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| 0792e99 | At work, our sense of commitment and control depends more on our direct boss than on anyone else. When we have a supportive boss, our bond with the organization strengthens and we feel a greater span of influence. As | Adam M. Grant | ||
| e7dcea7 | Originals do vary in their attitudes toward risk. Some are skydiving gamblers; others are penny-pinching germophobes. To become original, you have to try something new, which means accepting some measure of risk. But the most successful originals are not the daredevils who leap before they look. They are the ones who reluctantly tiptoe to the edge of a cliff, calculate the rate of descent, triple-check their parachutes, and set up a safety .. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| ffae6b7 | Merely knowing that you are not the only resister makes it substantially easier to reject the crowd. | nonconformism peer-pressure | Adam M. Grant | |
| bdea0fc | When we have an original idea to invent a product or start a company, we're encouraged to be the first mover. There are, of course, clear advantages to speed: we can be sure to finish what we start and beat competitors to market. But surprisingly, as I've studied originals, | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 43ea51f | Every day, we all encounter things we love and things that need to change. The former give us joy. The latter fuel our desire to make the world different--ideally better than the way we found it. But trying to change deep-seated beliefs and behaviors is daunting. We accept the status quo because effecting real change seems impossible. Still, we dare to ask: Can one individual make a difference? And, in our bravest moments: Could that one in.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 3d3e0f0 | Without a sense of urgency , people ... won't make needed sacrafices. Instead they cling to the status quo and resist.' - Quoting John Kotter | sense-of-urgency timing | Adam M. Grant | |
| a3c90be | When two people have experienced conflict, for one to say, "I'm sorry" only communicates that person's remorse over what he has done. It focuses solely on the offender's own feelings. By contrast, saying, "Forgive me" confesses that a wrong has been committed against another person and there is a desire to pursue reconciliation." (S. Andrew Jin) Jay Adams points out that granting forgiveness is about making a threefold promise: 1. I will n.. | S. Andrew Jin | ||
| 8e30bda | physicist Max Planck once observed, "A new scientific truth does not triumph by convincing its opponents and making them see the light, but rather because its opponents eventually die." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 937f473 | The prospect of a certain loss brings the go system online. | loss motivation risk-aversion | Adam M. Grant | |
| 541e756 | As Samuel Johnson purportedly wrote, "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." Takers" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 4007604 | Across cultures, there's a rich body of evidence showing that people continue to hold strong gender-role stereotypes, expecting men to be assertive and women to be communal. When women speak up, they run the risk of violating that gender stereotype, which leads audiences to judge them as aggressive. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| efb0167 | Anthony and Stanton viewed Stone's support of voting rights for black men as a betrayal of the women's cause. They reneged on their commitment to a joint organization and announced the formation of their own national women's suffrage organization the following week, in May 1869. Stone and | Adam M. Grant | ||
| ad5498c | superb presentations - start by establishing "what is: here's the status quo." Then, they "compare that to what could be," making "that gap as big as possible" - Quoting Nancy Duarte" | persuation presentation | Adam M. Grant | |
| 8136b59 | When we've developed an idea, we're typically too close to our own tastes--and too far from the audience's taste--to evaluate it accurately. We're | Adam M. Grant | ||
| a83edf2 | They're constrained by a shortage of people who excel at choosing the right novel ideas. The | Adam M. Grant | ||
| f4d9cfa | In a study of over 15,000 classical music compositions, the more pieces a composer produced in a given five-year window, the greater the spike in the odds of a hit. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| e6c585b | Strong ties provide bonds, but weak ties serve as bridges: they provide more efficient access to new information. Our strong ties tend to travel in the same social circles and know about the same opportunities as we do. Weak ties are more likely to open up access to a different network, facilitating the discovery of original leads. Here's | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 998807a | When you meet people," says former Apple evangelist and Silicon Valley legend Guy Kawasaki, regardless of who they are, "you should be asking yourself, 'How can I help the other person?" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| e072239 | Of course it was Hamlet-- The uncle kills the father, and the son has to avenge his father's death. So then we decided it was going to be Hamlet with lions." In that pivotal moment, the film got the green light." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 713757c | Never put off till tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow." Mark Twain" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| a70076a | For the next two hours, the executives worked in groups, pretending to be one of Merck's top competitors. Energy soared as they developed ideas for drugs that would crush theirs and key markets they had missed. Then, their challenge was to reverse their roles and figure out how to defend against these threats.* This "kill the company" exercise is powerful because it reframes a gain-framed activity in terms of losses." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 3898979 | In roles as leaders and mentors, givers resist the temptation to search for talent first. By recognizing that anyone can be a bloomer, givers focus their attention on motivation. The | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 8b72a6e | Batson figured out a clever way to tease apart whether empathy drives us to help because we want to reduce another person's distress or our own distress. If the goal is to reduce our own distress, we should choose whatever course of action makes us feel better. If the goal is to reduce another person's distress, we should help even when it's costly and other courses of action would make us feel good. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| e2f5fcf | On matters of style, swim with the current," Thomas Jefferson allegedly advised, but "on matters of principle, stand like a rock." The pressure to achieve leads us to do the opposite. We find surface ways of appearing original--donning a bow tie, wearing bright red shoes--without taking the risk of actually being original. When" | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 8932e89 | Coalitions often fall apart when people refuse to moderate their radicalism. That was one of the major failures of the Occupy Wall Street movement, a protest against economic and social inequality that began in 2011. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 7d9cf39 | Being a female, she spurns him on. | Bel Kaufman | ||
