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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 68c0899 | But there's something distinctive that happens when givers succeed: it spreads and cascades. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| cd9669a | If we want people to accept our original ideas, we need to speak up about them, then rinse and repeat. To | Adam M. Grant | ||
| f6b4092 | The mere exposure effect has been replicated many times--the more familiar a face, letter, number, sound, flavor, brand, or Chinese character becomes, the more we like it. It's | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 1b05edf | Reasoning does create a paradox: it leads both to more rule following and more rebelliousness. By | Adam M. Grant | ||
| bcd5df8 | Research shows that takers harbor doubts about others' intentions, so they monitor vigilantly for information that others might harm them, treating others with suspicion and distrust. These low expectations trigger a vicious cycle, constraining the development and motivation of others. Even when takers are impressed by another person's capabilities or motivation, they're more likely to see this person as a threat, which means they're less w.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| f95519b | Three decades of research show that receiving support from colleagues is a robust antidote to burnout. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| b16c2e3 | The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." George Bernard Shaw On a cool fall evening in 2008, four students set out to revolutionize an industry. Buried in loans, they had lost and broken eyeglasses and were outraged at how much it cost to replace them. One of them had been wearing the same damaged pair for f.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 3e941dc | As economist Joseph Schumpeter famously observed, originality is an act of creative destruction. Advocating for new systems often requires demolishing the old way of doing things, and we hold back for fear of rocking the boat. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 5cacd03 | Based on David Hornik's story, you might predict that givers achieve the worst results--and you'd be right. Research demonstrates that givers sink to the bottom of the success ladder. Across a wide range of important occupations, givers are at a disadvantage: they make others better off but sacrifice their own success in the process. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 07240f8 | Although many successful givers start from the default of trusting others' intentions, they're also careful to scan their environments to screen for potential takers, always ready to shift from feeling a taker's emotions to analyzing a taker's thoughts, and flex from giving unconditionally to a more measured approach of generous tit for tat. And when they feel inclined to back down, successful givers are prepared to draw reserves of asserti.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 0aeee72 | Now that you have a bit of respect, you value your standing in the group and don't want to jeopardize it. To maintain and then gain status, you play a game of follow-the-leader, conforming to prove your worth as a group member. As | Adam M. Grant | ||
| baf62bb | Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it's valuable in a marathon | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 7967ffd | a young Goldman Sachs banker named Joseph Park was sitting in his apartment, frustrated at the effort required to get access to entertainment. Why should he trek all the way to Blockbuster to rent a movie? He should just be able to open a website, pick out a movie, and have it delivered to his door. Despite raising around $250 million, Kozmo, the company Park founded, went bankrupt in 2001. His biggest mistake was making a brash promise for.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| af2534b | In 1927, Russian psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik demonstrated that people have a better memory for incomplete than complete tasks. Once a task is finished, we stop thinking about it. But when it is interrupted and left undone, it stays active in our minds. As | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 8fb0036 | And in the long run, research shows that the mistakes we regret are not errors of commission, but errors of omission. If we could do things over, most of us would censor ourselves less and express our ideas more. That's | Adam M. Grant | ||
| f39457c | Along with providing time to generate novel ideas, procrastination has another benefit: it keeps us open to improvisation. When we plan well in advance, we often stick to the structure we've created, closing the door to creative possibilities that might spring into our fields of vision. Years | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 0b9db4c | We assume that common goals bind groups together, but the reality is that they often drive groups apart. According to Dartmouth psychologist Judith White, a lens for understanding these fractures is the concept of horizontal hostility. Even though they share a fundamental objective, radical groups often disparage more mainstream groups as impostors and sellouts. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| caddefb | Taking is using other people solely for one's own gain. Receiving is accepting help from others while maintaining a willingness to pay it back and forward. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 57e18c3 | This is the core challenge of speaking up with an original idea. When you present a new suggestion, you're not only hearing the tune in your head. You wrote the song. You've spent hours, days, weeks, months, or maybe even years thinking about the idea. You've contemplated the problem, formulated the solution, and rehearsed the vision. You know the lyrics and the melody of your idea by heart. By that point, it's no longer possible to imagine.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 3702d33 | If you want a child to share a toy, instead of asking, "Will you share?" ask, "Will you be a sharer?" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| dce0d29 | In a recent study comparing every Nobel Prize-winning scientist from 1901 to 2005 with typical scientists of the same era, both groups attained deep expertise in their respective fields of study. But the Nobel Prize winners were dramatically more likely to be involved in the arts than less accomplished scientists. Here's | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 7e6fd27 | The more experiments you run, the less constrained you become by your ideas from the past. You | Adam M. Grant | ||
| a35de98 | givers always score high on other-interest, but they vary in self-interest. There are two types of givers, and they have dramatically different success rates. Selfless givers are people with high other-interest and low self-interest. They give their time and energy without regard for their own needs, and they pay a price for it. Selfless giving is a form of pathological altruism, which is defined by researcher Barbara Oakley as "an unhealth.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 07be2ea | Strong ties provide bonds, but weak ties serve as bridges: they provide more efficient access to new information. Our strong ties tend to travel in the same social circles and know about the same opportunities as we do. Weak ties are more likely to open up access to a different network, facilitating the discovery of original leads. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| b462247 | All it took was having them spend their initial six minutes a little differently: instead of adopting a managerial mindset for evaluating ideas, they got into a creative mindset by generating ideas themselves. Just | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 3744ba1 | Some people, when they do someone a favor, are always looking for a chance to call it in. And some aren't, but they're still aware of it--still regard it as a debt. But others don't even do that. They're like a vine that produces grapes without looking for anything in return... after helping others... They just go on to something else... We should be like that. --Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor | Adam M. Grant | ||
