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grandiose fantasies of rescuing distressed damsels.
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confrontation tends to slow my thoughts,
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But perhaps the main reason I was not ground down by Irene's rage was that I always knew that it masked her profound sadness, despair, and fear.
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T]he harvest of psychotherapy is not cure - surely, in our field, that is an illusion - but instead change or growth.
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tnhyy `myq z `ml khwd afrynndgy jdyynpdhyr st, frd bh bytfwty `Zym jhn agh myshwd.
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D]o not mistake the appearance of efficiency for true effectiveness.
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I have heard many dying patients remark that the most awful thing about dying is that it must be done alone. Yet, even at the point of death, the willingness of another to be fully present may penetrate the isolation. As a patient said in "Do Not Go Gentle," "Even though you're alone in your boat, it's always comforting to see the lights of the other boats bobbing nearby."
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And the feeling in the dream, Irene?" Almost always my first question. The feeling in a dream often leads to the center of its meaning."
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rswm qdymy b Srr bh ynkhh b rhyy ayynh bh styshgrn qdym byHtrmy khrdhym bh m khlkh myznnd.
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Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer. Beware of stripping a patient who can't bear the chill of reality. And don't exhaust yourself by jousting with religious magic: you're no match for it. The thirst for religion is too strong, its roots too deep, its cultural reinforcement too powerful.
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recognizing that she lives in a universe absolutely indifferent to whether she is happy or unhappy.
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when two opposing feelings put you in a dilemma, your best recourse is to express both feelings and the dilemma.
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nmytwn tSwr khrd khh z khkh tzwyr armsh jwnh bznd.
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m fkhr mykhnym `qyd qdymyn r byd zndh nghdrym w mHtrm bshmrym, Hty gr bdnym khh mmlw z khT w khrfh st.
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Dang Shi ,Wo Jue Xin Bao Chi Ju Li ,Bao Hu Zi Ji /Shi Yin Wei Wo Que Fa Zi Zhong ----Wo Quan Pan Jie Shou Liao Ya Po Zhe De Shi Jie Guan /Zhu Jian Piao Li Zi Ji Yuan Lai Re Ai De Yi Xue Ke Xue ,Kai Shi Zai Ren Wen Ke Xue Shang An Shen Li Ming . Zhe Shi Yi Duan Hen Qie Yi De Shi Qi ,Dan Ye Shi Yi Ge Zi Wo Huai Yi De Shi Qi :Chang Chang Jue De Zi Ji You Ru Yi Ge Ju Wai Ren ,Zai Jing Shen Yi Xue Shang He Xin De Fa Zhan Tuo Jie ,Tong Shi ,Zai Z..
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Indeed, the capacity to tolerate uncertainty is a prerequisite for the profession. Though the public may believe that therapists guide patients systematically and sure-handedly through predictable stages of therapy to a foreknown goal, such is rarely the case: instead, as these stories bear witness, therapists frequently wobble, improvise, and grope for direction. The powerful temptation to achieve certainty through embracing an ideological..
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Though these tales of psychotherapy abound with the words patient and therapist, do not be misled by such terms: these are everyman, everywoman stories. Patienthood is ubiquitous; the assumption of the label is largely arbitrary and often dependent more on cultural, educational, and economic factors than on the severity of pathology. Since therapists, no less than patients, must confront these givens of existence, the professional posture o..
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Decisions are difficult for many reasons, some reaching down into the very socket of being. John Gardner, in his novel Grendel, tells of a wise man who sums up his meditation on life's mysteries in two simple but terrible postulates: "Things fade: alternatives exclude." Of the first postulate, death, I have already spoken. The second, "alternatives exclude," is an important key to understanding why decision is difficult. Decision invariably..
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death
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the truth we discover for ourselves.
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I had, once again, fallen prey to the grandiose belief that I can treat anyone. Swept along by hubris and by my curiosity, I had disregarded twenty years of evidence at the outset that Thelma was a poor candidate for psychotherapy, and had subjected her to a painful confrontation which, in retrospect, had little likelihood of success. I had stripped away defenses without building anything to replace them.
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ankhh zndgy nmykhnd, bysh z hmh z mrg myhrsd.
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The last gift a parent can give to children is to teach them, through example, how to face death with equanimity.
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But he gave no greater gift than the one he offered me shortly before he died, and it was a gift that answers for all time the question of whether it is rational or appropriate to strive for "ambitious" therapy in those who are terminally ill. When I visited him in the hospital he was so weak he could barely move, but he raised his head, squeezed my hand, and whispered, "Thank you. Thank you for saving my life."
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life
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To lose a parent or a lifelong friend is often to lose the past: the person who died may be the only other living witness to golden events of long ago. But to lose a child is to lose the future: what is lost is no less than one's life project--what one lives for, how one projects oneself into the future, how one may hope to transcend death (indeed, one's child becomes one's immortality project).
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immortality
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Hard to think of others when you're feeling trapped, feeling you're spinning in a vicious circle.
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only by being a man does a man release the woman in woman.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you will always find despair.
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b hr chshm br hm zdny, ykh j dr yn jhn, ykh Hmq zdh myshwd.
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I am very often asked why, at the age of eighty-five, I continue to practice. Tip number eighty-five (sheer coincidence that I am now eighty-five years old) begins with a simple declaration: my work with patients enriches my life in that it provides meaning in life. Rarely do I hear therapists complain of a lack of meaning. We live lives of service in which we fix our gaze on the needs of others. We take pleasure not only in helping our pat..
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another; one must find the strength to help oneself.
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ask you to heal me of despair.
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