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Life cannot be lived nor can death be faced without anxiety. Anxiety is guide as well as enemy and can point the way to authentic existence. The task of the therapist is to reduce anxiety to comfortable levels and then to use this existing anxiety to increase a patient's awareness and vitality.
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How shall we live? How to face our mortality? How to live with the knowledge that we are simply life forms, thrown into an indifferent universe, with no preordained purpose?
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nsnh hmyshh mnshy dwswgr nsbt bh azdy drnd. bynkhh bh pykhry bymn bry rsydn bh azdy dst myznnd, mntZr frSty hstnd khh z an SrfnZr khnnd w bh nZmy stbddy tn drdhnd t z bry khh azdy w tSmym br dwshshn nhdh bkhhnd.
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This book deals with four ultimate concerns: death, freedom, isolation, and meaninglessness. The individual's confrontation with each of these facts of life constitutes the content of the existential dynamic conflict. Death. The most obvious, the most easily apprehended ultimate concern is death. We exist now, but one day we shall cease to be. Death will come, and there is no escape from it. It is a terrible truth, and we respond to it with..
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Mind thinks in images but, to communicate with another, must transform image into thought and then thought into language. That march, from image to thought to language, is treacherous. Casualties occur: the rich, fleecy texture of image, its extraordinary plasticity and flexibility, its private nostalgic emotional hues - all are lost when image in crammed into language.
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hrykh z m skht nyzmnd jwdngy, stwry, hmzysty w lgwyy bry srmshq qrr ddnym, w bwjwdyn, hmgy byd b mrg ngzyr, bypygy, tnhyy w pwchy rwbrw shwym.
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There is one true property of romantic love: it never stays - evanescence is a part of the nature of an infatuated love state. But be careful trying to rush its demise. Don't try to joust with love any more than you would with powerful religious beliefs - those are duels you cannot win.
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The really proper address between one man and another should be, instead of Sir, Monsieur,...my fellow sufferer. However strange this may sound, it accords with the facts, puts the other man in the most correct light, and reminds us of that most necessary thing, tolerance, patience, forbearance, and love of one's neighbor, which everyone needs and each of us therefore owes to another.
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Heidegger, iki farkli varlik durumundan soz eder. Bunlarin ilki, dunya uzerinde 'nesnelerin olduklari bicimlerini' izleyen ''gundelik'' varlik durumudur. Varolma haline, kacisa, bizi cevreleyen nesnelerin bolluguyla uyusturulmus oldugumuza dair bir unutkanlik durumudur bu. Ikinci olarak da, ''ontolojik varlik durumu'' vardir, bu da, sahici bir bicimde yasadigimizi ve 'nesnelerin varoluslarini', hatta tam da olduklari sekliyle varolduklarini..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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My friend," he whispered, "I cannot tell you how to live differently because, if I did, you would still be living another's design."
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Religious beliefs are culture bound...land overwhelmed by poverty, overcrowding, starvation, disease, class oppression and lack of any hope for a better future were what generated these old beliefs. Didn't all religions based on release or a better life hereafter target the poor, the suffering, the enslaved?
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Stay a moment, Alfred. I've one last question. Let me ask you to imagine something. Close your eyes and imagine leaving me now. Imagine walking away from our talk, and then imagine sitting on the long train ride to Munich. Let me know when your imagination is there." Alfred closed his eyes and soon nodded readiness. "Now, here's what I'd like you to do. Think back upon our talk tonight, and ask yourself these questions: Do I have any regret..
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m dr Hsrt khwdmkhtry hstym, wly z pymd ngzyr khwdmkhtry, y`ny tnhyy, Tfrh myrwym.
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Many ultimately come to understand that what has seemed injustice is in reality cosmic indifference.
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hmnTwr khh frd bhtnhyy msy'wl anchh hst st, bhtnhyy msy'wl tGyyr anchh hst nyz hst.
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t zmny khh frd m`tqd st dygry y nyrwyy byrwny msy'wl mshkhl y mll wst, t`hd bh tHwl frdy chh m`nyy drd?
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It is a matter of no small importance that one be able to explain and order the events in our lives into some coherent and predictable pattern. To name something, to locate its place in a causal sequence, is to begin to experience it as under our control. No longer, then, is our internal experience or behavior frightening, alien or out of control; instead, we behave (or have a particular inner experience) because of something we can name or..
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shyd Hywnt Hs nyz bh chwpn y jnpnh dr khwd bbynnd, wly nsn khh bh nfryn khwdaghy grftrshdh, byd dr jhn hsty bypnh bmnd.
