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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 8c430b3 | Being a wife-mother and doing a job, it's the toughest damn thing in the world. But we want it. | Anne Baxter | ||
| 5e8d2e1 | They're perceived to be more friendly, warmer, and even more physically attractive. A study showed that students who were happy as college freshmen were earning more money in their midthirties--without any wealth advantage to start. Being happy can make a big difference in your work life. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 317db6b | In other words, even though one coin certainly isn't sufficient to make a man rich, a man only becomes rich by adding one coin after another. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 666050d | Waiting fifteen minutes proved effective against my growing "checking habit." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9a774a9 | eliminating clutter would cut down the amount of housework in the average home by 40 percent. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0be9a33 | Researchers were surprised to find," write Roy Baumeister and John Tierney in their fascinating book Willpower, "that people with strong self-control spent less time resisting desires than other people did.... people with good self-control mainly use it not for rescue in emergencies but rather to develop effective habits and routines in school and at work." In other words, habits eliminate the need for self-control." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| ce2efa7 | making. A habit requires no decision from me, because I've already decided. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 716ec0c | Habit makes it dangerously easy to become numb to our own existence. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f0197c8 | Upholders may struggle in situations where expectations aren't clear or the rules aren't established. They may feel compelled to meet expectations, even ones that seem pointless. They may feel uneasy when they know they're breaking the rules, even unnecessary rules, unless they work out a powerful justification to do so. | habits | Gretchen Rubin | |
| fceff65 | Finally, it became perfectly obvious. A finish line marks a stopping point. Once we stop, we must start over, and starting over is harder than continuing. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 447bae5 | there is no Future-Gretchen, only Now-Gretchen. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 3cb0f76 | a stumble may be helpful, because it shows me where I need to concentrate my efforts in order to do better next time. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6ba7c53 | Audiences = expectations. If he thinks you're not watching, he won't need to rebel against your expectations. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| d9c0e7d | These tasks weren't urgent (which was the reason they didn't get done), but because they weighed on my mind, they sapped my energy. | tasks | Gretchen Rubin | |
| b94cd44 | Read the news every morning" or "Call one client each day" are easy to monitor, while vague resolutions such as "Be more informed" or "Cultivate better client relationships" are hard to monitor....Accurate monitoring helps determine whether a habit is worth the time, money, or energy it consumes." | resolutions | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 6ff542d | Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves. For them, the key is external accountability. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 3b308d8 | People who feel less guilt and who show compassion toward themselves in the face of failure are better able to regain self-control, while people who feel deeply guilty and full of self-blame struggle more. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 7d8979d | novelty. I'm definitely in the familiarity camp. I love to reread my favorite books and to watch movies over and over. I eat the same foods, more or less, every day. I like returning to places I've visited before. Other people thrive on doing new things. For familiarity lovers, a habit becomes easier as it becomes familiar. When I felt intimidated by the library when I started law school, I made myself walk through it a few times each day u.. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| a5af133 | In their thought-provoking book Focus, researchers Tory Higgins and Heidi Grant Halvorson argue that people lean toward being "promotion-focused" or "prevention-focused" in their aims." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 51c96bf | Like Dr. Johnson, I'm an Abstainer: I find it far easier to give up something altogether than to indulge moderately. And this distinction has profound implications for habits. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 876ca46 | One study showed that children who got a reward for coloring with magic markers--an activity that children love--didn't spend as much time with markers, later, as children who didn't expect a reward. The children began to think, "Why would I color if I don't get a reward?" | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 39f2356 | An unmade bed is a common broken window, which is why "Make the bed" is one of the most popular happiness-project resolutions, and in fact, as Charles Duhigg points out in his fascinating book The Power of Habit, the habit of bed making is correlated with a sense of greater well-being and higher productivity." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 5dc00e6 | When scheduling a new habit, it helps to tie it to an existing habit, such as "after breakfast," or to an external cue, such as "when my alarm rings," | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0227b29 | Arranging to Fail Loophole: | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| b372ea4 | For instance, if it's 9 a.m. and I have an appointment at 11 a.m., I'll think 'Oh, I have to go somewhere in two hours, so I can't really start anything serious' and then end up wasting my whole morning waiting for one thing to happen. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c020d79 | gave up Nutella in December 2011. A few years later I thought I would be able to handle the Nutella once more so I bought two jars on sale. I ate 4,000 calories of Nutella over 36 hours. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9d81969 | I've noticed that some people are serial goal setters, rather than habit formers. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| fa3ecba | It is a sign of maturity not to be scandalized and to try to find explanations in charity. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| d5a8681 | Habit is a good servant but a bad master. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1d9c481 | In an interview in the Paris Review, novelist and Rebel John Gardner made an observation that I've never forgotten: "Every time you break the law you pay, and every time you obey the law you pay." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1e07d45 | We manage what we monitor. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| c6faf5a | In particular, I'd realized that although I possessed all the elements of a happy life, too often I took my circumstances for granted and allowed myself to become overly vexed by petty annoyances or fleeting worries. I'd wanted to appreciate my life more, and to live up to it better. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1bc1f75 | Clarity of values also makes it possible to identify red-herring habits. A red-herring habit is a habit that we loudly claim to want to adopt, when we don't actually intend to do so. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 2298a58 | Besides clarity of values, another kind of clarity supports habit formation: clarity of action. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9290ca0 | Same person, same activity, different habit. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9987252 | My idea of "this is the kind of person I am" is so bound up in my habits and actions that it's hard for me to see. But eventually, I realized that my sense of identity makes it easier or harder to change a habit." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| b76674e | Studies suggest that we repeat about 40 percent of our behavior almost daily. So if we change our habits, we change our lives. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 38d402c | and the | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 9478242 | In The First 20 Minutes, Gretchen Reynolds notes, "I stand on one foot when I brush my teeth at night." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 60216ff | We can build our habits only on the foundation of our own nature. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f0c4f59 | habits eliminate the need for self-control. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| cd95e3c | Also, as I discovered when I took the Newcastle Personality Assessor, which measures personality according to the Big Five model (openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism, or OCEAN), | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6a826f2 | I am living my real life, this is it. Now is now, and if I waited to be happier, waited to have fun, waited to do the things that I know I ought to do, I might never get the chance. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| d8161b1 | When I think of myself in the third person, many things become clearer. | Gretchen Rubin |