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| 87d2a97 | The great imaginative artists have always sailed "in the wind's eye," and brought back with them words or sounds or images to "counterbalance human woes." That they themselves were subject to more than their fair share of these woes deserves our appreciation, understanding, and very careful thought." | Kay Redfield Jamison | ||
| 4bcd1c1 | Circadian rhythms are implicated in some of the symptoms of depression, such as early awakening and diurnal variation in mood. The possible importance of the circadian system in its pathogenesis is suggested by the capacity of experimental alterations in the timing of sleep and wakefulness to alter clinical state." Biological rhythms range in frequency from milliseconds to months or years. Most rhythmic disturbances identified in the sympto.. | Kay Redfield Jamison | ||
| 3a5dd3f | Americans really believe that the past is past," he writes. "They do not care to know that the past soaks the present like the light of a distant star. Things that are over do not end. They come inside us, and seek sanctuary in subjectivity. And there they live on, in the consciousness of individuals and communities." The forward thrust of exuberance, like closure, risks leaving behind an essential past." | Kay Redfield Jamison | ||
| c7617ff | my curiosity and temperament had taken me to places I was not really able to handle emotionally, | Kay Redfield Jamison | ||
| f3d3f26 | Fear would come in time, no doubt, but that did not mean she had to issue it a formal invitation. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| fd6e0e2 | An uninspired ruler works to develop those relationships which will be most to his advantage. A great ruler determines the most desirable relationships and assumes them into being. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 0809537 | I stood balanced on the brink of madness. Insanity and longevity are a truly terrifying combination; if I gave in now, I might pay the price for centuries to come. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 19ffde8 | God save us from an Earth in which all men are the same. God save us from a colony where that is the goal, or a culture which assumes that for its norm. Give me a thousand people speaking different tongues, worshiping different gods, and dreaming different dreams, and I will make of them a greater nation than you can make with ten thousand of your gengineered duplicates. For mine will have the spark of greatness in them, while yours will li.. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 04ea40c | Few watched the human homeworld as she did, which meant there were fewer rivals for her harvests. Her predations. Reijik Station, she mused. Her fingers twitched in their plasteel cage as she wondered what manner of feast this harvest might provide. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 5bb8dbf | He was good at ignoring things; it was a skill all iru had. A lifetime of dealing with senses that tended to go haywire had taught him how to shut down the part of his awareness that was causing irritation. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 717824c | I dreamed of a beast in human form, that hunted men for pleasure. When they brought it down--at last, after many deaths--they cut it open. Only to find a wormlike thing coiled in a bed of slime at the center of it, where the heart should be, and a webwork of puppeteer's strings leading outward through the flesh. I screamed. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 1962047 | Evil is what you make of it, the Prophet had written. Bind it to a higher Purpose, and you will have altered its nature. And: We use what tools we must. Damien | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 495ab7c | The gods, he knows now, will not help mankind. If they even exist--which he is no longer certain of--it is clear they do not care what happens. Perhaps they will even applaud when the last monuments of the Second Age of Kings crumble to dust, and the men who once worshiped them are reduced to the level of beasts. Perhaps that is what they intended all along. | C.S. Friedman | ||
| 1ca9de6 | I acknowledge all of my feelings and accept that they are natural expressions of the grief over losing you. I am angry about what caused you to die. I want to shake my fist or scream at the caregivers who did not save your life. I am angry with God for taking you away too soon. It upsets me that you left this world even though I still needed you. What can I say or think or do to forgive myself or others for not being able to stop you from d.. | Linda Anderson | ||
| 1d3e8d4 | You were an important part of my life, and I feel an overpowering grief and sadness over your loss. My life is affected in simple and profound ways. I am hurting emotionally, physically, and mentally. I am often distracted and unfocused during my regular workday. My sadness over missing you leaves me numb and unmotivated. What are the things that I miss the most, now that you are gone? What are my thoughts and feelings as I try to perform d.. | Linda Anderson | ||
| df9dea9 | But how am I to live in the meantime?' I wailed. 'Tis for you to decide,' he said. 'You can be her enemy and make yourself miserable by it, or you can endure it. If 'twere me, I'd choose endurance. | Carolyn Meyer | ||
| 652289a | I would knock your head against a Wall until it was soft as a baked apple! | Carolyn Meyer | ||
| 73e53c4 | I know she's checking me out. Fair enough, because I'm checking her out. "Ah ahhh ahhhh!" Eve cries out suddenly. She's in pain. Bad pain. So it's possible she's not really checking me out." -- | Michael Grant | ||
| 167079e | Even with a receptive audience, dominance is a zero-sum game: the more power and authority I have, the less you have. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| a98702d | You look like an innocent angel, Shylah, but you kiss like fucking sin. | paranormal romance science-fiction | Christine Feehan | |
