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be7b406 And while I don't believe in mapping out each step of a career, I do believe it helps to have a long-term dream or goal. A long-term dream does not have to be realistic or even specific. It may reflect the desire to work in a particular field or to travel throughout the world. Maybe the dream is to have professional autonomy or a certain amount of free time. Maybe it's to create something lasting or win a coveted prize. Some goals require m.. Sheryl Sandberg
0e340b2 Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.17 Sheryl Sandberg
31bb5ff Most corporations love PowerPoint presentations, so I encouraged people not to prepare them for meetings with me, but instead to come with a simple list of topics. I repeated this frequently, but every meeting seemed to include a detailed PowerPoint presentation anyway. Sheryl Sandberg
7ea88d1 Of the hundreds of answers, most had one thing in common: the majority of regrets were about failures to act, not actions that failed. Psychologists have found that over time we usually regret the chances we missed, not the chances we took. As my mom often told me when I was growing up, "You regret the things you don't do, not the things you do." Sheryl Sandberg
b857c81 I learned from Fred that effective communication starts with the understanding that there is my point of view (my truth) and someone else's point of view (his truth). Rarely is there one absolute truth, so people who believe that they speak the truth are very silencing of others. Sheryl Sandberg
afaed66 An internal report at Hewlett-Packard revealed that women only apply for open jobs if they think they meet 100 percent of the criteria listed. Men apply if they think they meet 60 percent of the requirements.7 Sheryl Sandberg
740b61d Dr. Peggy McIntosh from the Wellesley Centers for Women, gave a talk called "Feeling Like a Fraud."1 She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments." Sheryl Sandberg
c1705e1 I am also writing this for any man who wants to understand what a woman--a colleague, wife, mother, or daughter--is up against so that he can do his part to build an equal world. This Sheryl Sandberg
a9b8da1 We plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P's can stunt recovery: (1) personalization--the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness--the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence--the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever. Sheryl Sandberg
5cb593c The loop in your head repeats, "It's my fault this is awful. My whole life is awful. And it's always going to be awful." Sheryl Sandberg
20958a9 I will sometimes feel this awful. Sheryl Sandberg
1373728 Taking initiative pays off. It is hard to visualize someone as a leader if she is always waiting to be told what to do. Padmasree Sheryl Sandberg
f67c5f9 He (John Steiner, former chief of staff in Treasury Department) told me to figure out what I wanted to do before I went to see the people who had the ability to hire me. That way I would not waste my one shot seeking general guidance, but would be able to discuss specific opportunities that they could offer. (p.69) Sheryl Sandberg
a7aecf0 The students rated Heidi and Howard as equally competent, which made sense since "their" accomplishments were completely identical. Yet while students respected both Heidi and Howard, Howard came across as a more appealing colleague. Heidi, on the other hand, was seen as selfish and not "the type of person you would want to hire or work for." Sheryl Sandberg
fe50370 It turns out that people who choose to be single are very satisfied with their lives. Sheryl Sandberg
0a397b7 Of middle-aged adults who lost a spouse, 54 percent of men were in a romantic relationship a year later compared with only 7 percent of women. Sheryl Sandberg
3daaaaf Namagatisia vstignuti vse, shche i zrobiti vse bezdoganno - naikrashchii sposib stati neshchasnoiu. Sheryl Sandberg
3b78084 men are promoted based on potential, while women are promoted based on past accomplishments. Sheryl Sandberg
ee72785 more involved dads, Sheryl Sandberg
a5fbaca in business, being risk averse can result in stagnation. Sheryl Sandberg
0cf0a09 From the moment we are born, boys and girls are treated differently.19 Parents tend to talk to girl babies more than boy babies.20 Mothers overestimate the crawling ability of their sons and underestimate the crawling ability of their daughters.21 Reflecting the belief that girls need to be helped more than boys, mothers often spend more time comforting and hugging infant girls and more time watching infant boys play by themselves. Sheryl Sandberg
13cf384 Research backs up this "fake it till you feel it" strategy. One study found that when people assumed a high-power pose (for example, taking up space by spreading their limbs) for just two minutes, their dominance hormone levels (testosterone) went up and their stress hormone levels (cortisol) went down. As a result, they felt more powerful and in charge and showed a greater tolerance for risk. A simple change in posture led to a significant.. Sheryl Sandberg
