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One of the great paradoxes of life is that self-awareness breeds anxiety. Fusion eradicates anxiety in a radical fashion--by eliminating self-awareness. The person who has fallen in love, and entered a blissful state of merger, is not self-reflective because the questioning lonely I (and the attendant anxiety of isolation) dissolve into the we. Thus one sheds anxiety but loses oneself.
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Though we try hard to go through life two by two or in groups, there are times, especially when death approaches, that the truth--that we are born alone and must die alone--breaks through with chilling clarity. I have heard many dying patients remark that the most awful thing about dying is that it must be done alone. Yet, even at the point of death, the willingness of another to be fully present may penetrate the isolation.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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ynshtyn: rz nwawry dnstni chgwngy pnhn skhtn mnb` khwd st
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Emotion has the power to obscure and falsify knowledge: that the whole world assumes a smiling aspect when we have reason to rejoice, and a dark and gloomy one when sorrow weighs upon us.
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wisdom
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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mHdwd bh chyzy Tlq my shwd khh btwnd twsT chyz dygry z hmn nw` HTh shwd. fkhr hm bh wsylh fkhr dygry mHSwr my shwd, wly jsm bwsylh fkhr mHdwd nmy shwd w fkhr hm bwsylh jsm mHdwd nmy shwd
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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qdrt ymn w bwr rtbTy bh drsty an ndrd! hr khdyy m`tqdn jrf ndysh w srskht khwd r drd
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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z khkh rykhry, <> jwnh nmy znd. chTwr mmkhn st hmhngy drwny brqrr shwd gr frd b khwd rwrst nbshd
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Being empathic is so much a part of everyday discourse--popular singers warble platitudes about being in the other's skin, walking in the other's moccasins--that we tend to forget the complexity of the process. It is extraordinarily difficult to know really what the other feels; far too often we project our own feelings onto the other.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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I have always found quite useful Freud's formulation that the dream borrows building blocks from the day residue, but that for images to be important enough to become incorporated into it, they must be reinforced by older, meaningful, affect-laden concerns.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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In trecut, atunci cand tanjeam dupa compania celorlalti si le ceream ceva ce ei nu voiau si chiar nu puteau sa-mi dea, atunci am cunoscut singuratatea. Am cunoscut-o foarte bine. Sa nu ai nevoie de nimeni inseamna sa nu fii niciodata singur.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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gr fkhr my khny khh drbrh msy'l nmTmy'n mmkhn st b khrdmndy mTmy'n shwy, hych khry bysh z yn njm nkhwhy dd khh bkhwshy b `ql slym dywnh shwy * __Terence
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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btd `shq, khnwn tnfr w `Sbnyt. chqdr dlbstgy h npydr w mtzlzl hstnd. gr my khwhy shkhwf shwy w pyshrft khny byd b tthbyt Hsst khwd bh chyzy tGyyr npdhyr, chyzy b pydry bdy br myl khwd Glbh khny
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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8402dd3
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khwshbkhty y bdbkhty m bsth bh khyfyt chyzy st khh bh an dl my bndym
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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shq bh chyzy jwdnh w by pyn rwH r z sh`f mHD qwt my dhd khh frG z hrgwnh ndwhy st. bh hmyn sbb bsyr khwstny st w byd b hmh twn khwd bh jst w jwy an bramd
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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hmh `Tyyy khh khd bh m my bkhshd, rwzy bh nth khwhd rsyd. nbwt h, skhn gftn bh zbnh w dnstn `lm w srr rwzy bh pyn khwhd pdhyrft. m mHbt t bd bqy khwhd mnd w z byn nkhwhd rft
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Philosophy is a high mountain road...an isolated road and becomes even more desolate the higher we ascend. Whoever pursues this pass should know no fear but must leave everything behind and confidently make his own way in the wintry snow...He soon sees the world beneath him; its uneven spot are leveled out, its jarring sounds no longer reach his ear. And its roundness is revealed to him. He himself is always in the pure cool mountain air an..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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The power and omnipresence of the sexual drive: Next to the love of life it shows itself here as the strongest and most active of all motives, and incessantly lays claim to half the powers and thoughts of the younger portion of mankind. It is the ultimate goal of almost all human effort. It has an unfavourable influence on the most important affairs, interrupts every hour the most serious occupations, and sometimes perplexes for a while the..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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The true end of the whole love story, though the parties concerned are unaware of it, is that a particular child may be begotten. Therefore what here guides man is really an instinct directed to what is best in the species, whereas man himself imagines he is seeking merely a heightening of his own pleasure.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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We poor mortals, we fellow sufferers, are such victims of biology that we fill our lives with guilt about natural acts...and that we all have the goal of extricating ourselves from the thralldom of sex.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Humans who are victims of that freakish twist of evolution that grants self-awareness but not the requisite psychological equipment to deal with the pain of transient existence. And so throughout the years, the centuries, the millennia, we have relentlessly constructed makeshift denials of finiteness. Would we, would any of us, ever be done with our search for a higher power with whom we can merge and exist forever?
