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A great many of our patients have conflicts in the realm of intimacy, and obtain help in therapy sheerly through experiencing an intimate relationship with the therapist. Some fear intimacy because they believe there is something basically unacceptable about them, something repugnant and unforgivable, Given this, the act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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The monuments, the ideas left behind by beings like me are my greatest pleasure in life. Without books I would long ago have been in despair.
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If you kill God, you must also leave the shelter of the temple.
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Am invatat in munca mea, ca se tem cel mai mult de moarte cei care se apropie de ea avand prea multa viata netraita in ei. Cel mai bine este sa ne folosim toata viata. Sa nu-i lasam mortii decat drojdiile, nimic altceva decat un castel ars pana in temelii.
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frica-de-moarte
moarte
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Nu numai ca fictiunea isi are propriul adevar, dar orice povestire, oricat de ,,adevarata", este o minciuna pentru ca omite atat de multe."
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minciuna
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trs z mrg nqsh `mdhy dr tjrbh drwny m drd, dhhnmn r bh Trz bybdyly tskhyr mykhnd, mdm zyrpwstmn dr Grsh st w HDwry tyrh w ashfth dr Hshyh khwdaghy drd.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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People say strange, incoherent things in such a state." "Her words do not strike me as incoherent or random. You suggested, Doctor Breuer, that I should simply interject any comments that occur to me. Let me make an observation: I find it remarkable that you are responsible for all of your thoughts and all of your deeds, whereas she"--Nietzsche's voice was stern, and he shook his finger at Breuer--"she, by virtue of her illness, is exonerat..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Your task is to accept yourself--not to find ways to gain my acceptance.
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mrt ftr@ fy Hytn qtrb fyh 'Hdn kthyr mn l'khr wlm y`d hnk shy' y`yq Sdqtn wkhwWtn, wlm ykn yfSln l jsr msh@ SGyr. `ndm knt `l~ wshk tT' bqdmk `l~ ljsr s'ltk "hl tryd n t`br jsr lmush@ nHwy" fj'@ lm t`d trGb fy dhlk, w`ndm s'ltk thny ldht blSmt. mndh dhlk lHyn 'ulqyt bynn jbl w'nhr Gzyr@ w'y shy' ymknh 'n yfSl bynn wyb`d 'Hdn `n l'khr, wHt~ dh rGbn fy n nltqy, lm nstT` dhlk. lkn `ndm tfkr ln bjsr lmsh@ lSGyr dhk , l ymkn lt`byr `n dhlk bklmt..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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She was a rigid training analyst in a rigid institute that valued interpretation as the singular effective action of the analyst. Of her thoughtful, dense, and carefully worded interpretations, I remember not a one. But her reaching out to me at that time, in that warm manner--that I cherish even now, almost sixty years later.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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the flame of belief is fueled inexhaustibly by the fears of death, oblivion, and meaninglessness. Where
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dr drwn hr frd trsy ssy w bdwy hst khh gh bh shkhl trs z zndgy w gh bh shkhl trs z mrg rkh mynmyd.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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How? It's obvious. You told me yourself, Lou is like your Bertha--she's an automaton, playing her role, the same role, with me, with you, with one man after the other. The particular man is incidental. She seduced both of us in the same way, with the same female deviousness, the same guile, the same gestures, the same promises!" "And yet this automaton controls you. She dominates your mind: you worry about her opinion, you pine for her touc..
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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They are part of the slave mentality artfully engineered by priestly propaganda. Dissect your motives deeper! You will find that no one has ever done anything wholly for others. All actions are self-directed, all service is self-serving, all love self-loving.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Myrna. Listen hard to what I'm going to say. You're collecting and hoarding. You're accumulating information from me, but you're not giving anything back! I believe you're trying to relate to me differently now but I'm not experiencing it as engagement. I don't feel yet that you're relating to me as a person--it's more like you regard me as a data bank from which you make withdrawals.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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But those things aren't you. They are just things about you, not the real, the core you. Look at the center of you. What do you want to change there?
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Als jij bij me bent, houd je me misschien vast in deze wereld.' 'Ik ben een uitstekende vasthouder.' 'Beloof je dat?' Ik knikte.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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think of sex as the vital antagonist to death--isn't the orgasm the primal spark of life? I
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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use of masturbation as a way of soothing yourself to ward off death anxiety so you can fall asleep.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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There is no human deed or thought that lies fully outside the experience of other people.
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pdshh dr py mHbt myaynd, dr py mHbt nmyrwnd.
