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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 6dab909 | am not easy to love but I am well loved. I try to love well in return. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6785909 | Sorrow allows us a freedom happiness does not. | Roxane Gay | ||
| a9b9da8 | I am a bad feminist. I would rather be a bad feminist than no feminist at all. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 67f32e8 | am being open about who I am and who I was and where I have faltered and who I would like to become. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dcb8915 | We've seen what the hoarding of privilege has done, and the results are shameful. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 38dc839 | It's hard not to feel humorless, as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you're not imagining things. It's hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you're going to float the fuck away. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f64c463 | I excused myself and ran to the restroom, where in the privacy of my stall, I whispered, "I beat you, I beat you, I beat you." There was fist pumping." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 779f062 | We put a lot of responsibility on popular culture, particularly when some pop artifact somehow distinguishes itself as not terrible. | popular-culture | Roxane Gay | |
| 4465445 | The [Sweet Valley High] books were the most familiar and resonant expressions of our angst and our fondest wishes for ourselves, the girls we wanted to become. | Roxane Gay | ||
| c407c5a | This is where we should start focusing this conversation: how men (as readers, critics, and editors) can start to bear the responsibility for becoming better, broader readers. | feminism men readers reading | Roxane Gay | |
| b358c16 | There is no collective slavery revenge fantasy among black people, but I am certain, if there were one, it would not be about white people, not at all. | racism slavery | Roxane Gay | |
| a167485 | I knew I was in love with The Hunger Games when I did not want to get off the treadmill | Roxane Gay | ||
| e810e77 | if you cannot recognize your privilege, you have a lot of work to do | Roxane Gay | ||
| c89a8de | I think, One of these things is not like the other, and it is a haunting, lonely feeling, thinking you don't belong with the very people who know you in the truest, deepest ways. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 7d89460 | Maybe I'm a bad feminist, but I am deeply committed to the issues important to the feminist movement. I have strong opinions about misogyny, institutional sexism that consistently places women at a disadvantage, the inequity in pay, the cult of beauty and thinness, the repeated attacks on reproductive freedom, violence against women, and on and on. I am as committed to fighting fiercely for equality as I am committed to disrupting the notio.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| ed5a72a | I was a daydreamer and I resented being pulled out of my daydreams to deal with the business of living. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3eada4e | These pictures from the photo albums of my childhood are artifacts of a time when I was happy and whole. They are evidence that, once, I was pretty and sometimes sweet. | Roxane Gay | ||
| e554398 | I have presence, I am told. I take up space. I intimidate. I do not want to take up space. I want to go unnoticed. I want to hide. I want to disappear until I gain control of my body. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 375558d | A different day has come, though. I flinch less and less when I am touched. I don't always see gentleness as the calm before the storm because, more often than not, I can trust that no storm is coming. I harbor less hatred toward myself. I try to forgive myself for my trespasses. In my novel, An Untamed State, after Miri, my protagonist, has been through hell, she thinks about how sometimes broken things need to be broken further before the.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 8bc9d62 | To be fair, I hate the N-word and avoid using it because the N-word has always been a pejorative, a word designed to remind black people of their place, a word to reinforce a perception of inferiority. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f91e813 | For years at a time, there was me, and the woman I saw myself as while living in my head, and the woman who had to carry around my overweight body. They were not the same person. They couldn't be, or I wouldn't have survived any of it. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 5a9f057 | Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it's probably going to be easier for you to be happy. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 73081b9 | There are times when I wish finding community was as simple as entering some personal information and letting an algorithm show me where I belong. And | Roxane Gay | ||
| d21c4a0 | Each time my mother took me to the mall, I went straight to Waldenbooks | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3e2da25 | On my more difficult days, I'm not sure what's more of a pain in my ass--being black or being a woman. I'm happy to be both of these things, but the world keeps intervening. There are all kinds of infuriating reminders of my place in the world--random people questioning me in the parking lot at work as if it is unfathomable that I'm a faculty member, the persistence of lawmakers trying to legislate the female body, street harassment, strang.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 60ed8aa | I very much like men. They're interesting to me, and I mostly wish they would be better about how they treat women so I wouldn't have to call them out so often. | men | Roxane Gay | |
| 662663c | If you and your friend(s) are in the same field and you can collaborate or help each other, do this without shame. It's not your fault your friends are awesome. Men invented nepotism and practically live by it. It's okay for women to do it too. | Roxane Gay | ||
| f0d7c04 | You are the best of our people, but you are not yet good enough. | elegant fearless girl-power servitude strong | Roxane Gay | |
| 5795ad4 | There are books written by women. There are books written by men. Somehow, though, it is only books by women, or books about certain topics, that require this special "women's fiction" designation, particularly when those books have the audacity to explore, in some manner, the female experience, which, apparently, includes the topics of marriage, suburban existence, and parenthood, as if women act alone in these endeavors, wedding themselve.. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 46f4233 | We must look to how we can best support the least among us, not spend all our time blindly revering and trying to mimic the greatest without demanding systemic change. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 174ddf7 | Often, when I read the news, I have to make sure I am not, in fact, reading The Onion. | Roxane Gay | ||
| b4c7571 | Rather than solve the real problems the United States is facing, some politicians, mostly conservative, have decided to try to solve the "female problem" by creating a smoke screen, reintroducing abortion and, more inexplicably, birth control into a national debate." | Roxane Gay | ||
| 194ca94 | There is no freedom in any circumstance where the body is legislated, none at all. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 1842ff6 | We want to see more complex, nuanced depictions of what it really means to be whoever we are or were or hope to be. We just want so much. We just need so much. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 29b21a0 | I have a membership to Planet Fitness, though I have never visited the local facility. Basically, I donate $19.99 a month to their corporate existence and the idea that I can walk into a Planet Fitness, anywhere in the country, should I feel like working out. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 21bab84 | While our conceptions of gender have evolved since the publication of Gender Trouble, there is a lot to be said for Butler's theory, particularly when it comes to the ways in which women, knowingly or unknowingly, perform femininity and the ways in which women are sometimes trapped by how they are expected to perform their gender. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dff767a | I often write stories about women who are perceived as cold and resent that perception. I write these women because I know what it's like to have so much warmth roiling beneath the skin's surface, ready to be found. | Roxane Gay | ||
| dc5f455 | It took a long time, but I prefer 'victim' to 'survivor' now. I don't want to diminish the gravity of what happened. I don't want to pretend I'm on some triumphant, uplifting journey. I don't want to pretend that everything is okay. I'm living with what happened, moving forward without forgetting, moving forward without pretending I am unscarred. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 05dfe7a | I am tracing the story of my body from when I was a carefree young girl who could trust her body and who felt safe in her body, to the moment when that safety was destroyed, to the aftermath that continues even as I try to undo so much of what was done to me. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 3f92f79 | If white writers can't do better than to compare a cockroach to black skin, perhaps they should leave the writing of difference in more capable hands. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 6e5c1b0 | all too often, critical acclaim for black films is built upon the altar of black suffering or subjugation. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 72c42ea | weight loss, thinness really, was social currency. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 15840f9 | I wanted that kind of steady, true love for myself, and I wanted a relationship where I could be independent but loved and looked after at the same time. | Roxane Gay | ||
| 79cf06d | Ruger in his waistband. Then he switched the .357 to his | James Patterson |