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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One of the great paradoxes of life is that self-awareness breeds anxiety
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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frdy khh rwykhrdy khsbkhrnh drd, wqty qrr bshd bbkhshd w dr mqbl nstnd, Hs mykhnd frybkhwrdh wly bry nsn rshd yfth, bkhshsh nshnh qdrt, thrwt w wfwr st.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Work, worry, toil and trouble are certainly the lot of almost all throughout their lives. But if all desires were fulfilled as soon as they arose, how then would people occupy their lives and spend their time? Suppose the human race were removed to Utopia where everything grew automatically and pigeons flew about ready-roasted; where everyone at once found his sweetheart and had no difficulty in keeping her; then people would die of boredom..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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In the first place a man never is happy but spends his whole life in striving after something which he thinks will make him so; he seldom attains his goal and, when he does it is only to be disappointed: he is mostly shipwrecked in the end and comes into the harbour with masts and riggings gone. And then it is all one whether he has been happy or miserable; for his life was never anything more than a present moment, always vanishing; and no..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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I am old. I am at the end of my life's work. I have no children, and I approach death full of dread. I am choking on darkness. I am choking on the silence of death. I think I know a way. I try to pierce the blackness with my sexual talisman ("iridescent, glowing white tip of the cane methodically inserted into the baby's vagina"). But it is not enough." --
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Heightened sexuality is a common response to confrontation with death.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Sometimes death anxiety is dismissed as trivial in its universality. Who, after all, does not know and fear death? Yet it is one thing to know about death in general, to grit one's own teeth and stoke up a shudder or two; it is quite another to apprehend one's own death and to experience it in the bones and sockets of one's being. Such death awareness is a terror that comes rarely, sometimes only once or twice in a lifetime-a terror that Ma..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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People fear contact with the afflicted because they wish not to be confronted with the death that awaits each of them.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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I adored the dreamer: I adored his courage and his scorching honesty. From time to time I had to prod myself to remember that the dreamer was Marvin, that the dreamer provided an open channel to Marvin's central nucleus-that whorl of the self which possesses absolute wisdom and self-knowledge.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Knowledge is limited, only stupidity is unlimited.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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I have no intention to get married because it would only cause me worries. And why would that be the case? I would be jealous, because my wife would cheat on me. Why are you so sure of that? Because I would deserve it. Why is that? Because I would have married.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Algumas vezes eu imaginava o sangue enchendo um copo descartavel. Eu podia escutar cada esguicho batendo contra as paredes enceradas do copo. Talvez 100 esguichos enchessem o copo; seriam apenas 50 segundos. Entao eu pensava em como poderia cortar meus pulsos. A faca da cozinha? Aquela pequena e afiada, com o cabo preto? Ou uma lamina de barbear? Mas nao existem mais laminas de barbear cortantes; somente aquelas laminas injetadas, que sao s..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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hrchh bkhwshym t dny r dwbhdw Ty khnym, drnhyt, tnhyy bnydyny hst khh byd tb awrym, hychkhs qdr nyst b dygry y bry dygry bmyrd.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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zmn jwdny khnwn st nh ayndh.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Excessive attachment either to material goods, to other individuals, or even attachment to the concept of 'I' is the major source of human suffering. And doesn't it follow that such suffering can be ameliorated by avoiding the attachment?
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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The life of our bodies is only a constantly prevented dying, an ever deferred death...Every breath we draw wards off death that constantly impinges on us, in this way we struggle with it every second...Death is far more familiar than we generally think. Not only have we a taste of death daily in our sleep or in states of unconsciousness, but we have all passed through an eternity of nonbeing before we existed.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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If a way to the Better there be, it exacts a full look at the Worst.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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The dying man and the sixteen-year-old gazed at each other across the decades.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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a flood of compassion for her and for all his fellow humans who are victims of that freakish twist of evolution that grants self-awareness but not the requisite psychological equipment to deal with the pain of transient existence.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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What is young-learned is best-learned.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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When, on a sea voyage, the ship is brought to anchor, you go out to fetch water and gather a few roots and shells by the way. But you always need to keep your mind fixed on the ship, constantly to look around, lest at any time the master of the ship call, and you must heed that call and cast away all those things, lest you be treated like the sheep that are bound and thrown into the hold. So it is with human life also. And if there be avail..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Life can be compared to a piece of embroidered material of which, every-one in the first half of his time, comes to see the top side, but in the second half, the reverse side. The latter is not so beautiful but it is more instructive because it enables one to see how the threads are connected together.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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m nyzmnd nZm m`nyy hstym khh TrH khly rzshh dr an lHZ shdh bshd, wly jhn chnyn chyzy frhm nmykhnd, jhn khmlan nsbt bh m by`tnst, tnsh myn armn nsn w bytfwty jhn hmn chyzy st khh albr khmw "pwchy" mwq`yt nsny nm nhdh."
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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dr brbr hr ary, ykh nh hst. tSmymgyry drbrh ykh chyz hmyshh bh m`ny chshmpwshy z chyz dygr st. hr rh chrh, tw r z syr rhh mHrwm mykhnd.
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