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e91037c grief. I started to learn that no matter how sad I felt, another break would eventually come. It helped me regain a sense of control. I Sheryl Sandberg
aea5341 We will never get to real equality in our workplaces until we get to equality at home. David Schardt
c33a6f1 dealing with grief was like building physical stamina: the more you exercise, the faster your heart rate recovers after it is elevated. Sheryl Sandberg
b2be2bc After every low score you receive," law professors Doug Stone and Sheila Heen advise, you should "give yourself a 'second score' based on how you handle the first score....Even when you get an F for the situation itself, you can still earn an A+ for how you deal with it." Sheryl Sandberg
5de0884 It's easy to dislike senior women because there are so few. If women held 50 percent of the top jobs, it would just not be possible to dislike that many people. (p.50) Sheryl Sandberg
5b18714 One of the things he (Mark Zuckerberg) told me was that my desire to be liked by everyone would hold me back. He said that when you want to change things, you can't please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress. (p.51) Sheryl Sandberg
a1a71d6 I recommend adopting two concurrent goals: a long-term dream and an eighteen-month plan. (...) Typically, my eighteen-month plan sets goals on two fronts. First and most important, I set targets for what my team can accomplish. Employees who concentrate on results and impact are the most valuable (...) Second, I try to set more personal goals for learning new skills in the next eighteen months. It's often painful, but I ask myself, "How can.. Sheryl Sandberg
8e82fb2 At times, staying in the same functional area and in the same organization creates inertia and limits opportunities to expand. Seeking out diverse experiences is useful preparation for leadership. (p.62) Sheryl Sandberg
8d7fa25 Women need to shift from thinking "I'm not ready to do that" to thinking "I want to do that - and I'll learn by doing it." (p.62)" Sheryl Sandberg
accef14 Studies show that mentors select proteges based on performance and potential. Intuitively, people invest in those who stand out for their talent or who can really benefit from help. Mentors continue to invest when mentees use their time well and are truly open to feedback. (...) I believe we have sent the wrong message to young women. We need to stop telling them, "Get a mentor and you will excel." Instead, we need to tell them, "Excel and .. Sheryl Sandberg
a7c2b26 When communicating hard truths, less is often more. (p.80) Sheryl Sandberg
65dd592 Reflecting someone's viewpoint clarifies the disagreement and becomes a starting point for resolution. We all want to be heard, and when we focus on showing others that we are listening, we actually become better listeners. Sheryl Sandberg
08b98e9 One thing that helps is to remember that feedback, like truth, is not absolute. Feedback is an opinion, grounded in observations and experiences, which allows us to know what impression we make on others. (p.83) Sheryl Sandberg
2937842 How can I do better?" "What am I doing that I don't know?" "What am I not doing that I don't see?" These questions can lead to so many benefits. And believe me, the truth hurts. Even when I have solicited feedback, any judgment can feel harsh. But the upside of painful knowledge is so much better than the downside of blissful ignorance. (p.83 f)" Sheryl Sandberg
7d3e269 Miscommunication is always a two-way street. (p.85) Sheryl Sandberg
9d4f062 Sharing emotions builds deeper relationships. Motivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about. To really care about others, we have to understand them _ What they like and dislike, what they feel as well as think. Emotion drives both men and women and influences every decision we make. Recognizing the role emotions play and being willing to discuss them makes us better managers, pa.. Sheryl Sandberg
cacc9ed In the United Kingdom, women face wage penalties for time out of the labor force as well, with British mothers' average annual earnings decreasing by roughly 13 percent per child. (p.102) Sheryl Sandberg
c26b24d Anyone who wants her mate to be a true partner must treat him as an equal - and equally capable - partner. And if that's not enough, bear in mind that a study found that wives who engage in gatekeeping behaviors do five more hours of family work per week than wives who take a more collaborative approach. (p.109) Sheryl Sandberg
778ea29 I truly believe that the single most important career decision that a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is. I don't know of one woman in a leadership position whose life partner is not fully - and I mean fully - supportive of her career. No exceptions. (p.110) Sheryl Sandberg
6655d29 When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. (p.116) Sheryl Sandberg
6ad3251 Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg agreed. "We reward men every step of the way--for being leaders, for being assertive, for taking risks, for being competitive," she said in 2012 at the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland. "And we teach women as young as four--lay back, be communal. Until we change that at a personal level, we need to say there's an ambition gap. We need our boys to be as ambitious to contribute in the home and we need our .. Lynn Povich
