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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 005e214 | In fact, when you're mindful, you actually feel irritation more keenly. However, once you unburden yourself from the delusion that people are deliberately trying to screw you, it's easier to stop getting carried away. | Dan Harris | ||
| cad2fab | Dalai Lama: "If a scientist confirm nonexistence of something we believe, then we have to accept that." Dan Harris: "So if scientists come up with something that contradicts your beliefs, you will change your beliefs?" Dalai Lama: "Oh yes. Yes." | mindfulness | Dan Harris | |
| 1b15832 | There was something important being overlooked, they argued, in the mainstreaming of meditation - a central plank in the Buddhist platform: compassion. | meditation | Dan Harris | |
| 852126c | does. America, as then senator Barack Obama had noted after Hurricane Katrina, "goes from shock to trance" faster than any other nation on earth." | Dan Harris | ||
| 1bb8149 | Many of us labor under the delusion that we're permanently stuck with all of the difficult parts of our personalities--that we are "hot-tempered," or "shy," or "sad"--and that these are fixed, immutable traits. We now know that many of the attributes we value most are, in fact, skills, which can be trained the same way you build your body in the gym." | Dan Harris | ||
| 0c36a80 | brain is a pleasure-seeking machine. | Dan Harris | ||
| 5456159 | If anything, mindfulness brought you closer to your neuroses, acting as a sort of Doppler radar, mapping your mental microclimates, making you more insightful, not less. It was the complete opposite of the reckless hope preached by the self-helpers. It was the power of negative thinking. | Dan Harris | ||
| 82267f2 | acknowledged that the Jewish penchant for anxiety probably played a role in their collective attraction to Buddhism. Over the ensuing decades, the Jew-Bus had been a major force in figuring out how to translate the wisdom of the East for a Western audience--mostly by making it less hierarchical and devotional. Mark mentioned that he and some of his peers taught Buddhist-themed seminars around town, where they gave talks and answered questio.. | Dan Harris | ||
| 3eb93a4 | his favorite book, by an ancient sage | Dan Harris | ||
| 057f8e9 | We live so much of our lives pushed forward by these "if only" thoughts, and yet the itch remains. The pursuit of happiness becomes the source of our unhappiness. Joseph" | Dan Harris | ||
| 75d2b7e | What mindfulness does is create some space in your head so you can, as the Buddhists say, "respond" rather than simply "react." In" | Dan Harris | ||
| a29c541 | Mindfulness is an inborn trait, a birthright. It is, one could argue, what makes us human. | Dan Harris | ||
| 6833920 | I was a frequent mental inventory taker, scanning my consciousness for objects of concern, kind of like pressing a bruise to see if it still hurts. | Dan Harris | ||
| 9cea4da | I had long assumed that ceaseless planning was the recipe for effectiveness, but Marturano's point was that too much mental churning was counterproductive. When you lurch from one thing to the next, constantly scheming, or reacting to incoming fire, the mind gets exhausted. You get sloppy and make bad decisions. I could see how the counterintuitive act of stopping, even for a few seconds, could be a source of strength, not weakness. | Dan Harris | ||
| 6bd562e | Overall, compassionate people tended to be healthier, happier, more popular, and more successful at work. Most | Dan Harris | ||
| ca39e35 | pacing around my office in tight circles, like a Chihuahua doing dressage. | Dan Harris | ||
| e797d1f | the slipping away is the whole point. Once you've achieved choiceless awareness, you see so clearly how fleeting everything is. Impermanence is no longer theoretical. Tempus fugit isn't just something you inscribe in books and clocks. | Dan Harris | ||
| 8b39e76 | Notwithstanding Ted's foibles, he'd helped me become utterly at ease around people who said "God bless you" when I hadn't sneezed. Increasingly, I even now found myself in the position of defending evangelicals to my friends and family. Once, when I made a passing reference to "evangelical intellectuals," a relative quipped, "Isn't that a contradiction in terms?" Another stereotype I spent a lot of time batting down: that Christians were al.. | Dan Harris | ||
| 87d0d9b | Quelque part dans l'obscurite, un phenix lancait un chant que Harry n'avait encore jamais entendu : une lamentation dechirante d'une terrible beaute. | Éric Auriacombe | ||
| d689638 | many people live habitually as if the present moment were an obstacle that they need to overcome in order to get to the next moment. | Dan Harris | ||
| dadf71e | The real superpower of meditation is not just to manage your ego more mindfully but to see that the ego itself has no actual substance. Close your eyes and look for it, and you won't find any "self" you can put your finger on." | Dan Harris | ||
| dee7c7a | The ego is constantly comparing itself to others. It has us measuring our self-worth against the looks, wealth, and social status of everyone else. | Dan Harris | ||
| d4e55fe | The Buddhists had a helpful analogy here. Picture the mind like a waterfall, they said: the water is the torrent of thoughts and emotions; mindfulness is the space behind the waterfall. Again, elegant theory--but, easier said than done. | Dan Harris | ||