| fc8b5ba | We're driven to question defaults when we experience vuja de, the opposite of deja vu. Deja vu occurs when we encounter something new, but it feels as if we've seen it before. Vuja de is the reverse--we face something familiar, but we see it with a fresh perspective that enables us to gain new insights into old problems. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 05bbbda | Trust is one reason that givers are so susceptible to the doormat effect: they tend to see the best in everyone, so they operate on the mistaken assumption that everyone is trustworthy. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 548ee79 | Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. --Martin Luther King Jr., civil rights leader and Nobel Peace Prize winner Several | Adam M. Grant | ||
| d872a13 | People who started businesses and contributed to patent applications were more likely than their peers to have leisure time hobbies that involved drawing, painting, architecture, sculpture, and literature. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 89116a3 | According to Brian Uzzi, a management professor at Northwestern University, networks come with three major advantages: private information, diverse skills, and power. By developing a strong network, people can gain invaluable access to knowledge, expertise, and influence. Extensive research demonstrates that people with rich networks achieve higher performance ratings, get promoted faster, and earn more money. And because networks are based.. | Adam M. Grant | ||
| c929c26 | It seems counterintuitive, but the more altruistic your attitude, the more benefits you will gain from the relationship," writes LinkedIn founder Reid Hoffman. "If you set out to help others," he explains, "you will rapidly reinforce your own reputation and expand your universe of possibilities." | Adam M. Grant | ||
| 0f70210 | small pasture where corn was grown for flour and chicken feed visible through the trunks east of his position. The open spaces between the trees were as cauldrons of heat where the foliage was brown, the heads of grasses bowed to the ground as if praying for rain. He stopped in the shade and adjusted the straps of the wood and cloth basket | Edwin Page | ||
| 87b40a9 | Chronic anxiety is systemic; it is deeper and more embracing than community nervousness. Rather than something that resides within the psyche of each one, it is something that can envelope, if not actually connect, people. It is a regressive emotional process that is quite different from the more familiar, acute anxiety we experience over specific concerns. Its expression is not dependent on time or events, even though specific happenings c.. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| d4337cb | It may be in the ubiquitous phenomenon of terrorism that one can most easily see how universal emotional processes transcend the conventional categories of the social science construction of reality. According to the latter, families are different from nations, profit-making corporations are different from nonprofit corporations, medical institutions are different from school systems, one nation's infrastructure is different from another's,.. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| 22499c3 | Why did you fail me? I didn't do nothing!" The reply, of course, is: "That's just it." | Bel Kaufman | ||
| 2b044fc | In 1970, an experiment was conducted in a French laboratory in which two organisms from the same species that had not developed immune systems were moved closer and closer toward one another. At a certain threshold of proximity, the smaller one began to disintegrate, and within twenty-four hours it had lost all the principles of its organization. The researchers tried to ascertain what the larger one had done to the smaller one, but in the .. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| 5219050 | the major relational problem for our species is not getting together; protoplasm loves to join. The problem is preserving self in a close relationship. No human on planet Earth does that well. | Edwin H Friedman | ||
| 87d9549 | The degree of pain we are experiencing at any time almost always includes two variables: the stimulus "causing" the discomfort, and the threshold for tolerance--that is, the capacity to overcome or perhaps reduce the sensation itself." | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| b9a7a20 | I want to stress that by well-differentiated leader I do not mean an autocrat who tells others what to do or orders them around, although any leader who defines himself or herself clearly may be perceived that way by those who are not taking responsibility for their own emotional being and destiny. Rather, I mean someone who has clarity about his or her own life goals, and, therefore, someone who is less likely to become lost in the anxious.. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| daa076b | the "old world" view separates data from emotional process and focuses leaders on the "talking heads" of others, while the "new world" view focuses leaders on the nature of their own presence." | Edwin H Friedman | ||
| 5737ea2 | One of the most extraordinary examples of adaptation to immaturity in contemporary American society today is how the word abusive has replaced the words nasty and objectionable. The latter two words suggest that a person has done something distasteful, always a matter of judgment. But the use of the word abusive suggests, instead, that the person who heard or read the objectionable, nasty, or even offensive remark was somehow victimized by .. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| 2bfacf4 | Researchers who emphasize the tragic consequences of these events, however, see the effort to focus on the recovery as denial of the tragedy or its pain. The focus on pathology has become such a natural part of the thinking of social science researchers that the idea that such a focus is itself pathological is totally out of their ken. After the Kobe earthquake, twelve Japanese women tried to offer counseling help to the homeless housed in .. | Edwin H. Friedman | ||
| 9279f4c | The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. If you want your child, spouse, client, or boss to shape up, stay connected while changing yourself rather than trying to fix them. | Edwin H. Friedman |