamente como lidar com ele. Temos essas vergonhas que guardamos para nos, pois mostrar-nos como realmente somos, nem mais e nem menos, seria demais. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 4066c28 | Ha, no entanto, uma ansiedade em ser voce mesmo. Existe a pergunta que assombra, um "e se?" que esta sempre no ar. E se o que sou nunca for suficiente? E se eu nunca for certa o suficiente para alguem?" | Roxane Gay |