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| Link | Quote | Stars | Tags | Author |
| 4dd772a | It's fun to fail, I kept repeating. It's part of being ambitious; it's part of being creative. If something is worth doing, it's worth doing badly. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 374ebaa | And of course, arriving at one goal usually reveals another, yet more challenging goal. Publishing the first book means it's time to start the second. There's another hill to climb. The challenge, therefore, is to take pleasure in the "atmosphere of growth," | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 8901950 | Make it easy to do right and hard to go wrong. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0f5828e | Epicurus wrote, "We must exercise ourselves in the things which bring happiness, since, if that be present, we have everything, and, if that be absent, all our actions are directed toward attaining it." Contemporary research shows that happy people are more altruistic, more productive, more helpful, more likable, more creative, more resilient, more interested in others, friendlier, and healthier. Happy people make better friends, colleagues.. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 2774422 | the Strategy of Pairing, I couple two activities, one that I need or want to do, and one that I don't particularly want to do, to get myself to accomplish them both. It's not a reward, it's not a treat, it's just a pairing. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 746e030 | When Obligers have the external accountability they need to meet their inner expectations, they don't experience any sense of limitation or self-frustration--and of course many environments, such as the workplace, tend to supply lots of accountability. When what others expect from Obligers is what they expect from themselves, they have the life they want. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| a294443 | Waldenlust." This longing takes several forms: fantasies of the freedom that dispossession would bring; nostalgia for earlier, supposedly simpler times; and reverence for the primitive, which is assumed to be more authentic and closer to nature." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f45a332 | But it doesn't matter what we think a person (or ourselves) "should be able to" do--what matters is only what works for each individual. To help people change their habits or behavior, we should help get them what they need to succeed, whether that's more clarity, more information, more outer accountability, or more choices." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| af30ba1 | In a nutshell, Rebels respond best to a sequence of information, consequences, and choice. We must give Rebels the information they need to make an informed decision; alert them to the consequences of actions they might take; then allow them to choose-- | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| e9ac24b | There are many compelling reasons to exercise, but study after study shows that weight loss isn't one of them. The way to lose weight is to change eating habits. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0fa6608 | Although people often assume that cravings intensify over time, research shows that with active distraction, urges--even strong urges--usually subside within about fifteen minutes. Drawing on intrinsic motivation makes us far more likely to stick to a behavior, and to find it satisfying. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 91ffd4c | discouraging as he'd been, hadn't actually hit on my real worry about my project: Was it supremely self-centered to spend so much effort on my own happiness? | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 418f093 | The harder it is to do something, the harder it is to do it impulsively, so inconvenience helps us stick to good habits. There are six obvious ways to make an activity less convenient: * Increase the amount of physical or mental energy required (leave the cell phone in another room, ban smoking inside or near a building). * Hide any cues (put the video game controller on a high shelf). * Delay it (read email only after 11:00 a.m.). * En.. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 400799e | It's a Secret of Adulthood: Make sure the things we do to make ourselves feel better don't make us feel worse. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 68be38a | Research shows that the more elements make up your identity, the less threatening it is when any one element is threatened. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| ec0ed74 | UPHOLDER/Obligers must be sure to articulate inner expectations and to create boundaries to protect inner expectations from outer interference. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| d431b85 | Upholders-tipped-to-Obligers have a commitment to both inner and outer expectations, for them, the pull of outer expectations is very hard to ignore; UPHOLDER/Obligers must be sure to articulate inner expectations and to create boundaries to protect inner expectations from outer interference. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 0ea3e07 | as always, Upholders must make sure to articulate their inner expectations. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| b533cff | Almost always, if I make a commitment, I can stick to it, even without outside help. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 89fd979 | She eagerly meets society's rules and laws until they conflict with her own inner sense of justice--at which point she rejects them. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 73a688a | I pegged her as a highly considerate UPHOLDER/Obliger. She's able to meet inner expectations without outer accountability, but only when outer expectations don't interfere. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 6746af6 | Gertrude Stein remarked, "Anything one does every day is important and imposing and anywhere one lives is interesting and beautiful." | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 406315f | In fact, the Upholder commitment to meeting expectations can sometimes make Upholders seem...cold. There's a relentless quality to Upholders. They're going to do what must be done even, sometimes, if that means inconveniencing other people or being out of step. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 384e3c2 | Our habits are our destiny. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 5a01daf | By getting rid of the things I don't use, don't need, or don't love, as well as the things that don't work, don't fit, or don't suit, I free my mind--and my shelves--for what I truly value. And that's true for most people. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| f6edc2f | Once I've cleared away the things I don't need, use, or love, my surroundings reveal to me, and to others, the things that matter most to me. Careful curation means that my space and my possessions reflect my truest identity. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 4f4a85d | Acting is not what I do. It's what I am. It's my permanent, built-in cathedral. | Anne Baxter | ||
| 641127e | The days are long, but the years are short... | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 1f18182 | It's easy to assume that we "should" undertake a particular clutter-clearing task. When we're very clear about why we're doing it, it's easier to use our time and energy productively--and also to recognize success." | organization | Gretchen Rubin | |
| 7c77018 | Remember, the reason to clear clutter is because, somehow, that clutter is diminishing your happiness. If you don't care, don't bother. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 47a835f | happiness, genetics accounts for about 50 percent; life circumstances, such as age, gender, ethnicity, marital status, income, health, occupation, and religious affiliation, account for about 10 to 20 percent; and the remainder is a product of how a person thinks and acts. In other words, people have an inborn disposition that's set within a certain range, but they can boost themselves to the top of their happiness range or push themselves .. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| 653f31f | I did, however, vow to stop reading books that I didn't enjoy. I used to pride myself on finishing every book I started--no longer. | reading | Gretchen Rubin | |
| b57ffe2 | DON'T PUT THINGS DOWN; PUT THINGS AWAY. | Gretchen Rubin | ||
| a7045ec | Sister," quoth Flesh, "what liv'st thou onNothing but Meditation? | Anne Bradstreet | ||
| 0e8862a | Leave not thy nest, thy dam and sire,Fly back and sing amidst this choir. | Anne Bradstreet | ||
| 0a62af9 | He imagines himself a wit, but he's only half that. | Christina Dodd | ||
| d561db6 | Ako ne mozes vidjeti svijetlu stranu zivota, poljepsaj mutnu. | Christina Dodd | ||
| 689a566 | The principal might yield a greater sum,Yet handled ill, amounts but to this crumb; | Anne Bradstreet | ||
| 4c39b9a | Maintenance and resupply are the backbone of any military. | Robert Ferrigno | ||
| 86abaef | Peer pressure and the distaste for letting down a colleague will motivate a team player more than any fear of authoritative punishment or rebuke. | Patrick Lencioni | ||
| 8656989 | We often fool ourselves that we are concentrating because we fix our attention on wavering objects | B. K. S. Iyengar | ||
| 890331c | The most unhappy people in a company are the ones who don't fit the culture and are allowed to stay. They know they don't belong. Deep down inside they don't want to be there. They're miserable. | Patrick Lencioni | ||
| 5b31a31 | Building a team is hard | teamwork | Patrick Lencioni | |
| e25665a | Ricky asks her, "You lost your earrings in the living room?" She shakes her head. "No, I lost them in the bedroom. But the light out here is much better." And there it is. Most leaders prefer to look for answers where the light is better, where they are more comfortable. And the light is certainly better in the measurable, objective, and data-driven world of organizational intelligence (the smart side of the equation) than it is in the mess.. | Patrick Lencioni |