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Think personally, act communally.
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A woman needs to combine niceness with insistence, a style that Mary Sue Coleman, president of the University of Michigan, calls "relentlessly pleasant"
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He said that when you want to change things, you can't please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress. Mark was right.
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Instead, I want to ask you: What is your biggest problem, and how can I solve it?
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As a child I never thought about what I wanted to be, but I thought a lot about what I wanted to do.
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there is no perfect fit when you're looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have."13 Virginia Rometty, IBM's first female CEO, told the"
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And for all the progress, there is still societal pressure for women to keep an eye on marriage from a young age. When I went to college, as much as my parents emphasized academic achievement, they emphasized marriage even more. They told me that the most eligible women marry young to get a "good man" before they are all taken. I followed their advice and throughout college, I vetted every date as a potential husband (which, trust me, is a ..
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When I was graduating, my thesis advisor, Larry Summers, suggested that I apply for international fellowships. I rejected the idea on the grounds that a foreign country was not a likely place to turn a date into a husband. Instead, I moved to Washington, D.C., which was full of eligible men. It worked. My first year out of college, I met a man who was not just eligible, but also wonderful, so I married him. I was twenty-four and convinced t..
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The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." Do not wait for power to be offered. Like that tiara, it might never materialize. And anyway, who wears a tiara on a jungle gym?"
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Like me, Gayle Tzemach Lemmon, deputy director of the Council on Foreign Relations' Women and Foreign Policy Program, was encouraged to prioritize marriage over career. As she described in The Atlantic, "When I was 27, I received a posh fellowship to travel to Germany to learn German and work at the Wall Street Journal. ... It was an incredible opportunity for a 20-something by any objective standard, and I knew it would help prepare me for..
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Even worse, the messages sent to girls can move beyond encouraging superficial traits and veer into explicitly discouraging leadership. When a girl tries to lead, she is often labeled bossy. Boys are seldom called bossy because a boy taking the role of a boss does not surprise or offend. As someone who was called this for much of my childhood, I know that it is not a compliment.
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Ask a man to explain his success and he will typically credit his own innate qualities and skills. Ask a woman the same question and she will attribute her success to external factors, insisting she did well because she "worked really hard," or "got lucky," or "had help from others." Men and women also differ when it comes to explaining failure. When a man fails, he points to factors like "didn't study enough" or "not interested in the subj..
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Professional ambition is expected of men but is optional--or worse, sometimes even a negative--for women. "She is very ambitious" is not a compliment in our culture. Aggressive and hard-charging women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost."..
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Women need to shift from thinking 'I'm not ready to do that' to thinking 'I want to do that - and I'll learn by doing it.
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As Sharon Poczter, professor of economics at Cornell, explains, "The antiquated rhetoric of 'having it all' disregards the basis of every economic relationship: the idea of trade-offs. All of us are dealing with the constrained optimization that is life, attempting to maximize our utility based on parameters like career, kids, relationships, etc., doing our best to allocate the resource of time. Due to the scarcity of this resource, therefo..
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When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less. This truth is both shocking and unsurprising: shocking because no one would ever admit to stereotyping on the basis of gender and unsurprising because clearly we do.
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Each partner needs to be in charge of specific activities or it becomes too easy for one to feel like he's doing a favor instead of doing his part.
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Sit at the table, seek challenges and lean in.
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Women can enter (...) negotiations with the knowledge that showing concern for the common good, even as they negotiate for themselves, will strengthen their position.
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Feeling threatened by others' choices pulls us all down. Instead, we should funnel our energy into breaking this cycle.
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Being forthright led to opportunity. Every job will demand some sacrifice. The key is to avoid sacrifice.
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The number of women supporting families on their own is increasing quickly; between 1973 and 2006, the proportion of families headed by a single mother grew from one in ten to one in five.31
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feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes"--the"
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Statements of opinion are always more constructive in the first person "I" form. Compare these two statements: "You never take my suggestions seriously" and "I feel frustrated that you have not responded to my last four e-mails, which leads me to believe that my suggestions are not that important to you. Is that so?" The former can elicit a quick and defensive "That's not true!" The latter is much harder to deny. One"
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connections that the women made were not extended to him.28 Time and
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feminism wasn't supposed to make us feel guilty, or prod us into constant competitions over who is raising children better, organizing more cooperative marriages, or getting less sleep. It was supposed to make us free--to give us not only choices but the ability to make these choices without constantly feeling that we'd somehow gotten it wrong."20"
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Every social movement struggles with dissension within its ranks, in part because advocates are passionate and unlikely to agree on every position and solution.
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