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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| bcdd269 | Monique teaches her daughters the names of the trees, birds, wildflowers, and ornamental plants. She wants them to pay attention to the natural world, which will always be a solace to them, no matter what happens. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 5452bd5 | We can be intentional in our decisions about vacations and leisure time. Before we make our decisions, we can explore questions like, How far from home will we travel? Shall we go by bike, car, train, or airplane? Do we have closer alternatives nearby? What kind of tourism and recreation do we want to support with our choices? Travel has always been a big source of pleasure for Jim and me and we have struggled to find the right balance betw.. | Mary Pipher | ||
| ccf17ca | One of psychologist Martin Seligman's early research projects involved giving students one of two assignments-- they could do a good deed or they could give themselves a treat. He asked them to rate their happiness at the time and a week later. When the event occurred, the students who had done a good deed reported higher happiness scores. And a week later, these students felt even happier when they remembered their good deed than did the s.. | Mary Pipher | ||
| e98095e | In his book The Pursuit of Happiness, psychologist David Myers reviewed research on the relationship between money and happiness. He found that once personal income had reached a stable but rather modest level, more income didn't make people any happier. Instead, what made people happy was more time with friends and family. He concluded that happiness often involves living a simple life, consuming less, and savoring more. He cited a study t.. | Mary Pipher | ||
| a28f519 | a philosophy that teaches: try to live a life that is not too arduous, not too comfortable, not too difficult, not too grandiose, and not too complicated. | Mary Pipher | ||
| c63afb0 | When you know someone personally, writes psychologist Mary Pipher, "that person stops being a stereotype and becomes a complex human being like oneself."1" | Stephan Bauman | ||
| eb3129a | Newcomers need people from their own culture to orient them to America. | Mary Pipher | ||
| d49aa08 | For newcomers from slow cultures, time is a river that flows through their lives. They have no abstract sense of time. Refugees who have been on sun, seasonal, or Circadian-rhythm time find the change to computer time jarring. One of the first things I teach new arrivals is time management, a very difficult skill to master but one that is essential to success in America. I bring calendars, personal planners, and watches and teach refugees h.. | Mary Pipher | ||
| ba21112 | I tell them, "Americans are very serious about two things--time and money." | Mary Pipher | ||
| bc8fea8 | It takes most people from one to three years to learn social English and five to seven years to learn academic English. | Mary Pipher | ||
| ff2ea21 | Schools are the frontline institution for acculturation, where children receive solid information about their new world. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 1e5395e | Whereas job distribution used to look like a triangle, it now looks like an hourglass. There are many jobs at the top and at the bottom, but the jobs in the middle are gone. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 61ec36a | The INS is incredibly understaffed. For the last few years Congress has funded enforcement but hasn't funded routine service and processing of documents. A recent newspaper article reported that of the 115,000 calls made to national INS offices daily, only 500 are answered. | Mary Pipher | ||
| bba83a1 | started the Thrive Project with a group of mental health professionals. We trained mentors from different cultures to be cultural brokers on mental health issues. | Mary Pipher | ||
| eda13d4 | Our Western mental health system is dependent on verbal expressiveness, self-disclosure, and a belief in individualism. It splits the personal and the professional, the sacred and profane, and the mind and the body. Our system is also expensive, hard to schedule, | Mary Pipher | ||
| 6a7e053 | Energy and Good Health | Mary Pipher | ||
| 694e816 | Breathing properly, meditating, and focusing on the impermanence of all things are healing activities. In fact, some of our most successful psychotherapy incorporates aspects of Buddhism. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 071f84e | To truly recover, one must find a deep sense of purpose and meaning. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 5c73578 | It seems counterintuitive that more choice leads to more depression. However, when we increase people's opportunities for control, we increase their expectations of control and their sense of responsibility for failure. When we have more choices in every domain, we must spend more time researching choices and negotiating these decisions with family members. | Mary Pipher | ||
| e655690 | For our own positive mental health, we need to reconstruct some constraints. It is no accident that retreat centers are an increasingly popular vacation spot. Retreats restrict choice and thus, paradoxically, allow certain kinds of freedom. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 279a57a | Memmi believes racism has four elements--an insistence on difference, a negative valuation of that difference, the generalization of that difference to an entire group, and finally the use of that difference to justify hostility and aggression. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 9d9d589 | Ten Common Beliefs of the JPI Refugees are ignorant and have no formal education. | Mary Pipher | ||
| ac860c2 | The United States takes in most of the world's refugees. | Mary Pipher | ||
| f898663 | In Legacies, Portes and Rumbaut report that most immigrants move into the middle-class mainstream in one or two generations. That is the good news. The bad news is that if they don't make it quickly into the middle class, they won't make it at all. With the passage of time, drive diminishes, and by the third generation, assimilation stops. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 5258f3a | Most refugees are here illegally. This also is not true. Most have the proper papers and are desperately seeking to comply with the INS. My INS story about Sadia and her daughter going to Hastings illustrated how difficult that can be. | Mary Pipher | ||
| f34ff13 | We need to help refugees and immigrants early with job training, education, language, and business loans. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 2124f65 | Newcomers are taking American jobs. In fact, they are filling jobs that Americans won't take and thus enabling businesses to prosper in a time when minimum-wage workers are hard to find. | Mary Pipher | ||
| e78d981 | Newcomers do not pay taxes. In fact, refugees pay taxes, including property taxes. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 9de9152 | Tax dollars go to teach refugees in their own languages. Actually, the concept of ELL is that our publicly funded schools teach newcomers English. | Mary Pipher | ||
| c5fccbb | Newcomers don't want to learn English. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 11f7a23 | Most refugees end up on welfare. In feet, all of the refugees I know do 3-D work--difficult, dirty, and dangerous. | Mary Pipher | ||
| fe2c538 | Anyone who wants to can come to America. This is not true. We have strict rules and quotas on new refugee arrivals. | Mary Pipher | ||
| f51d413 | Why don't they go back where they belong?" Refugees are here because they had no choices but to be here." | Mary Pipher | ||
| 6e6ab2f | We have the capacity to build happiness into our lives with humor, concern for others, and gratitude. | Mary Pipher | ||
| f770931 | Over the years my friends and I have discovered many empty, wild places. Invariably, when we get lost or something goes wrong, one of us reminds the others, "Remember the first rule of the wilderness: don't panic." | Mary Pipher | ||
| 3b8b9ac | Our ideas about how to deal with pain do not seem relevant to many newcomers. | Mary Pipher | ||
| d08106b | attributes of resilience. | Mary Pipher | ||
| ba93cc7 | Attributes of Resilience Future Orientation | Mary Pipher | ||
| dac9707 | The Ability to Pay Attention | Mary Pipher | ||
| 6290a32 | Ambition and Initiative | Mary Pipher | ||
| c02ac5b | Verbal Expressiveness One of the most important attributes is simply being able to express one's needs clearly and appropriately. | Mary Pipher | ||
| 18e0b3c | Positive Mental Health | Mary Pipher | ||
| 13c67c7 | The Ability to Calm Down | Mary Pipher | ||
| 1ef8e6d | Flexibility | Mary Pipher |