56b60d4 In prosperity our friends know us. In adversity we know our friends. Sheryl Sandberg
0e55147 I promise I will raise your children as Vikings fans even though I know nothing about football and I'm pretty sure that team never wins. Sheryl Sandberg
7871550 by the problem. "Some things in life cannot be fixed.8 They can only be carried," Sheryl Sandberg
0ea1aa1 Mighty Be Our Powers, Sheryl Sandberg
90888ad When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less. Sheryl Sandberg
deea791 I have long believed that people need to feel supported and understood at work. I now know that this is even more important after tragedy. And sadly, it's far less common than it should be. Sheryl Sandberg
949ab9e Talking can transform minds, which can transform behaviors, which can transform institutions. --Sheryl Sandberg John Doerr
3c43281 As women must be more empowered at work, men must be more empowered at home. Sheryl Sandberg
3b1a5a2 Counting blessings can actually increase happiness and health by reminding us of the good things in life. Sheryl Sandberg
db30a09 Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. It comes from gratitude for what's good in our lives and from leaning in to the suck. It comes from analyzing how we process grief and from simply accepting that grief. Sometimes we have less control than we think. Other times we have more. Sheryl Sandberg
5055f2b Anyone who wants her mate to be a true partner must treat him as an equal--and equally capable--partner. And if that's not reason enough, bear in mind that a study found that wives who engage in gatekeeping behaviors do five more hours of family work per week than wives who take a more collaborative approach. Sheryl Sandberg
46a54ed And contrary to the popular notion that only unmarried women can make it to the top, the majority of the most successful female business leaders have partners. Sheryl Sandberg
427e591 It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don't be frightened: you can always change your mind." (Nora Ephron) (p.126)" Sheryl Sandberg
5a21bed Counterintuitively, long-term success at work often depends on not trying to meet every demand placed on us. (p.127) Sheryl Sandberg
9afb4f3 I take you to be mine in love. I promise to love you deliberately each day, to feel your joy and your sorrow as my own. Together, we will build a home filled with honor and honesty, comfort and compassion, learning and love. I take you to be mine in friendship. I vow to celebrate all that you are, to help you become the person you aspire to be. From this day forward, your dreams are my dreams and I dedicate myself to helping you fulfill the.. Sheryl Sandberg
fad3c09 Studies from around the world have concluded that children benefit greatly from paternal involvement. Research over the last forty years has consistently found that in comparison to children with less-involved fathers, children with involved and loving fathers have higher levels of psychological well-being and better cognitive abilities. Sheryl Sandberg
af890b3 Women became 50 percent of the college graduates in the United States in the early 1980s.5 Since then, women have slowly and steadily advanced, earning more and more of the college degrees, taking more of the entry-level jobs, and entering more fields previously dominated by men. Despite these gains, the percentage of women at the top of corporate America has barely budged over the past decade.6 A meager twenty-three of the S&P 500 CEOs are.. Sheryl Sandberg
245a745 The promise of equality is not the same as true equality. A Sheryl Sandberg
b230be2 the result of creating a more equal environment will not just be better performance for our organizations, but quite likely greater happiness for all. Sheryl Sandberg
5f2db5f spend more time comforting and hugging infant girls and more time watching infant boys play by themselves.22 Other cultural messages are more blatant. Gymboree once sold onesies proclaiming "Smart like Daddy" for boys and "Pretty like Mommy" for girls.23 The same year, J. C. Penney marketed a T-shirt to teenage girls that bragged, "I'm too pretty to do homework so my brother has to do it for me."24 These things did not happen in 1951. They .. Sheryl Sandberg
8e3ec50 Fathers who want to drop out of the workforce entirely and devote themselves to child care can face extremely negative social pressure. Sheryl Sandberg
ab8b84a We plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P's can stunt recovery: (1) personalization--the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness--the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence--the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever. The three P's play li.. Sheryl Sandberg
af680f2 Progress remains equally sluggish when it comes to compensation. In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made.10 As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, "Forty years and eighteen cents." -- Sheryl Sandberg