| 46bea40 | It makes Buddhism seem supremely dour. Turns out, though, it's all the result of a translation error. The Pali word dukkha doesn't actually mean "suffering." There's no perfect word in English, but it's closer to "unsatisfying" or "stressful." | Dan Harris | ||
| 250721f | When good things happen, we bake them very quickly into our baseline expectations, and yet the primordial void goes unfilled. | Dan Harris | ||
| 470a7fa | On retreat, with nothing to look forward to, nowhere to be, nothing to do, we are forced to confront the "wound of existence" head-on, to stare into the abyss and realize that so much of what we do in life--every shift in our seat, every bite of food, every pleasant daydream--is designed to avoid pain or seek pleasure. But if we can drop all that, we can, as Sam once said in his speech to the angry, befuddled atheists, learn how to be happy.. | Dan Harris | ||
| b31aa05 | There's no point in being unhappy about things you can't change, and no point being unhappy about things you can." To" | Dan Harris | ||
| 4ea129f | Dans notre societe, Marcus, les hommes que l'on admire le plus sont ceux qui batissent des ponts, des gratte-ciels et des empires. Mais en realite, les plus fiers et les plus admirables sont ceux qui arrivent a batir l'amour. Car il n'est pas de plus grande et de plus difficile entreprise. | Joël Dicker | ||
| 8c02fc0 | We are in the midst of a momentous event in the evolution of human consciousness, but they won't be talking about it in the news tonight. --Eckhart Tolle, self-help guru Open | Dan Harris | ||
| 172d5c6 | just radiated curiosity and enthusiasm. Toward the end of our interview, he said, "The most important thing to me is probably, like, being kind and also trying to do something awesome." | Dan Harris | ||
| 89d7ea2 | I'd always assumed that the voice in my head was me: my ghostly internal anchorman, hosting the coverage of my life, engaged in an unsolicited stream of insensitive questions and obnoxious color commentary. | Dan Harris | ||
| 62e3c25 | We are constantly murmuring, muttering, scheming, or wondering to ourselves under our breath," wrote Epstein. " 'I like this. I don't like that. She hurt me. How can I get that? More of this, no more of that.' Much of our inner dialogue is this constant reaction to experience by a selfish, childish protagonist. None of us has moved very far from the seven-year-old who vigilantly watches to see who got more." There were also delightful passa.. | Dan Harris | ||
| c20d088 | I was always hurtling headlong through the day, checking things off my to-do list, constantly picturing completion instead of calmly and carefully enjoying the process. | Dan Harris | ||
| a0a734f | Seeing a problem clearly does not prevent you from taking action, he explained. Acceptance is not passivity. Sometimes we are justifiably displeased. What mindfulness does is create some space in your head so you can, as the Buddhists say, "respond" rather than simply "react." In the Buddhist view, you can't control what comes up in your head; it all arises out of a mysterious void. We spend a lot of time judging ourselves harshly for feeli.. | Dan Harris | ||
| 1c530b5 | The Sufi Muslims say, "Praise Allah, but also tie your camel to the post." In other words, it's good to take a transcendent view of the world, but don't be a chump." | Dan Harris | ||
| fd61c6e | You can do your best and then, if things don't go your way, still become unconstructively upset, in a way that hinders your ability to bounce back. Dropping the attachment is the real trick. | Dan Harris | ||
| d07f580 | Merci d'etre ma lumiere dans l'obscurite. | light shadows | Jack Thorne | |
| 64497a4 | I'd be loath to call what I'm feeling spiritual or mystical. Those terms connote--to me, at least--otherworldliness or unreality. By contrast, what's happening right now feels hyperreal, as if I've been pulled out of a dream rather than thrust into one. | Dan Harris | ||
| aa16c7c | people would always ask whether we were believers, but when we said no, there were never gasps or glares. They may have thought we were going to hell, but they were perfectly nice about it. | Dan Harris | ||
| b76819b | While I may not have been physically addicted, I was certainly psychologically hooked. I missed getting high so badly that it was the first thing I thought about in the morning and the last thing I fantasized about before I drifted off to sleep. I'd had some of the happiest moments of my life while high, and pulling the plug was wrenching. | Dan Harris | ||
| 85a8f7e | Everyone laughs. "Another slogan says, 'I don't let anything stand in the way of my pleasure.' " "The best one of all," he says, pausing for effect, in a wait-for-it kind of way, chuckling to himself as he lets our curiosity build. " 'To be one with everything . . . you need one of everything." | Dan Harris | ||
| 4069dc6 | I could see the value of recognizing thoughts for what they are--fleeting, gossamer, unsubstantial--but aren't some thoughts connected to concrete realities that need to be addressed? | Dan Harris | ||
| c981a5b | main thesis was that in a world where everything is constantly changing, we suffer because we cling to things that won't last. | Dan Harris | ||
| 84cf42a | One of the most interesting discoveries of this whole journey was that I didn't need my demons to fuel my drive--and that taming them was a more satisfying exercise than indulging them. | Dan Harris |