| bdab527 | is to read things that are not yet on the page. Edwin Land of Polaroid talked about the intersection of the humanities and science. I like that intersection. There's something magical about that place. There are a lot of people innovating, and that's not the main distinction of my career. The reason Apple resonates with people is that there's a deep current of humanity in our innovation. I think great artists and great engineers are similar.. | Walter Isaacson | ||
| 965d930 | Don't get so holy, Pearce. Life isn't holy. | page-37 true | James Edwin Gunn | |
| 2e00d54 | And a pencil-line drawing of a house. And under a piece of Scotch tape a ring, just a cheap ring with a blue glass stone. , it read. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 1a8079a | Alan, as per his usual routine, got up early and peeked into my rom to check on me. What he found were his teenage stepdaughter and her childhood sweetheart curled up in the same bed, sound asleep and draped all over each other. He hissed my name, alarmed: "Jenna!" "Wha-?" I sat straight up, immediately aware of what was happening and how it all looked. I clambered over Cameron, who was just coming to consciousness, and followed Alan into t.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 036d36b | Is that the destiny of all friendships, no matter how good they are? To die out or fade away? To end? | Sara Zarr | ||
| 0eea446 | counted because things in my life had a way of disappearing on me, and I'd learned not to trust what I thought was there. What | Sara Zarr | ||
| 8308b3e | Why do people...we...why do we drag around like life is so awful?' Why did they forget that there was so much to love? He took off his glasses and rubbed his eyes. 'I guess...because there's a lot that is awful. That's the struggle of getting old. To make sure you don't let what's hard or painful or whatever obscure the beauty. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 63caa20 | Trust me, Jennifer. Just...trust me." I drove another block or two. "Why should I?" "Why shouldn't you?" But I knew it wasn't his fault, any more than it was mine. It wasn't like either of us had control over our lives. We were at the mercy of our parents, both of us. Anyway, I'd already turned the car toward the freeway entrance. I turned on the car radio and we drove twenty minutes without talking. When the exit finally came into view, u.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 789b0db | He crouched down next to me. I put my hand on the hem of his jeans. It was the first time I'd touched him since that day in the cafeteria line. "I've got so much to tell you," he said, so quietly I almost couldn't hear. "Been thinking about how to even start." "Start anywhere," I whispered. "I just want to know." "I feel like I've already told you everything, in a way. I've been talking to you in my head for eight years, writing epics and s.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| dab2bc0 | There was a present on the front seat of Ethan's car, a Gap box tied with a white ribbon. "Happy birthday, Jenna," Ethan said, leaning over to kiss me, his lips cool from the iced chai he stopped for every morning. I opened the box and pulled out an orange sweater with a cream-colored stripe down the arms. "Thank you. I love it." "I know," he said, pulling away from the curb. "That's what you said when you handed it to me at the store and t.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 0c5118a | Ethan didn't know anything about the fat girl, the Cootie Twin, the loner and reject. The only person who had ever picked Jennifer Harris was Cameron Quick, and sometimes when I was with Ethan I felt the smallest twinge of guilt, like being with him was a betrayal. The one thing that could never die or be buried was my loyalty to Cameron for everything he'd done for me and what we'd been through together, even if that loyalty was to a ghost.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 606e6b7 | We don't have to do this," I said. His jaw set in a way that reminded me of how he'd look some times back in grade school, standing around the fringes of s kickball game or on that bench by Mr. Lloyd's room. "We do, though." I shook my head, staring at the house. Right then, a woman walked out, carrying a bag of trash. "Let's ask her if we can go in," Cameron said. "Go ?" He turned to me. "Yeah." I lowered my voice to a whisper. "Shouldn't.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 8f174a0 | Where do you think you're going? I turn to see him, Cameron's dad. He is tall, a lot taller than my mom and most of the teachers at school, and has Cameron's big eyes. he says, studying me with a smile. He sounds nicer now. Maybe he's just a regular dad, maybe what I heard him saying to Cameron before wasn't really mean, maybe it was like a joke. I don't know how fathers are. Mine's been gone since I was two years old. Maybe they are like.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 8bcf8fc | At the corner of K street and Fourth Avenue, I slowed down to let a pedestrian cross, a boy around my age. Maybe because he was so tall or maybe because of the way he walked-with a determined leaving into the cold-I couldn't take my eyes off him. His face was angled away from the car, and I got this strange urge to make him turn around so I could see it. I pressed my hand to the horn, but no sound came out, which was a relief. What was I th.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| bc261fa | reigning Miss Predictability," Steph said, "proudly representing the fine state of Utah." "My inability to be spontaneous is part of my charm." "It's true. You wouldn't be you otherwise." | Sara Zarr | ||
| 5f4b1ab | Why did you come back to Salt Lake?" I knew the answer before I asked the question and he knew I knew, and it was like you could see the shadow of it hanging there between us. "I needed to see you," he finally said. "It's hard to explain." "You don't have to." "I tried telling my mom once what happed that day. Showed her the hole in the window screen and Moe and even after that she said it was complicated, that my dad's a complicated man an.. | Sara Zarr | ||
| 2486e8a | I had no doubt in my mind that I loved Alice (Tom Ward). | Joseph Delaney | ||
| eb5eaaf | I don't understand, Jenna, why you couldn't give him a ride home?" Mom struck the archetypal Mom pose-hands on hips, perplexed look on face, head tilted at that angle. "He walked home in the pouring rain. With a cold, I might add." "I didn't know he had a cold. I was at the JCC with Steph," I said, knowing that was not going to fly. Cameron padded into the kitchen on bare feet, rubbing his hair dry with a towel. "It's fine," he said. "I d.. | Sara Zarr |