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Yes, Bento had one weak spot, and Simon had discovered it. Bento was in love with books--not only the reading of books but the possession of them.
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bry anhyy khh mrdn r zndgy khrdhnd shkh nryzyd, shkhhytn r bry anhyy bgdhryd khh dr Hyn zndgy mrdhnd.
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Can it be that I have escaped neither my past nor my mother?
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After all, isn't that the task of a good parent, to enable the child to leave home?
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bynkhh qdm bh khwdkhshy bh dlyl trs z mrg ykh prdwkhs st, m chndn nshy` nyst. fkhr khwdkhshy t Hdwdy bh frd jzh mydhd chyzy r tHt khntrl drawrd khh tkhnwn w r khntrl mykhrdh st.
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We need art, Nietzsche said, lest we perish from the truth.
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talk about how you feel, not about what the patient is doing.
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m bry mshynhyy khh dr wqt Srfhjwyy mykhnnd, rzsh qy'lym w hmyn rzsh mshyny r bry khwd nyz bhkhr mybrym. bynhmh, b wqtykhh b Srfhjwyy ndwkhthym chh mykhnym jz ankhh hdrsh dhym!
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Have patience with everything unresolved and try to love the questions themselves." I would add: "Try to love the questioners as well."
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Hty an zmn khh chyzh khrj z khntrl mst, nsn yn qdrt r drd khh ngrsh khwd r nsbt bh srnwshtsh tHt frmn dshth bshd, anchh r khh qdr bh nkhrsh nyst, z nw t`byr w tfsyr khnd.
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nsny khh mybkhshd, chyzy r dr dygry myafrynd.
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mrdm bry yftn rhhy prhyz z aghy nsbt bh msy'wlyt, zrngy w dhkhwt khstgynpdhyry z khwd nshn mydhnd.
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qdrt mTlq hmyshh gmrhkhnndh st, gmrh mykhnd chwn anchh r khh byd frhm nmyszd, hmyshh wq`yt, drmndgy w myrndgy m, yn wq`yt khh bhrGm dstyby bh strgn, srnwshty ngzyr dr ntZrmn st, z rh myrsd.
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Thought, in and of itself, has no external consequences-although it may be an indispensable overture to action: one may, for example, plan, rehearse, or muster the resolve for action. Action extends one beyond oneself; it involves interaction with one's surrounding physical or interpersonal world. Action need not entail gross, or even observable, movement. A slight gesture or glance toward another may be action of momentous import.
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Living safely is dangerous.
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ann khh m'ywsnh nyzmnd armsh w ldht HSl z ykh rbTh Sylnd, drst hmnhyy hstnd khh khmtr z hrkhsy qdr bh brqrry chnyn rtbTy hstnd.
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I agree with Viktor Frankl that a sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves, when we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves.
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process check") and asked the members to reflect upon their own interaction."
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P]sychiatric treatments should be directed toward the correction of interpersonal distortions, thus enabling the individual to lead a more abundant life, to participate collaboratively with others, to obtain interpersonal satisfactions in the context of realistic, mutually satisfying interpersonal relationships[.]
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Psychiatric cure is the "expanding of the self to such final effect that the patient as known to himself is much the same person as the patient behaving to others."
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E]xplanation and clarification function as effective therapeutic agents in their own right. Human beings have always abhorred uncertainty and through the ages have sought to order the universe by providing explanations, primarily religious or scientific. The explanation of a phenomenon is the first step toward its control. If a volcanic eruption is caused by a displeased god, then at least there is hope of pleasing the god.
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A heavy silence descended.
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People need people - for initial and continued survival, for socialization, for the pursuit of satisfaction. No one - not the dying, not the outcast, not the mighty - transcends the need for human contact.
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anxiety is a trail that leads to insight and wisdom?
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mdhhb pr z dstn st, dstn mwrd`lqh mn drbrh khfry st khh smt khkhm hyll myrwd w bh w mygwyd gr khkhm btwnd rwy ykh p bystd w khl twrt r amwzsh bdhd, bh yhwdyt mypywndd, hylyl rwy ykh p myystd w mygwyd anchh bry khwd nmypsndy bry dygrn hm npsnd, yn khl twrt st w bqy hmh Hwshy
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The most common secret is a deep conviction of basic inadequacy - a feeling that one is basically incompetent, that one bluffs one's way through life. Next in frequency is a deep sense of interpersonal alienation - that, despite appearances, one really does not, or cannot care for or love another person. The third most frequent category is some variety of sexual secret.
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