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Don't argue: you will lose, and even if you win, you lose.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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dlyl khrfh dr tmm frhngh yn st khh nsnhy qdym z tzlzl rzalwd hsty mytrsydnd, anh shnkht khfy bry frhm khrdn twDyHt ndshtn, w dr an rwzgr, tnh shkhl twDyH mwjwd, chng ndkhtn bh mwrlTby`h bwd.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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bgdhr `shqt jry shwd w jzh ndh khh tHt t'thyr `shqy bshd khh mmkhn st mtqblan bhdst awry.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Members of a cohesive group feel warmth and comfort in the group and a sense of belongingness; they value the group and feel in turn that they are valued, accepted, and supported by other members.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Traiesc in trecut, ori intr-un viitor care nu va exista niciodata.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Simptomele sunt mesagerii unui sens si vor disparea doar atunci cand mesajul lor este inteles.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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One thing he resolved was not to make that one good year a bad year by grieving that it was not more than
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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He knew what to say to whiners: find a way to turn you gaze outward, stretch beyond yourself.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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The greatest wisdom is to make the enjoyment of the present the supreme object of life because that is the only reality, all else being the play of thought. But we could just as well call it our greatest folly because that which exists only a moment and vanishes as a dream can never be worth a serious effort.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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In choosing to enter fully into each patient's life, I, the therapist, not only am exposed to the same existential issues as are my patients but must be prepared to examine them with the same rules of inquiry. I must assume that knowing is better than not knowing, venturing than not venturing; and that magic and illusion, however rich, however alluring, ultimately weaken the human spirit.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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chTwr my twn mrdy r bh chng awrd? sy'lh sdh yh, fqT byd bh chshmn ykh mrd khyrh shd w chnd thnyh Sbr khrd. hmyn!
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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yn rwyh nZr frwyd r dr yn brh khh `mlkhrd wlyh rwyh HfZ khwb st thbt my khrd. dr yn nmwnh, fkhr wHshtnkh swzndn jsd bh chyzy mlym tr w dlpdhyrtr tbdyl shdh st: chhrh dwst dshtny w jdhb khrs atsh nshn. wly yn rwyh tnh t Hdwdy mwfq bwd: hrchnd b`th shdh bwd khh rnst khwbsh r dmh dhd DTrb mrg khl rwyysh r dr trs frwbrd.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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gdhshth bkhshy z shryT mrwzth. gdhshth brt `ynkhy drst my khnh khh bhsh zmn Hl rw tjrbh my khny.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Everything, every fact, bar none, has a cause, and we must understand that everything necessarily occurs.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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I must assume that knowing is better than not know, venturing better than not venturing; and that magic and illusion, however rich, however alluring, ultimately weaken the human spirit. I take with deep seriousness Thomas Hardy's words, 'If a way to the Better there be, it exacts a full look at the Worst.
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reality
truth
practicality
psychotherapy
self-improvement
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mediating efforts, the
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Sabe lo que es saber que, cuando muera, pueden pasar dias o semanas sin que se descubra mi cuerpo, antes de que el olor fetido atraiga a algun extrano? Intento consolarme. A veces, cuando me siento mas solo, hablo conmigo mismo.No demasiado alto, porque temo mi propio eco vacio.
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josef-breuer
lou-salome
psychoanalysis
psychotherapy
nietzsche
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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But surely," Breuer"
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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His visitor must have sensed her misstep, Breuer thought, noticing how she rushed to continue her narrative.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Do tekh por, poka chelovek verit, chto ego problemy obuslovleny kakoi-to vneshnei prichinoi, terapiia bessil'na.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Za kazanoto ot vas predi malko, za glavnata tsel, v'zproizvezhdaneto, neka vi popitam neshcho. - Nitsshe probode v'zdukha tri p'ti s pr'sta si. - Ne triabva li da s'zdadem, ne triabva li da stanem, predi da se razmnozhim? Otgovornostta ni k'm zhivota e da s'zdadem neshcho po-v'zvisheno, ne da razv'zhdame po-nizsheto. Nishcho ne triabva da spira razvitieto na geroia v teb...
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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yh mrd khwsh qyfh fqyr b 1dlr w 50snt brt yh khpwchynw my khrh.
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Irvin D. Yalom |
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Nietzsche claimed that a philosopher's system of thought always arises from his autobiography, and I believe that to be true for all therapists--in fact, for anyone who thinks about thought. At a conference approximately
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