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Eric Schmidt] explained that only one criterion that mattered when picking a job- fat growth. When companies grow quickly, there are more things to do than there are people to do them. When companies grow more slowly or stop growing, there is less to do and too many people to not be doing them. Politics and stagnation set in, and everyone falters, He told me, "If you're offered a seat on a rocket sip, you don't ask what seat. You just get o..
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lean-in
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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As Gloria Steinem observed, "Whoever has power takes over the noun--and the norm--while the less powerful get an adjective."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Men are allowed to be focused on their own achievements, while loyalty is expected from women.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Sharing emotions builds deeper relationships. Motivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about. To really care about others, we have to understand them--what they like and dislike, what they feel as well as think. Emotion drives both men and women and influences every decision we make. Recognizing the role emotions play and being willing to discuss
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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I could challenge the notion that I was constantly headed for failure.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." For" --
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When we are no longer able to change a situation," psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl observed, "we are challenged to change ourselves." After"
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Although it can be extremely difficult to grasp, the disappearance of one possible self can free us to imagine a new possible self. After
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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An internal report at Hewlett-Packard revealed that women only apply for open jobs if they think they meet 100 percent of the criteria listed. Men apply if they think they meet 60 percent of the requirements. This difference has a huge ripple effect. Women need to shift from thinking 'I'm not ready to do that' to thinking 'I want to do that-- and I'll learn by doing it.
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In my experience, survivors want the opportunity to teach and not be shunned because they went through something unknowable," Merle said."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Less than six months after I started at Facebook, Mark and I sat down for my first formal review. One of the things he told me was that my desire to be liked by everyone would hold me back. He said that when you want to change things, you can't please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress. Mark was right.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made.10 As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, "Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount."11"
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When a girl tries to lead, she is often labeled bossy. Boys are seldom called bossy because a boy taking the role of a boss does not surprise or offend.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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After several rounds of interviews with Google's founders, they offered me a job. My bank account was diminishing quickly, so it was time to get back to paid employment, and fast. In typical--and yes, annoying--MBA fashion, I made a spreadsheet and listed my various opportunities in the rows and my selection criteria in the columns. I compared the roles, the level of responsibility, and so on. My heart wanted to join Google in its mission t..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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I told the members of the graduating class that they should be ambitious not just in pursuing their dreams but in aspiring to become leaders in their fields.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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happiness is the frequency of positive experiences, not the intensity.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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She is very ambitious" is not a compliment in our culture."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Conditions for all women will improve when there are more women in leadership roles giving strong and powerful voice to their needs and concerns.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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We are each unique ... which is why it is so wrong to be lumped together by stereotypes or viewed with narrowed expectations based on skin color or chromosomes. The irony is that dealing with this prejudice becomes our shared experience.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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A day of joy is fifteen minutes. A day of pain is fifteen years," he said. "No one pretends this is easy, but the job of life is to make those fifteen minutes into fifteen years and those fifteen years into fifteen minutes."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Teams that focus on learning from failure outperform those that don't, but not everyone works in an organization that takes the long view.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Self-compassion isn't talked about as much as it should be, maybe because it's often confused with its troublesome cousins, self-pity and self-indulgence. Psychologist Kristin Neff describes self-compassion as offering the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to a friend. It allows us t respond to our own errors with conern and understanding rather than criticism and shame.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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We can joke, as Marlo Thomas did, that "a man has to be Joe McCarthy in order to be called ruthless. All a woman needs to do is put you on hold." Real change will come when powerful women are less of an exception. It is easy to dislike senior women because there are so few. If women held 50 percent of the top jobs, it would just not be possible to dislike that many people."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Your life's course should not be determined by doing what's safe and easy but by reaching for what's challenging and hard: the classes that seem impossible on the first day, but you study enough to pass ... the jobs you're not quite qualified for, but you work like crazy to acquire the skills ... the moments when you feel alone and overwhelmed, but you are brave enough to ask for help.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
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inspirational
resilience
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Believing it will all work out helps it all work out." A"
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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At last, someone was articulating exactly how I felt. Every time I was called on in class, I was sure that I was about to embarrass myself. Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn't embarrass myself--or even excelled--I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again. One day soon, the jig would be up.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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The measure of who we are is how we react to something that doesn't go our way," he said. "There are always things you can do better. It's a game of mistakes." Sports"
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Part of every misery," C. S. Lewis wrote, is "misery's shadow...the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.19
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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It may not be as dramatic or funny to make a movie about a woman who loves both her job and her family, but that would be a better reflection of reality. We need more portrayals of women as competent professionals and happy mothers--
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Decades of social science studies have confirmed what the Heidi/Howard case study so blatantly demonstrates: we evaluate people based on stereotypes (gender, race, nationality, and age, among others). Our stereotype of men holds that they are providers, decisive, and driven. Our stereotype of women holds that they are caregivers, sensitive, and communal. Because we characterize men and women in opposition to each other, professional achieve..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When Gloria Steinem marched in the streets to fight for the opportunities that so many of us now take for granted, she quoted Susan B. Anthony, who marched in the streets before her and concluded, "Our job is not to make young women grateful. It is to make them ungrateful so they keep going."27 The sentiment remains true today. We need to be grateful for what we have but dissatisfied with the status quo. This dissatisfaction spurs the charg..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When I wrote Lean In, some people argued that I did not spend enough time writing about the difficulties women face when they don't have a partner. They were right. I didn't get it. I didn't get how hard it is to succeed at work when you are overwhelmed at home. I wrote a chapter titled "Make Your Partner a Real Partner" about the importance of couples splitting child care and housework 50/50. Now I see how insensitive and unhelpful this wa..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Self-compassion often coexists with remorse. It does not mean shirking responsibility for our past. It's about making sure that we don't beat ourselves up so badly that we damage our future. It helps us realize that doing a bad thing does not necessarily make us a bad person. Instead of thinking "if only I weren't," we can think "if only I hadn't." This is why confession in the Catholic religion begins with "Forgive me, Father, for I have s..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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As former secretary of state Madeleine Albright once said, "There's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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We hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in. We internalize the negative messages we get throughout our lives--the messages that say it's wrong to be outspoken, aggressive, more powerful than men.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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Peggy Mcintosh] explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can't seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they are -- impostors with limited skills or..
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women
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glass-ceiling
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It should be a badge of honor for men to sponsor women.
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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This is why a woman needs to combine niceness with insistence, a style that Mary Sue Coleman, president of the University of Michigan, calls "relentlessly pleasant."22 This method requires smiling frequently, expressing appreciation and concern, invoking common interests, emphasizing larger goals, and approaching the negotiation as solving a problem as opposed to taking a critical stance.23 Most negotiations involve drawn-out, successive mo..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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It takes a near act of rebellion for even a four-year-old to break away from society's expectations.
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My colleague Maxine Williams, head of diversity at Facebook, told me that she believes many people succumb to the mum effect around race. 'Even after an unarmed black person is killed for reaching over to show a cop his license, white people who have seen the news, who live in these communities, and who sit at the desk next to us at work will often say nothing,' Maxine said. 'For the victim of racism, like the victim of loss, the silence is..
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Sheryl Sandberg |
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When I was on the other side, my reply became, "I can't imagine either, but I have no choice." I"
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Sheryl Sandberg |