| 68de7bd | But there's a twist: expressing vulnerability is only effective if the audience receives other signals establishing the speaker's competence. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| bf09f47 | It's widely assumed that there's a tradeoff between quantity and quality--if you want to do better work, you have to do less of it--but this turns out to be false. In fact, when it comes to idea generation, quantity is the most predictable path to quality. "Original" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 0592816 | It's not what a player is, but what he can become... that will allow him to grow. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| e881520 | Talented people are attracted to those who care about them. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 87edba2 | To punish me for my contempt for authority, fate made me an authority myself," Einstein lamented." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 0c820be | This is called the Sarick Effect, named after the social scientist Leslie Sarick. In both situations, Griscom was presenting ideas to people who had more power than he had, and trying to convince them to commit their resources. Most of us assume that to be persuasive, we ought to emphasize our strengths and minimize our weaknesses. That kind of powerful communication makes sense if the audience is supportive. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 968b569 | Research suggests that there are two fundamental paths to influence: dominance and prestige. When we establish dominance, we gain influence because others see us as strong, powerful, and authoritative. When we earn prestige, we become influential because others respect and admire us. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 045f296 | When our audiences are skeptical, the more we try to dominate them, the more they resist. Even with a receptive audience, dominance is a zero-sum game: the more power and authority I have, the less you have. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 2bff6a4 | When we become curious about the dissatisfying defaults in our world, we begin to recognize that most of them have social origins: Rules and systems were created by people. And that awareness gives us the courage to contemplate how we can change them. Before women gained the right to vote in America, many "had never before considered their degraded status as anything but natural," historian" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 9abc7b7 | Abraham Lincoln is usually regarded as the greatest of all American presidents. When experts rated the presidents on the desire to please others and avoid conflict, Lincoln scored the highest of them all. He devoted four hours a day to holding office hours with citizens and pardoned deserters during the Civil War. Before signing the Emancipation Proclamation, Lincoln agonized for six months over whether he should free the slaves. He questio.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 9ac7afb | Today, we have compelling evidence that interest precedes the development of talent. It turns out that motivation is the reason that people develop talent in the first place. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| b1d8e36 | As Jack Handey advised in one of his "Deep Thoughts" on Saturday Night Live, before you criticize people, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 1a66809 | The primary purpose has already been served by your preparation for this exam" . . . Success doesn't measure a human being, effort does. Studies" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| d032e2f | You don't have to be first to be an original, and the most successful originals don't always arrive on schedule. They are fashionably late to the party. The | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 5a9fdc1 | A growing body of evidence suggests that entrepreneurs don't like risk any more than the rest of us--and it's the rare conclusion on which many economists, sociologists, and psychologists have actually come to agree. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 13615c7 | People who prefer to give or match often feel pressured to lean in the taker direction when they perceive a workplace as zero-sum. Whether it's a company with forced ranking systems, a group of firms vying to win the same clients, or a school with required grading curves and more demand than supply for desirable jobs, it's only natural to assume that peers will lean more toward taking than giving. "When they anticipate self-interested behav.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| c9f44d3 | Some people, when they do someone a favor, are always looking for a chance to call it in. And some aren't, but they're still aware of it--still regard it as a debt. But others don't even do that. They're like a vine that produces grapes without looking for anything in return . . . after helping others . . . They just go on to something else . . . We should be like that. --Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor A | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 68f9eb3 | The first follower is what transforms a lone nut into a leader." - Quoting Derek Sivers" | innovation leadership peer-pressure | Adam M. Grant | |
| 537c9c2 | Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| b6543d8 | above all, I want to demonstrate that success doesn't have to come at someone else's expense." In" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| ec47d2c | When I put up a slide that says 'Here's why you shouldn't buy this company,' the first response was laughter. Then you could see them physically relax. It's sincere; it doesn't smell, feel, or look anything like sales. They're no longer being sold. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 79a054a | We prefer the regular photos of our friends, because that's how we're used to seeing them, but we like the inverted photos of ourselves, because that's how we see ourselves when we look in the mirror. "Familiarity doesn't breed contempt," says serial entrepreneur Howard Tullman. "It breeds comfort." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| ff26f02 | The customer service agents who accepted the defaults of Internet Explorer and Safari approached their job the same way. They stayed on script in sales calls and followed standard operating procedures for handling customer complaints. They saw their job descriptions as fixed, so when they were unhappy with their work, they started missing days, and eventually just quit. The employees who took the initiative to change their browsers to Firef.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 242b795 | This chapter is about when to speak up and how to do it effectively without jeopardizing our careers and relationships. What | Adam M. Grant |