90eb57b For men, professional success comes with positive reinforcement at every step of the way. For women, even when they're recognized for their achievements, they're often regarded unfavorably. Sheryl Sandberg
9aaf615 The most common metaphor for careers is a ladder, but this concept no longer applies to most workers. As of 2010, the average American had eleven jobs from the ages of eighteen to forty-six alone. Sheryl Sandberg
5a50ec2 We all want a job or role that truly excites and engages us. This search requires both focus and flexibility, so I recommend adopting two concurrent goals: a long-term dream and an eighteen-month plan. Sheryl Sandberg
0ec1d3a Trying to overcorrect is a great way to find middle ground. In order for me to speak the right amount in a meeting, I have to feel as if I am saying very little. Sheryl Sandberg
38d1a85 Over the past decade, child care costs have risen twice as fast as the median income of families with children.8 The cost for two children (an infant and a four-year-old) to go to a day care center is greater than the annual median rent payment in every state in the country. Sheryl Sandberg
b34e1aa Also--and many might find this the most motivating factor--couples who share domestic responsibilities have more sex. Sheryl Sandberg
47d445e HAVING IT ALL." Perhaps the greatest trap ever set for women was the coining of this phrase." Sheryl Sandberg
d98669c We need to be grateful for what we have but dissatisfied with the status quo. This dissatisfaction spurs the charge for change. We must keep going. Sheryl Sandberg
fdb9bd1 From the moment we are born, boys and girls are treated differently. Sheryl Sandberg
dc69180 I would not suggest that anyone move beyond feeling confident into arrogance or boastfulness. No one likes that in men or women. But feeling confident--or pretending that you feel confident--is necessary to reach for opportunities. It's a cliche, but opportunities are rarely offered; they're seized. Sheryl Sandberg
081a3f5 Given how fast the world moves today, grabbing opportunities is more important than ever. Few managers have the time to carefully consider all the applicants for a job, much less convince more reticent people to apply. And increasingly, opportunities are not well defined but, instead, come from someone jumping in to do something. That something then becomes his job. When Sheryl Sandberg
e3f5b4a at a certain point it's your ability to learn quickly and contribute quickly that matters. One of the things I tell people these days is that there is no perfect fit when you're looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have."13 Virginia" Sheryl Sandberg
daa8f9c I want to apply to work with you at Facebook," she said. "So I thought about calling you and telling you all of the things I'm good at and all of the things I like to do. Then I figured that everyone was doing that. So instead, I want to ask you: What is your biggest problem, and how can I solve it?" Sheryl Sandberg
36431bd Trying to overcorrect is a great way to find middle ground. Sheryl Sandberg
66a1271 In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made. As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, "Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount." Sheryl Sandberg
e2bc8b9 Mozhlivo, i spravdi isnuiut' evoliutsiini prichini togo, shcho odin z bat'kiv lipshe znaie, iakii obid treba dati ditiam u shkolu. Zhinki goduiut' grud'mi, tomu, tak bi moviti, u nikh i zapakovano pershi obidi yikhnikh ditei. Ta navit' iakshcho viznati, shcho materi prirodno skhil'nishi opikuvatisia dit'mi, bat'ki mozhut' nadoluzhiti svoie zavdiaki znanniam i zusilliam. Iakshcho zhinki khochut' buti uspishnishimi v roboti, choloviki - u sim.. Sheryl Sandberg
9b4dcb1 In 2012, Gloria Steinem sat down in her home for an interview with Oprah Winfrey. Gloria reiterated that progress for women in the home has trailed progress in the workplace, explaining, "Now we know that women can do what men can do, but we don't know that men can do what women can do."34 I believe they can and we should give them more chances to prove it." -- Sheryl Sandberg
b302a30 Colleagues and the media are also quick to credit external factors for a woman's achievements. Sheryl Sandberg
77436cb When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. (...) Professor Flynn calls this the "gender discount" problem, and it means that women are paying a professional penalty for their pressumed desire to be communal." Sheryl Sandberg
72e9d0a Personal connections lead to assignments and promotions, so it needs to be okay for men and women to spend informal time together the same way men can. A senior man and a junior man at a bar is seen as mentoring. A senior man and a junior woman at a bar can also be mentoring... but is looks like dating. Sheryl Sandberg
a9dadff Forty-three percent of highly qualified women with children are leaving careers, or "off-ramping", for a period of time." Sheryl Sandberg
f1e1855 Over the past decade, child care costs have risen twice as fast as the median income of families with children. Sheryl Sandberg